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Depression can be split into two basic kinds of classification, these being reactive depression and unipolar or Clinical depression. Newcastle hypnotherapy with Nigel Hetherington can help you come to terms and move forwards in life from both reactive and clinical depression.
When people have depression many will make a return to a normal life and usual temperament on their own. Other times sufferers of depression require help in moving forwards. Help can come in various forms like medication, active exercise or talk therapies such as Newcastle hypnotherapy or CBT.
Dr. Lewis Baxter and Dr. Arthur Brody from U.C.L.A have independently shown that patients overall recovery, neurochemistry and reduction of high frontal cortex activity undergo similar changes irrespective of whether the treatment is antidepressant drugs or talk therapy such as CBT or Newcastle hypnosis.
As human beings we are emotionally wired to form attachments and bonds. Reactive depression occurs when we experience some form of loss. Loss can be the loss of a loved one when a relationship ends or a person we deeply care about dies. Loss can also be the loss of objects, like a house or car or other valued possession. We can also experience reactive depression when we feel a loss of a concept, idea or trust.
Clinical ( unipolar ) depression is regarded as a neurological disorder characterised by an imbalance of neurotransmitters in the brain and often heightened prefrontal cortex activity. Similar mechanisms seem to underlie both types of depression so treatments such as exercise and hypnotherapy Newcastle can be particularly effective ways to end the tyranny of depression in the sufferer.
In reactive depression people often transition through the loss bereavement or grief cycle defined by Kubler Ross where depression is the forth stage in the sequence. Coming out of depression people will have a general return to their general temperament start living and laughing again. When an individual does not exit the fourth stage of active depression an individual may transition into clinical depression.
Sufferers of clinical depression have prolonged and intense mood disorders, are prone to self loathing and even suicidal thoughts. Often described as a blackness of experience and disconnection from others and life. Physical pain can also be part of this dark abyss.
Many people recover and come out of depression themselves. For others coming out from depression requires professional assistance. There are many options for you to explore to assist you in your recovery from depression. Talk therapies such as Hypnotherapy, psychotherapy or CBT has been shown to be at least as effective as antidepressant drugs.
Neuroplasticity is the term to describe how our brains at the neuronal level can plastically, physically rewire to create new behaviours and attitudes. Hypnotherapy is one proven method to facilitate personal change at the neuronal and behavioural level. Hypnotherapy Newcastle works from a fundamental principle that people can and do change both behaviourally and attitudinally.
At one time it was thought that the neurological functions of the brain, for example hearing, spatial awareness or attention are hardwired to a certain locations within the brain. This brain model of function specific areas of the brain is known as localisationism and was the model adopted by the early neuroscientists of the 19th century. Our modern neuroscience has shown that our brains and our behaviours are almost always changeable. This is witnessed in many cases where there has been brain damage or some brain pathology and functionality has been restored, undiminished or partially returned.
Many clients turn to Newcastle Hypnotherapy to make changes in problematic behaviours and attitudes they have had for a long time, sometimes several years. Now researchers are making links between the brain wave frequency of dreaming ( alpha ) and REM ( theta ) sleep, and the laying down of long term memory and learning. Brain scans of people who are in a state of hypnosis show their brain activity frequency to often be in the alpha and theta states.
Repetition and motivation are two key ingredients in learning any new skill, behaviour or attitude. After all no one was born anxious, depressed or over weight, these, let’s call them qualities, were learned over time. Such ‘qualities’ in Newcastle hypnotherapy can be unlearned, that is replaced with some other preferential behaviours. And in hypnosis, time is plastic, one minute of hypnosis time can be like 10 minutes, 30 minutes or an hour of real time. We know this from both our own dreams and our own experiences of time distortion. So in hypnosis, practice and rehearsal time is plastic.
Through hypnosis we are quite literally creating new mind maps of neurons that will perform and run the more desirable behaviours. The principle being that the old behaviour was at the neuronal and behavioural level the ‘best’ mind map of neurons to fire in the ‘problem situation’.
Old behaviours ( or neuronal maps ) can be thought of like a familiar route through a forest. By walking the same route, you become more and more familiar with it. Sure you will not always step in exactly the same place sometimes you will veer off the track a bit. But walk that old route enough times and you will leave a groove. Well that is like how your brain works with behaviours, good or bad. The good news is like changing your route, with some practice and motivation you can learn complementary and completely new ones with new perspectives leading you to new places.
One of the most effective and content free ways I know to assist clients over and through a personal trauma and / or intrusive memories is Eye Movement Integration ( EMI ). EMI is developed by Steve and Connirae Andreas.
Content free, very simply means, your clients, my clients don’t need to discuss ( talk about ) and re-live a seriously traumatic episode for you to assist them in making deep psychological and neurological change. Most client’s don’t want to share the intimate and painful details of a trauma, having to re-live it day in day out is enough.
This is a short video of me teaching aspects of EMI on one of my NLP Practitioner trainings. EMI is as far as I am concerned one of the most important tools in the toolbox of a professional change worker. I run regular workshops in EMI for change professionals.
If you want to see EMI in action with a real participant check out this link.
Anxiety really can be a terrible and consuming thing to experience. Another word for anxiety is WORRY. Newcastle Hypnotherapy with Nigel Hetherington can be a real solution for you.
Anxiety will often reduce your capacity to respond as well as act in the ways you truly want to experience life. Another word for anxiety is worry. Worrying about how things can go wrong or how events can all turn out bad. How would it be when you can set yourself free?
Anxiety or worry is not a disease, it is not a pathology. Many so called counsellors or therapists would have you believe this. This is not true.
Anxiety its a way, a learned way of thinking about the future. Think about this, no one as far as I know was born anxious, it was a learned behaviour. This learned behaviour is all about how to cope and deal with physical / emotional feelings.
Anxiety is a behaviour, it is not a pathology and as such does not need to be suppressed with medication. This means there is no physical disease associated with anxious behaviour. There is of course neurological activity ( ways of thinking ) that are associated with anxiety. You don’t require drugs or medication to change thought patterns. At best drugs will suppress anxiety, they will likely suppress other things too.
If anxiety is really is screwing up your life, you are worrying and worrying and as a result suffering … I can most likely help you change your behaviour. I can assist you in turning your though patterns around. The purpose being to stop worrying and start living a more satisfying and meaningful life.
Cyclic negative, anxiety producing thought patterns tend to go like this.
“What if … but then what, if I don’t … and then What if … but what if …”
So the real key here is to STOP that thought pattern and engage in a better one right …
People who behave anxiously are never anxious about some general things. You are anxious about something specific and worst of all it has not happened. Anxiety is all about thinking about the future and creating, almost always, the worst possible outcome for yourself and others. Think about it, how could it be different if you started habitually thinking about better outcomes in the future?
Newcastle Hypnotherapy for Anxiety combines NLP, Hypnosis and Humour in a way that will really help you move through your old thought patterns and into a whole new way of thinking.
If you have tried counselling and it really hasn’t worked after lots of session and you are totally committed to making the changes in your life you honestly want … act now …
For a completely confidential and solution orientated approach for you to help getting yourself out of anxiety and worry and Getting on with your life, contact me right away, [ after all being anxious and a worrier what's the worst that can happen ] call now.
An interesting article from the BBC website 7th April is suggesting that there is currently a fuelled rise in depression in England that is caused by money worries. Depression is on the rise and if you had shares in it or the related drug indistries you would be doing well. I will offer some information, as a professional hypnotherapist, on what sufferers can do now to help yourself.
Depression can be described as a very generalist way of worrying about or ‘coping’ with problems. There is a tendency to be thinking about the past and with this reliving the most painful memories, either emotional or physical. People exhibiting ‘depression’ may seem a little withdrawn from the outside work and feel they are powerless to make positive changes in their life.
One of the major researchers into the field of depression, Martin Seligman, has described depression as “Learned Pessimism.” Seligman is describing a way of thinking, which really means the way in which we have learned to experience the world. The way we think can make us have a bias to being either a pessimist or an optimist. A depressive has learned to behave in such a ways that is described as learned helplessness. What is extremely important here is it is very possible to learn to think in different ways.
Seeking professional help can be a very good option, if you get a change consultant who will stay outcome or solution orientated. It can also cause more problems and reinforce depression if the counsellor invites their client into discovering child hood issues, raking up the past and finding the cause of the depression.
The change process is far more likely to aid someone suffering from depression if the change consultant is geared towards and directed to specific solutions with an emphasis in the future. And facilitating different strategies or ways to think that will promote a learned optimism style of how to cope differently.
There are statically many more people depressed now than one hundred years ago. It can be a depressing thought that at any time over 25% of people in America would fit the description of depression. In many but not all cases I don’t believe medications and drugs are the answer. Why? Because they do not change thinking patterns and they do not help depressives adopt new strategies to become more able to adapt and thrive in life’s problematic situations.
Some good news is research shows that one year on from a diagnosis of a major depressive episode 20% of people will be better and still have some symptoms and 40% of people are fully recuperated with no signs of depression.
What you can do to help yourself:
Exercise. Go for a 15 minute run. Research shows that a 15 minute run can stop depression for 8 hours.
Laugh. Go to comedy shows, watch very funny videos, hang out with people who laugh lots.
Pay attention to specific things that are working in your life and celebrate them.
Each morning make a list of three things your are looking forward to this day.
Each evening make a list of three things you are looking forward to the following week.
For completely confidential and solution orientated help getting yourself out of depression and Getting on with your life, contact me
Guilt and shame are two emotions that can cause suffering and stop you leading a full life. Both of these emotions are about not living up to values. These values can be your own or other peoples. Values are the kinds of experiences and behaviours that are important to both ourselves and to others.
If your behaviour or lack of it, in some way disrespects another persons values, you may well feel shame. Shame can also be imposed on you by another, such as by their public disapproval of your actions or even of you.
Guilt is about your response to how you are living up to and in accordance with your own values. How you behave or do not behave in relation to your own values can create the emotion we call guilt.
Both guilt and shame are emotions that are firmly located in the past. Guilt and shame are about past events and because there has been some perceived transgression of values, for some, those memories are replayed again and again and so can go on generate more guilt or shame.
Hypnotherapy and NLP can be very successfully used to stop most people feeling these negative emotions, for a specific event, in just one session. What is even more important to do after the feeling of guilt or shame is gone, is to re-evaluate the event and create strategies so that in any future situations that are similar, you will act much more in line with the values you want to honour.
For completely compassionate, confidential and non judgemental help dealing with Guilt and Shame and Getting on with your life
I am hosting a workshop with my good friend Phil Jeremiah for coaches, hypnotherapists, therapists and change workers in Newcastle.
“Humour can help to break old patterns and establish new ones”
So many research papers and books tell us of the positive effects of laughter. Apparently 20 minutes of laughter is equivalent to 20 minutes of physical activity, likened to an inner form of jogging. It may well act as a buffer against day to day stressful perceptions. However, laughter is not easy to come by in our mixed up fear driven world. Consequently Thought Provoking Dialogue sets out to challenge our sometimes negative mind-sets and self-limiting beliefs.
Phil provides training, motivational speaking and support to organisations in the use of humour. Laughter in the workplace is proven to reduce symptoms of stress and can promote good team working in a fun way with groups or individuals. This two day workshop offers us the opportunity to experiment with, understand why and how, and develop confidence in using humour in coaching or therapy.
It’s a must for your development and an even greater must for right now – with our economic and social structures all in turmoil, we could all do with a little humour to help us frame it in ways that are useful to and for us and to and for our clients.
This weekend workshop takes place May 12-13 and is excellent value at £125 AND you are guaranteed outrageous laughter and learning as well as highly workable and client centred ways of engendering change. Book your place now!
I am seriously delighted and very excited to now be announcing the first Northern ChangeWorkers, Counsellors, Coaches and Therapists Conference ( NCCCTC ), here in Newcastle. A conference where we are continuing to highlight The North East as a centre for Excellence in Change Work and Therapy.
With our Magnificent Seven presenters, we can all draw from their experience and absorb their uniquely individual approach to successful change work.
Get their real MASSIVE value insights and their methods that the top North East Change Professionals, Coaches and Therapists use One to One with clients.
A genuine golden opportunity to learn from top North East change workers and to do some great networking and create new relationships. Book right away as there are limited places …
Enter your name & email now to receive a FREE audio CD interview with Harry Knox ( Brief Grief Therapy ) and Sharon Cox ( Eating Disorders ) discussing their backgrounds and providing insights into how they work in their specialised fields.
The NCCCT conference, over two days in May 14-15, is specifically for all of us people involved in professional change work as counsellors, therapists and coaches. And now by attending you will get:
Insights and practices of the top professionals.
The best value conference this year by far.
Specific methods for your client groups.
Incredible networking opportunities.
The ticket price for this two full day conference is only £40 and this IS incredible value for a two day conference. BUT
If you ACT NOW and are one of the first 100 people to book your place you get your ticket for ONLY £30. So, go ahead and BOOK YOUR PLACE now!
As well as all attendants receiving a series of interviews with the presenters which will give you a general overview of the presenters unique way of working all conference participants will be able to discover the ways and methodologies in which to work with your clients with Eating Disorders, Grief and Bereavement, Solution Focused Therapy, Self Acceptance, Guilt, True Co-Creative Coaching Alliances and a great deal more.
NCCCTC is taking place in May 14-15 in Newcastle upon Tyne 2011. Be Sure You Attend!
Introducing our presenters for 2011, each with many years of both one to one experience as well as excellent group facilitation skills:
Harry Knox – Bereavement and Brief Grief Therapy
With an unparalleled career of over 30 years working in psychiatry in the NHS. Harry now splits his time between supervision, one to one therapy and training facilitation. As a Master practitioner and accredited trainer of NLP, Harry has a unique, humorous and entirely engaging style to change work and is the creator of ‘Brief Grief Therapy’.
Sharon Cox – Eating Disorder Specialist
Sharon is a BACP accredited counsellor, with a private practice based in North Tyneside, offering both short and long-term counselling for a wide range of psychological and emotional concerns. She provides counselling supervision to both training and qualified counsellors and has extensive experience in Substance Misuse, Bereavement Care and Victim Support. Sharon’s special interest is in eating disorders. Combining a busy practice and training facilitation she is also studying to gain a PhD in Counselling Studies.
John Wheeler – Solution Focused Brief Therapy
Well published and equally well known in the field of Brief Therapy, John has over 18 years experience in facilitation, clinical supervision and one to one work both internationally and here in the UK. John is also responsible for the excellent BTNE organisation.
Rob McGinley – Anxiety And Depression
Rob S. McGinley is a qualified, experienced and effective counsellor. His extensive background includes bereavement & loss, work stress, relationship & family issues, depression & anxiety and youth counselling. BACP registered, Rob works as a counsellor/ NLP practitioner , has his own small private practice and lectures full time on the counselling foundation degree training program at TyneMet College.
Andy Hunt – Compassionate Self Acceptance
Andy works with people who give themselves a hard time, judge themselves harshly, feel bad about themselves or spend far too much time having a problem with themselves. Andy’s clients may typically feel irresistibly drawn to choose situations and relationships that reinforce their bad opinion of themselves, Andy helps them to experience and make positive changes. A NLP Master Practitioner, accredited EFT and NLP trainer, Andy is well know for his ability to run change processes while creating a deep and respectful rapport.
Paula McCormack – UK Social Leaders Coach
With over 20 years experience as both an individual and group development facilitator Paula has developed her own unique approach to change and development know as The Adaptive. Paula is dynamic and has an incredible ability to deeply connect and create the space that fosters true discoveries and engenders personal change.
Nigel Hetherington – Addictions & Trauma
Nigel is the NCCCTS organiser. He works as an approved NLP and Clinical Hypnotherapy training facilitator, has a private practice and is particularly interested in helping people recover and move forward in life from serious addictions, trauma and abusive relationships. Nigel facilitates regular NLP, Hypnotherapy and Therapist workshops and practice groups in the North East and Newcastle.
This conference is seriously affordable to everyone; Why? Because all of our presenters are dedicated to the real direction and goal of excellence in therapy for all attendees. We are all involved in developing further our skills and ways of practice in mutually beneficial and co-created change alliances.
Your personal investment for this value packed and quality information conference is ONLY £30 for the first 100 registrants. After this the price increases to £40, which is still excellent value. After 5th May the price increases to £50.
But think about this; £50 for a two day conference with the top therapists, change workers and coaches is still incredible value because you will get to understand the unique ways and methods of the presenters that they use which makes them the very top of their profession and they will be sharing their methods and ways of getting excellent results with their clients.
“I can resist anything but temptation” – Oscar Wilde
It is said that one of Carl Jung’s patients, a hopeless alcoholic went to Jung for treatment. After one session all was going well and the addict recoverer for some few days. After yet another relapse the addict returned to Jung and said “I have relapsed and I need you to fix me“.
Jung’s response was excellent. “I can’t help you, you are the most sever alcoholic I have ever met and I can’t help you.”
Gob smacked the alcoholic asked “Then what can I do? Is all hope lost?”
“Here is something you can try, it may save you or it may not. I can’t help you. The only thing that might help you is …” Jung paused, for effect …
This is called an olive branch. It requires both hope and action…
“… Is this. Go to all the Churches and Spiritual meetings you can until you find something that is bigger than you and that you honestly can relate to. I don’t know if you will ever find this, yet you can try.”
The first steps of becoming free of an addiction is often to first realise then admit the problem of addiction. If it is not a problem then it is not a problem.
If it is a problem then … It Is a Problem.
It is very curious to know that many of the so called addictions are actually a coping mechanism for dealing with pain and the often relentless struggles in life. Perhaps a return to the simplicity of the womb and carefree state of bliss.
Addictions be they food related ( comfort eating ), drugs, sex, co-dependency or alcohol are all related with a common them. What is this common theme? It is some perceived lack of something in life. And the ‘addiction’ is a mechanism ( that may well be past the sell by date ) that is functioning to fill what is missing in your life by numbing your pain or just as easily maintaining some kind of status quo.
It is often very difficult for the so called addict to admit to them self they have a problem, even more difficult to realise that in order to regain their life they need to do one of two things.
One. Seek professional help and or
Two. Seek something much more encompassing, bigger than them self to become free of that old addiction.
I offer a comprehensive and respectful professional service that can help you both free your self from serious addictions and equally fill your life with something far more satisfying and meaningful.
Please get in touch with me for professional assistance when, and only when, you are truly ready to break free of the prison of addictions and start to live a much more meaningful and satisfying life.
So, I bet you are wondering what happened to the ‘hopeless alcoholic’. Well acting on Jung’s invitation, he found something bigger than himself. He gave up alcohol and was closely involved, a personal acquaintance of one of the founders of the world famous AA – Alcoholics Anonymous.
I honestly think people meet for a reason. My thoughts here are, it is to learn and create together or learn and create apart. Our relationships with our intimate lovers, friends and acquaintances can in some ways be defined by what we both learn and go on to accomplish, share and go on to help others through our own experiences.
If you have ever been in an unnecessarily argumentative, emotional, mentally or even physically abusive relationship that can be categorised with frequent breakups and passionate get back together’s then this may be of help and interest to you in both getting some kind of understanding of what’s happening and finding ways to live healthily together or move apart sooner.
It is my intention that these articles will provide examples you may relate to and to provide means to make the right changes for you in terms of your relationship.
If you choose to get out of this kind of toxic relationship the rest of this articles will offer some suggestions as to how as a survivor you can let go of the past, feel better and move forward with a sense of forgiveness and compassion. My reparation took me over six weeks to fully heal my heart and head, to let go of many unhelpful emotions and memories and feel whole again.
I most often find labelling people is not helpful. What I want to show here is a collection of coping mechanisms people with so called Borderline Personality Disorder ( BPD ) have for coping in their world and specifically coping in an intimate personal relationship.
It is honestly NOT their fault they have these modes of behaviour or coping mechanisms to be interacting with intimate partners but unless you are their therapist or their partner you will most likely never see this side of their personality. It can be like a real life Jekyll and Hyde. Relationships with this kind of characteristic can look like the Somme Battlefield from the outside. From the inside it is honestly much, much worse for both people.
Please read the following article for an insight into a BPD relationship. Click on the hyperlink below.
The article above describes very well my perceptions of my own experience in a relationship with an ex partner who displayed all of the coping mechanisms that I will describe below. As such I have no intention of relating specific personal examples. This is for two reasons. Sometimes I feel ‘our story’ has an element of ‘the victim’ attached to it and so creates unhelpful gossip and agony aunt style, problem focused awareness and also this is really about recognising the signs and making a choice as to how best to move forward.
Having been in a toxic and mutually unhealthy relationship with a partner who exhibited these coping strategies for BPD with various intensities and frequencies; I have to say, at that time I simply didn’t understand what was happening or why they behaved that way. I did not understand many of our interaction. They often made little sense, more often than not no sense at all.
Arguments would frequently erupt from nowhere. My then partner would shout, make fists become verbally aggressive and abusive. In short a kind of totally unpredictable angry temper tantrum. Their raging arguments were paradoxical with what I perceived as frequent double standards that simply could not be reasoned out. I had no real idea how or why these would start arguments, but now I know, it is just one way of coping:
When you get to understand what childhood circumstances created these coping mechanisms or behavioural imprints ( DSM-IV-TR, The Angry Heart ) it is actually very easy to forgive and feel real compassion for an ex partner or even a current one; It is also very easy to forgive yourself. But when you don’t know, it is all too easy to feel hurt, used, manipulated, cheated and abused. This is the victim role. You can lose your sense of self value and self respect; Because you love them so you keep going back … for more of the same and so the cycle continues.
BPD Criteria and Coping Mechanisms
A pervasive pattern of instability of interpersonal relationships, self-image, and affects and markedly impulsivity beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts as indicated by five ( or more ) of the following :
1. Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment.
2. A pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterised by alternating between extremes of idealisation and devaluation.
3. Identity disturbance: markedly and persistently unstable self image or sense of self.
4. Impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self damaging ( spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating).
5. Recurrent suicidal behaviours, gestures or threats of self-mutilating behaviour.
6. Affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood ( intense episodic dysphoria, irritability, or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days).
7. Chronic feelings of emptiness.
8. Inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger ( frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights ).
9. Transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or sever dissociative symptoms.
DSM – IV -TR
Part Two of this article will go on to explore the issue of blame and responsibility. Part Three will offer suggestions and ways, that as a survivor of specifically this kind of toxic relationship you can heal your emotional past and then move forward in life with a genuine sense of forgiveness and compassion.
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