When I hear someone say they are depressed I want to know what they mean by that, what are their circumstances and how come they call themselves depressed.
The cold semi scientific, semi psychological diagnosis of ‘depression’ is a label and that label, perhaps described by a professional, is just that a label. It does not define a human being. It can define a set of life conditions that at the moment fits a diagnostic criteria. We are not a diagnostic criteria.
I took this picture some years ago in a place I like to go walking in Northumberland. It was during Autumn where contrasts in the changes of life are significant. It is such a collaboration of the ‘one – ness of nature’. Natural seasons, cold and warm, life, death and rebirth.
Sometimes a label like ‘depression’ can be helpful in the sense that it begins to help a person understand what is happening with their mood and outlook for life. Depression symptoms commonly are the feeling or absence of pleasure in life ( anhedonia ) and often a lack of motivation to do just about anything.
Depression essentially has two forms. Typically, depression is a response to loss. This is know as a reactive depression. Losing something of value such as a job, physical mobility, loved one or even a deep belief system. Our mood changes we feel down and out, pointless often cry and wish for the past; and then we recover and life goes on.
What is know as a clinical depression is having similar symptoms to a reactive depression yet the cause is not necessarily loss. It can actually be unknown yet having similar feelings of worthlessness, very negative thoughts about the self and the future and few if any moments of joy.
The Good News Is: Most people experiencing depression make a full recovery in weeks to months. And this is without any professional help so this is encouraging. People who seek professional help may well recover faster and at the same time learn new strategies to help.
The Not So Good News Is: Our thinking affects how we feel. Our feelings affects how we think. This can be a pretty unfortunate negative spiral. But changing thoughts and feelings even in small ways can begin to reverse a negative spiral. Remember from small acorns mighty oaks grow!
I am not a great fan of the kind of talking therapies where as a client you are encouraged to tell your story of why you are depressed. You already know your story. In part your story is part of the way you feel so going over that story will likely exacerbate negative feelings.
I am much more interested in what you feel and equally what you would like to feel differently moving forwards. This can be the first steps moving forward to a more active, engaging and colourful life.
Statistically around 20% of people will suffer a depressive episode during their lifetime. So you will probably know some people who have been depress and have made full and complete recoveries.
You probably already know that exercise, changing your breathing, yoga, changing negative self talk or going for a walk will help but the symptoms include a lack of motivation and believing your own negative self talk. This is where hypnotherapy can help.
Depression not classically a stress problem but some of the key component actions which can alleviate stress can help with depression symptoms. These include:
- A sense things are getting better.
- Social support.
- A sense of control.
A sense that your circumstances and you are getting better. This means you beginning to notice even the tiniest positives in life. Remembering it takes much more positives to balance negatives in our life because we as humans are more prone to notice negatives! This has a huge amount to do with our perceptions.
Having good social support such as friends, family and relatives being there for you. Human contact such as hugs, conversation and the inevitable laughter help release oxytocin which helps make us happier. This means supportive and compassionate connections.
Feeling depressed can feel like being out of control. No control to change negative feelings and negative self talk. No control in motivation to do something like exercise. Control is a curious word. In hypnotherapy I prefer the word influence and anticipation. These are more future oriented as oppose to an immediate action. As anticipation for a better future is nurtured and considered, you can wonder when better self talk and outlook will be noticed.
Hypnotherapy Can Help by being the outside input that can begin to help you change negative self talk, rewrite your story changing your perceptions. Hypnotherapy can also help to change your mood, feelings and begin to see again the wonder in life.
When you want to take action to help yourself, see the colour and joy in life more, give me a call or send an email and we will arrange a completely free consultation. Hypnotherapy in Newcastle and Jesmond. Call me, Nigel on 0770 481 8467