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Utilising Your Inner Resources to Solve Your Problems : Hypnotherapy Newcastle

Most of the time as you struggle through the problems inherent in life you will find solutions. There will most likely be other times when you need some professional assistance in creating a breakthrough because everything you have tried, and tried hard to do didn’t work. This is where hypnotherapy may help.

As humans we seek to find order and patterns of meaning in our experience. As you grow as a person, you will find ways and means that become our coping mechanisms or way of being, usually in a specific context.

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This often means that thriving in say a work context is different to thriving in a social context. Being out with your friends can be worlds apart from how you behave and act in a work meeting. You get the picture right?

What hypnotherapy can help you do is to utilise a life time’s worth of skills within what can and does feel like a problem situation. This is a very specific, physiological cue to needing to do something different.

We have probably all heard the expression “Eureka!” It is said to have originated with a philosopher named Archimedes when he ‘realised’ that the volume of water displaced had some direct link to the density of an object. Eureka means ‘to find’ or discover. This is what we commonly all know as a ‘light bulb moment.’

Many stories of people struggling with problems have a common aspect. Firstly there is struggle and frustration with problems which is effortful. Secondly taking time away from such frustrations can in some instances, when we are occupied with something very different, suddenly lead to light bulb intuitions that are solutions to problems. If you are interested there are two brilliant from Jonah Lehrer ( How We Decide and Imagine ) that detail this process.

Now let us take a slight diversion. Each night you go to sleep and you dream. You may not always remember your dreams but you do dream. Dreaming is both a way of memory and learning consolidation and a way to clean up your brain after a days use.

Dreaming is also a process where the days problems can be resolved because when we dream our habitual ways of thinking ( the same ways that can keep us in problem mode ) are softened and our wildly creative aptitudes are more free to create.

What is interesting is that when you dream, particularly REM sleep there is one part of the brain that is switched off. This part is the dorsal lateral prefontal context ( DLPFC ) and this is the part of the brain that is involved in both effortful cognitive thought and the same part that conforms to habits. This part is what Dr Robert Sapolsky refers to as ‘doing the harder thing’.

This is also the part of the brain that maintains tight psychological and to some sense physiological controls on what you do. When you dream this is switched off and by way of this opens your whole experience in life to be utilised in what is of dreaming importance.

This is where the internally generated possibility of solutions, without the contextually learned ‘it has to be this way’ can come to the reality of now. This is how hypnosis can assist you in using your life time of experience in a way that is deeply creative to you and for you. Literally, getting out of your own way enough to utilise your innate creativity so solve a problem.

When you want to explore new and different ways to solve your problems. please get in touch. The telephone consultation is free and will take up to 25 minutes to talk with each other and find out how I can help.

 

 

 

 

Stress, Newcastle Hypnotherapy and Better Health

Stress in it’s many forms has become synonymous with many parts of normal every day life. Unpredictable future, unpredictable employment, moving house, changing jobs, divorce and even stress from commuting to and from work.

Prolonged stress can weaken our immune system and in some cases cause our health to fail catastrophically. Stress has strong links to comfort eating high carbohydrate food which can over time lead to diabetes and even metabolic syndrome.

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Becoming irate many times throughout the day equates to activating our stress response many times throughout the day. Each activation, each time you get angry, anxious or simply wound up activates the sympathetic nervous system.

The crazy thing is many aspects of life we get annoyed with are either way beyond our control or simply not rationally justified or even worth it anyway. Here are some examples of what people, can and do get wound up over.

  • Incorrect spelling / Partner fidelity
  • Lack of communication / Cold calling
  • Cars ‘parked’ on double yellow lines / Dirty washing on the floor
  • Long telephone waiting on call centres / Queues at the supermarket

When we get agitated for ( to some ) these unavoidable aspects of life, our heart rate increases, our bodies dribble adrenaline into our blood, our blood pressure increases and most of the time for no life threatening reason at all.

Do this kind of activation of your bodies stress response throughout the day and you are literally experiencing many small scale stressors all day long. If you are really worrying many times during the day you are doing the same thing with your body. You are activating your sympathetic nervous system.

Stress and Your Health

There was an interesting study linking excessive stress to a reduction in the body’s immune system. Volunteers were squirted up the nose with the common cold virus at the UK common cold unit. Those exposed to more stress were three times as likely to develop a cold. Excess stress weakens our immune system.

People who undergo great stress have a tendency to seek out high carbohydrate foods. Interestingly these foods do have the effect of lowering stress and making us feel good in the short term. This can over time be a contributor to type 2 diabetes in certain circumstances.

Exercise is an excellent way to combat stress though many stress people are too stressed to exercise. Lack of exercise, poor diet and lots of stress are a good formula for either diabetes, hypertension and even heart problems. A few of these conditions can lead to metabolic syndrome.

Metabolic Syndrome

Metabolic Syndrome is a grouping of heart attack ‘risk factors’. The primary ones being abdominally overweight, hypertension and high LDL cholesterol. Neither one of these ‘symptoms’ on its own is a predictor of cardiovascular disease it is when these symptoms are experienced together as risk factors.

You can check this our for yourself by way of your own experience. If you are chronically stressed, overweight or worrying excessively how is your health? How are your eating habits? What is your blood pressure? Do you exercise?

Hypnotherapy Newcastle for Health

One of the most obvious benefits of hypnotherapy is the relaxation aspect. When we relax the sympathetic ( stress ) nervous system is switched over to the parasympathetic system of rest and relax.

In parasympathetic mode our heart rate slows, blood pressure drops and our bodies are more capable of healing.

If being overweight is an issue and you have a habit of comfort eating hypnotherapy can help you change your habits in eating and help you to address the issues that you are comfort eating to ease.

Hypnotherapy can help you with :

  • Anxiety and worry
  • Weight loss and better eating habits
  • Coping with stressors

For a complementary consultation call Nigel on 0770 481 8467. Please leave the minimal details of your name, number and a brief outline of what you would like help and assistance with.

 

Psychoneuroses – Integrating Impulses And Thoughts – Hypnotherapy Newcastle

Psycho-Neuroses or just Neurosis is a term that describes a vast array of problem conditions that people seek out counsellors, couches and hypnotherapists to overcome or be free of in a way that makes life more agreeable and pleasurable.

In my simplistic way, this means there are bodily impulses that do not fit well into our thoughts and so a conflict, an internal conflict is created.

This could be a compulsions or ‘addiction’ that is acted out despite our thoughts to the contrary. Or an obsession or desire that is repressed with thought to our physiological / emotional detriment. In other words a problem that is both bodily and cognitively suffered.

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One will is the body another will is our mind and when the two don’t meet well,  we experience a dislocation. This may be in our identity, our emotions, psychological wellbeing or in our soul. That said there exists a primary imbalance and from this we suffer in some way.

There is a learned ability for our wordy self to be able to repress or deny our physical emotions and feelings.

For instance have you ever asked a friend ( on watching their non-verbals ) “how are you” and they answer “fine” – when it is painfully obvious they’re not all right.

A conversation two days ago with a good friend, names changed, telling me a story that went like this.

Ken: “Are you all right?”
Jack : “Yes, I’m fine.”
Ken : “Are you sure your all right Jack?”
Jack : “Yes I’m sure.”
Ken : “Jack you are not all right!”
Jack : ” Yes, your right I’m not all right.”

Some History of Concepts

Piaget’s ( The unknown brother of the revolutionary psychologist John Piggot of North Shields ) proposed a child to adult development in four ‘universal’ stages.

  1. Sensory Motor 0-2
  2. Pre Operational 2-7
  3. Concrete Operational 7-11
  4. Formal Operational 11-16

Around the second year from being born, a child begins to enter the world of words. This is a massive evolution from the world of body and feelings.

At around two years old the Pre-operational stage begins and the world of words and symbols emerges. These transcend and include our bodily impulses and experiences.

We can begin to use symbols to describe objects and later concepts in the world. The symbol ‘Felix’ which described the family cat transforms into ‘Cat’ which not only names and describes Felix, it is a generalisation for all cats.

Our thoughts can repress or depress our nature and equally our nature can overwhelm or disregard our thoughts or perceived cultural morality.

Our Emotional Self and Impulses

As a model our amazingly complex brain can be thought of a a three layered structure. This is not how it it – this is a simple model and a good one.

Paul MacClean ( I remember the 3 layer like the three layer toothpaste ) came up with a model of a 3-part brain.

  • Reptile – homoeostasis
  • PaleoMammalian – Emotions
  • NeoMammalian – Thoughts and cognitions

These are complexly interconnected and can and do influence each other.

Our thoughts can and do create emotions. Here is an example. On Sunday my good friend came over ( we were going out to have lunch after a days cycling ) and give me a tin of organic Baked Beans. I cook most of what I eat from scratch. So this was a nice surprise, I haven’t had tins of beans for a long time.

After we had all eaten out ( Anglers Arms Longframlington ) later that day I was cooking a curry. I added the Baked Beans and called my friend who was ( my assumption ) initially gobsmacked that I had added something he eats on its own, savouring the taste ( and it is good – I had eaten a half tin to try them out ) to a curry.

The curry was exceptional. And through a conversation my friend had ( with me ) went through a series of emotions and presuppositions that were not experiential. They were second hand. I did, unintentionally upset his ‘rules’ and not being subject to those beliefs found and exceptional addition to a curry.

Thoughts can and do create emotions. Here is another example. Imagine a lemon and cut it, look at it and then put it in your mouth. Bite it and taste that lemon juice in your mouth. In your direct experience there is no lemon.

Our thoughts can influence our emotional and physical response.

Neurologically all of this takes place in our nervous system. We cognise in our frontal cortex ( Neo-Mammalia Brain ) and this in turn activates our Limbic System ( Paleo-Mammalia Bran ) which then does something to alert our Reptile Brain – specifically the Hypothalamus which changes our emotions and physiology. And then alerts the rest of our nervous system in a reciprocate feedback loop.

The Inner Religions War And Questioning Your Inner Culture

Integrating complementary systems such as impulses and thoughts is not about one dominating another and creating a dominating hierarchy. There has been enough of this with religions, following a guru or warring peoples.

Our evolution and future as a people and certainly individuals is not to be found in dominating and warring hierarchies. The way forward is understanding and integration.

I think about integrating our internal warring factions as facilitating a complementary way both aspects of our thoughts and behaviours can be at peace, co-existing together and thrive. Just about any problem behaviour can be re-framed to have some positive aspects. Positive in the sense of attempting to accomplish something above and beyond the actual behaviour.

For instance, as a general example lets take a man with a cat phobia. Cognitively this man knows he is in no real danger for a cat. Yet on sight or smell of any cat there is a full on phobic ( stress ) response that just takes over.

A phobic response can be thought of as ‘your’ autonomic nervous system, the sympathetic branch activating the flight / freeze / fight response in a wholly inappropriate way for such a situation.

Now for some that may read ‘silly’ but swap the context for public speaking anxiety, job interview nerves,  spider phobia, an unwanted addiction or a fear of flying and you have pretty much the same category of thoughts and emotions at internal conflict.

Hypnotherapy here in Newcastle can be a very effective way of unlearning inappropriate responses to situations and events. And then learning new ways to gain more of the freedom you most surely want in your life.

It’s doesn’t have to be this way, you don’t need to continue to suffer, this is not the way it is ordained to be. You can do something about making your situation better.

Clinical Hypnotherapy Newcastle 0770 481 8467 or email using the contact page.

Contact me for a completely free, zero obligation telephone consultation.

 

 

Serious Stress, OFSTED, a Blank Check and the Head Teacher

I am no stranger to stress in the professional workplace. In fact I am testimony to it having worked in three very stress-full places of employment. Working in the Northumbrian Water business at the time of privatisation, working in the off shore oil and gas exploration setting and in an an entrepreneurial software engineering setting while the business was sold off to venture capitalists.

Two weeks or so ago I was contacted by the head teacher of an extremely prestigious North East school. The conversation was two fold. They required personal assistance and the school staff were massively stressed because an OFSTED inspection was looming and how could I help the staff?

Hypnotherapy for OFSTED Stress

Twice in the first five minutes of our conversation I was asked for an invoice to come into the school to help the teachers with their extreme stress. This is a blank check for my services. Anyone thinking there is no money in the local schools will have a bit of a shock. My fees were never discussed and I was asked twice for my invoice details.

Each time I politely refused because I wanted to come into the school and observe the environment and because until I was sure what I would offer would make a real difference I would not take any money for my services. I am as sure as I can be that I could help the teachers change their coping responses but I like to see first hand before that kind of professional contractual obligation.

In my line of work as a therapist and a teacher of NLP I have had the privileged of working and meeting several teachers that are effected by the pressures of an OFSTED inspection. I have also met one of the highest people in OFSTED who runs the massive coordination of school inspections at the highest level. So I am reasonably familiar with the different effects this has on a wide variety of people.

This head teacher described their personal problem as one of those all two familiar acronyms where things have to be just so or there is massive anxiety. I would think that a successful head of an enterprise needs to have these kinds of structures when all is going well. It’s called being a head.

I explained to the head I require a completed questionnaire before our appointment and arranged their personal appointment and I also arranged a time, the week after our one to one appointment to come to the school and meet the staff, the head, the occupational psychologist and whoever else would be there.

I contacted the head teacher twice to remind them to complete and return their questionnaire before our appointment. Guess what happened. That is right, nothing! So two days before our scheduled appointment I emailed a third time to postpone our one to one because they had failed ( love to say that to a teacher ) to follow my terms and conditions and could we re-arrange our appointment.

The reply was priceless. It was ‘cancel my appointment and cancel the school one too.’ I was not shocked at all because I had anticipated this knee jerk reaction.

Anyone who can not follow processes as simple as filling a questionnaire is unlikely to take on board any advice and techniques I suggest to be implemented in dealing with stress. I was so very much looking forward to working with people who do amazing jobs, teaching our next generations, work out some ways to turn stress into pressure.

IF you are a mega-stressed teacher at this school or any school in the North East, call me, fill in the questionnaire! and I will do my very best to help you find ways to turn what I know can be massive stress into workable pressure.

 

 

Stress Hypnotherapy Newcastle

Excess pressure leads to stress. Hypnotherapy Newcastle offers assistance and help in dealing with a wide variety of life’s stressors in ways that promote your own abilities to better deal the the inevitable stress causing problems we all face on a regular basis.

Have you ever wondered how some people have literally no stress response to something that can and often does drive you up the wall? How is it some people take huge stressors in their stride and literally the same situation will cause you to stress out, worry and panic as your heart races?

Newcastle hypnotherapy for stress can help you to respond in a better and calmer way to many of the things that can stress you out. How you respond to a situation, how you perceive yourself and what you do is what hypnotherapy can assist you with.

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The stressing situations will almost surely be the same yet by your responding in different ways you have the power to positively effect and take more control; the idea being your ‘natural’ stress response eases off.

THE NATURAL STRESS RESPONSE

The natural stress response to a situation where life is threatened, where we are powerfully emotionally engaged is a natural and perfectly normal survival mechanism which can save our life. This is a response to a direct physical threat such as an accident ( acute ) or being longer term ( chronic ) in, say, a war zone.

Any time our life is in physical danger, be this prolonged or crisis, our automatic stress responses should kick into high gear and all sorts of great things start happening in the body. We are doused with stress hormones adrenaline, cortisol, glucagon all to effectively help us through the danger.

The problem is that actual physical dangers for most of us are honestly few and far between. The real problem is the activation of our stress response for purely psychological reasons. This mean how we think about and perceive our situations activates a bodily response that is mean only to activate in life threatening  situations can activate because :

  • We have to give a public presentation
  • A colleague leaves us with a pile of work
  • We are worried about an upcoming business trip
  • We receive large winter fuel bills
  • etc, etc, etc

There is absolutely no physical life threatening situation at all yet the physical response is as though there were. It is fairly unlikely you will be able to change or massively affect your environment, working conditions or the pressures in life. What you can do is change how you respond. Hypnotherapy Newcastle is one way to explore how you can respond in ways that are better for you.

COPING BETTER WITH STRESS

So how is it some people can and do cope much better with stressors than others? What is it they do differently when faced with pretty much the same situations as you? They somehow respond differently.

Professor Sir Michael Marmot during the Whitehall Studies followed thousands of UK civil servants over decades. The results seemed to show that there is a correlation between health and stress. No surprise there. What was also shown from the studies is that there are certain factors ( listed below ) which seem to be predictors of how people respond to stressors and cope better or worse than others.

  • Predictable Environment
  • Sense of Control
  • Social Support
  • Outlets for Stress and Frustrations
  • A Sense Things are Getting Better

THE BODILY STRESS RESPONSE

There are essentially two elements to the bodily stress response irrespective of if the stressor is physical or psychological. These are bodily changes that practically all of us have had the experience of from time to time.

Autonomic Nervous System Response

Beginning certain activity in the hypothalamus and running down the central nervous system the autonomic or automatic nervous system has essentially two divisions. These being the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous system. It is the sympathetic nervous system ( SNS ) that is activated in times of stress.

The neurotransmitter acetylcholine activates a further transmitter which releases noradrenaline to many organs throughout the body and in turn releases adrenaline from the adrenal medulla just above the kidneys.

Your heart speeds up, your stomach clutches, eyes dilate and the lungs expand as well as a whole host of other responses to stress where some things speed up and others such as digestion stop. This happens within seconds and is the first part of the stress response.

Hormonal Response

The second part of the stress response is the release of hormones into the blood which in turn promote and grant access to energy from the bodies stores. This is taken or synthesised from energy stores in the liver, fat cells and muscles to transform into circulating glucose in the blood stream.

The neurological circuit involved is the Hypothalamic Pituitary Adrenal axis or HPA axis for short. The release of hormones which begins the process is within a handful of seconds and takes just minutes to release glucose into the blood.

Again the hypothalamus is involved. The hypothalamus releases a hormone called corticotropin releasing hormone ( CRH ) into the pituitary gland. This in turn dribbles adrenocorticotropic hormone ( ACTH ) into the blood stream and on reaching the adrenal gland affects the release of the glucocorticoid cortisol.

HYPNOTHERAPY SOLUTIONS FOR STRESS

Hypnotherapy has the potential to help you shift and change how you respond to psychological stressors. This could range from you taking more charge in your environment to helping you radically change how you react to the perceived and real psychological stressors in your life.

It is important to understand that hypnotherapy or any other psychotherapy, counselling or talking therapy is not a miracle cure. If it were there would be a global eradication of psychological problems.

The most important aspects in helping you change is you! In terms of people seeking therapy to help make positive changes in their life here are some revealing facts and figures from reference studies.

  • 40% of success is down to you in the belief you can make changes.
  • 30% has to do with the relationship between client and therapist.
  • 66% of clients who seek therapy make positive changes while 33% of people who do not seek therapy make positive changes.

You are more likely to make positive changes sooner with help from a change professional such as a clinical hypnotherapist. These figures are statistics and are some kind of adjusted average. Remember you are totally unique and will be treated that way.

For a absolutely free consultation call 0770 481 8467. If I am busy working with clients call back or leave a message. I will call you back if you leave a message.

Anxiety Self Help – Newcastle Hypnotherapy

Hypnotherapy can and often is a helpful solution to common anxiety, even in its less common extreme forms. What follows are some self help tips for helping you to become less anxious and more at ease and calm in problem situations.

Firstly it is important to clarify what ‘Anxiety’ means here. Anxiety here means worry about the future, the imminent future or soon to be present or even aspects of the past – that will in turn produce consequences in the future.

This will have likely little bearing on certain kinds of anxiety conditions like PTSD though could help with aspects of conditions like a Phobia.

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So in this instance, dispensing with technical terms, we are talking just good old straight forward, bread and butter anxiety. That what most of us know as every day excessive worry.

ANXIETY = UN-CONTROL

Anxiety in this instance is Un-Control. Put this another way, if you could control the future to turn out just the way you want there would be absolutely no anxiety. If this makes sense to you then you are on your way to a little more freedom from anxiety. If this doesn’t then you are not anxious.

There are aspects of the future you can strongly influence and aspects of the future where you are literally in the hands of your own god, the universe or any witnessing deity that happens to be present. The agnostic deity Umnotsure is a favourite, when it can be found.

Understanding what you can reasonably control and what you can’t is an important distinction that can, in most instances, ease life’s stressors or to put it another way ease anxiety.

There are essentially five factors that relate to living more free-er from anxiety and worry and these have much more to do with perception of events and not the events in and of themselves.

  1. Predictability
  2. Sense of Control
  3. Social Support
  4. Outlets for Frustrations
  5. Sense of Getting Better

These five are based in strong research from among others Professor Sir Michael Gideon Marmot’s famous Whitehall study, spanning some 20 plus years and 20 thousand UK civil service and Professor Robert Maurice Sapolsky’s over decades with our hirsute cousins, baboons in the Serengeti. The parallels are scary!

Hypnotherapy Newcastle is about changing our perspectives and adaptive responses to life. When this works well we are gifted with new and alternative ways to progress through life’s challenges and opportunities. Ideally so that we are not experiencing the same old problem, anxiety, again and again.

Hypnotherapy is a way to re-educate the learned responses we have all learned during the course of our lives in a way that is generative and builds in new and more adaptive coping mechanisms so we are not experiencing the same old problems in the same old ways.

You might not believe this immediately but anxiety or excessive worry is a learned habit. In order to be really anxious there has to be an underlying structure or process you use – your imagination – that is in itself a process of self hypnotism. Think about it, to be anxious, you are imagining a future that breeds anxiety.

We would be noting without anxiety, or more precisely the ability to worry, and at the same time, equally in fact, the ability to imagine and create the most amazing futures for ourselves and those who come after us.

It is a double edged sword that makes us, when we truly think, and act, a process in the imagination that could be used just as readily to bring bliss and joy as anxiety and worry.

What Can You Do? Really?

Number one is do, systematically, something about it! You have to be prepared to expend effort to learn a new habit. Think, seriously, about learning to write with your other hand. This is an of itself is an excellent way to stop your mind ticking over in worry mode.

Count up all the time you have been a worry wart! 15 minutes? 1 hour, 3 hours 5 hours a day? Every day? Every day for years? When this number is totalled it is often quite a shock to the system.

Yes can you imagine the kind of differences you could make if the same time just each day was used contemplating and imagining a delightful future. So most people do worry by talking to themselves ( often in a voice tone that they wouldn’t use on another person! ) and imagining a pretty unpleasant future.

There are very likely very specific words or phrases and memories that a worrier will use with some regularity. Discover yourself, what these are and learn, through patience and repetition to reprogram them into something helpful and kind.

So, talking to yourself much more kindly ( answering back is fine too! ) and using the same words to talk to yourself about the future you actually want. Adding what you would like to see and hear. Most of all take time and invest in your long term health and happiness.

Realistic Expectation for Change

This is usually NOT an overnight cure for long term problems. If you have been anxious for many years then it is kind of pretty unreasonable to anticipate an immediate cure that is not medication or surgery based. Even then it is most likely not the case!

This takes effort – and little by little. Think about learning to walk or talk! It takes time and persistence! It does happen, it just takes time, trust me! Reprogramming your internal speech patterns is one way to give yourself more perceived control in life. Remember anxiety is about UN-Control. The more control you can affect the less anxiety.

Excess stress and anxiety is know not to be salubrious. That means your health can suffer with excess stress and strain in your life. After one week of intense stress the thymus gland which is responsible for the production of T-cells, in the endocrine immune system can shrink to 25% of normal size. Lose the stress and the thymus makes a full recovery and can produce the T-cells required for a health immune response.

The philosopher Alan Watts mentioned a right wing democrat ( he moved from the UK to the US ) that because is their right wing ( metaphor ) attitude would never take a left turn when driving. All they did was drive talking right turns, this is mad! To be able to KNOW the rough is to know the smooth, to know good is to know evil. And to know anxiety is to know calm.

Anxiety Hypnotherapy Facts

Hypnotherapy Newcastle is is about a real integration with seemingly inconsolable opposites. Or at least to get going in ways that work, where you can see and feel you are making progress. Let’s be clear sometimes ‘miracles’ in hypnotherapy happen but that is not a good commitment from you, to have an expectation that a hypnotherapy can ‘cure’ you from years of suffering in one session is learning in some aspects to continue to be helpless.

There has to be a real commitment from you, and that is a required ingredient in real change, change that is generative. If it wasn’t think about how many hypnotherapists, theta healers or ‘magic’ workers would be claiming real success. Truth is the real ones don’t. The charlatans and snake oilers do. Sorry but this approach, the one I apply is psychological and often physiological and you wont, can’t be a passive observer!

This approach helps you deal with the head and body aspects yet at the same time most requires input and energy from you. You will be given tasks, post or pre session to implement the psychological and behavioural aspects of change into your life.

For a completely free consultation, for anxiety help using hypnotherapy and psychological NLP techniques call Nigel Hetherington on 0770 481 8467.

 

Emotonial Problems Newcastle Hypnotherapy

If we pause for thought, emotional problems or problematic emotional responses are the basis for most peoples real problems. Hypnotherapy Newcastle uses hypnosis and other psychological interventions to help overcome learned negative emotional responses that cause problems and suffering.

Solution Focused Hypnotherapy is all about re-education behavioural and thinking responses in ways that are directed towards creating practical solutions to the every day problems that are the cause of feeling depressed, anxious, stressed or down right angry about the every day problems we all face.

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Many counselling or CBT approaches can focus way too much on problems. People seek professional hypnotherapy to alleviate problems and suffering so talking about the problem is both something a sufferer can already do well, likely massively contributing towards problems and failing to focus on solutions.

Often pointless questions like the dreaded ( with some kind of attempt at sincerity ) “and how does that make you feel?” serve mostly to reinforce helplessness, exacerbate emotional problems and put the people needing to make changes at the reactive end of being able to do damn near nothing about their own situation.

Two Factors In Change

A great deal of people perceived problems are down to two factors. The first is the meaning that is made of the actual experience of the ‘problem’ and the second is some kind of justification or self-validation of just why it is that way.

Let’s take the Second Factor first. Justification of behaviours and attitudes. No matter what or who is ‘causing the problem’ the only person who can change behaviours, thinking patterns or ways of being is you! You can’t really change other people, sure you can influence this BUT changes in your problems need to begin with you.

Solutions can focus on three areas, with the individual and their ways of, thinking and acting. With the other people involved in problem situations if these are relevant and thirdly within the environment in which they occur.

If a person continues to justify or give reasons and explanations for their problems ( which is fair enough ) all they will do is continue to perpetuate a problem. This makes perfect sense because on a neurological level anything like a behaviour, thinking pattern or environment that stays the same creates the necessary conditions for our brains to stay the same. This is the same for really good and really bad habits. To change – something has to give.

The First Factor, not what happened on a sensory basis but the meaning we make of the experience. Here is a little quote that sums this up nicely from a Greek philosopher that died just under 2000 years ago. Epictetus, probable not exactly what he said though close enough. For the hard of thinking, this applies to all sexes.

Men are disturbed not by things, but by the view which they take of them

Let’s put this into a contextual example. Mr Joe X is complaining about his daughter that won’t listen to his advice, refused his good intentioned advice and wants to live her own life. This is a real bugger for Mr X. He knows best. A classic change of meaning – is that his daughter, having learned the value of havng their own opinion, not being wavered by others is indeed a complement in his fatherhood. He has a self directed daughter that won’t be directed from her purpose. Same stuff different meaning – capiche?

We are not really talking about Mr J.X we are talking about you. Much more important. What is happening on a non-psychodymamic but neurological basis, this is easy. We all learn coping behaviours sometimes, like now, they need to be updated, just like a Windows update. Sure this will almost surely bring in new problems ( hurray we are alive ) BUT they won’t be the same problems, Viz moving forward.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle with Nigel Hetherington is about playing to your strengths and utilising the very best in you in transformational ways. Change in the most best sense is transforming meanings and those all justifications for problems so that you can take responsibility for you and your behaviours in ways that help you move forward in control to live more of the life you really want.

Newcastle Hypnotherapy – Public Speaking

Hypnotherapy Newcastle for Public Speaking fears, worries and unavoidable panics. People worry about lots of aspects regarding speaking in public, addressing an audience and not appearing as a shaking, stuttering wreak. Lost nights of sleep leading up to an event and excessive planning.

The fear of public speaking is as common as muck. It has plagued and will plague countless people causing worry, anxiety and the shrinking violet sensation of wishing to be anywhere, anywhere other than doing that public speech.

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If you have had them, you know from experience the kinds of worries, fears and often absolute dread the knowledge of having to make a public speech can have on people. People like you, who are faced with nameless terrors about how badly it could be to fuck up really, really badly making an absolute ass of yourself by going to pieces and getting it all wrong in that crucial public speaking engagement.

Thing is, now, probably more than every before, we are called upon or need to make public speeches in our business, social or personal enterprises. That is the way of it today, so, what can you do to become more at ease and composed to make a great impression? Please read on to see how hypnotherapy Newcastle can help you deliver a great speech and stay focused on what is really important.

Psychology of Public Speaking Problems

Have you ever talked with a really negative, depressing type of person? Have you noticed how they seem to expect the worst, are caught up in problems and not much fun to be around? Well if you are worrying, fretting about Public Speaking performance you are probably doing the exact same but you are talking to yourself.

A very common aspect of anxiety is the use of self talk to generate problem focused scenarios that have the power to cause anxiety, worry and the physical conditions of a stress response. “What if …” is by far the most common way people make themselves anxious. Here are some examples.

  • “What if I forget what I am supposed to say?”
  • “What if I make a fool of myself?”
  • “What if I shake and sweat?”
  • “What if I can’t answer questions?”
  • “What if I blush and faint?”

All of these are pretty common ways people make themselves more anxious about Public Speaking. If you think about it, these questions are a form of unhelpful self hypnosis that negatively affect a persons state. But it’s not just the words!

The tonality and speed of how we talk to other people can change the meaning of the words. So if a person talks to themselves in a fast and ‘worrying’ tone it will have more of a negative impact. And there is more though! These ‘what ifs’ lead to further unanswered questions for instance;

“What if I forget what I am supposed to say?” implies that something will happen as a consequence, of course it would. It could lead to huge embarrassment and humiliation, it could lead to not being asked to present that important presentation again and not being invited for a pay rise, promotion and extra bonus, it could lead to reassignment to Sunderland.

You are creating a very large and negative self fulfilling prophesy because you have been rehearsing what could go wrong.

Physiology of Public Speaking Problems

You are activating your stress response. This is indicative of hight sympathetic nervous system arousal so there is plenty of adrenaline and noradrenaline  in your system. You heart is probably beating faster, your systolic and diastolic blood pressure has increased, your mouth is dry and there are probably knots in your stomach.  You are probably not having what is called a good time.

Meanwhile, your brain is analysing your body responses, making meaning of the various aspects of the unwanted stress response and coming to the conclusion that your body is not having a good time and this really does influence your mood and adds to the anxiety you are experiencing. Its a vicious circle.

So about now all of those imagined fears are probably to make a physical manifestation. You feel you are starting to visibly shake, all of those ‘worst case scenarios’ have their opportunities to be enacted, blushing, word amnesia to name just a few. Your breathing is likely a bit too fast and high in your chest so both literally and metaphorically you are unbalanced and off centre.

Three Things Really Good Presenters Know

There are three aspects to doing a great presentation that you can learn ( through practice ) to do in order to dramatically improve your performance when engaging in Public Speaking. There are more than three but these three are big ones!

  • Stay Relaxed in the body. Avoid unnecessary tension and stay relaxed.
  • Use your peripheral vision. Avoid focusing myopically on anyone or anything and stay peripherally open.
  • Quiet on the inside. Avoid talking to yourself ( on the inside ) as this splits your attention. Learn through experience to flow!

Hypnotherapy for Public Speaking Fears

Public speaking is a very, very common fear. It could be a cultural, British thing and also likely a combination of perceived ‘high stakes’ and lack of experience of speaking to groups and large gatherings. In short it is perfectly normal!

Hypnotherapy Newcastle can help you to learn how to manage and change your fears into ways to start to rehearse how you actually want your performance to be. After all it makes much more sense to plan for success that failure. Also we will be using hypnosis to help you feel much more comfortable, so ideally you can enjoy the whole experience and keep your attention focused on your audience.

Some methods that are not used at Newcastle hypnotherapy are visualising the audience naked. This is a pretty old and I think a really odd idea. If I walked into a group for a speaking engagement and the audience were naked I would leave, not the kind of group I would want to talk with. This kind of technique probably says a lot more about the therapist and their ways of ( not ) thinking.

Other methods that will not be used are the arrogance based ones. These include, but are not limited to having mantras like “fuck the audience, I am in charge here”, “these people are mine” and talking over the top of any peoples questions. I found these uncharming techniques from people who have seen other hypnotherapists before they found me.

For a completely free, no obligation telephone consultation for help with Public Speaking or help with any hypnotherapy related problem call Nigel on 0770 481 8467. This will take around 20 minutes.

Hypnotherapy Jesmond Exam Nerves – Nigel Hetherington

When the pressure, the exam pressure, is on and you have to perform because your future depends on a great performance, hypnotherapy for exam nerves and confidence can help you ace that exam. An Exam is about meeting a certain criteria but an exam can be thought about as’the worst that can happen.’ This is what we call ‘worry.’

Hypnotherapy is a common antidote to all kinds of exam nerves. Exams come in various forms; Written exams at college and university. Practical exams like a driving test or a presentation exam. For some people these create the worst possible environment and situations. Hands going clammy, mouth dry, you sweat and your mind can go blank. This is exam stress and hypnosis in Jesmond can help you beat it. We all worry about something! Don’t worry!!

But we do worry! Things that can end life worry us like cancer tests. Testicular or breast cancer screening or testing are massive worries for most. This is just an exam … This is just a check up of your knowledge but in some experiences it is just as worrisome as a cancer scare.

Hypnotherapy Jesmond Exam

Exam Nerves Hypnosis Jesmond

In a nut shell. Something happens and you lose it. You lose access to all the stored facts and ability to recall what you know you know. Why? Excess stress response. What is happening?

Your body is having a massive stress response. Hydrocortisone is marinating your nervous system and your hippocampus is getting over ridden by the amygdaloid bodies. It’s biological panic time and you can’t do squat about it.

Result, your Episodic memory goes for a leave and your body is ready to save your life. Trouble is there is not life threat. What you have is a completely out of proportion stress response and your mind has just gone blank. You just failed an exam and the colloquialism is “your fucked”. But it doesn’t have to be this way.

Learning Is State Dependent

Learning and access to your learnings, knowledge and behaviours are directly linked to the state you learn in. Your behaviours are state dependent and your state in an exam, to a very large extent, will mediate how well you perform.

A persons ‘state’, a word often used with great imprecision ( like self Esteem ) requires a solid definition in the same way an exam performance needs to be solid. So what does your state comprise of and what does ‘state’ mean?

A persons state can be defined as the sum total of the neuro-biological metabolic activity, but this really is not so helpful a definition. Breaking this down a little more; State is composed of breathing ( respiration ), endocrine activity, body positions and muscle tone  ( physiology ), mind activity ( psychology ) and neuronal activity ( nervous system ). That’s quite a lot of jargon.

Breathing And How You Breath

How you breath can dramatically affect how you feel and perform. This is a basic yoga and nlp principle. A person is shocked and the breathing changes. A person is excited and the breathing changes. A person is in love and the breathing changes. States produce breathing patterns and so breathing patterns produce states. In yoga this is called Pranayama – breath control.

Endocrine Activity

Our bodies have several endocrine glands. An endocrine gland releases hormones into the blood stream.  These hormones affect how we feel. Get massively stressed and there are stress hormones active for hours in the blood stream. Short term and in moderation these are health and mental activity promoting factors. Go overboard and the opposite happens.

A little stress or in other words pressure or stimulation and these can be really beneficial. To much and pressure becomes acute and we suffer, our ability to recall well rehearsed facts, answers and routines goes out the window.

Posture and Muscle Tone

One the the worlds leading coaches has said “physiology is king”, apart from the masculine accent, they are saying how you hold your posture affects your emotions and your performance. Crunch yourself up into a little tight ball and most people will report this is uncomfortable and learning is difficult. Stand tall or sit comfortably with a straight spine and relax any tense muscles and most report learning is easier.

Psychology – Your Thoughts

What you say to yourself, the thoughts and images that drive through your imagination and memory seriously affect your performance in an exam. Start the internal devil of “What if I can’t … ” or “I am not going to be able to pass …” and the wheel of doubt is in motion. Negative thoughts and images, real or imaginary, can adversely affect the ability to recall, replicate and think straight.

Thoughts, images and concepts have the power to create negative stress. You could test this out by imagining failing or flunking a very important exam and the long term consequences of any such ‘failure’. This is basically what people with anxiety problems do so very well enough to create a bodily state that is repressive and to a greater or larger extent prevents success and good feeling.

Neurology – Nervous System Responses

Putting conscious movement and thoughts aside for a moment or two. The involuntary or automatic nervous system comes in two parts. The para-sympathetic, rest, tend, relax, befriend. And the sympathetic nervous system, freeze, flight and fight. Stress activate the sympathetic system.

Stress and there is excess adrenaline and noradrenaline  diffused throughout your body. This is what you feel as a stomach churning fear. Get this in an exam? It’s not so helpful. Well maybe it is if you want to run away.

 Exam Nerves Solutions With Hypnotherapy

Assuming you know your stuff, you want to deal with and make at ease the exam nerves that create the stress response, knock you out of your learning state and have the potential to totally screw up your future. What is happening is you have an unconscious response that is as frisky as a wilde horse out the stable.

Hypnotherapy for exam nerves is all about changing the unconscious response because hypnotherapy is about changing unconscious responses.

Jesmond Hypnotherapy Exam

Instead of fretting and worrying, give Nigel a call on 0770 481 8467 for a free consultation regarding exam stress and how hypnotherapy in Jesmond can help you to be in the right state to pass your exams.  This will take around 20 minutes of your valuable study time.

Metabolic Syndrome Hypnotherapy Newcastle

Metabolic Syndrome also know as Syndrome X is predicted to be the single most devastating disease in the West by 2020.  It is estimated now that around one quarter of the world adult population has Metabolic Syndrome.

Hypnotherapy for Metabolic Syndrome can be an affective treatment for the psychological aspects and potentially some of the physical symptoms as well.

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Metabolic Syndrome is a collection or cluster of symptomatology for various conditions that are reasonably good but not absolute, predictors of serious cardiovascular disease to come. These include but are not confined to :

  • Obesity
  • Insulin Resistance ( bordering type 2 diabetes )
  • Hypertension ( high blood pressure )
  • Dyslipidemia ( high blood cholesterol )

The word ‘syndrome’ means “the association of several clinically recognizable features, often occurring together, so that the presence of one or more features alerts the healthcare provider to the possible presence of the others.” Suggesting that if a person has one or two of these symptoms, they are likely heading to collect the full house.

Suppose you have high insulin levels raising the bad cholesterol ( LDL ) and you are well overweight. You are probably heading towards type 2 diabetes. Have Type 2 diabetes and high cholesterol and high blood pressure chances are you are a short bus ride away from being obese.

Having Metabolic Syndrome, one or more of the four indicators, and statistically you are three times as likely to have a stroke or heart attack than someone who hasn’t. You are also twice as likely to die that someone who hasn’t. Its all scary stuff with a pretty bleak outlook.

Biological and Psychological Components Metabolic Syndrome

A lot of not getting Syndrome X in the first place has to do with life style and attitudes to life. Hypnotherapy for Metabolic Syndrome can have several directed approaches to assist in changing the behaviours and attitudes that would seem to create Metabolic Syndrome.

  • Weight Loss
  • Managing the Stress Response
  • Change of Lifestyle
  • Motivation

No one is born with Syndrome X. A sedentary lifestyle, little exercise and a diet of processed ready meals are massive contributing factors. Now add in a life filled with stress and we have all the ingredients in abundance as a massive vector for developing Metabolic Syndrome.

How Hypnotherapy Can Help With Metabolic Syndrome

Hypnotherapy probably won’t change your genetics if you are predisposed to some aspects of Syndrome X that are inherited. But understand that being genetically more likely to develop Metabolic symptoms does not mean a person will. Environment,lifestyle and personal history are the real impactors.

When a person is stress regularly there are adverse health affects. Regular and over the top activation of the sympathetic nervous system seems to cause atherosclerosis by way of having regular and too much glucose and triglicerides in the blood. Hypertension can also be cause by way too much stress response.

Stressed people at least two thirds eat more carbohydrates. Eating as a stress response will most likely lead to obesity and Type 2 diabetes. So there is some very real and clear evidence that stress of a psychological nature can lead to many of the symptoms of Syndrome X.

The possibilities of using hypnotherapy to help with Metabolic Syndrome would be in helping you change the problematic and unhealthy attitudes, behaviours and ways of managing out of proportions stress response.

Hypnotherapy in Newcastle  for help with Metabolic Syndrome psychological factors. Call Nigel on 0770 481 8467 for a complementary consultation.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle – Generalised Anxiety Disorder ( GAD )

Clinical hypnotherapy for anxiety in Newcastle can help you mediate anxious responses that are extremely stressful and seem to serve no positive purpose. Newcastle hypnotherapy for generalised anxiety disorder ( GAD ) and helping you lean to be more at ease … because you learned to be anxious means you can learn to be at ease, which is our natural human state of being.

have you ever wondered WHY some people seem to be totally free of anxiety and other people, you? are often in a state of anxious arousal or anxious apprehension? Worrying about the future. This literally defines anxiety.Hypnotherapy Newcastle Anxiety GADAnxious arousal simply means that you are feeling anxious and anxious apprehension is more about thoughts and ideation of worry. Both of these have less than positive affects on mood, the nervous system and long term health.

No one begins life as a worrier. This makes perfect sense because to worry we need the intellectual capacity do it. Babies as Piaget put it are born into the world with a Sensory-Motor consciousness; they have no idea about death, growing old, losing a job or a partner. Babies are delivered in direct experience and that experience is all about the senses. And this has no past or future.

Adrenaline And The Amygdala

All of us mammals have a limbic system. The limbic system is a deep brain region that is all about emotions. Emotions here is defined as what we feel and NOT the meaning we attribute to what we are feeling. The neuro chemical biology of hate and anger is incredibly similar to what we feel with love and joy. The same neuro-chemicals are present in both states and it is the attributions of meanings that ‘consciously’ define out state, mood and long term temperaments.

Take a particularly negative stressor and the amygdala, a small nucleus in the limbic system, will become energetically active and will mediate a sympathetic nervous system response complete with danger and anxious arousal. Go for a run or play on a roller coaster and the sympathetic nervous system will activate BUT without the amygdala. The difference is massive.

Positive stressors, like running, a scary film or bungey jumping ( if you are that way inclined ) produce gluco-corticoids that mediate positive stress responses. When the amygdala is involved this equates to worry, negative stress and what we know as worry. It’s almost the same system, its the same system the difference is the meaning, conscious and unconscious, we make of experience.

There is almost always an adrenaline and noradrelanine release when the sympathetic nervous system activates, like being angry or in-love it is the meaning that is attributed to the physical sensations that are important.

Anxiety Your Body and Environment

Your brain is always receiving and processing information from your body. The psychologist William James proposed that the body actually has an emotion and then the brain makes sense of this. This is not a crazy or strange as this reads. If you are tense, your muscles are stiff and locked,the bio-feedback from your body will actually mediate your emotions. This is why a massage can feel so relaxing and stimulate a relaxed mood.

In a psychological experiment, conducted by Schacter in the 1950’s, it was discovered that your brain has been shown to attribute a bodily state , in this case anxiety to the immediate social environment.  This means if you are a setting where anxiety and worry are common place the feelings you feel will be attributed to the environment. Environment means people around you.

What You Can Anticipate From An Appointment

Each hypnotherapy Newcastle appointment with Nigel is a totally individual experience however as a minimalist basis for treatment we will most likely explore the following : How you do anxious? The most common way people make themselves anxious is talking to themselves, with the inner voice, in the following ways.

  • Talking at a way rapid speed
  • Beginning What If statements

Talking rapidly seems to have all of the ingredients to make you think faster. Beginning What If sentences and not finishing them or taking them to a logical extreme will tend to send the brain reeling and searching out answers, often unconscious and causing more anxiety.

By knowing how you do anxious thoughts you are now in a position, which will require effort on your part, to begin to learn how to make your self feel better.

We will find where you feel anxiety in your body of you have anxious arousal and use hypnosis as a body relaxation and combine this with hemispherical activity balancing exercises.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle for Anxiety, to help you relax your worrying mind, relax your body and learn some new strategies so you can worry less and strat living a more mentally calm emotional life. Call Nigel now on 0770 481 8467.

 

 

 

Newcastle Hypnotherapy Erectile Dysfunction – Nigel Hetherington

Hypnotherapy in Newcastle for men’s help with sexual impotence. Men’s erectile problems are common though they aren’t usually discussed openly.

The most common cause of men’s erectile dysfunction is excess stress. Stress accounts for around 50% of male impotence. When you have affective methods to manage stress you are far more likely to be able to gain and maintain an erection. It can be hard to seek professional help.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle with Nigel Hetherington offers a discrete service using hypnosis and NLP to help you both relax and change your response to stress. Newcastle hypnotherapy can help alleviate male impotence and erectile dysfunction.

When we are relaxed and calm there is much more, if not all, parasympathetic nervous system activation. The parasympathetic system is what is activated after a meal, during sleep, relaxing or when meditating. When people are stressed it is sympathetic nervous system that is activate.

For a man to gain and maintain an erection, the parasympathetic nervous system must be activated.  This won’t happen if you are worried, nervous or hyper anxious about your sexual performance.

Impotence problems can naturally compound because being impotent is stressing in and of itself. It can be embarrassing as well as feeling guilt and shame.

How Hypnotherapy Newcastle Can Help

Being able to discuss your problem is usually a big relief and being able to have straight talk with a professional can actually ease a burden. Undiscussed problems of this nature can be quite inflationary in terms of anxtious apprehension so being able to talk about it can begin a change process.

There are two essential steps in dealing with what is know as psychogenic ( stress related ) impotency and to have some ideas and indications as to whether excess stress is the culprit.

Firstly using hypnosis to strengthen your responses to stress we are attempting to make you more robust to non-sexually related stressors. This can mean having better outlets for work and relationship stresses and feeling more in control of your own life.

Secondly hypnotherapy in Newcastle is used to de-couple previous problematic memories and feelings guilt and anxiety that is directly sexually related. Using hypnosis and NLP to create positive ideas and body responses that can reorganise and  straighten out your thoughts so you can relax into the mood you really want to achieve.

Identifying Stress Related Impotence

You will most likely have a very accurate idea of the stress levels in your life – if you are honest with yourself. You will know whether erection problems occur only when you are with a partner or on your own or both.

Additionally you can use Holmes and Rahe’s scale of major Life Events to explore your own ‘subjective’ stress scale day to day measures. When you believe that stress or some psychological basis is causing impotence then hypnotherapy may well be a real solution for you.

When adults enter the later, deeper stages of sleep, REM sleep they get erections. Getting erections in sleep very much suggests stress related erection problems when you are awake. So…

You can do one more personal experiment to see if your impotence has a psychogenic or stress related basis. Take a thin strip of paper or a long cigarette paper using just the adhesive part and fit this to the penis before sleeping.

This should be fitted to wrap around the girth and be loosely affixed. The fixing could be a sliver of sellotape or a dab of Pritstick glue or the natural adhesive gum on a cigarette paper.

The idea is, the ring of paper you have fitted around the girth ( think of a napkin holder ) will open or break if you experience an erection during sleep.  Check if the lightly attached paper has broken during your sleep.

Hypnotherapy in Newcastle for erectile dysfunction and stress related impotence with consultant hypnotherapist Nigel Hetherington. Call now for a free consultation on 0770 481 8467.

Anxiety And Your Attention – Nigel Hetherington

Anxiety is a feeling and emotion that indicates to the sufferer that everything is not right. Being overly anxious will drain and deplete energy and to excess can cause illness and wear the immune system away. Hypnosis Newcastle is an affective way for people to learn to change the feeling of unease in a variety of situations. Anxious people are not anxious all of the time, attention is not always directed at anxiety and Newcastle hypnotherapy can teach you ways to direct your attention on what is more important.

In order to know you are anxious your attention must be directed to consciously recognising the feeling and then consciously labelling or naming the physiological feelings that you call anxiety. Anxiety by definition is felt in the now and is directed to events and situations that are in the immediate or long term future but, the feeling is in the now and so it steals attention.

Anxiety is about uncertainty and the more anxious you are, the more you do it the more neurological responses you will have anticipating anxiety.

What You Have Learned To Expect = Dopamine

Dopamine is the neuro-transmitter that is largely responsible for for motivation to get you to a particular response. Dopamine is not discriminatory between a desired or undesired response … it is basically a motivator. Did you know, like any addiction your body can crave a stress response? The more unsurity about a ‘known’ reponse, the more dopamine. Anxiety is all about unsurity.

We can only have conscious appreciation of our state, in this instance anxiety, by registering and then labelling this emotion linguistically and in comparison to our past experiences. Our emotional or limbic brain, particularly the pituitary gland, stress hormones and amygdala are key neurological players here. The more worry, the more reactive response the bigger the snowball effect.

Anxiety is a form of anticipation. Anticipation can be positive or negative and what comes next should surprise you; both negatively and positively.

There is research that conclusively proves that having mastered one kind of experience, when you anticipate it again in the same kind of environment and situation when the words maybe or could be, that is when it is a 50% likely hood you are massively more likely to experience just that. Now this has a huge affect on your dopamine production. And it is dopamine that is your motivation to draw you to a specific experience. This is shown in the graph above.

Individual triggers for anxiety responses do naturally vary from person to person and will include two distinct categories of ‘behaviour’. These two categories can be conceptualised as a reactive responsive or meta-response to feelings labelled as anxiety and proactive behaviours that can generate the anxiety feelings in the first instance. Both types of response have a huge amount influence based on where an individual learns to put their attention.

Reactive behaviours to anxiety are the ways of thinking, behaving and worrying about anxiety that is already being experienced and then will logically create the next consequences that are being predicted as almost inevitable. This is a reaction to stimulus and with practice and dedication can be greatly diminished because people can, with practice and guidance learn new ways to respond.

Proactive behaviours to create anxiety are like cognitive exercises, such as worrying ahead of time, taking to yourself in rapid and unfinished sentences and hyperventilating that can all activate the reactive response that activates the sympathetic nervous system, speeds up the heart, releases glucocorticoids, adrenaline and gives that all too familiar body response that we call anxiety.

Anxiety can be pretty much summed up as a neuro-physiological stress response that is completely out of proportion and inappropriate response relevant to what is actually happening in the moment. For example imagine a person that is anxious about public speaking and is in one moment speaking publically, any anxiety response in that moment of public speaking is not about public speaking.

Anxiety is the thief of attention. It is a very much learned response and because we are, as a species, extremely good at learning once you have that pattern it can be the first and easy approach to a variety of situations. But being very good at learning, with some determination, practice and focus of your attention you can learn to have a very different and much more appropriate response.

OK so What Can You Do?

It is very simple but not necessarily very easy because making lasting changes and incorporating them into a life style that is salubrious ( look that word up ) will take some more effort on your behalf. And it is very worth your while.

I work with a great deal of clients who’s lives are so demanding they come home from work from massively stressed jobs and quite literally switch off from themselves, their partners, their friends and children. I also work with people who are seriously anxious about their relationships at home and at work so how they are with people and upcoming situations. Here is what you can do.

  1. In stead of knowing and anticipating anxiety, consider you maybe ( 50 % ) wrong about anxiety and that upcoming situation will be more or less OK.
  2. If the worst comes to the worst … acknowledge it and consider what you can do instead.
  3. Take up a regular exercise like running, weight lifting or meditation; and notice over a week and a month having done this how much more able you are managing.
  4. Notice when you are talking to yourself and stop! Put your attention outwards and be present. This does take practice and the paybacks are massive. This is a very much get out of your own head routine.
  5. Do some proactive relaxation. Lots of FREE hypnosis audio’s here.

So if none of these suggestions are for you, you do want to learn to stop anxiety and be more relaxed and present in your day to day situations then consider professional hypnotherapy Newcastle. Not expecting a one session turn around for 20 years of anxiety and making a commitment to change with Newcastle hypnosis with Nigel Hetherington can help you to to learn much better ways for coping with day to day anxiety triggers and stressors. Hypnosis in Jesmond and now Newcastle City Centre at week day lunch times. Anxiety? Act Hypnosis Newcastle solutions.

 

Hypnotherapy for Stress Newcastle – Nigel Hetherington

Hypnotherapy in Newcastle and Northumberland to help you remove more of the stress and worry from your life. People characterised as Type A personality are more likely to suffer heart attacks because of their response to stressors and  way overly responsive stress response to every day issues. Newcastle hypnotherapy for stress may help you live a longer and healthier life.

Watch Dr Robert Sapolsky exploring some issues around Type A personality and stress response. Type A personality have these kinds of characteristics : Feeling time pressure,  impatient, boiling on the inside while seeming cool to others, regimented and rigid organisation, joyless and hostile to others.

Hypnosis like meditation will activate the para-sympathetic nervous system helping to counteract the effects of over active stress responses. Newcastle stress hypnotherapy because learning to relax much more could extend your life by lowering stress hormones in your body.

Trauma And Intrusive Memories Hypnotherapy Newcastle

One of the most effective and content free ways I know to assist clients over and through a personal trauma and / or  intrusive memories is Eye Movement Integration ( EMI ). EMI is developed by Steve and Connirae Andreas.

Content free, very simply means, your clients, my clients don’t need to discuss ( talk about ) and re-live a seriously traumatic episode for you to assist them in making deep psychological and neurological change. Most client’s don’t want to share the intimate and painful details of a trauma, having to re-live it day in day out is enough.

This is a short video of me teaching aspects of EMI on one of my NLP Practitioner trainings. EMI is as far as I am concerned one of the most important tools in the toolbox of a professional change worker. I run regular workshops in EMI for change professionals.

If you want to see EMI in action with a real participant check out this link.

 

Anxiety Hypnotherapy Newcastle – Nigel Hetherington

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Anxiety really can be a terrible and consuming thing to experience. Another word for anxiety is WORRY. Newcastle Hypnotherapy with Nigel Hetherington can be a real solution for you.

Anxiety will often reduce your capacity to respond as well as act in the ways you truly want to experience life. Another word for anxiety is worry. Worrying about how things can go wrong or how events can all turn out bad. How would it be when you can set yourself free?

Anxiety or worry is not a disease, it is not a pathology. Many so called counsellors or therapists would have you believe this. This is not true.

Anxiety its a way, a learned way of thinking about the future. Think about this, no one as far as I know was born anxious, it was a learned behaviour. This learned behaviour is all about how to cope and deal with physical / emotional feelings.

Anxiety is a behaviour, it is not a pathology and as such does not need to be suppressed with medication. This means there is no physical disease associated with anxious behaviour. There is of course neurological activity ( ways of thinking ) that are associated with anxiety. You don’t require drugs or medication to change thought patterns. At best drugs will suppress anxiety, they will likely suppress other things too.

If anxiety is really is screwing up your life, you are worrying and worrying and as a result suffering … I can most likely help you change your behaviour. I can assist you in turning your though patterns around. The purpose being to stop worrying and start living a more satisfying and meaningful life.

Cyclic negative, anxiety producing thought patterns tend to go like this.

“What if … but then what, if I don’t … and then What if … but what if …”

So the real key here is to STOP that thought pattern and engage in a better one right …

People who behave anxiously are never anxious about some general things. You are anxious about something specific and worst of all it has not happened. Anxiety is all about thinking about the future and creating, almost always, the worst possible outcome for yourself and others. Think about it, how could it be different if you started habitually thinking about better outcomes in the future?

Newcastle Hypnotherapy for Anxiety combines NLP, Hypnosis and Humour in a way that will really help you move through your old thought patterns and into a whole new way of thinking.

If you have tried counselling and it really hasn’t worked after lots of session and you are totally committed to making the changes in your life you honestly want … act now …

For a completely confidential and solution orientated approach for you to help getting yourself out of anxiety and worry and Getting on with your life, contact me right away, [ after all being anxious and a worrier what’s the worst that can happen 😉 ] call now.

nigel@nigelhetherington .co .uk

0770 481 8467

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Hypnotherapy For Guilt And Shame

Guilt and shame are two emotions that can cause suffering and stop you leading a full life. Both of these emotions are about not living up to values. These values can be your own or other peoples. Values are the kinds of experiences and behaviours that are important to both ourselves and to others.

If your behaviour or lack of it, in some way disrespects another persons values, you may well feel shame. Shame can also be imposed on you by another, such as by their public disapproval of your actions or even of you.

Guilt is about your response to how you are living up to and in accordance with your own values. How you behave or do not behave in relation to your own values can create the emotion we call guilt.

Both guilt and shame are emotions that are firmly located in the past. Guilt and shame are about past events and because there has been some perceived transgression of values, for some, those memories are replayed again and again and so can go on generate more guilt or shame.

Hypnotherapy and NLP can be very successfully used to stop most people feeling these negative emotions, for a specific event, in just one session. What is even more important to do after the feeling of guilt or shame is gone, is to re-evaluate the event and create strategies so that in any future situations that are similar, you will act much more in line with the values you want to honour.

For completely compassionate, confidential and non judgemental help dealing with Guilt and Shame and Getting on with your life

Contact Nigel Hetherington

nigel@nigelhetherington .co .uk

0770 481 8467

Provocative Therapy and Coaching Workshop

I am hosting a workshop with my good friend Phil Jeremiah for coaches, hypnotherapists, therapists and change workers in Newcastle.

Humour can help to break old patterns and establish new ones

So many research papers and books tell us of the positive effects of laughter. Apparently 20 minutes of laughter is equivalent to 20 minutes of physical activity, likened to an inner form of jogging. It may well act as a buffer against day to day stressful perceptions. However, laughter is not easy to come by in our mixed up fear driven world. Consequently Thought Provoking Dialogue sets out to challenge our sometimes negative mind-sets and self-limiting beliefs.

Phil provides training, motivational speaking and support to organisations in the use of humour. Laughter in the workplace is proven to reduce symptoms of stress and can promote good team working in a fun way with groups or individuals. This two day workshop offers us the opportunity to experiment with, understand why and how, and develop confidence in using humour in coaching or therapy.

It’s a must for your development and an even greater must for right now – with our economic and social structures all in turmoil, we could all do with a little humour to help us frame it in ways that are useful to and for us and to and for our clients.

This weekend workshop takes place May 12-13 and is excellent value at £125 AND you are guaranteed outrageous laughter and learning as well as highly workable and client centred ways of engendering change. Book your place now!


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Northern Changeworkers, Counsellors, Coaches & Therapist Conference : May 14-15

I am seriously delighted and very excited to now be announcing the first Northern ChangeWorkers, Counsellors, Coaches and Therapists Conference ( NCCCTC ), here in Newcastle. A conference where we are continuing to highlight The North East as a centre for Excellence in Change Work and Therapy.

With our Magnificent Seven presenters, we can all draw from their experience and absorb their uniquely individual approach to successful change work.

Get their real MASSIVE value insights and their methods that the top North East Change Professionals, Coaches and Therapists use One to One with clients.

A genuine golden opportunity to learn from top North East change workers and to do some great networking and create new relationships. Book right away as there are limited places …

 

 

Conference topics will include:

  • General ways and methodologies for Brief Therapy.
  • Working with Eating Disorders.
  • Grief and Bereavement.
  • Solution Focused Brief Therapy.
  • Self Acceptance.
  • Dealing with Guilt.
  • True Co-Creative Coaching Alliances.

Enter your name & email now to receive a FREE audio CD interview with Harry Knox ( Brief Grief Therapy ) and Sharon Cox ( Eating Disorders ) discussing their backgrounds and providing insights into how they work in their specialised fields.

 

The NCCCT conference, over two days in May 14-15, is specifically for all of us people involved in professional change work as counsellors, therapists and coaches. And now by attending you will get:

  • Insights and practices of the top professionals.
  • The best value conference this year by far.
  • Specific methods for your client groups.
  • Incredible networking opportunities.

The ticket price for this two full day conference is only £40 and this IS incredible value for a two day conference. BUT

If you ACT NOW and are one of the first 100 people to book your place you get your ticket for ONLY £30. So, go ahead and BOOK YOUR PLACE now!

 

 

As well as all attendants receiving a series of interviews with the presenters which will give you a general overview of the presenters unique way of working all conference participants will be able to discover the ways and methodologies in which to work with your clients with Eating Disorders, Grief and Bereavement, Solution Focused Therapy, Self Acceptance, Guilt, True Co-Creative Coaching Alliances and a great deal more.

NCCCTC is taking place in May 14-15 in Newcastle upon Tyne 2011. Be Sure You Attend!

Introducing our presenters for 2011, each with many years of both one to one experience as well as excellent group facilitation skills:

Harry KnoxBereavement and Brief Grief Therapy
With an unparalleled career of over 30 years working in psychiatry in the NHS. Harry now splits his time between supervision, one to one therapy and training facilitation. As a Master practitioner and accredited trainer of NLP, Harry has a unique, humorous and entirely engaging style to change work and is the creator of ‘Brief Grief Therapy’.

Sharon CoxEating Disorder Specialist
Sharon is a BACP accredited counsellor, with a private practice based in North Tyneside, offering both short and long-term counselling for a wide range of psychological and emotional concerns. She provides counselling supervision to both training and qualified counsellors and has extensive experience in Substance Misuse, Bereavement Care and Victim Support. Sharon’s special interest is in eating disorders. Combining a busy practice and training facilitation she is also studying to gain a PhD in Counselling Studies.

John Wheeler – Solution Focused Brief Therapy
Well published and equally well known in the field of Brief Therapy, John has over 18 years experience in facilitation, clinical supervision and one to one work both internationally and here in the UK. John is also responsible for the excellent BTNE organisation.

Rob McGinleyAnxiety And Depression
Rob S. McGinley is a qualified, experienced and effective counsellor. His extensive background includes bereavement & loss, work stress, relationship & family issues, depression & anxiety and youth counselling. BACP registered, Rob works as a counsellor/ NLP practitioner , has his own small private practice and lectures full time on the counselling foundation degree training program at TyneMet College.

Andy HuntCompassionate Self Acceptance
Andy works with people who give themselves a hard time, judge themselves harshly, feel bad about themselves or spend far too much time having a problem with themselves. Andy’s clients may typically feel irresistibly drawn to choose situations and relationships that reinforce their bad opinion of themselves, Andy helps them to experience and make positive changes. A NLP Master Practitioner, accredited EFT and NLP trainer, Andy is well know for his ability to run change processes while creating a deep and respectful rapport.

Paula McCormack – UK Social Leaders Coach
With over 20 years experience as both an individual and group development facilitator Paula has developed her own unique approach to change and development know as The Adaptive. Paula is dynamic and has an incredible ability to deeply connect and create the space that fosters true discoveries and engenders personal change.

Nigel Hetherington – Addictions & Trauma
Nigel is the NCCCTS organiser. He works as an approved NLP and Clinical Hypnotherapy training facilitator, has a private practice and is particularly interested in helping people recover and move forward in life from serious addictions, trauma and abusive relationships. Nigel facilitates regular NLP, Hypnotherapy and Therapist workshops and practice groups in the North East and Newcastle.

This conference is seriously affordable to everyone; Why? Because all of our presenters are dedicated to the real direction and goal of excellence in therapy for all attendees. We are all involved in developing further our skills and ways of practice in mutually beneficial and co-created change alliances.

Your personal investment for this value packed and quality information conference is ONLY £30 for the first 100 registrants. After this the price increases to £40, which is still excellent value. After 5th May the price increases to £50.

 

 

But think about this; £50 for a two day conference with the top therapists, change workers and coaches is still incredible value because you will get to understand the unique ways and methods of the presenters that they use which makes them the very top of their profession and they will be sharing their methods and ways of getting excellent results with their clients.

Surviving A Seriously Toxic Relationship – Part One

I honestly think people meet for a reason. My thoughts here are, it is to learn and create together or learn and create apart. Our relationships with our intimate lovers, friends and acquaintances can in some ways be defined by what we both learn and go on to accomplish, share and go on to help others through our own experiences.

If you have ever been in an unnecessarily argumentative, emotional, mentally or even physically abusive relationship that can be categorised with frequent breakups and passionate get back together’s then this may be of help and interest to you in both getting some kind of understanding of what’s happening and finding ways to live healthily together or move apart sooner.

It is my intention that these articles will provide examples you may relate to and to provide means to make the right changes for you in terms of your relationship.

If you choose to get out of this kind of toxic relationship the rest of this articles will offer some suggestions as to how as a survivor you can let go of the past, feel better and move forward with a sense of forgiveness and compassion. My reparation took me over six weeks to fully heal my heart and head, to let go of many unhelpful emotions and memories and feel whole again.

I most often find labelling people is not helpful. What I want to show here is a collection of coping mechanisms people with so called Borderline Personality Disorder ( BPD ) have for coping in their world and specifically coping in an intimate personal relationship.

It is honestly NOT their fault they have these modes of behaviour or coping mechanisms to be interacting with intimate partners but unless you are their therapist or their partner you will most likely never see this side of their personality. It can be like a real life Jekyll and Hyde. Relationships with this kind of characteristic can look like the Somme Battlefield from the outside. From the inside it is honestly much, much worse for both people.

Please read the following article for an insight into a BPD relationship. Click on the hyperlink below.

How a Borderline Personality Disorder Love Relationship Evolves

An Article by Roger Melton MA

The article above describes very well my perceptions of my own experience in a relationship with an ex partner who displayed all of the coping mechanisms that I will describe below. As such I have no intention of relating specific personal examples. This is for two reasons. Sometimes I feel ‘our story’ has an element of ‘the victim’ attached to it and so creates unhelpful gossip and agony aunt style, problem focused awareness and also this is really about recognising the signs and making a choice as to how best to move forward.

Having been in a toxic and mutually unhealthy relationship with a partner who exhibited these coping strategies for BPD with various intensities and frequencies; I have to say, at that time I simply didn’t understand what was happening or why they behaved that way. I did not understand many of our interaction. They often made little sense, more often than not no sense at all.

Arguments would frequently erupt from nowhere. My then partner would shout, make fists become verbally aggressive and abusive. In short a kind of totally unpredictable angry temper tantrum. Their raging arguments were paradoxical with what I perceived as frequent double standards that simply could not be reasoned out. I had no real idea how or why these would start arguments, but now I know, it is just one way of coping:

When you get to understand what childhood circumstances created these coping mechanisms or behavioural imprints ( DSM-IV-TR, The Angry Heart ) it is actually very easy to forgive and feel real compassion for an ex partner or even a current one; It is also very easy to forgive yourself. But when you don’t know, it is all too easy to feel hurt, used, manipulated, cheated and abused. This is the victim role. You can lose your sense of self value and self respect; Because you love them so you keep going back … for more of the same and so the cycle continues.

BPD Criteria and Coping Mechanisms

A pervasive pattern of instability of interpersonal relationships, self-image, and affects and markedly impulsivity beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts as indicated by five ( or more ) of the following :

1. Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment.
2. A pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterised by alternating between extremes of idealisation and devaluation.
3. Identity disturbance: markedly and persistently unstable self image or sense of self.
4. Impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self damaging ( spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating).
5. Recurrent suicidal behaviours, gestures or threats of self-mutilating behaviour.
6. Affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood ( intense episodic dysphoria, irritability, or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days).
7. Chronic feelings of emptiness.
8. Inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger ( frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights ).
9. Transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or sever dissociative symptoms.

DSM – IV -TR

Part Two of this article will go on to explore the issue of blame and responsibility. Part Three will offer suggestions and ways, that as a survivor of specifically this kind of toxic relationship you can heal your emotional past and then move forward in life with a genuine sense of forgiveness and compassion.

Spirituality In Coaching and Therapy – Nigel Hetherington & Paula McCormack

The more you lose yourself in something bigger than yourself, the more energy you will have.

Norman Vincent Peale

Spirituality In Coaching and Therapy – Newcastle NLP and Hypnosis Cafe Monday 7th February 7-9pm : Gosforth Library Newcastle NE3 3HD : £10 Including Biscuits. Book online below.

When we come direct from heart space we create an energetic connection that surpasses the concept of empathy or our multi-sensory capacity. In doing so we create the neutral void that two souls can share to explore, discover, test, challenge and shift. For us, this is our recipe for lasting and generative change.

So in this café Paula and Nigel will facilitate your unpacking of the deeper and more connecting ways in which yours and our therapeutic alliances work. How they are formed, how they grow and the effect and impact they have on our and the world.

We will open and share our thoughts and processes of how to develop co-created alliances by exploring the concepts of projections and reflections prior to, during and after a dynamic interaction. We will also consider projection and reflection in terms of attracting clients into your life for mutual healing and purposeful learnings.

Every person we meet has something to teach us, and every person has something to say that only they can say. We both believe we attract the clients that will help and be beneficial to our ongoing development. This may also include ‘healing’ your past. viz a vie we meet together to co-create something that is more than mutually beneficial …

From this place we’ll look at working from heart space that dynamically co-creates a change process as being fundamental in effective change and evolution work. We will show you how this offers a place that goes way beyond our understanding of rapport. Indeed it transcends the thoughts that if we shared some common value, belief, outcomes, goals and even purpose we can go anywhere in the relationship.

Newcastle NLP and Hypnosis Cafe

Monday 7th February 7-9pm :

Gosforth Library Newcastle NE3 3HD : £10 Including Biscuits.

Book online now.





Can You Make A Living From Coaching or Therapy?

I run regular trainings in Newcastle for people to become certified Clinical Hypnotherapists and NLP Practitioners. Two days ago I received a call from a perspective participant regarding Hypnotherapy Training. One of their really good questions was “Can I make a living as a Hypnotherapist”.

The answer is a very BIG no and yes!

There are many, many training courses where you can become a qualified therapist, coach or hypnotherapist. Currently there is no legislation in the UK to stop anyone stating they are a ‘hypnotherapist’ or ‘coach’ any reader can do it right now. Some will get a ‘qualification’ yet if you want to make a good living as a professional people helper YOU NEED CLIENTS, no matter how good you think you are or the training you have received.

I strongly recommend Andy Austin’s Brass Bollocks [ if you will follow the process ] and then be prepared to commit to the time it takes to generate lots of clients AND build a reputation and successful practice!

Andy is someone I have done a great deal of training with, who I regard as a truly consummate professional, Andy Austin has stated …

A little humility will save you a lot of humiliation“.

There are so many products out in the market promising you can make £x,xxx,xxx in a year. This is a big sham! One of the biggest deceptions going in my opinion. There are no get rich quick schemes and if this is what you want you may well be in the wrong profession! Yet, the strategies are generally good BUT it takes time to build a good reputation, referrals and a professional practice.

My personal experience, never bothering to follow any of these get rich schemes was it took me five years to build a profitable practice in therapy. I am an ex-software engineer and have some savi regarding how to build an internet presence that works for you.

I was teaching hypnosis and NLP by 2005 and it is now 2011. This is five years in time and five years in reputations and referrals. Unless you have a massive number of contacts do not expect to make a living as soon as you are qualified. I think this applies to any professional practice, therapy or other …

One of the most important pieces of experience I can offer is you can do it. It usually wont happen over night. It takes practice, time and a real commitment to helping people transform their lives – as well as your own! If you are currently working I suggest you create what I call a ‘parachute fund’ to help you on your way, to transition between a job and a true calling. Don’t do what I did and sell your house to create you business, it is way too risky!

So, I sold my home and quite my job as a full time software developer and programmer to pursue my dream. I wouldn’t recommend this to anyone because it was very hard and was a one way ticket to survive and  flourish or go bust. I followed my dream …

Anything and everything to do what I love, my family and friends said I was mad to give up a lucrative job … YET … my heart was elsewhere in the future … and eventually … this came true … It was not easy! It is really hard work!!

Follow your heart … … … and at the same time, realise you do need to make a living in the process ….

Some hints and tips on what not to to … Basically don’t lie about yourself.

In therapeutic practice, there are so many people advertising skills they simply haven’t got.  For instance …

Do not advertise what you are not or make somewhat ridiculous claims on what you can do for clients. This includes ridiculous fees that simply do not attract clients.  The [ ] are examples of what I personally know has failed for certain people who try to present themselves as therapists or coaches.

  • £125 coaching by skype [ 4 clients in 18 months, two non paying ]
  • Child behaviour Specialist . [ Physically abusing their children by smacking then in the face and mouth ]
  • Saying you have 100% client success [ everyone knows this is not so ]
  • Divorced mother specialisation [ still married and ongoing incredibly troublesome divorce ]
  • Relationship expert [ 20 years of infidelity and non resolved personal issues ]
  • Get your magic job [ no income from therapy, dependent on the state for financial support ]
  • You can make a living doing what you love [ no income except state / partner dependent ]

Make you fees plainly accessible to one and all

The most well known and successful UK therapists are from £125 – per hour or session. These are the people who have 10 to 15 years plus of experience and practice to charge this. Get real. You will not compete with these people right away. These are well developed and recognised professionals. Better to charge £45 per hour and get some clients while building a real reputation.

The real trick here is to build up a practice

  • Don’t listen to anyone who tells you to up your prices especially when they have no clients of their own.
  • Get your Internet Site presence up and for the world to see.
  • Make presentations to your local therapy and counselling associations.
  • Do free work until you have people that will recommend you.
  • Be true to what you believe is right and set out to make a difference.
  • Patience and the rest will come with dedication.

Follow your dreams while you study and practice hard!

Love & Light

Nigel

Newcastle Weight Loss Hypnosis | Jesmond Weigh Loss Hypnosis

We are all so engaged in doing things to achieve purposes of outer value we forget that the inner value the rapture that is associated with being alive is what it’s all about‘ – Joseph Campbell

There is something else, much more to losing weigh and weight loss … and this is a fundamental change of attitude and heart … and … getting a real sense, a knowing if you like, of what you will actually feel and experience from losing weight!

Click here to book an appointment for Weight Loss Hypnosis Newcastle in early New Year of 2011.

Weigh Loss Hypnotherapy Newcastle Jesmond Gosforth Hexham

Struggling to become a desirable and healthy weight is one of the most common and often ever present problems people today are facing. Weight issues are not usually genetic, probably not your diet and not destiny. You can change and this means cleaning up your past and changing your attitudes and habits to support more than just losing weight.

There are very many reasons or causes for this problem. Knowing the reasons as to why you are overweight and potentially emotionally depressed with the situation usually wont help you lose weight and keep it off. Changing who you were and becoming the person you want to be will. There is very likely some connection with your past, an emotional issue or maybe a habit and attitude you need to change.

Do you know many over weight people suffer from

  • Low Self Esteem
  • Negative Thoughts
  • Lack Of Confidence
  • Diet – Comfort Eat – Diet – Comfort Eat Cycles
  • A Longing To Discover Real Love

If you have tried every diet or self help book you can and are still getting nowhere fast and you are still fat then read on :

There are three things you honestly need to know about and do to make the changes you truly want in your life happen.

Firstly knowing how the benefits of changing your weight will effect you is extremely important. In short there needs to be a real purpose in your losing weight. It is not about losing weight in and of itself. It is what you will get from losing weight. This may be feeling much more confident, feeling more attractive, increased health benefits and leading a more active life in all areas.

Secondly you need to understand there is some underlying emotional pain that is creating and sustaining your current problem. Remember the brain seeks things to make us feel better. Comfort eating can and does alleviate emotional pain BUT it is only temporary. You eat, feel a little better, feel guilty about binging as well as the unresolved emotional pain and then the cycle starts again like ever increasing circles!

Finally you have to do something about it and then get on with living the way you want to live. This involves getting professional help to help you make changes in your attitude and coach you through the change period to a much better life.

The Brain Stuff

The brains main function is to keep the body in which it resides alive and functioning and to find food, reproduce and other vital requirements. It does this by a complex neuro-chemical endogenous reward mechanism. Simply put, finding food, sex and the other essential needs creates a neuro-chemical reward and makes us feel very good. If you continue looking outside yourself for this you always will …

This system of reward is driven sequentially like this:

Stimulus -> Desire -> Action -> Reward

Let’s call this the SDAR cycle.

Stimulus to find food, sex, or other essential need like security. This can come from your environment, like seeing some favourite food, your partner or even looking for a more comfortable or secure living environment. Stimulus can also come from the inside as in when we think about our emotional state, think about problems or think about a missing loved one.

Desire is thinking about what you want and also what is painful in life. When the pain or emotional turbulence becomes too strong you seek to find a way out. One way is finding something to alleviate the pain, this is temporary and may be eating a cake, chocolate or any activity that temporarily shunts negative thoughts, pain or emotional issues off to one side. But they are still there!!

Action in this case, is putting the next best alternative into action. Usually a stop gap measure. This is doing what you have always done and hoping for a different result. It wont happen, sorry. You need to change what you do. And this means a fundamental change in your attitude towards yourself!

Reward is the feeling you get when you do something to alleviate your emotional pain. Your brain releases some good chemicals and you feel good for a short while but it doesn’t last and then the cycle starts again.

  • What if you can stop this cycle?
  • What if you can honestly heal the emotional pain that is at the heart of your situation?
  • What if you really can make and sustain positive changes that will give you the life and feelings you really what to have?

Comfort eating, drinking or any other activity that temporarily assuages the underlying emotional hurt or pain you are feeling and is a substitute for addressing your real needs and desires. You can honestly never get enough of second best! So now is your open window to let some fresh air of change into you life.

And here is your invitation to take action …

Book an appointment, get your life on track and become who are … sooner … than you may have thought possible.

Book an appointment to turn your life around now.

Tel : 0770 481 8467

email : nigel@nigelhetherington.co.uk

Clean Language Clean Therapy ™ Solutions | Newcastle Hypnotherapy | Newcastle Hypnosis

Newcastle Hypnotherapist Nigel Hetherington demonstrates Clean Language leading into the Clean Therapy ™ model to assist in exploration and a solution orientation with one of the participants.

I have recently been working in Alaska delivering Clinical Hypnotherapy training. Here is the first of two parts of a demonstration of Clean Language and my Clean Therapy ™ Model.

One of the things that make the Clean Therapy ™ approach so powerful is clients never have to talk directly about their problems, which can often cause them even more distress. Using metaphor and physical movement the Clean Therapist directs the process of change at a different level of internal experience that the origional problem. That is, a metaphoric representation is created and then explored. As the metaphor is explored and changed the problem representation will naturally have been explored and changed too.

For Hypnosis in Newcastle and Hypnosis in Hexham contact call 0770 481 8467 or email nigel@nigelhetherington.co.uk

Change Your Mind – Change Your Feelings

Albert Einstein is said to have commented “Problems cannot be solved by the same level of thinking that created them!”

Here we use a metaphor to represent the problem state and the metaphor IS a different level of thinking!

This is a really neat process to help people move from unresourceful states to really positive and resourceful ones. Using emergent metaphor to change the internal representations or problem states as a 2nd order change process.

The process is created by Kevin Creedon and know as the Cloud Process.

NLP Practitioner Training @ £495 | Newcastle & North East NLP Practitioner Course

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When we want to make our life better and are frustrated that it is not happening the way we want it to be or not happening at all, there are some things we can do to take action and get better informed and equipped to make the changes we want happen.

This excellent value training begins in January 2011 and concludes in June. The Newcastle NLP Practitioner training course is three days Friday-Sunday each month.

We all experience and face common frustrations and problems just about each and every day.

Here are just some of them:

  • Wasting Time and Energy Worrying about the NOW…
  • Wasting Time and Energy Worrying about the future ( Anxiety )
  • Economy and Money
  • Your Job Security
  • Your Relationships both Personal and Professional
  • You are not happy or satisfied with you present situation
  • A lack motivation
  • Wanting to turn your life around
  • Worried about paying your bills
  • Unable to get on better with others and yourself

Neurolinguistic Programming or NLP is a kind of pseudo psychology developed in the 1970’s. It has grew to massive fame in the UK largely because of Paul Mckenna’s TV shows. NLP is a successful and powerful way of running your own brain, increasing your confidence, managing your state as well as learning and developing ethical influencing and communication tools. It is also a great deal of fun in the learning!

Excellent content, great presentation, great group. All if it linked together, I have really enjoyed it and learned a lot from the course, very useful.

Kim – Manager Outdoor Activity Centre

Taking an NLP Practitioner training will of course not solve each and every one of your problems yet it will give you tools you can use to take much more control of your life and generally feel much better about it. You will change the way you think and interact with others. You will learn how to get on much better with people and literally talk their language.

Totally fab, exceeded my expectations. Thank you very much! The trainers are great and the venue is ideal. For me, its the power and awareness of language are the most useful.

Rob – Counselling Lecturer

This special credit crunch price for the NLP Practitioner Course with six months training is just £495. This really is the most exceptional value certified NLP Practitioner in the UK. It is this price because the current economic climate which demands you get paramount value for your money and because Communicating Excellence is dedicated to increasing the success of all people in our North East community.

I have seen changes in myself that I wouldn’t have thought possible. Thank you so much

Felicity James

18 Participants Max.

Three days per month, Friday-Sunday beginning January 2011. Only £495 Take Action and Book NOW!

Click here for full details and to book your place on the Newcastle NLP Practitioner Training course.

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Drinking Water Before Meal Helps Dieting

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A recent BBC article claims that drinking two cups of water before a meal will help you with your dieting. The research comes from scientists in Virginia working with 48 adults aged 55 to 75.

Drinking two cups of water, three times a day before meals can help you lose an average of 5 pounds ( That is the same as 2.27 kg ).

Read the full article here on the BBC web site.

If you would like some additional hints and tips to help you lose weight, check out my Weigh Loss Attitude a six page pamphlet in the Free Resources section.

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Even The Top Coaches Have Bad Days

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All people have off days. Life will continue to throw up circumstances, situations and episodes when we are challenged, hurt, pissed off and injured by our own and other peoples actions or inactions. This is part of being human and the personal evolutions we all experience during our life time.

Alexander Pope said “To err is human; to forgive is divine

Forgive yourself ( and others ) for any pain you feel. Use the pain to transform and motivate yourself to have much more of the life you want. This is not really about material things as I know many people who have excess money, even one who is a millionaire and they aren’t happy.

This is about connecting and discovering your unique life purpose or your true calling and acting from this base. Of course having too little money does cause problems no matter what some life coaches or spiritual gurus say. We all require a certain level of income to meet our basic need. Yet once these needs are met how do you choose to live?

One of comparative mythologists Joseph Campbell’s most famous quotes is “follow your bliss“. The real key to a more than fulfilling life is to discover your bliss and walk that path. Campbell certainly followed his bliss and as a result transformed the thinking and lives of millions of people. And of course you don’t even need to think about the ideas and concepts of following your bliss or discovering your life purpose. It is not for every one yet discovering your bliss requires no special education or prior knowledge. He calls this journey or exploration The Hero’s Journey’ Campbell says this is The Left hand Path and it is not for everyone. Just for those who hear the call to adventure …

So it’s OK to feel hurt, pained and angry. This could be the start of a life transforming journey. Where the real skill comes in is using these powerful and driving emotions to create something better for ourselves and others. This could be the beginning of your own Hero’s Journey. Here is a little clip from one of the Worlds most dynamic coaches Tony Robbins.

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Hypnosis Course

Hypnotherapy Course and Hypnosis Course in Newcastle upon Tyne with Nigel Hetherington.

Hypnosis course approved training with the General Hypnotherapy Standards Council and General Hypnotherapy Register. Graduates are eligible to join the General Hypnotherapy Register and receive membership of both the GHR and The Hypnotherapy Register.

The GHR is the largest organisation for professional hypnotherapist in the UK.

Clinical Hypnotherapy Training Course

Buddhism, Enlightenment and Learning How To Feel Better – Part Two

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Not every reader will be aware of the fact that many of the people who are developing and exploring their own spirituality, interestingly enough, will have something in common with people who are studying NLP or Hypnosis in Newcastle and the North East.

Now these connections may not be immediately obvious, so here is an invitation for you to look at some parallel lines of exploration.

In relating the science of Hypnosis and NLP to the spirituality of Buddhism there are some very clear connections in terms of outcomes or to put it another way, what students from either of these discipline’s can anticipate from their efforts and studies because …

Both Buddhism, Hypnotherapy and NLP at the higher level are concerned with moving towards true personal freedom, compassion and living your own life. Ultimately it is about being able to feel how you want to feel much more of the time and engage in what is truly important to you and satisfy your own values.

So to draw the first parallel let’s again recount the first temptation of the Buddha by the demon Kama, the Buddhas ‘solution’ to this problem and then see how you can do this from an NLP or Hypnosis perspective.

Kama sends by proxy his three daughters Regret ( past), Fulfillment ( present ) and Desire ( future ). Buddha being, still on his immovable spot, disengaged from the field of time, he is able to refute all three emotions and be free from desire, regret and fulfillment.

All very well for Buddha to deal with these emotions but the question many people will be asking is “how do I deal with these emotions?

Let’s explore regret. Regret is specifically about the past. Regret is a reviewing and reliving of past memories and for whatever reasons ( the list could be very long ) ruing the things that either were or were not done. Often times this in not even a choice to relive the memory it just seems to run and re-run all by itself. The brain just seems to do what it wants and not what you want.

Now, what if, like Buddha, you could change your past memories, here specifically regret, such that all the learning’s and education are preserved yet they have a completely neutral or even oddly pleasurable emotional response to the ‘same’ memory?

Looking through the therapeutic lens of applied Hypnotherapy and NLP, regret is an indication that some value, some behavior or experience that is especially important to you was in some way transgressed. This applies irrespective weather the regret is about something that did happen ( and wish it hadn’t ) or something that did not happen ( and wish it had ).

You know, we learn by making ‘mistakes’ so being able to keep the learning and dissolved any unwanted emotion is what this is about.

First and foremost and often the hardest step for people is to acknowledge that the feeling of regret is serving some very positive purpose. This feeling of regret can act like a ‘flag’ or ‘marker’ so that in any similar future situations, you will act differently and in ways that will respect and support the transgressed value.

The third article of this series will give a simple step by step process of how you can change the way you think about regret and start to run your own brain for a change.

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Bill O Hanlon Workshop Newcastle Upon Tyne September 2010

A very special workshop for solution focused and brief therapy professionals.

bill-headshot-bw.jpg“There is no use trying, she said.“One cannot believe impossible things.”“I dare say you haven’t had much practice” said the Queen “When I was your age, I always did it for half-an-hour a day.Why sometimes I’ve believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast.” – Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland

Possibility Therapy uses the power of acknowledgement to meet people where they are stuck and the power of possibility to invite them into change. Not just a positive approach, this approach recognizes problems, the influence of the past, and cultural, political and gender influences while creating a respectful, hopeful environment for change. It also adds a spiritual dimension to therapy.

Through clear handouts and lectures, videotapes and practice exercises, participants will have the opportunity to not only learn this approach to therapy but also to apply it to their own lives and selves.

Morning session Day 1

  • Introduction to a new way of thinking and working in therapy
    • Discovering solution-oriented therapy
  • First Things First: Starting therapy on the right foot
    • Finding a focus and identifying who wants to change what
    • Assessment as intervention
  • Solution-Oriented Therapy
    • Find exceptions and solutions from the past
    • Evoke competence
    • Notice change rather than stuckness
    • Imagine a future without the problem and work backwards from there

Afternoon session Day 1

  • Possibility Therapy: A further evolution of brief solution-oriented therapy
  • Acknowledgement and possibility
  • Collaboration/non-expert stance
  • Future pull
  • Inclusion

Morning session Day 2

  • Inclusive Therapy: Dissolving resistance (from clients and therapists)
    • Discovering inclusion
    • Three levels of inclusion
    • The Inclusive Self
    • The 3 Cs of spirituality in therapy

Afternoon session Day 2

  • Brief therapy
  • The three kinds of brief therapy
    • Strategies of brief therapy
    • Change patterns
      • Personal and interpersonal
    • Change the doing (action/interaction)
    • Change the viewing (attention/meaning-making)
      • Stories
    • Set achievable and observable goals
    • Small changes can produce big results

Objectives:

  • To learn the components of brief and solution-oriented therapy
  • To learn how to dissolve resistance and create a collaborative environment in therapy
  • To be able to use 5 methods of acknowledgement and possibility
  • To be able to use 3 methods of inclusion

Bill O’Hanlon, MS, LMFT, has authored or co-authored 29 books, the latest being A Guide to Trance Land (W.W. Norton, 2009), Write is a Verb (Writer’s Digest Books, July 2007) Pathways to Spirituality (W.W. Norton), Change 101: A Practical Guide to Creating Change (W.W. Norton, Fall 2006), and Thriving Through Crisis (Penguin/Perigee; winner of the Books for a Better Life Award).

He has published 54 articles or book chapters. His books have been translated into 15 languages: French, Spanish, Portuguese, Swedish, Finnish, German, Chinese, Bulgarian, Turkish, Korean, Indonesian, Italian, Croatian, Arabic and Japanese.

He has appeared on Oprah (with his book Do One Thing Different), The Today Show, and a variety of other television and radio programs. Since 1977, Bill has given over 2000 talks around the world. He has been a top-rated presenter at many national conferences and was awarded the Outstanding Mental Health Educator of the Year in 2001 by the New England Educational Institute.

Bill is a Licensed Mental Health Professional, Certified Professional Counselor, and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. Bill is clinical member of AAMFT (and winner of the 2003 New Mexico AMFT Distinguished Service Award), certified by the National Board of Certified Clinical Hypnotherapists and a Fellow and a Board Member of the American Psychotherapy Association.

He is known for his storytelling, irreverent humor, clear and accessible style and his boundless enthusiasm for whatever he is doing. His seminars are as entertaining as they are educational.

Where, When and How Much?

This workshop will take place on Saturday 11th and Sunday 12th of September at The Caledonian Hotel, Jesmond, Newcastle upon Tyne.

The workshop will start at 9:30 am and end at 5:30pm on both days.

Workshop fees

  • For the first 10 people to sign up online the fee is just £100
  • The early bird fee of £175 is available until July 19th extended to July 31st
  • The full fee of £225 applies thereafter

The booking system is online and will become live at 8:00am on Wednesday April 21st.

Hypnosis To Relieve Stress and Worry

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Movie super star Mel Gibson has recently had a mammoth 10 day hypnotherapy session to help him cope with all of the stress in his life.

Stress can be defined like this: All people have an ability to cope and thrive in a natural environment with natural pressures. When a persons ability to cope with natural pressure is exceeded, then there is an excess of pressure, this excess pressure, the excess an individual really can’t cope with is called stress.

Hypnosis can be used very effectively as a therapy for anything that is the human condition, to change behaviour and habits – and also for self improvement.

A great deal of peoples stress is caused by thinking the worst will happen and is exacerbated by telling yourself how bad it can get, that you can’t cope and then thinking and replaying all of this over and over again in your mind. Being stressed over a long time is known to be very bad for both physical and emotional well-being.

there is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so. To me it is a prison– Shakespeare, Hamlet

Hypnosis is an extremely effective way of reprogramming your brain so that you can deal with excess pressure and stress in more healthy ways. This is the first step, change how you feel. Secondly learn new ways to manage stress and third create ways of being that are intended to stop you getting into stressful situations. If stress really is getting you down and destroying your life, give me a call to find out how I can help you.

Hypnosis to relieve stress in Newcastle, Jesmond, Hexham and Northumberland. Call now! 0770 481 8467

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