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Utilising Your Inner Resources to Solve Your Problems : Hypnotherapy Newcastle

Most of the time as you struggle through the problems inherent in life you will find solutions. There will most likely be other times when you need some professional assistance in creating a breakthrough because everything you have tried, and tried hard to do didn’t work. This is where hypnotherapy may help.

As humans we seek to find order and patterns of meaning in our experience. As you grow as a person, you will find ways and means that become our coping mechanisms or way of being, usually in a specific context.

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This often means that thriving in say a work context is different to thriving in a social context. Being out with your friends can be worlds apart from how you behave and act in a work meeting. You get the picture right?

What hypnotherapy can help you do is to utilise a life time’s worth of skills within what can and does feel like a problem situation. This is a very specific, physiological cue to needing to do something different.

We have probably all heard the expression “Eureka!” It is said to have originated with a philosopher named Archimedes when he ‘realised’ that the volume of water displaced had some direct link to the density of an object. Eureka means ‘to find’ or discover. This is what we commonly all know as a ‘light bulb moment.’

Many stories of people struggling with problems have a common aspect. Firstly there is struggle and frustration with problems which is effortful. Secondly taking time away from such frustrations can in some instances, when we are occupied with something very different, suddenly lead to light bulb intuitions that are solutions to problems. If you are interested there are two brilliant from Jonah Lehrer ( How We Decide and Imagine ) that detail this process.

Now let us take a slight diversion. Each night you go to sleep and you dream. You may not always remember your dreams but you do dream. Dreaming is both a way of memory and learning consolidation and a way to clean up your brain after a days use.

Dreaming is also a process where the days problems can be resolved because when we dream our habitual ways of thinking ( the same ways that can keep us in problem mode ) are softened and our wildly creative aptitudes are more free to create.

What is interesting is that when you dream, particularly REM sleep there is one part of the brain that is switched off. This part is the dorsal lateral prefontal context ( DLPFC ) and this is the part of the brain that is involved in both effortful cognitive thought and the same part that conforms to habits. This part is what Dr Robert Sapolsky refers to as ‘doing the harder thing’.

This is also the part of the brain that maintains tight psychological and to some sense physiological controls on what you do. When you dream this is switched off and by way of this opens your whole experience in life to be utilised in what is of dreaming importance.

This is where the internally generated possibility of solutions, without the contextually learned ‘it has to be this way’ can come to the reality of now. This is how hypnosis can assist you in using your life time of experience in a way that is deeply creative to you and for you. Literally, getting out of your own way enough to utilise your innate creativity so solve a problem.

When you want to explore new and different ways to solve your problems. please get in touch. The telephone consultation is free and will take up to 25 minutes to talk with each other and find out how I can help.

 

 

 

 

Psychoneuroses – Integrating Impulses And Thoughts – Hypnotherapy Newcastle

Psycho-Neuroses or just Neurosis is a term that describes a vast array of problem conditions that people seek out counsellors, couches and hypnotherapists to overcome or be free of in a way that makes life more agreeable and pleasurable.

In my simplistic way, this means there are bodily impulses that do not fit well into our thoughts and so a conflict, an internal conflict is created.

This could be a compulsions or ‘addiction’ that is acted out despite our thoughts to the contrary. Or an obsession or desire that is repressed with thought to our physiological / emotional detriment. In other words a problem that is both bodily and cognitively suffered.

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One will is the body another will is our mind and when the two don’t meet well,  we experience a dislocation. This may be in our identity, our emotions, psychological wellbeing or in our soul. That said there exists a primary imbalance and from this we suffer in some way.

There is a learned ability for our wordy self to be able to repress or deny our physical emotions and feelings.

For instance have you ever asked a friend ( on watching their non-verbals ) “how are you” and they answer “fine” – when it is painfully obvious they’re not all right.

A conversation two days ago with a good friend, names changed, telling me a story that went like this.

Ken: “Are you all right?”
Jack : “Yes, I’m fine.”
Ken : “Are you sure your all right Jack?”
Jack : “Yes I’m sure.”
Ken : “Jack you are not all right!”
Jack : ” Yes, your right I’m not all right.”

Some History of Concepts

Piaget’s ( The unknown brother of the revolutionary psychologist John Piggot of North Shields ) proposed a child to adult development in four ‘universal’ stages.

  1. Sensory Motor 0-2
  2. Pre Operational 2-7
  3. Concrete Operational 7-11
  4. Formal Operational 11-16

Around the second year from being born, a child begins to enter the world of words. This is a massive evolution from the world of body and feelings.

At around two years old the Pre-operational stage begins and the world of words and symbols emerges. These transcend and include our bodily impulses and experiences.

We can begin to use symbols to describe objects and later concepts in the world. The symbol ‘Felix’ which described the family cat transforms into ‘Cat’ which not only names and describes Felix, it is a generalisation for all cats.

Our thoughts can repress or depress our nature and equally our nature can overwhelm or disregard our thoughts or perceived cultural morality.

Our Emotional Self and Impulses

As a model our amazingly complex brain can be thought of a a three layered structure. This is not how it it – this is a simple model and a good one.

Paul MacClean ( I remember the 3 layer like the three layer toothpaste ) came up with a model of a 3-part brain.

  • Reptile – homoeostasis
  • PaleoMammalian – Emotions
  • NeoMammalian – Thoughts and cognitions

These are complexly interconnected and can and do influence each other.

Our thoughts can and do create emotions. Here is an example. On Sunday my good friend came over ( we were going out to have lunch after a days cycling ) and give me a tin of organic Baked Beans. I cook most of what I eat from scratch. So this was a nice surprise, I haven’t had tins of beans for a long time.

After we had all eaten out ( Anglers Arms Longframlington ) later that day I was cooking a curry. I added the Baked Beans and called my friend who was ( my assumption ) initially gobsmacked that I had added something he eats on its own, savouring the taste ( and it is good – I had eaten a half tin to try them out ) to a curry.

The curry was exceptional. And through a conversation my friend had ( with me ) went through a series of emotions and presuppositions that were not experiential. They were second hand. I did, unintentionally upset his ‘rules’ and not being subject to those beliefs found and exceptional addition to a curry.

Thoughts can and do create emotions. Here is another example. Imagine a lemon and cut it, look at it and then put it in your mouth. Bite it and taste that lemon juice in your mouth. In your direct experience there is no lemon.

Our thoughts can influence our emotional and physical response.

Neurologically all of this takes place in our nervous system. We cognise in our frontal cortex ( Neo-Mammalia Brain ) and this in turn activates our Limbic System ( Paleo-Mammalia Bran ) which then does something to alert our Reptile Brain – specifically the Hypothalamus which changes our emotions and physiology. And then alerts the rest of our nervous system in a reciprocate feedback loop.

The Inner Religions War And Questioning Your Inner Culture

Integrating complementary systems such as impulses and thoughts is not about one dominating another and creating a dominating hierarchy. There has been enough of this with religions, following a guru or warring peoples.

Our evolution and future as a people and certainly individuals is not to be found in dominating and warring hierarchies. The way forward is understanding and integration.

I think about integrating our internal warring factions as facilitating a complementary way both aspects of our thoughts and behaviours can be at peace, co-existing together and thrive. Just about any problem behaviour can be re-framed to have some positive aspects. Positive in the sense of attempting to accomplish something above and beyond the actual behaviour.

For instance, as a general example lets take a man with a cat phobia. Cognitively this man knows he is in no real danger for a cat. Yet on sight or smell of any cat there is a full on phobic ( stress ) response that just takes over.

A phobic response can be thought of as ‘your’ autonomic nervous system, the sympathetic branch activating the flight / freeze / fight response in a wholly inappropriate way for such a situation.

Now for some that may read ‘silly’ but swap the context for public speaking anxiety, job interview nerves,  spider phobia, an unwanted addiction or a fear of flying and you have pretty much the same category of thoughts and emotions at internal conflict.

Hypnotherapy here in Newcastle can be a very effective way of unlearning inappropriate responses to situations and events. And then learning new ways to gain more of the freedom you most surely want in your life.

It’s doesn’t have to be this way, you don’t need to continue to suffer, this is not the way it is ordained to be. You can do something about making your situation better.

Clinical Hypnotherapy Newcastle 0770 481 8467 or email using the contact page.

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Hypnotherapy Newcastle Weight Loss

Newcastle hypnotherapy for help and assistance in weight loss and more importantly keeping the weight off.  The UK is fastest becoming one of the fattest peoples in the world, this is not a good thing at all. Why is this?

Because being overweight is just one contributing factor to what the World Health Organisation describe and predict is going to be the leading health issue, leading to premature death and potentially nasty complication on the way – Metabolic Syndrome or Syndrome X. You could look and feel better slimmer.

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Most if not all of us eat junk from time to time. We eat at restaurants or have regular habits of eating quick, fast foods. But did you know that you make your habits real. Do you know what eating just one, just one, bag of crisps every day for a year adds up to?

Over one year if you eat just one little bag of crisps each day you are consuming about FIVE litres of fat per year. Little adds up over a long time.  Change a little habit and, over time, the results add up to a slimmer you.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle can assist you in changing your attitude to emotional eating and discovering how you can change your your attitude to using food in relationship to becoming the weight and shape you want to be, Please read on …

Nuts and Bolts What is Overweight Anyway? Overweight, poor diet and lack of exercise together are a leading cause of heart disease. As we, as a species, in the Western world, are tending to live longer, the natural termination of life is more like a gradual falling apart. By taking care of your body in healthy ways it may well be possible to live longer and live longer healthier.

Have a diet of ready meals, live a stressful life, do little exercise and chances may be you are asking for trouble.  Weight loss hypnotherapy is honestly not the quick effortless fix some people expect. The same way some people control their diabetes with drugs and continue eating with porcine abandon.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle for weight loss and more importantly staying healthy is more interested in helping you change your attitude to both eating and your body with long term health as a main agenda. The focus is changing your attitude to respect yourself better. Overeating is a learned habit, usually over many years and is about changing habits based in future focused positive change.

When we eat at regular meal times, snack times we are teaching our body to have some very specific biological responses related to food consumption and fat storage. Say you eat every day at 6pm. At about quarter to six, based on histological habits, your body will produce insulin. Insulin is the hormone that is responsible for fat storage. You happy pancreas at this time, before meals will secrete a hormone that is telling you body to get ready to store fat.

Fat is stored in fat cells, in muscles and in the liver. Over eat, put too much in the proverbial biological fuel tank and you store fat. Eat too much and the body does excess storage which is easily seen in being over weight and, well fat. As we move about, think and do activities through our daily life we require energy.

Our bodies convert fat into energy. The trick is really about getting a balance in what we intake and what we use. Too much in and too little activity usually equals being overweight.

Your Heart Is Like A Pump

When you have excess fat circulating in your body your blood is in essence thicker. Blood can thicken during stressful responses, after meals or because there is too much bad cholesterol in your system.  Claggy, thicker blood puts more stress on the pump, your heart, increasing systolic and diastolic pressure, possibility causing damage to your blood vessels and atherosclerosis.

Cholesterol : The Good, The Bad and Nothing To Do With Looks

There are two types of cholesterol the so called good and bad types. High density lipoprotein associated cholesterol ( HDL ) and low density lipoprotein associated cholesterol ( LDL ) respectively. Atherosclerosis plaque is caused mainly with LDL where the HDL cholesterol is the type that has been removed from plaques and is going to your liver. Too little HDL and lots of LDL is bad news. Stress increases LDL so learn to relax more because it could make you live longer!

Why People Eat To Excess

Couple of reasons. One food tastes really good! We love sugar and fudge and cake and all that high energy stuff. The other reason is habit. Habit can be in the form of little nibbles to alleviate stress, give us a little hit of energy or even boredom! Habits work like this in neurological terms.

We have the desire to eat, perhaps a crisp or a biscuit, and we have a little surge of dopamine. Dopamine is the motivating neurotransmitter. Then we do a behaviour, in this case eating, and we have the sense of reward. It all makes perfect sense because it tastes good or stops us being board or gives us that little boost of energy we ‘want’.

What is not being addressed right at the time ( or actually just before ) of eating extras is the bigger picture. The bigger picture is you want or need to lose weight. Well that is only a bit of the bigger picture in reality. Sure people want to lose weight but that is not the real outcome at all. The real outcome is what losing weight will get you, will do for you and what this is leading too. It is not about losing weight!

Metabolic Syndrome

Syndrome X (read about and scare yourself here ) is a potentially disastrous meeting of things that can ‘go wrong’ in a human body. A collection of way too much sugary and fatty foods contributing to thick circulating blood. A lack of exercise that leads to the sedentary life style; building up more and more fatty deposits. Excess psychological stress, releasing stress hormones in a not good way. All putting an abnormal load on the old ticker and potentially leading to diabetes, hight blood pressure, heat disease and checking out way too early.

How Hypnotherapy Newcastle Can Help

Hypnotherapy can help you not only to lose weight and keep it off; It can help you alter your attitude to food and connect deeper with the real reasons you want to lose weight. You might feel more confident, increase your self esteem and have a sense of increased satisfaction too.

Newcastle Hypnotherapy for helping you loose weight, stay motivated and connected to your own outcome of a healthier, slimmer self. Call Newcastle hypnotherapist Nigel Hetherington on 0770 481 8467 for a free consultation.

Hypnotherapy Jesmond Exam Nerves – Nigel Hetherington

When the pressure, the exam pressure, is on and you have to perform because your future depends on a great performance, hypnotherapy for exam nerves and confidence can help you ace that exam. An Exam is about meeting a certain criteria but an exam can be thought about as’the worst that can happen.’ This is what we call ‘worry.’

Hypnotherapy is a common antidote to all kinds of exam nerves. Exams come in various forms; Written exams at college and university. Practical exams like a driving test or a presentation exam. For some people these create the worst possible environment and situations. Hands going clammy, mouth dry, you sweat and your mind can go blank. This is exam stress and hypnosis in Jesmond can help you beat it. We all worry about something! Don’t worry!!

But we do worry! Things that can end life worry us like cancer tests. Testicular or breast cancer screening or testing are massive worries for most. This is just an exam … This is just a check up of your knowledge but in some experiences it is just as worrisome as a cancer scare.

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Exam Nerves Hypnosis Jesmond

In a nut shell. Something happens and you lose it. You lose access to all the stored facts and ability to recall what you know you know. Why? Excess stress response. What is happening?

Your body is having a massive stress response. Hydrocortisone is marinating your nervous system and your hippocampus is getting over ridden by the amygdaloid bodies. It’s biological panic time and you can’t do squat about it.

Result, your Episodic memory goes for a leave and your body is ready to save your life. Trouble is there is not life threat. What you have is a completely out of proportion stress response and your mind has just gone blank. You just failed an exam and the colloquialism is “your fucked”. But it doesn’t have to be this way.

Learning Is State Dependent

Learning and access to your learnings, knowledge and behaviours are directly linked to the state you learn in. Your behaviours are state dependent and your state in an exam, to a very large extent, will mediate how well you perform.

A persons ‘state’, a word often used with great imprecision ( like self Esteem ) requires a solid definition in the same way an exam performance needs to be solid. So what does your state comprise of and what does ‘state’ mean?

A persons state can be defined as the sum total of the neuro-biological metabolic activity, but this really is not so helpful a definition. Breaking this down a little more; State is composed of breathing ( respiration ), endocrine activity, body positions and muscle tone  ( physiology ), mind activity ( psychology ) and neuronal activity ( nervous system ). That’s quite a lot of jargon.

Breathing And How You Breath

How you breath can dramatically affect how you feel and perform. This is a basic yoga and nlp principle. A person is shocked and the breathing changes. A person is excited and the breathing changes. A person is in love and the breathing changes. States produce breathing patterns and so breathing patterns produce states. In yoga this is called Pranayama – breath control.

Endocrine Activity

Our bodies have several endocrine glands. An endocrine gland releases hormones into the blood stream.  These hormones affect how we feel. Get massively stressed and there are stress hormones active for hours in the blood stream. Short term and in moderation these are health and mental activity promoting factors. Go overboard and the opposite happens.

A little stress or in other words pressure or stimulation and these can be really beneficial. To much and pressure becomes acute and we suffer, our ability to recall well rehearsed facts, answers and routines goes out the window.

Posture and Muscle Tone

One the the worlds leading coaches has said “physiology is king”, apart from the masculine accent, they are saying how you hold your posture affects your emotions and your performance. Crunch yourself up into a little tight ball and most people will report this is uncomfortable and learning is difficult. Stand tall or sit comfortably with a straight spine and relax any tense muscles and most report learning is easier.

Psychology – Your Thoughts

What you say to yourself, the thoughts and images that drive through your imagination and memory seriously affect your performance in an exam. Start the internal devil of “What if I can’t … ” or “I am not going to be able to pass …” and the wheel of doubt is in motion. Negative thoughts and images, real or imaginary, can adversely affect the ability to recall, replicate and think straight.

Thoughts, images and concepts have the power to create negative stress. You could test this out by imagining failing or flunking a very important exam and the long term consequences of any such ‘failure’. This is basically what people with anxiety problems do so very well enough to create a bodily state that is repressive and to a greater or larger extent prevents success and good feeling.

Neurology – Nervous System Responses

Putting conscious movement and thoughts aside for a moment or two. The involuntary or automatic nervous system comes in two parts. The para-sympathetic, rest, tend, relax, befriend. And the sympathetic nervous system, freeze, flight and fight. Stress activate the sympathetic system.

Stress and there is excess adrenaline and noradrenaline  diffused throughout your body. This is what you feel as a stomach churning fear. Get this in an exam? It’s not so helpful. Well maybe it is if you want to run away.

 Exam Nerves Solutions With Hypnotherapy

Assuming you know your stuff, you want to deal with and make at ease the exam nerves that create the stress response, knock you out of your learning state and have the potential to totally screw up your future. What is happening is you have an unconscious response that is as frisky as a wilde horse out the stable.

Hypnotherapy for exam nerves is all about changing the unconscious response because hypnotherapy is about changing unconscious responses.

Jesmond Hypnotherapy Exam

Instead of fretting and worrying, give Nigel a call on 0770 481 8467 for a free consultation regarding exam stress and how hypnotherapy in Jesmond can help you to be in the right state to pass your exams.  This will take around 20 minutes of your valuable study time.

Newcastle Hypnotherapy Weight Loss – Nigel Hetherington

Hypnotherapy for weight loss in Newcastle and the North East because so very many people want the body beautiful and their idealised body shape. There are essentially two reasons people want to lose weigh. Obviously there are the physical aspects but there are also the psychological ones.

Hypnotherapy in Newcastle for weight loss is honestly not just about losing weight. There is a required focus on what losing weight will actually accomplish and mean for any client. What are the deeper values you will need to access when your size or shape changes because your psyche has changed in a way that supports a different set of psychologically driven eating behaviours?

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Psychological Hunger – A Deeper Metaphor

There are two areas in the brain that are responsible for the biological trigger of eating and stopping eating. In the limbic system the hypothalamus, a cluster of dense functional neurons about the size of a grape mediate our physical appetites.  The ventromedial and lateral nuclei respectively monitor rising and falling glucose in the body and as so create the feeling of satiation and hunger.

Because the brain has evolved to utilise the same circuitry for both physical and abstract navigation in the world of body requirements and social and cultural requirements there is almost certainly a hunger for the psychological needs as well as the biological ones. Eating to excess or hungering for something other than food will be very easily confused neurologically.

If we eat food that is rancid we feel disgust and that same brain region, the insular cortex,  is also where we ‘feel’ moral disgust.  We feel the need for food but we can also feel other needs that are psychological. In order to satisfy a psychological need it is no surprise that we eat to alleviate the feelings of wanting something to satisfy the soul.

Why People Eat To Excess

It could be argued that eating is one way to combat negative feelings, that means when you are upset or ‘depressed’ it is likely ( 66% ) people become hyperphagic that is eat more carbohydrates to feel better and only one third of people when depressed become hypophagic eat less. Feed a cold and starve a fever.

This in the very general sense has everything to do with temporary moods or equally long term feelings of deprivation which causes mood to swing. Swing left, right and off centre. Eating something with carbs or sugar really does taste very good and albeit temporarily, is a stress reliever. The problems begin when eating becomes a comforter for stress and negative emotions. This is a really short term solution and not the most healthy by a long way.

In the US recent statistics suggest that over one third of people are obese. That is not just a bit overweight this is FAT! Being obese has massively strong correlations to health problems. Food is so very easily available and almost effortless to obtain. Think about all of the packaged ready meals or the ubiquitous all-you- can- eat buffets that attract so many people to sit a graze like happy cows chomping and gobbling up food.

Yo-Yo Dieting And Failure

Is this you? Begin a very well intentioned diet plan, stick to it for a day, a week or a month and then lose steam? Buy the latest dieting book, maybe even read it, and still hating being fat? Start stop,start stop … Yo-Yo! Self help books, self help audio and self help video all sell two things … hope and a miracle cure.

The self help library of products is a multi-million industry and unless you do actually do the exercises and practices as described is just filling the pockets of people other than you in terms of getting what you really want.

What you need to do is create long term and self powered, self motivated ways of creating the you you want to be and living the life you want to live. The crux for me is connecting and sponsoring a very real and honestly motivating psyche or mental state that powers your new behaviours and habits. In effect a new you that has access to the deepest reasons and motivation that drive forward the behaviours that make you take care of and nurture who you are.

What is often missing in all the failed attempts is a conscious understanding of why you need to lose weight and a really very long term commitment to investing in your health, happiness and personal evolution.

A Way Forward – Weight Loss Psychology

Before you seek any psychological, hypnotherapy or counselling ask yourself the following questions and you will already have one foot in the door to a lasting change.

  • What does losing weight actually mean?
  • What is important about losing weight?
  • What are the real important factors here?
  • What is driving me to lose weight?
  • What will be different when I have lost weight?
  • Where is this leading you towards?

When you have answers and this will equate to a honest and long term motivation, the kind that can prevent the Yo-Yo dieting trap and start you on a way forwards in life that is, as you think about this now, is not really to do with weight loss but instead becoming more of who you want to be …

Hypnotherapy Newcastle for weight loss and the personal evolution of your self that is much more of a living embodiment of a happier and healthier you. Call Nigel Hetherington of 0770 481 8467 for a free  consultation which will take about 20 minutes of your time and discover what weight loss really and honestly means for you.

 

Newcastle Hypnosis Redressing Self Sabotage – Nigel Hetherington

Hypnotherapy in Newcastle upon Tyne for Self Sabotage problems. Self sabotage is the sense of almost achieving your goals, outcomes or dreams and again and again you do something that ruins or seriously jeopardises all your hard work and effort. Utilise hypnosis in Newcastle to redress your inner saboteur.

Developmental psychologists like Piaget, Gilligan, Gardner and Keegan have proposed stages of personal evolution and development for individuals.  Long term studies have validated their models and as such can by understood as a kind of generic road map for the normal development of each of us.

As we grow and evolve from small children into adults we all learn a great variety of way to cope in the world. These coping mechanisms take the forms of behaviours, ways of thinking and emotional response. Very often our environment shapes the coping behaviours we learn.

All of the learned behaviours and emotional responses we learn as children and adults are essentially fit for purpose. As children we learn ‘a cry’ behaviour can get us many different responses such as attention, being fed or changed. Emotional explosions as temper tantrums can get us attention, detained or even what we want.

As we grow in age our limbic system, the control centre for our emotional cocktail of urges and impulses is tamed and socialised by our higher order brain parts, our neo-cortex. The orbital frontal cortex, as we age, is responsible for checking the consequences of our actions and mediating our impulses. Our pre-frontal cortex is involved in executive functions like behavioural appropriateness and adaption. This area of the brain is strongly influenced by emotion.

Our higher brain regions are not generally fully myelinated until mid twenties. Before this time our brains are not working as efficiently as they can. Myelin is a fatty deposit on our neurons that helps the neurons in the brain and peripheral nervous system fire faster.

Usually as we continue on, growing up and evolving we become more socialised and learn additional behaviours and emotional displays that continue to work well for us. Self sabotaging behaviours on the other hand tend to have been a part of a persons way of being for a long time. A coping behaviour that has never yet had the proper conditions to evolve and grow.

Imagine if as a child you had had to learn to be quiet when a parent was angry because if you spoke up or made a noise something not nice happened. If that learned response never had the change to be updated you may have real trouble expressing your emotions when for example a spouse, friend or a employer makes emotionally charge unreasonable requests or loses their temper with you.

When emotions fly and stress is high it becomes more difficult to use your rational brain to mediate your responses and behaviours. In these situations the old coping mechanisms can and often do come back in full force. In a really stressful, high intensity hyper charged emotional situation the saboteur within can come out and make a special appearance.  This is usually an over the top, undesired behaviour.

The OTT response of the inner saboteur can be triggered in a variety of  ways, different and unique to each person. This inner spoiler usually manifests in one or more of these ways :

  • Overly or Underly emotional response
  • Excessive or Missing behaviours
  • Procrastination
  • Addictions

Your Inner Saboteur Is Your Ally

We have all registered with the term self-sabotage when some part of us, a behaviour or emotional bomb scuppers our best laid out plans. It goes against rational explanation and is counter intuitive but what if that inner saboteur was actually trying to help?

It’s the very beginning of the 19th century. In Europe the Industrial Revolution was well in swing. People are losing their jobs to machines that are labour saving but costly, very costly to the common worker.

In 1801 the Jacquard loom is one such machine that is beginning to take people’s jobs from them. As a way of rebellion, textile workers threw their wooden shoes called sabots into the machine loom and broke the guts and moving parts of the machine.

This destruction of machines by the wooden shoes or sabots became known as sabotage. This was indeed a purposeful act to attempt to accomplish the safeguarding of jobs and peoples livelihoods.

What Is The Inner Saboteur Really Trying To Do?

Let’s consider your inner saboteur as like a part of you. A part that is responsible for the behaviour of sabotaging and more importantly, responsible for the intention that drives the behaviour.

It is quite likely that the particular behaviour was learned a long time ago in the past and at that time the behaviour was adaptive and was both positively intentioned and productive. Now the behaviour causes emotional and psychological pain.

As an example, take the positive intention of a drug addiction. It may have been initially to experience pleasure and fit in with friends. Now the behaviour no longer serves the intention but the intention is still the same.

As another example, take eating a certain kind of sugary carb food. The initial intention may have been to feel better after sickness or mild depression. Now often eating the same kind of food leads to increased weight and lack of self-esteem. The intention is still the same but the behaviour doesn’t work in favour any more.

Self sabotaging behaviours are like being stuck in a rut. You get so far in the right direction but then you end sliding back. Its like a vicious cycle. And a good way out of the rut is to do something really quite  special and counter intuitive.

In a Newcastle hypnotherapy consultation you will discover the intention is positive and thank the part for all of its good intentions. Forgiveness, forgiveness of the self and taking responsibility, not blaming others, is a particularly affective way to dissolve the prison of past conditioning.

Sabotage can indeed be perceived as a disruptive or destructive behaviour yet the purpose or intention of that behaviour is very well intentioned. Here we make a distinction between a person and their behaviour, a behaviour and the driving intention behind behaviour.

The intention that your inner saboteur is carrying out is fundamentally honest and good. The resulting behaviour is of course not appropriate to you today.

Hypnotherapy in the North East and Newcastle upon Tyne. For professional help in transforming your inner saboteur into an inner resource and source of strength using Newcastle Hypnotherapy contact  : Nigel Hetherington : 0770 481 8467