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OCD Hypnotherapy Newcastle

OCD or Obsessive Compulsive Disorder is really not what most people without it imagine it is. Yes, many non-sufferers understand OCD commonly presents as Counting, Cleaning or Checking but have very little understanding of its reality.

The vast majority of people I have used hypnosis to help with their OCD are high functioning individuals who keep their OCD hidden from others. Family and one or two very close friends usually know but adult sufferers are generally exceptional ‘actors’ to keep their OCD a secret.

OCD Hypnotherapy Newcastle

We all count and check. It’s part of perfectly normal human behaviour. ‘Did I really lock the front door? Is the gas turned off?’ Not having OCD its hard to imagine having to check the lock exactly eleven times and in a very certain and specific routine. If the routine is interpreted or done incorrectly it must be done again from scratch or something bad will happen.

It is impossible for someone without OCD to really know how it feels. Having spoken to enough sufferers a metaphor might be something like this:

Imagine wanting, needing the bathroom to the point of desperation but you can’t go. Say you are stuck in a lift. Desperately wanting to pee. Imagine this lasting for hours and hours. Its excruciating and you really can’t go.

This is like the Obsession part of OCD. Desperately knowing you need to do something but you cant.

So after hours of distress, discomfort and worry you eventually get to go. Go through you own unique bathroom ritual and eventually, phew! what a relief. This is the ‘ritual’ Compulsion part. And for a while all is good. You can function perfectly well for a while but then you need the bathroom again and you can’t go.

Obsessions or thoughts and ruminations take the form of knowing something is not right and Compulsions are rituals, behaviours that relieve the feeling that something is wrong for a while at least.

One of the most important factors I have found in working with people with OCD using hypnotherapy is you want you and your OCD to be understood.

Neuro-Biology of OCD

It is thought that there are three main brain areas involved in OCD. Initially it was thought the Basal Ganglia was the main culprit. The Basal Ganglia is a deep brain structure in the telencephalon. Specifically a structure known as the Caudate Nucleus which is responsible for motor behaviours. In our case the ritualistic part of OCD.

Withing the limbic system and part of the neo-cortex is the Orbital Frontal Cortex. This part of the brain has functionality that lets us know something is not right, a way to draw attention or fixation. This is the obsession aspect of OCD. And finally the Anterior Cingulate Cortex which has lots to do with subjective negative emotions.

The main neuro-transmitter involved is thought to be seratonin or 5-HT. It is unknown if this is a relative excess or insufficiency that ’causes’ OCD.

The OCD ‘loop’ is then:

  • Something is not right ( orbital frontal )
  • A bad feeling ( anterior cingulate )
  • Urge to do something ( caudate nucleus )

This like all brain based explanations is very simplistic but provides a model for attempting to get a picture of what is happening. The book ‘Mapping the Mind’ gives a clear picture of this.

OCD affects approximately 2% of the population and there is a high likely hood of OCD running in families.

Helping and Treating OCD

There is good evidence that OCD can be treated in a significant number of sufferers with professionally prescribed drugs. These are usually a specific variant of anti-depressive medications that work on the seratonin pathway.

They usually take time to work, weeks to months. This is suggestive that there is a relative excess of seratonin and the drugs work do desensitize seratonin receptors over time.

Also there is significant evidence that behavioural therapies like CBT can work as a stand-alone treatment or work along side drug treatment.

I use a combination of hypnotherapy for OCD along with behavioural tasks to help you to change and manage your OCD.

Tow of the very best sources of information and ways of working to effortfully make changes from the tyranny of OCD to a new freedom can be found in ‘Brain Lock’ and ‘The Boy Who Couldn’t Stop Washing’. These two gems are written by pioneers in the field of working and treating OCD.

Hypnotherapy for OCD

If you would like to get in touch to find out how hypnotherapy may be able to help you please do get in contact. Also if you are reading this and are thinking about getting in contact on someone elses behalf – please dont! It is the person with OCD that need to talk with me.

OCD Hypnotherapy in Newcastle or Hexham.

The consultation call is free. Call me, Nigel on 0770 481 8467 or email.

 

 

How to Love the Pains of Weight Loss : Hypnotherapy Newcastle

Losing weight can be painful. It is not uncommon to experience psychological, emotional and even physical pain when losing weight.

Desire can be a powerful motivator and if you are reading this you probably have the desire to lose some weight. The ability to navigate the potential pains of weight loss could greatly help you sail to your desired new weight. But its not all plain sailing is it?

Love and Pains of Weight Loss - Newcastle Hypnotherapy

You most likely know people who are a healthy weight and look good with it too. These people often seem to eat what they want and still continue to stay a stable healthy size. Their secret is not genetics but they do have one secret in common.

I will share this secret and more importantly how to apply it later in this post. First though, understanding your own desires to be a healthier weight is of the utmost importance.

Soon it will be New Year and with it people all over the world setting resolutions or goals to make their life better and more enjoyable. Often such goals are not reached. They are started but not maintained. So you need to understand your motivations!

Understanding Your Motivations

It’s not really enough to decide to lose some weigh and off you go to join a gym or hire a dietician. All of this can help but unless you have a very clear understanding of your own values, the deep reasons for starting this journey, you might not maintain the volition to stay on course and reach your destination.

It is more common for people to want to avoid pain than seek what will make them feel better. This is simple biology; for an equal amount of pain and pleasure the pain hurts more. In more psychological terms this is called either problem or solution focused and to make changes you need to have both.

For instance are you more motivated to avoid, to move away from being overweight? Or are you more motivated to seek to be the weight you want to be? You need to know your own biases because it will make it easier for you to reach your goals.

What is the bigger picture or what will losing weight actually do for you? Weight loss is never just about weight loss. What kinds of values are you willing to make use of in order for you to reach your goals? How will this affect the other people in your life? What is the long term purpose and utility of attaining your weigh loss goal? Again you need to explore and know all of this. Why?

Why You Need to Understand Your Motivations

If you look back over the history of you life, you will see that everything you have attained of genuine value has taken some effort. Effort can be physical , psychological and emotional. Effort or lack of, creates your habits.

In order to establish a new habit like healthy eating, it will require you to quite literally change your brain. Our brains are inherently plastic and what we do regularly strengthens those parts of our brain that drive our habits.

Exploring and deeply connecting with your own true motivations will help you to change that part of your brain that runs your personal auto-biography. This is the story we tell ourselves about ourself. It will help you stay on course. Think self fulfilling prophesy.

Changing a habit is therefor effortful. When you are truly aligned with the value of your goals, the bigger picture and can see the clear benefits. Putting the effort in to attain your goals becomes easier!

The Pains of Weight Loss

OK so we both know weight loss is not always plain sailing. If you have dieted before you probably know most diets work well for a while and then they tend to go off course and stop working. Only something like one in ten people who start a diet continues in life keeping the weight off. A significant portion also end up gaining weight!

Diets fail for a number of reasons. Mainly I think a lack of sustained motivation, diminishing returns and a combinations of life stressors blow people off course and that is when the old habits resurface.

Knowing just a little about how life stressors affect you can be a great aide in maintaining new habits long enough until the become your normal habits.

There are two very important aspects to setting and maintaining new habits and these come from the work of Dr D. Kahneman and equally Dr R. Sapolsky and Professor M. Marmot.

First from Kahneman is Prospect Theory and Regression to the Mean. Secondly from Sapolsky and Marmot is how stressors affect people. You don’t need to know the names just the concepts because they will help you sail through the pains of weight loss.

  • Weight loss is immediately to the weight you are now. Not some weight from the past or future but now.
  • The psychological pains or pleasures from weight gain or weight loss will feel less emotional over time. So regular updating your goals and motivations is important. This is a key factor in the failure of diets and the formation of new habits.
  • If you gained 1kg or lost 1kg, the weight gain will be more emotionally negative than losing 1kg will give emotional pleasure.

When people are stressed around two thirds of people turn to high carbohydrate foods. This actually reduces stress and makes us happier – but only short term.

  • Events being unpredictable. The more unpredictable your life is the more stress you experience.
  • Feelings of being out of control. The more out of control your life feels the more stress.
  • If there is a sense that life events are getting worse you will feel more stress.
  • If you are stressed and don’t have outlets for your stress you will feel more stressed.
  • Lack of social support makes stress more stressful.

We both know that weight loss is going to be more like a wave than a calm ocean. So you will likely both lose and gain weight over the days and months to come.

If you know that some days you may gain a little, knowing that weight gain will have a negative effect. Simply knowing about this effect means you are ready to deal with better. This means weight gain is predictable and the potentially negative emotional effect can be controlled.

Working with me you will be keeping a daily record of your weight. This is really useful because you can chart your progress and notice the patterns of habit formation in relation to your emotional states.

When you are in love pain doesn’t hurt” – Joseph Campbell

Aligning your values and purpose and loving those emotions like the wind in your sails to reach your goal could help you make all the difference. To stay on course avoiding the stressors your going to need to navigate and keep going sailing towards the kind of future you want.

So What is that One Secret?

These people have habits that are aligned with their emotional outcomes and have been strengthened over time to become their usual behavior. They learned to be that way. And habits are learnable with effort and the correct motivations.

You could become a new you by changing your habits.

Hypnotherapy for Weight Loss in Newcastle

Understanding and fully using your motivations coupled with effort is a great way to make the habits of healthy eating a permanent vacation. It will take real effort on your part and most things you have attained in life of real value have required effort.

Aligning your emotional values with your goal is incredibly important. Understanding how and why stress will affect you during new habit formation helps you stay on course.

What I can help you with is maintaining the positive psychology to help you change old habits for new. This will also involve regular follow up conversations following any hypnotherapy sessions we have.

When you are ready to set a new course in your life. When you are serious about losing weight through the establishment of new habits please give me a call to find out how I can help you.

Thank you for reading!

Nigel Hetherington 0770 481 8467

 

 

Hypnotherapy for Depression : Changing Thoughts and Feelings

When I hear someone say they are depressed I want to know what they mean by that, what are their circumstances and how come they call themselves depressed.

The cold semi scientific, semi psychological diagnosis of ‘depression’  is a label and that label, perhaps described by a professional, is just that a label. It does not define a human being. It can define a set of life conditions that at the moment fits a diagnostic criteria. We are not a diagnostic criteria.

Depression Hypnotherapy Newcastle

I took this picture some years ago in a place I like to go walking in Northumberland. It was during Autumn where contrasts in the changes of life are significant. It is such a collaboration of the ‘one – ness of nature’. Natural seasons, cold and warm, life, death and rebirth.

Sometimes a label like ‘depression’ can be helpful in the sense that it begins to help a person understand what is happening with their mood and outlook for life. Depression symptoms commonly are the feeling or absence of pleasure in life ( anhedonia ) and often a lack of motivation to do just about anything.

Depression essentially has two forms. Typically, depression is a response to loss. This is know as a reactive depression. Losing something of value such as a job, physical mobility, loved one or even a deep belief system. Our mood changes we feel down and out, pointless often cry and wish for the past; and then we recover and life goes on.

What is know as a clinical depression is having similar symptoms to a reactive depression yet the cause is not necessarily loss. It can actually be unknown yet having similar feelings of worthlessness, very negative thoughts about the self and the future and few if any moments of joy.

The Good News Is: Most people experiencing depression make a full recovery in weeks to months. And this is without any professional help so this is encouraging. People who seek professional help may well recover faster and at the same time learn new strategies to help.

The Not So Good News Is: Our thinking affects how we feel. Our feelings affects how we think. This can be a pretty unfortunate negative spiral. But changing thoughts and feelings even in small ways can begin to reverse a negative spiral. Remember from small acorns mighty oaks grow!

I am not a great fan of the kind of talking therapies where as a client you are encouraged to tell your story of why you are depressed. You already know your story. In part your story is part of the way you feel so going over that story will likely exacerbate negative feelings.

I am much more interested in what you feel and equally what you would like to feel differently moving forwards. This can be the first steps moving forward to a more active, engaging and colourful life.

Statistically around 20% of people will suffer a depressive episode during their lifetime. So you will probably know some people who have been depress and have made full and complete recoveries.

You probably already know that exercise, changing your breathing, yoga, changing negative self talk or going for a walk will help but the symptoms include a lack of motivation and believing your own negative self talk. This is where hypnotherapy can help.

Depression not classically a stress problem but some of the key component actions which can alleviate stress can help with depression symptoms. These include:

  • A sense things are getting better.
  • Social support.
  • A sense of control.

A sense that your circumstances and you are getting better. This means you beginning to notice even the tiniest positives in life. Remembering it takes much more positives to balance negatives in our life because we as humans are more prone to notice negatives! This has a huge amount to do with our perceptions.

Having good social support such as friends, family and relatives being there for you. Human contact such as hugs, conversation and the inevitable laughter help release oxytocin which helps make us happier. This means supportive and compassionate connections.

Feeling depressed can feel like being out of control. No control to change negative feelings and negative self talk. No control in motivation to do something like exercise. Control is a curious word. In hypnotherapy I prefer the word influence and anticipation. These are more future oriented as oppose to an immediate action. As anticipation for a better future is nurtured and considered, you can wonder when better self talk and outlook will be noticed.

Hypnotherapy Can Help by being the outside input that can begin to help you change negative self talk, rewrite your story changing your perceptions. Hypnotherapy can also help to change your mood, feelings and begin to see again the wonder in life.

When you want to take action to help yourself, see the colour and joy in life more,  give me a call or send an email and we will arrange a completely free consultation. Hypnotherapy in Newcastle and Jesmond. Call me, Nigel on 0770 481 8467

 

 

 

Loss, Grief and the Rekindling of Life and Relationships : Newcastle Hypnotherapy

We will all experience loss in this lifetime, this is inevitable. This can be the loss of loved people in our life, the loss of trust, faith, an old yet destructive habit or even aspects of our identity; who we believe we are.

The aftermath of loss, while initially can appear quite bleak, can be strangely  surprising and can, in the right circumstances, drawing deeply from our past, provide a quite unique and dependable foundation for our futures. And it’s mostly not that easy – that is why we suffer and grieve.

Many religions and traditions postulate there is life after death. Scientifically the likely hood of this is remotely unlikely yet there is the complete mystery of how our universe began and this may point towards a spirituality ( not religion ) we can’t ever know about in scientific terms. Is there life before death? Is surely a better exploration for us all.

I am attempting to put loss and grief into a context for positive transformation and at the same time completely honour and acknowledge the pain and suffering which will almost surely go hand in hand.

Grief Hypnotherapy Newcastle

Nikos Kazantzakis

I have very recently been to Create and following a tour to Knossos there was a short sight seeing which was concluded at the very spot this photograph was taken.

This is the grave site of Nikos Kazantzakis. Probably best know through his writing Zorba The Greek. Nikos travelled for most of his life and although a citizen of Crete he did not die there.  If you read Greek or can translate the words in the photo it is very close to …

“I Hope For Nothing, I Fear Nothing, I am Free.”

This is one of the most inauspicious tombs I have ever witnessed directly. It is also one of those experiences that will stay with me as long as I live.

Kazantzakis’s words are short and full of a deep and profound wisdom. It is akin to a very central way of being in Buddhism.

When we lose someone, something or even ourselves there is a honest and great potential to grieve and that means feel great sorrow and pain for our loss. And this is a perfectly normal and as far as I am concerned complete human emotion.

A question I asked myself in my early 20’s was, would I rather have not experiences love, delight and connection at the expense of not feeling pain, hurt and loss?

When I was much younger there were many times when this would have been an affirmative YES! Early love affairs, early ideas, hopes and dreams.  Times when the pain of loss was so awful that I would rather have not been alive.

As I age and realise the gift of life more fully and there is a very full spectrum of emotions I am able to both feel and accept, my answer to my question, for me is a certain and definitive NO.

How does anyone go about discovering meaning and purpose in life after a great loss? One story I heard provides the light of hope and although this is one man’s story and most likely not relevant to most people; put yourself in this persons shoes and perhaps you can begin to discover there are ways to both follow your wound and follow your life.

A man, married for decades wife died. He was inconsolable and very very depressed. Imagine being with your partner and soul mate for the best part of a life time and then at some point they are no longer there. Gone and that really is it. The memories live, the associations are there every day and everywhere.

He was looking desperately to stop hurting, exploring religions and spirituality to answer his question ‘Why am I here?, what purpose is there to continue?’.

His therapist asked how his partner, his wife and best friend would have dealt and coped with the situation where he to have died first. His answer was direct ‘She couldn’t it would have killed her.’

He found some purpose in his continued existence. In serving as the one who could go on, just about, and not having his love experience the loneliness and pain he did at that time. I understand he went forward for well over a decade helping people that had experienced the loss of a life partner.

If you would like a free consultation regarding moving on from loss in your life, call me. 0770 481 8467. Thank you for reading.

Taking the Anxiety out of Worry – Hypnotherapy in Newcastle

ITS NORMAL TO WORRY

We all worry from time to time. I worry, you worry, everyone I know worries from time to time. Sometimes it is appropriate other times when this becomes an obsessive problem it effects our whole life and usually those people who are close to us and mostly in pretty negative ways.

When worry becomes an anxious and very repetitive cycle there are usually a very negative set of emotions and feelings that accompany our thoughts.

I think primarily because there seems no way out and there is no resolution of what will be, just a lot of WHAT IF’S …

Anxiety Hypnotherapy Newcastle

Do this enough times and we create a habit that can run in the background all by itself. This is a pretty good definition of anxiety.

Our thoughts, especially our repetitive thoughts change how we feel; affect our mood and as such can stop us living the kind of life we both want and deserve.

Before I write about ways to change, I want to give a quick example of how our thoughts can change how we feel. It’s a classic!

Do Try This At Home

OK, imagine you have a fresh lemon in front of you. Imagine putting it in your hand and feeling the weight. Look at it shiny and yellow with tiny dimples on the skin.

Now imagine cutting out a slice, you smell the lemon juice and see the surface texture you have just exposed as it glints in the available light. Now squeeze it a little and see the juice come to the surface and put it in your mouth and bite.

Experience the juice all over your mouth and tongue, hitting all your taste buds. And notice what you are feeling right now and there is no lemon …

Anxiety and worry affect the same body senses, not quite in the same way as thinking about a lemon, yet none the less your thoughts affect how you feel.

Because we have relatively highly developed frontal cortex, we humans have an unrivalled ability to imagine. When we give great time and energy to imagining our thoughts transfer into emotions that are realised all through our bodies.

When a problem thought gets ‘stuck’ just like a song ( take the Birdie Song ) that can become a daily, hourly or every minute thing we are singing a song we hate, is annoying and yet somehow has got stuck.

Sometimes a solutions is to sing the whole song out loud … not just the annoying chorus or verse but the whole thing. It’s like an exorcism in that it completes a process when one little bit was stuck in a repeat cycle.

OK, so you have sung the Birdie song and you are still singing it … Opps!

There will always be something to worry about – if you think that way

When I worked as a software engineer I was paid to worry. Paid to worry how service users of the software I produced could screw up my programs. How they could possibly enter date that would seriously derail mostly well thought out software. To try to anticipate anything a user could do that was not what was an anticipated and logical input.

With my best efforts and those of my fellow programmers somehow sometime we would always get an error or program deficient report. Well this really reflects life in actuality. In that no matter how well prepared for a crisis it still happens.

All I could do was learn about how specifically one user crashed the system. And this was a system built from genius ( not me ) a whole team of people who had done their very best in making it crash / fool proof. And there seemed to always be a better fool than me.

When It’s Not Your Job and You Don’t Get Paid To Worry?

There are many studies that relate our natural human condition to be one of being generally much more wary of losing what we have to be more important than gaining something additional. That means there is a general human quality of maintaining some kind of relative status quo.

These studies translate to being shit scared of what we could lose. And I think being afraid of what we can lose is a basis, a foundation for anxiety. A Buddhist term for this is called trishna. Trishna can be thought to mean grasping or clinging to.

We can lose freedom, liberty, right to free speech, our homes, our loves, our job, our health or even our worries. Everything we value will one day dissolve including us.

Worry can take many forms such as obsessing, guilt, grief, remorse or intrusive traumatic memories. These all have potentially different ways of being resolved depending on how the specific type of worry is actually done.

Very common is taking to ourself, in the not out-loud but silent way. This kind has the potential to be resolved quite quickly when you know how. Here is one potential way for you to explore yourself.

Imagine that a trusted friend who only has your best interest at heart is saying those exact same words you use but out loud as in a conversation. Your trusted friend is saying something to you that they believe is in your best interest.

Yes I am inviting you to have an out loud conversation with yourself.

See beyond the words and look for the deeper meaning that they are inviting you to think about. Now do the same thing using your words but direct them towards your true friend. How are you actually trying to help them?

Talking about your worries or concerns to a trusted friend or a professional like me can be the first steps in resolving your worries. Sometimes other methods bear fruit quicker.

When people unlearn a fear or an anxiety there are parallels to resolving traumatic memories and associations. The associations can be fear to a place, a person or even a smell.

There are, simplistically, four brain regions involved in learning and unlearning a fear and this can apply to worry.

These regions are the amygdalla, the hippocampus, the reticular formation and the frontal cortex. These are parts of the limbic system or the emotional brain centre and the rhombencephalon.

Amygdala’s are involved in fear and anxiety. They seem to generate the sense of unease. The hippocampus is involved in episodic and spatial memory. The reticular formation is involved in arousal and attention and the frontal cortex is where we both become consciously aware and can exercise conscious volition.

Using conscious volition a very present and effortful activity. Doing something cognitive while worrying can be an excellent way to de-couple emotions from associations. It requires repetition to bed down and cement new neural associations which can stop worry and anxiety.

For professional assistance with all forms of anxiety and worry please give me a call on 0770 481 8467 for hypnotherapy in Newcastle or email me direct. All clients will receive a pre-appointment telephone consultation.

 

Stress Hypnotherapy Newcastle

Excess pressure leads to stress. Hypnotherapy Newcastle offers assistance and help in dealing with a wide variety of life’s stressors in ways that promote your own abilities to better deal the the inevitable stress causing problems we all face on a regular basis.

Have you ever wondered how some people have literally no stress response to something that can and often does drive you up the wall? How is it some people take huge stressors in their stride and literally the same situation will cause you to stress out, worry and panic as your heart races?

Newcastle hypnotherapy for stress can help you to respond in a better and calmer way to many of the things that can stress you out. How you respond to a situation, how you perceive yourself and what you do is what hypnotherapy can assist you with.

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The stressing situations will almost surely be the same yet by your responding in different ways you have the power to positively effect and take more control; the idea being your ‘natural’ stress response eases off.

THE NATURAL STRESS RESPONSE

The natural stress response to a situation where life is threatened, where we are powerfully emotionally engaged is a natural and perfectly normal survival mechanism which can save our life. This is a response to a direct physical threat such as an accident ( acute ) or being longer term ( chronic ) in, say, a war zone.

Any time our life is in physical danger, be this prolonged or crisis, our automatic stress responses should kick into high gear and all sorts of great things start happening in the body. We are doused with stress hormones adrenaline, cortisol, glucagon all to effectively help us through the danger.

The problem is that actual physical dangers for most of us are honestly few and far between. The real problem is the activation of our stress response for purely psychological reasons. This mean how we think about and perceive our situations activates a bodily response that is mean only to activate in life threatening  situations can activate because :

  • We have to give a public presentation
  • A colleague leaves us with a pile of work
  • We are worried about an upcoming business trip
  • We receive large winter fuel bills
  • etc, etc, etc

There is absolutely no physical life threatening situation at all yet the physical response is as though there were. It is fairly unlikely you will be able to change or massively affect your environment, working conditions or the pressures in life. What you can do is change how you respond. Hypnotherapy Newcastle is one way to explore how you can respond in ways that are better for you.

COPING BETTER WITH STRESS

So how is it some people can and do cope much better with stressors than others? What is it they do differently when faced with pretty much the same situations as you? They somehow respond differently.

Professor Sir Michael Marmot during the Whitehall Studies followed thousands of UK civil servants over decades. The results seemed to show that there is a correlation between health and stress. No surprise there. What was also shown from the studies is that there are certain factors ( listed below ) which seem to be predictors of how people respond to stressors and cope better or worse than others.

  • Predictable Environment
  • Sense of Control
  • Social Support
  • Outlets for Stress and Frustrations
  • A Sense Things are Getting Better

THE BODILY STRESS RESPONSE

There are essentially two elements to the bodily stress response irrespective of if the stressor is physical or psychological. These are bodily changes that practically all of us have had the experience of from time to time.

Autonomic Nervous System Response

Beginning certain activity in the hypothalamus and running down the central nervous system the autonomic or automatic nervous system has essentially two divisions. These being the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous system. It is the sympathetic nervous system ( SNS ) that is activated in times of stress.

The neurotransmitter acetylcholine activates a further transmitter which releases noradrenaline to many organs throughout the body and in turn releases adrenaline from the adrenal medulla just above the kidneys.

Your heart speeds up, your stomach clutches, eyes dilate and the lungs expand as well as a whole host of other responses to stress where some things speed up and others such as digestion stop. This happens within seconds and is the first part of the stress response.

Hormonal Response

The second part of the stress response is the release of hormones into the blood which in turn promote and grant access to energy from the bodies stores. This is taken or synthesised from energy stores in the liver, fat cells and muscles to transform into circulating glucose in the blood stream.

The neurological circuit involved is the Hypothalamic Pituitary Adrenal axis or HPA axis for short. The release of hormones which begins the process is within a handful of seconds and takes just minutes to release glucose into the blood.

Again the hypothalamus is involved. The hypothalamus releases a hormone called corticotropin releasing hormone ( CRH ) into the pituitary gland. This in turn dribbles adrenocorticotropic hormone ( ACTH ) into the blood stream and on reaching the adrenal gland affects the release of the glucocorticoid cortisol.

HYPNOTHERAPY SOLUTIONS FOR STRESS

Hypnotherapy has the potential to help you shift and change how you respond to psychological stressors. This could range from you taking more charge in your environment to helping you radically change how you react to the perceived and real psychological stressors in your life.

It is important to understand that hypnotherapy or any other psychotherapy, counselling or talking therapy is not a miracle cure. If it were there would be a global eradication of psychological problems.

The most important aspects in helping you change is you! In terms of people seeking therapy to help make positive changes in their life here are some revealing facts and figures from reference studies.

  • 40% of success is down to you in the belief you can make changes.
  • 30% has to do with the relationship between client and therapist.
  • 66% of clients who seek therapy make positive changes while 33% of people who do not seek therapy make positive changes.

You are more likely to make positive changes sooner with help from a change professional such as a clinical hypnotherapist. These figures are statistics and are some kind of adjusted average. Remember you are totally unique and will be treated that way.

For a absolutely free consultation call 0770 481 8467. If I am busy working with clients call back or leave a message. I will call you back if you leave a message.

Psychological Wellbeing Hypnotherapy Newcastle

When someone is feeling ill, physically sick or has pulled a muscle, the normal course of action is to go and see a health professional. For physical damage and hurt it may be a doctor. For a pulled or damaged muscle a physiotherapist or body work specialist are many peoples first ports of call.

Why then, is it so many people suffering psychological dis-ease put off for a long time before seeking a psychological well being professional such as a counsellor, psychotherapist or professional clinical hypnotherapy in Newcastle?

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Dis-eases or problems of the psyche are less well accepted in society than physiological ones. They are certainly less well understood. Your psychological well being is as important as your physical health because they effect each other.

PSYCHOLOGICAL WELL-BEING

Seemingly for most westerners, long gone are the days of actively worrying and performing rituals to get into a heaven where a priest or cleric could dispense the right psychological assurance and penance to affect a good seat after the main show. With time doctors and psychoanalysts became the new order of priests tending to the psychological needs of those who could afford them. At one time it was trendy to be hysterical.

Grieving for loss and not being able to stand because a painful back are two different kinds of ‘weakness’, with one being traditionally less well accepted until quite recently. It must be completely obvious to the hard or thinking and feeling that psychology effects physiology and physiology effects psychology.

A Simple Thought Experiment

Imagine a fresh, shiny lemon. Put it in your hand and get a sense of the weight. Now, imagine taking a knife and cutting a slice of lemon, noticing the lemon smell as you cut this slice. a big juicy slice. Now, put it in your mouth and bite down, lemon juice squirting all over your tongue.

Right now you are salivating and there is no lemon. This is using your imagination to guide your experience. This is one example, not a definition but an example, of how hypnotherapy can function to change your physiology and psychology at the same time.

THE PSYCHOLOGICAL WELLBEING CRUTCH – DRUGS

Drugs can and often are a useful way for people to get through troubling times. They can and do save lives. Drugs are an essential part of our society. They also have their down sides too.

The occasionally well informed and holistic doctor will refer their patient to a professional hypnotherapist or psychotherapist; Usually the patient will have to pay for this themselves.

Very occasionally, some of the more multi faceted, highly integral doctors may refer their patients to counselling or CBT where they can talk about their problems for many sessions and may have to wait six months for the privilege.

One of the most common courses of treatment prescribed by doctors for psychological dis-ease are drugs. Drugs for anxiety, depression, sexual performance problems, grief, guilt, pain, lack of motivation or drive.

The idea is likely a combination of very limited time to actually talk with and treat their patients and popping a pill requires zero effort and zero commitment.

So what the majority of doctors do seems to be prescribe drugs. Most rarely seem to treat psychological disease with anything other than drugs. And of course, drugs treat the symptom and not the cause.

PSYCHOLOGICAL HEALTH

Experiencing anxiety, worry and depression are actually very common for practically all people. Performance pressures such as public speaking fears are all too common. The majority of people ( like when a muscle is sore ) work through these issues quite perfectly without professional assistance.

When these every day worries and problems become really problematic or are affecting health or are a constant source of anxiety then it is very likely a good idea to contact a professional to help you with your psychological health and wellbeing.

Working as early as possible with a professional hypotherapist Newcastle based psychotherapist or highly skilled counsellor could help heal and treat psychological problems.

Hypnotherapy will not offer drugs and will usually attempt to help you learn and uncover ways to change your thinking and behaviour so your life improves in the right ways for you.

A telephone consultation is completely free of charge and will take up to 30 minutes. Call 0770 481 8467 or complete and return the questionnaire on the ‘booking a therapy session’ page above.

Trauma Hypnotherapy Newcastle

Trauma is one of those words that can conjurer up all kinds of meanings. Trauma can be defined as a situation or experience where there is / was imminent danger to the survival of an individual. This of course can come in a wide variety of flavours. Major trauma, minor trauma and those in-between.

A traumatic experience has the potential to alter how the brain and nervous system works and in some cases the ‘damage’ can seem irreparable. In terms of having a behaviour or response that seems to be fixed and set in stone.

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Hypnotherapy Trauma Newcastle

For example a car crash, a physical assault or losing a loved one. Trauma can also be induced vicariously, that is, by witnessing a situation, or act where another person or being that is subject to horrocity. In a nut shell trauma is both a physical and psychological occurrence that can leave deep scars.

It does not have to be this way, hypnotherapy Newcastle can help you to both come to terms with and move on from what has happened.

Years of living with trauma may well take several session of hypnotherapy Newcastle to help you alleviate the undesired and unwanted emotional responses. I will do my very best to make this a minimal amount of sessions.

There are no ridiculous or completely unethical promises being made here. To quote my friend and colleague Andy, “My sincere efforts are guaranteed but the results are not.” This is completely and transparently honest.

A Personal Account of Trauma

I recall when I was around 16 years old being shown a video at school. The video showed army personal blow torching a pig till its skin blistered. Giving the pig some water, which it eagerly drank, and then continuing burning its skin to black, blistering and boiling. The pig never screamed because its vocal chords had been cut.

The head of the school I attended was reported to local authorities for showing a bunch of 16-17  year old’s this film. Some viewers cried many left the lecture room.  The topic was either Media Studies or Social Studies, one of those ‘lame’ compulsory subjects that six form college forced me to participate in.

For a long while the images and emotions haunted me. I understand the purpose of the experiment ( with the pig ) was exploring how soldiers could survive massive body burns. The experiment with the students, the 16 year old viewers was not entirely clear. It certainly left a deep impression.

Pure vicarious traumatic episode. I froze.

Trauma – The Neuro Biology

Basically we are taking about a Stress Response to environmental and or psychological events. These in tern activate the sympathetic nervous system. This means there is a great deal of adrenaline ( epinephrine ) circulating in the bloodstream.

Additionally there will be arginine vasopressin ( AVP ) and Adrenocorticotropin circulating in the blood stream mediated by activation of the hypothalamic pituitary adrenal axis. ( HPA )

This is well know as the fight / flight / freeze response.

What all this means is your blood pressure is increased, heart beating faster you are on high alert. Fat is being rapidly accessed in the form of circulating glucose to provide energy to your exercising muscles and you are biologically equipped to save your life.

After the stressor your body should return to normal in a short period of time. Prolonged stressors will keep both aspects of the stress response activated, that is the sympathetic nervous response plus the HPA response.

Collecting and Storing Traumas

Traumatic events can be thought of as being stored in the body as a frozen and solid somatic memory as well as psychological imprints. This can be understood as the ‘freeze’ response from the fight / flight / freeze.

Also escaping ( flight ) or fighting to survive in a dangerous physical and or physiological situation can leave trauma scars. This can be a one off event such as a car crash or could be multiple events such as an abusive relation or bullying at work.

Animals don’t seen to store trauma the way humans can. Animals seem to shake of excess energy and emotion after a traumatic episode and get right back on with their lives. Humans after a traumatic encounter will sometimes fail to release the energy which can come back to haunt as flash backs, startle responses or physical pain.

Hypnotherapy and Bowen Therapy in Newcastle

Treating both the psychological trauma using hypnotherapy and any physiological trauma representation using the gentle Bowen therapy techniques offers a complete range of therapy to help you heal and move forwards.

For a completely free and confidential telephone consultation regarding trauma resolution, call me, Nigel, on 0770 481 8467. Leave a message, your name and contact phone number if you get the answering machine. Calls returned within 24 working hours.

 

 

The Dangers, Hypnosis and Benefits of Diagnostic Labelling

Clients looking for Clinical hypnotherapy in Newcastle for the most part will seek the assistance of a hypnotherapist for what are well know ‘labels’ in psycho-therapeutic work. Often these labels are self diagnosed or could have come from doctors or other ‘qualified to ascribe’ medical professionals.

These labels, and we all know them, can sometimes be helpful yet for the most part create pretty unhelpful, stuck, and unfounded type categorisations about exactly who this person is as a diagnostic label. This can be a dangerous kind of hypnosis for both hypnotherapist and client. Why?

Because this will, as a shadow, tend to obscure everything that is amazing, good and excellent about the human being seeking help and assistance. And as such focus on the diagnostic label and not a real and feeling and capable human. Hypnotherapy Newcastle aims to de-couple those unhelpful diagnostic labels from your identity as soon as possible and remind you you are so much more.

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Exploring Diagnostic Labels – The Hidden People

There is a big difference, if you explore this yourself between the following statements. These differences may appear to be quite subtle.

  • Julia the depressive
  • Julia is a depressive
  • Julia is depressive
  • Julia has been behaving depressed
  • Julia has been acting depressed

Some common labels are ‘depression or depressive’, ‘anxiety or anxious’, ‘traumatized, phobic, schizophrenic,  borderline, crazy, psychotic, addict, IBS, neurotic, fat, lazy, low self esteem; Some are diagnostic and some are not but all carry generalised injunctions that in no way categorise and define a human being. They try to describe symptomatology.

Ask yourself this and imagine what comes to mind? Who is Mike the Depressive, who is Sarah the OCD woman. Who is fatty Monica? Who is Jay the schizophrenic? Each of this labels conjurer up a representation of a categorised individual. They exclude

I Bet you are not thinking about the Monica the CEO mother and stamp collector, or Sarah the genuinely successful entrepreneur, sports car enthusiast and super special Aunty or Mike the high achieving sports professional, property developer and campaigner for the homeless or Jay the social worker, father of three and political aspirant.

While there can be a value in knowing the symptomatology of certain types of diagnostic criteria, the rest and that is a GREAT DEAL, of that persons life, experiences, values and accomplishments are often side lined.

A diagnostic label could be very useful in an instance where there is clear and obvious mental health issues and having a diagnosis of lets say schizophrenia, psychosis or manic depression could be a great thing.

Such a diagnosis from a medical professional could help vastly a person who knowing there is something seriously wrong, like massive mood swings or detached reality would at least know ‘what they have’ and possible forward moving treatment plans.

So sometimes knowing the symptomatology and diagnostic label can help. And as soon as possible moving away from unhelpful diagnostic label towards generative solutions ways of having the sense of “I have { diagnostic label } and I am so much more.” Can in and of itself be empowering in psychological change.

Hypnotherapy in Newcastle from Nigel Hetherington. For help and assistance in moving past unhelpful terms and labels using therapeutic process. Call 0770 481 8467 for a free consultation. if Nigel is available you will talk otherwise please leave a message. Calls usually returned within 24 working hours.

 

Choosing Your Hypnotherapist – How To Make An Informed Decision

Imagine for one moment that you or a friend had this experience. Its 16.23 on a Thursday afternoon and you have just discovered that your car has a flat tyre. You look a little closer and discover a puncture. “Oh dear” you say while resourcefully Googling ‘car tyre puncture repair’ on your smart phone. You wait a little while and are rewarded with the following:

  1.   Puncture repair takes up to one hour and costs £10.
  2.   Puncture repair takes up to one hour, costing between £10 and £50 depending on your car make and model.

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So, You might think, well, OK, that probably involves removing the tyre, finding the puncture and doing a repair. Why does the cost depend on the make and model of my car? Probably something to do with material costs.

Still, the same time, scenario two. You want a gardener to do some work in your garden. Again you Google ‘gardeners’ in your local vicinity. And get the following results:

  1. Gardening – no job too small or large. £20 per hour
  2. Gardening: between £20 – £50 per hour depending on your exact postcode.

You might again be wondering what on earth does my post-code have to do with the cost per hour? We would be wondering the same.

Scenario three. You require some psychological help in dealing with a problem. Let’s call this problem X because that is general. X could be weight loss, trauma resolution, addictions – you name it. You choose to explore the options for hypnotherapy.

Again at the same time you Google ‘Hypnotherapy for help with X’. You receive the following results.

  1. Hypnotherapy – all one hour sessions £100.
  2. Hypnotherapy – Weight Loss £120 per hour, Stop Smoking £200 per hour, Addictions £150 per hour.

Again you might be thinking what is the price difference about? Why does a different ‘problem’ incur a different price for the same session time?

Is there something very different that is done in each session? Maybe the hypnotherapist has to exert much more effort or something radically depending on a specific problem?

On closer examination you find that some hypnotherapists have different rates for different methodologies, for example:

  • Hypno-analysis 1 hour = £ 125.00
  • Suggestion Therapy 1 hour = £75.00
  • EFT 1 hour = £55.00

All of these different prices for differing problems and different methodologies are unsettling and really confusing.

Adding even further confusion to the public domain is the fact that some hypnotherapists suggest a series of 8 – 12 sessions one per week.

Now just to put things in perspective 8 sessions at say £75.00 per session will cost you £600.00 and no therapist who is worth their salt or has any integrity or experience will promise or guaranteed a result, if they do, be extra vigilant.

The reality is, in our view, that you are paying for the hypnotherapist’s skills and experience for a set period of time and that, in our opinion, should be a standardised fee based on a standard session time spent. Not the type of presenting problem or methodology used.

When you are looking to find a hypnotherapist to help you, we suggest you seek to find a therapist who offers the following:

  • Standard fee per session regardless of the presenting problem.
  • Pay as you go sessions with an option to block book, if YOU choose.
  • Who does not promise the ‘magic pill’ result, because there is no such thing.

Having found a hypnotherapist who offers this kind of good working criteria, the next step is to talk with them so you can find out if this is the right person for you.

What you could do for fun, in addition to choosing Nigel or Peter is call one of the hypnotists that do structured pricing based on problems or methodologies and ask this question. “Why do you charge more for X?” – We are sure you will enjoy their response.

This article was prepared by Nigel Hetherington of Hypnotherapy Newcastle and Peter Doherty Hypnotherapy Haverhill as part of a public information awareness report regarding sound ethical practice from hypnotherapists.

Phobia Hypnotherapy Newcastle

A phobia is one in a class of recognised anxiety disorders. A phobic response is a fear response. Most often characterised as a highly disproportionate response to some stimulus that is neither dangerous of life threatening.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle can help suffers with the psychological aspects of their irrational or rational phobic responses. The response, a phobic one, is most always learned in our early formative years, a time when learning was way too easy and as such becomes a habit.

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As far as is known, there are no inbuilt or hard wired phobias. The myth that people ( and monkeys ) are genetically or disposed to a fear of snakes is simply not true. What is true is there are biases towards a fear of snakes for humans and our primate cousins.

A lab monkey never exposed to a snake in many generations does not have an inbuilt fear of snakes, but, interestingly enough, show the lab monkey another monkey’s fear response to a snake and bingo, there is a massive transference.

Here in the UK, there are no deadly snakes or spiders. Sure there are Adder’s of which I have seen one some four years ago while running in Thrunton Woods on a very hot day. I ran right around that! So a phobia in the sense here is an irrational fear.

The last part of our brain to ‘come on line’ or to be fully myelinated is the frontal cortex. For most adults this happens in the early 20’s. This is the Universes gift to unlearning phobia and fears.

On a neurological level the Amygdala is highly metabolically active in the Limbic System and gives rise to feeling of fear, anxiety and you guessed it phobic responses. In some senses our savior is the Frontal Cortex that through effort and some de-conditioning of the amygdala response can blunt and remove what used to be a phobia.

Another extremely useful response in alleviating phobias is laughter and irrelevance. The more you laugh the less able you are to be phobic. This has some serious reference to your physiology, which is another aspect you can control.

I worked with a client who had a dog phobia. They had a fear of dogs and displayed some physical signs of allergy reaction when in the presence of a dog. Mainly around their eyes and a heavy, labored breathing. After successful resolution of that old response they requested to know ‘why’ is was that way.

During regression hypnosis we traced back the initial imprinting experience to a bus ride when they were six years old. A big dog jumped up at them while they were playing with the dog. Their father became massively anxious and worried that the dog had hurt them, picking them up and ‘raving’ at the dog owner. This seemingly transferred to my client.

Knowing the why’s and hows of a trauma or anxiety imprint are not required in changing behavioral responses. Knowing how this happened wouldn’t, I think, have helped my client become comfortable with dogs. Yet this is a great example of how early imprinting and environment can cause anxiety responses.

For a free consultation regarding your freedom from phobia, call hypnotherapy Newcastle and talk with me, Nigel on 0770 481 8467. Act now – if I am free we will talk otherwise please leave a message. Calls usually returned within 24 hours.

 

Hypnotherapy Newcastle – Anxiety & Stress Self Help

Stress & Anxiety Self Help What can You Do?

There are five aspects of helping yourself to better manage anxiety and stress. Hypnotherapy can usually assist you in this seemingly Augian task to change how you perceive your ability to cope, act and predict your future. There is of course a great deal you can do yourself. This is what follows: Take Action! Watch the following video. Then do something about your situation.

If you are interested in making some seriously positive changes, without a magic wand and some effort, then you should read on because this is the building material of generative change.

It is not quick fix because these usually don’t live in the real world and in your heart of hearts you know this. And you know this real change will require effort to transform yourself, irrespective of utilising hypnotherapy Newcastle to assist you in making serious change in your life. It will still take effort – if you want it…

There are five factors in the following video that pave the way to you having a better quality of life – when you adopt and incorporate these into you way of life – yes you will still have problems but they will be a better class of problems…

These changes will probably not come overnight in an instant flash of freedom – yet by being more aware of things you most likely already to, you are more able to cope with anxiety and stress. Non of these will change your situation, these factors have the power to help you change how you respond and cope!

Your psychological well-being and health have more to do with your outlook, coping mechanisms and dare I say it your beliefs than the actual environment, that is to say, the most influence you can have in a situation is down to you!

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This doesn’t mean you are the absolute creator and maker of your own situations. The kind of well meaning yet misguided kind of writing with the promise of hollow hope that support this are pretty poor. Misdirections are the commons understanding of the ‘law of attraction’ or ‘The Secret’. the real secret is you will need to do something about your situation – this means effort!

You know as well as I do, we don’t control our environment or situations.

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We can have massive influence on how these are, but control? Come on! By being more emotionally resilient and flexible and having better adaptive responses we are more able to have a better class of problems and rise to the occasion better. We are much more able to shape our futures too.

Having watched the video, I hope you have gathered some real good ideas you will put into practice. The onus is with you.

For additional help with hypnotherapy to help you shape you perceptions and motivations coupled with some real action call Nigel on 0770 481 8467 for a free consultation to see if hypnotherapy in Newcastle is for you.

Anxiety Self Help – Newcastle Hypnotherapy

Hypnotherapy can and often is a helpful solution to common anxiety, even in its less common extreme forms. What follows are some self help tips for helping you to become less anxious and more at ease and calm in problem situations.

Firstly it is important to clarify what ‘Anxiety’ means here. Anxiety here means worry about the future, the imminent future or soon to be present or even aspects of the past – that will in turn produce consequences in the future.

This will have likely little bearing on certain kinds of anxiety conditions like PTSD though could help with aspects of conditions like a Phobia.

Anxiety Hypnotherapy Newcastle

So in this instance, dispensing with technical terms, we are talking just good old straight forward, bread and butter anxiety. That what most of us know as every day excessive worry.

ANXIETY = UN-CONTROL

Anxiety in this instance is Un-Control. Put this another way, if you could control the future to turn out just the way you want there would be absolutely no anxiety. If this makes sense to you then you are on your way to a little more freedom from anxiety. If this doesn’t then you are not anxious.

There are aspects of the future you can strongly influence and aspects of the future where you are literally in the hands of your own god, the universe or any witnessing deity that happens to be present. The agnostic deity Umnotsure is a favourite, when it can be found.

Understanding what you can reasonably control and what you can’t is an important distinction that can, in most instances, ease life’s stressors or to put it another way ease anxiety.

There are essentially five factors that relate to living more free-er from anxiety and worry and these have much more to do with perception of events and not the events in and of themselves.

  1. Predictability
  2. Sense of Control
  3. Social Support
  4. Outlets for Frustrations
  5. Sense of Getting Better

These five are based in strong research from among others Professor Sir Michael Gideon Marmot’s famous Whitehall study, spanning some 20 plus years and 20 thousand UK civil service and Professor Robert Maurice Sapolsky’s over decades with our hirsute cousins, baboons in the Serengeti. The parallels are scary!

Hypnotherapy Newcastle is about changing our perspectives and adaptive responses to life. When this works well we are gifted with new and alternative ways to progress through life’s challenges and opportunities. Ideally so that we are not experiencing the same old problem, anxiety, again and again.

Hypnotherapy is a way to re-educate the learned responses we have all learned during the course of our lives in a way that is generative and builds in new and more adaptive coping mechanisms so we are not experiencing the same old problems in the same old ways.

You might not believe this immediately but anxiety or excessive worry is a learned habit. In order to be really anxious there has to be an underlying structure or process you use – your imagination – that is in itself a process of self hypnotism. Think about it, to be anxious, you are imagining a future that breeds anxiety.

We would be noting without anxiety, or more precisely the ability to worry, and at the same time, equally in fact, the ability to imagine and create the most amazing futures for ourselves and those who come after us.

It is a double edged sword that makes us, when we truly think, and act, a process in the imagination that could be used just as readily to bring bliss and joy as anxiety and worry.

What Can You Do? Really?

Number one is do, systematically, something about it! You have to be prepared to expend effort to learn a new habit. Think, seriously, about learning to write with your other hand. This is an of itself is an excellent way to stop your mind ticking over in worry mode.

Count up all the time you have been a worry wart! 15 minutes? 1 hour, 3 hours 5 hours a day? Every day? Every day for years? When this number is totalled it is often quite a shock to the system.

Yes can you imagine the kind of differences you could make if the same time just each day was used contemplating and imagining a delightful future. So most people do worry by talking to themselves ( often in a voice tone that they wouldn’t use on another person! ) and imagining a pretty unpleasant future.

There are very likely very specific words or phrases and memories that a worrier will use with some regularity. Discover yourself, what these are and learn, through patience and repetition to reprogram them into something helpful and kind.

So, talking to yourself much more kindly ( answering back is fine too! ) and using the same words to talk to yourself about the future you actually want. Adding what you would like to see and hear. Most of all take time and invest in your long term health and happiness.

Realistic Expectation for Change

This is usually NOT an overnight cure for long term problems. If you have been anxious for many years then it is kind of pretty unreasonable to anticipate an immediate cure that is not medication or surgery based. Even then it is most likely not the case!

This takes effort – and little by little. Think about learning to walk or talk! It takes time and persistence! It does happen, it just takes time, trust me! Reprogramming your internal speech patterns is one way to give yourself more perceived control in life. Remember anxiety is about UN-Control. The more control you can affect the less anxiety.

Excess stress and anxiety is know not to be salubrious. That means your health can suffer with excess stress and strain in your life. After one week of intense stress the thymus gland which is responsible for the production of T-cells, in the endocrine immune system can shrink to 25% of normal size. Lose the stress and the thymus makes a full recovery and can produce the T-cells required for a health immune response.

The philosopher Alan Watts mentioned a right wing democrat ( he moved from the UK to the US ) that because is their right wing ( metaphor ) attitude would never take a left turn when driving. All they did was drive talking right turns, this is mad! To be able to KNOW the rough is to know the smooth, to know good is to know evil. And to know anxiety is to know calm.

Anxiety Hypnotherapy Facts

Hypnotherapy Newcastle is is about a real integration with seemingly inconsolable opposites. Or at least to get going in ways that work, where you can see and feel you are making progress. Let’s be clear sometimes ‘miracles’ in hypnotherapy happen but that is not a good commitment from you, to have an expectation that a hypnotherapy can ‘cure’ you from years of suffering in one session is learning in some aspects to continue to be helpless.

There has to be a real commitment from you, and that is a required ingredient in real change, change that is generative. If it wasn’t think about how many hypnotherapists, theta healers or ‘magic’ workers would be claiming real success. Truth is the real ones don’t. The charlatans and snake oilers do. Sorry but this approach, the one I apply is psychological and often physiological and you wont, can’t be a passive observer!

This approach helps you deal with the head and body aspects yet at the same time most requires input and energy from you. You will be given tasks, post or pre session to implement the psychological and behavioural aspects of change into your life.

For a completely free consultation, for anxiety help using hypnotherapy and psychological NLP techniques call Nigel Hetherington on 0770 481 8467.

 

Emotonial Problems Newcastle Hypnotherapy

If we pause for thought, emotional problems or problematic emotional responses are the basis for most peoples real problems. Hypnotherapy Newcastle uses hypnosis and other psychological interventions to help overcome learned negative emotional responses that cause problems and suffering.

Solution Focused Hypnotherapy is all about re-education behavioural and thinking responses in ways that are directed towards creating practical solutions to the every day problems that are the cause of feeling depressed, anxious, stressed or down right angry about the every day problems we all face.

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Many counselling or CBT approaches can focus way too much on problems. People seek professional hypnotherapy to alleviate problems and suffering so talking about the problem is both something a sufferer can already do well, likely massively contributing towards problems and failing to focus on solutions.

Often pointless questions like the dreaded ( with some kind of attempt at sincerity ) “and how does that make you feel?” serve mostly to reinforce helplessness, exacerbate emotional problems and put the people needing to make changes at the reactive end of being able to do damn near nothing about their own situation.

Two Factors In Change

A great deal of people perceived problems are down to two factors. The first is the meaning that is made of the actual experience of the ‘problem’ and the second is some kind of justification or self-validation of just why it is that way.

Let’s take the Second Factor first. Justification of behaviours and attitudes. No matter what or who is ‘causing the problem’ the only person who can change behaviours, thinking patterns or ways of being is you! You can’t really change other people, sure you can influence this BUT changes in your problems need to begin with you.

Solutions can focus on three areas, with the individual and their ways of, thinking and acting. With the other people involved in problem situations if these are relevant and thirdly within the environment in which they occur.

If a person continues to justify or give reasons and explanations for their problems ( which is fair enough ) all they will do is continue to perpetuate a problem. This makes perfect sense because on a neurological level anything like a behaviour, thinking pattern or environment that stays the same creates the necessary conditions for our brains to stay the same. This is the same for really good and really bad habits. To change – something has to give.

The First Factor, not what happened on a sensory basis but the meaning we make of the experience. Here is a little quote that sums this up nicely from a Greek philosopher that died just under 2000 years ago. Epictetus, probable not exactly what he said though close enough. For the hard of thinking, this applies to all sexes.

Men are disturbed not by things, but by the view which they take of them

Let’s put this into a contextual example. Mr Joe X is complaining about his daughter that won’t listen to his advice, refused his good intentioned advice and wants to live her own life. This is a real bugger for Mr X. He knows best. A classic change of meaning – is that his daughter, having learned the value of havng their own opinion, not being wavered by others is indeed a complement in his fatherhood. He has a self directed daughter that won’t be directed from her purpose. Same stuff different meaning – capiche?

We are not really talking about Mr J.X we are talking about you. Much more important. What is happening on a non-psychodymamic but neurological basis, this is easy. We all learn coping behaviours sometimes, like now, they need to be updated, just like a Windows update. Sure this will almost surely bring in new problems ( hurray we are alive ) BUT they won’t be the same problems, Viz moving forward.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle with Nigel Hetherington is about playing to your strengths and utilising the very best in you in transformational ways. Change in the most best sense is transforming meanings and those all justifications for problems so that you can take responsibility for you and your behaviours in ways that help you move forward in control to live more of the life you really want.

Newcastle Hypnotherapy – Public Speaking

Hypnotherapy Newcastle for Public Speaking fears, worries and unavoidable panics. People worry about lots of aspects regarding speaking in public, addressing an audience and not appearing as a shaking, stuttering wreak. Lost nights of sleep leading up to an event and excessive planning.

The fear of public speaking is as common as muck. It has plagued and will plague countless people causing worry, anxiety and the shrinking violet sensation of wishing to be anywhere, anywhere other than doing that public speech.

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If you have had them, you know from experience the kinds of worries, fears and often absolute dread the knowledge of having to make a public speech can have on people. People like you, who are faced with nameless terrors about how badly it could be to fuck up really, really badly making an absolute ass of yourself by going to pieces and getting it all wrong in that crucial public speaking engagement.

Thing is, now, probably more than every before, we are called upon or need to make public speeches in our business, social or personal enterprises. That is the way of it today, so, what can you do to become more at ease and composed to make a great impression? Please read on to see how hypnotherapy Newcastle can help you deliver a great speech and stay focused on what is really important.

Psychology of Public Speaking Problems

Have you ever talked with a really negative, depressing type of person? Have you noticed how they seem to expect the worst, are caught up in problems and not much fun to be around? Well if you are worrying, fretting about Public Speaking performance you are probably doing the exact same but you are talking to yourself.

A very common aspect of anxiety is the use of self talk to generate problem focused scenarios that have the power to cause anxiety, worry and the physical conditions of a stress response. “What if …” is by far the most common way people make themselves anxious. Here are some examples.

  • “What if I forget what I am supposed to say?”
  • “What if I make a fool of myself?”
  • “What if I shake and sweat?”
  • “What if I can’t answer questions?”
  • “What if I blush and faint?”

All of these are pretty common ways people make themselves more anxious about Public Speaking. If you think about it, these questions are a form of unhelpful self hypnosis that negatively affect a persons state. But it’s not just the words!

The tonality and speed of how we talk to other people can change the meaning of the words. So if a person talks to themselves in a fast and ‘worrying’ tone it will have more of a negative impact. And there is more though! These ‘what ifs’ lead to further unanswered questions for instance;

“What if I forget what I am supposed to say?” implies that something will happen as a consequence, of course it would. It could lead to huge embarrassment and humiliation, it could lead to not being asked to present that important presentation again and not being invited for a pay rise, promotion and extra bonus, it could lead to reassignment to Sunderland.

You are creating a very large and negative self fulfilling prophesy because you have been rehearsing what could go wrong.

Physiology of Public Speaking Problems

You are activating your stress response. This is indicative of hight sympathetic nervous system arousal so there is plenty of adrenaline and noradrenaline  in your system. You heart is probably beating faster, your systolic and diastolic blood pressure has increased, your mouth is dry and there are probably knots in your stomach.  You are probably not having what is called a good time.

Meanwhile, your brain is analysing your body responses, making meaning of the various aspects of the unwanted stress response and coming to the conclusion that your body is not having a good time and this really does influence your mood and adds to the anxiety you are experiencing. Its a vicious circle.

So about now all of those imagined fears are probably to make a physical manifestation. You feel you are starting to visibly shake, all of those ‘worst case scenarios’ have their opportunities to be enacted, blushing, word amnesia to name just a few. Your breathing is likely a bit too fast and high in your chest so both literally and metaphorically you are unbalanced and off centre.

Three Things Really Good Presenters Know

There are three aspects to doing a great presentation that you can learn ( through practice ) to do in order to dramatically improve your performance when engaging in Public Speaking. There are more than three but these three are big ones!

  • Stay Relaxed in the body. Avoid unnecessary tension and stay relaxed.
  • Use your peripheral vision. Avoid focusing myopically on anyone or anything and stay peripherally open.
  • Quiet on the inside. Avoid talking to yourself ( on the inside ) as this splits your attention. Learn through experience to flow!

Hypnotherapy for Public Speaking Fears

Public speaking is a very, very common fear. It could be a cultural, British thing and also likely a combination of perceived ‘high stakes’ and lack of experience of speaking to groups and large gatherings. In short it is perfectly normal!

Hypnotherapy Newcastle can help you to learn how to manage and change your fears into ways to start to rehearse how you actually want your performance to be. After all it makes much more sense to plan for success that failure. Also we will be using hypnosis to help you feel much more comfortable, so ideally you can enjoy the whole experience and keep your attention focused on your audience.

Some methods that are not used at Newcastle hypnotherapy are visualising the audience naked. This is a pretty old and I think a really odd idea. If I walked into a group for a speaking engagement and the audience were naked I would leave, not the kind of group I would want to talk with. This kind of technique probably says a lot more about the therapist and their ways of ( not ) thinking.

Other methods that will not be used are the arrogance based ones. These include, but are not limited to having mantras like “fuck the audience, I am in charge here”, “these people are mine” and talking over the top of any peoples questions. I found these uncharming techniques from people who have seen other hypnotherapists before they found me.

For a completely free, no obligation telephone consultation for help with Public Speaking or help with any hypnotherapy related problem call Nigel on 0770 481 8467. This will take around 20 minutes.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle Weight Loss

Newcastle hypnotherapy for help and assistance in weight loss and more importantly keeping the weight off.  The UK is fastest becoming one of the fattest peoples in the world, this is not a good thing at all. Why is this?

Because being overweight is just one contributing factor to what the World Health Organisation describe and predict is going to be the leading health issue, leading to premature death and potentially nasty complication on the way – Metabolic Syndrome or Syndrome X. You could look and feel better slimmer.

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Most if not all of us eat junk from time to time. We eat at restaurants or have regular habits of eating quick, fast foods. But did you know that you make your habits real. Do you know what eating just one, just one, bag of crisps every day for a year adds up to?

Over one year if you eat just one little bag of crisps each day you are consuming about FIVE litres of fat per year. Little adds up over a long time.  Change a little habit and, over time, the results add up to a slimmer you.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle can assist you in changing your attitude to emotional eating and discovering how you can change your your attitude to using food in relationship to becoming the weight and shape you want to be, Please read on …

Nuts and Bolts What is Overweight Anyway? Overweight, poor diet and lack of exercise together are a leading cause of heart disease. As we, as a species, in the Western world, are tending to live longer, the natural termination of life is more like a gradual falling apart. By taking care of your body in healthy ways it may well be possible to live longer and live longer healthier.

Have a diet of ready meals, live a stressful life, do little exercise and chances may be you are asking for trouble.  Weight loss hypnotherapy is honestly not the quick effortless fix some people expect. The same way some people control their diabetes with drugs and continue eating with porcine abandon.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle for weight loss and more importantly staying healthy is more interested in helping you change your attitude to both eating and your body with long term health as a main agenda. The focus is changing your attitude to respect yourself better. Overeating is a learned habit, usually over many years and is about changing habits based in future focused positive change.

When we eat at regular meal times, snack times we are teaching our body to have some very specific biological responses related to food consumption and fat storage. Say you eat every day at 6pm. At about quarter to six, based on histological habits, your body will produce insulin. Insulin is the hormone that is responsible for fat storage. You happy pancreas at this time, before meals will secrete a hormone that is telling you body to get ready to store fat.

Fat is stored in fat cells, in muscles and in the liver. Over eat, put too much in the proverbial biological fuel tank and you store fat. Eat too much and the body does excess storage which is easily seen in being over weight and, well fat. As we move about, think and do activities through our daily life we require energy.

Our bodies convert fat into energy. The trick is really about getting a balance in what we intake and what we use. Too much in and too little activity usually equals being overweight.

Your Heart Is Like A Pump

When you have excess fat circulating in your body your blood is in essence thicker. Blood can thicken during stressful responses, after meals or because there is too much bad cholesterol in your system.  Claggy, thicker blood puts more stress on the pump, your heart, increasing systolic and diastolic pressure, possibility causing damage to your blood vessels and atherosclerosis.

Cholesterol : The Good, The Bad and Nothing To Do With Looks

There are two types of cholesterol the so called good and bad types. High density lipoprotein associated cholesterol ( HDL ) and low density lipoprotein associated cholesterol ( LDL ) respectively. Atherosclerosis plaque is caused mainly with LDL where the HDL cholesterol is the type that has been removed from plaques and is going to your liver. Too little HDL and lots of LDL is bad news. Stress increases LDL so learn to relax more because it could make you live longer!

Why People Eat To Excess

Couple of reasons. One food tastes really good! We love sugar and fudge and cake and all that high energy stuff. The other reason is habit. Habit can be in the form of little nibbles to alleviate stress, give us a little hit of energy or even boredom! Habits work like this in neurological terms.

We have the desire to eat, perhaps a crisp or a biscuit, and we have a little surge of dopamine. Dopamine is the motivating neurotransmitter. Then we do a behaviour, in this case eating, and we have the sense of reward. It all makes perfect sense because it tastes good or stops us being board or gives us that little boost of energy we ‘want’.

What is not being addressed right at the time ( or actually just before ) of eating extras is the bigger picture. The bigger picture is you want or need to lose weight. Well that is only a bit of the bigger picture in reality. Sure people want to lose weight but that is not the real outcome at all. The real outcome is what losing weight will get you, will do for you and what this is leading too. It is not about losing weight!

Metabolic Syndrome

Syndrome X (read about and scare yourself here ) is a potentially disastrous meeting of things that can ‘go wrong’ in a human body. A collection of way too much sugary and fatty foods contributing to thick circulating blood. A lack of exercise that leads to the sedentary life style; building up more and more fatty deposits. Excess psychological stress, releasing stress hormones in a not good way. All putting an abnormal load on the old ticker and potentially leading to diabetes, hight blood pressure, heat disease and checking out way too early.

How Hypnotherapy Newcastle Can Help

Hypnotherapy can help you not only to lose weight and keep it off; It can help you alter your attitude to food and connect deeper with the real reasons you want to lose weight. You might feel more confident, increase your self esteem and have a sense of increased satisfaction too.

Newcastle Hypnotherapy for helping you loose weight, stay motivated and connected to your own outcome of a healthier, slimmer self. Call Newcastle hypnotherapist Nigel Hetherington on 0770 481 8467 for a free consultation.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle Addictions

Clinical Hypnotherapy in Newcastle for Addictions. Addiction hypnotherapy in Newcastle to help you break problematic, bad habits such as Gambling, Drug Addiction, Eating, Pornography, Alcohol and Emotional Spending.

Addictions are habits ( usually ways of behaving ) that have formed over time. Surprisingly some ‘addictions’ can be healthy as in ‘addicted to kindness’. Problem addictions can really be defined as something that is needed, craved or can’t function without but, very importantly is not wanted.

When Addictions are no longer fun, ruining your life and you want to stop – contact Hypnotherapy Newcastle on 0770 481 8467 – Free Consultation.

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Honest and Ethical Hypnotherapy in Newcastle

In the last week I was contacted by a potential client who needed help in overcoming and addiction. A great question they asked was “Is this Guaranteed to work?” – “Absolutely not” I replied. They went on to tell me that they has either seen or been told by a local hypnotherapist in Newcastle that any work they did together was indeed guaranteed. This perspective client went on to say they were glad I didn’t guarantee success as this sounded ridiculous.

Apart from being in breach of no small few marketing laws, of most hypnotherapy codes of professional conduce, it is plainly UNTRUE. No Newcastle hypnotherapist, counsellor, coach psychotherapist or change worker can GUARANTEE success. It should be obvious why.

5 Reasons Why Hypnotherapist’s Should Not Guarantee Success

  1. They can not tell the future.
  2. It is completely unethical.
  3. It will place unrealistic expectations on the therapist.
  4. Clients may feel they have no work to do themselves.
  5. It will disempower clients in their own abilities.

Addictions and Habits

Most problematic addictions do not start out that way. Drug taking, Alcohol, Emotional Shopping practically always start out as pleasurable and fun! Problems arise over time when the fun and enjoyment start to drift out and the person, you? Need to have more a a drug, more shopping, more ever increasing [ insert addiction here ] to get the same feeling of pleasure that is shorter and shorter lived.

As addictions form in a neurobiological sense, neural networks for a specific addiction become stronger. This is like a well work path in a forest. The more the path is used the more known, familiar and easy it is to use. As this happens a transcription factor called DeltaFosB is deposited in various places in the brain which makes behaviours become more locked in and rewarding.

All addictive behaviours have several components in common. The mezolimbic pathway consisting of the ventral tegmental area and nucleus accumbens also known as the reward path. This is primarily a dopamine pathway and dopamine is all about reward. Cocaine feels so good because it delivers many hundreds of times more dopamine that is naturally available.

All of this is not good news because ( if you are an addict you know this ) it makes it difficult to change because there are both psychological and physiological aspects which can keep addicts addicts for a long time.

How Hypnotherapy in Newcastle Could Help

Hypnotherapy is a well known way to make psychological changes that relate to behaviours, desires and motivations. No one really knows why hypnotherapy works yet practically everyone has experience hypnosis in everyday life.

Who hasn’t misplaced their keys, a watch or purse, searched everywhere twice and eventually sees them there on that table there right in plain site.  Hypnosis is a process of communicating ideas and of changing perceptions. Most people have had the experience of knocking, cutting or bumping themselves but not been aware of any pain or discomfort because something else was more pressingly important.

Creating a professional relationship together, I will work with you ( not for you – because breaking an addiction usually requires effort from you! ) to help you make the necessary changes in your way to freedom from an addiction. This means following on from our session together you will provide updates of your progress and agreed tasks. We work together to change certain perceptions and realities that support your outcomes.

For a completely free, no obligation phone consultation for hypnotherapy Newcastle call Nigel Hetherington on 0770 481 8467. This will take up to 20 minutes. When you want and need to quit an addiction get the professional and experienced help here with me, Nigel Hetherington.

Weight Loss Hypnotherapy Newcastle

Hypnotherapy weight loss Newcastle. Summer is reputed to be coming and you want to look good and keep the weigh loss in the right balance so is using hypnotherapy Newcastle weigh loss is for you?

Its a pretty simple formula for most to gain weight. This is take in more energy than you use and it gets stored away in fat cells. Eat bits and bobs of junk food, a biscuit more often than not and do little or no exercise and you have the perfect formula to put on weigh and that can get you down right?

Hypnotherapy Newcastle Weight Loss

Many people choose to use hypnosis for weigh loss because they understand the psychological factors in changing old habits or they have yo-yo dieted for so long they require new momentum to break free of old mannerisms that are potentially going to cause problems.

The World Health Organisation predicts that Cardiovascular  ( Metabolic Syndrome isomorphism ) will become the biggest risk to health and biggest percentage killer of high, medium and low income people between 2015 and 2030.

Metabolic Syndrome is a collection of things that can go wrong in the human body where each is not life threatening but having a few of these symptoms is becoming a strong predictor for ill health and cardiovascular problems.

Metabolic Syndrome predictors are as follows:

  • Having ‘apple’ rather than ‘pear’ shaped fat on the body.
  • High amounts of LDL cholesterol and low amounts of HDL cholesterol.
  • High blood sugar; a predictor of diabetes.
  • High concentrations of triglycerides in the blood.
  • High blood pressure.

 Why Do People Eat More Than Required?

People eat to excess for many reasons. A very common reason is carbohydrate rich food actually make you feel good, albeit for a short time. In times of stress, even mild, two thirds of people use food to make themselves feel better!

It can become like an addiction. The drive, a dopamine function, for food, for comfort eating or because sugar tastes good can actually drive people, even people wanting to or needing to lose weigh to eat.

Following on from this there is an endogenous reward released and physiologically it can actually feel good to eat. It can be a tricky situation to get the balance right and this is where hypnosis Newcastle can help you get and maintain the right balance for you.

Eating Food – You Are What You Eat

There are essentially three food forms. These are Carbohydrates like bread, pasta and potato. There are Fats such as in dairy, oil and chocolate and there are Proteins as in chicken, eggs and cheese. We require all of these food types to be healthy and function well.

When we eat protein it is broken down into amino acids in the blood stream. Starch, sugars and carbohydrates are turned into glucose in the blood stream and are stored as glycogen. Fat is turned into fatty acids, glycerol and is stored as triglyceriods in fat cells, the liver and muscles.

Psychological and Physiological Balance

No matter how your days are it is really very easy, cheap and little effort to eat healthily. It is all to easy to eat ‘rubbish’ which is mass produced and as we all know in quantity is not the best health option.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle can help you tap into the real motivation and purpose that is a part of you wanting to lose weigh, stop yo-yo dieting and live a much more healthy and content life. You may also really want consider the benefits of exercise as part of your life style.

The Truth About Weight Loss

No one actually wants to lose weight just for the sake of losing weight. Think about it!

It is what you will get from losing weight that is the real importance and value to you. Perhaps it is to feel healthier or live longer. Perhaps losing weight will mean you have more self esteem or self worth. It could be for any number of very important reasons but it is NOT just about losing weight.

Newcastle weight loss hypnotherapy is for you when you have made a decision to change your life in good ways. Call Nigel 0770 481 8467 for a free consultation ( allow 15-30 minutes ) and see if hypnotherapy for weight loss is right for you. What are you waiting for? Call now or fill in the questionnaire in BOOKING A THERAPY SESSION.

 

Addiction Hypnotherapy Newcastle

Hypnotherapy for addictions in Newcastle can help with the most stubborn and seemingly impossible long term habits you need to change.

We perceive addictions in variety of forms from drugs to people to behaviours. The term addiction is used for both psychological and physiological trappings that to stop them could likely cause serious trauma and withdrawal anxiety.

Addiction Hypnotherapy Newcastle

Having an addiction is not the same as an occasional glass of wine or cigarette. It is not the same as infrequent recreational drug use because this is where the user both wants and likes their chosen drug of choice.

An addiction becomes a problem where the user does not like but wants and needs their drug of addiction. When you want to stop an addiction hypnotherapy Newcastle may be able to help you break free.

Common Addictions Hypnotherapy Can Help With

  • Alcohol
  • Tobacco
  • Buying and Shopping
  • Sexual
  • Gambling
  • Narcotics

Neuro Biology Of Addiction

Any addictive substance or behaviour will activate some very specific areas in the brain. These are called the mezolimbic and mezocortical pathways and are dopaminergic in nature.

Dopamine is the neurotransmitter responsible for motivation or desire to do something or act in some way. In is not really what makes you feel euphoric, good or full of life. Dopamine motivates you to take action. And the more dopamine involved the more addictive.

The Ventral Tegmental Area ( VTA ) in the mid brain has direct neural projection to the Nucleus Accumbens ( NA ) that is specifically involved in all addictions. This path way is the mezolimbic pathway.

The VTA also projects to the frontal cortex. The orbital frontal and pre-frontal cortex. Stimulation here particularly of the left pre-frontal cortex is associated with feelings of well being and even euphoria.

Starting An Addiction

Addictions really seem to begin in one of two ways. The first being some activity or behaviour feels very good and brings much pleasure. Regular usage of increasing amounts or more behaviour are required to feel as good. Do this enough and it stops feeling good and you still want the addictive source.

The second way is a potentially addictive behaviour or substance is used to alleviate some physiological or psychological pain. Either the pain goes away or is even forgotten yet the addiction persists.

Stopping An Addiction

An addiction because of its very nature can be tricky to stop. The addict must want to stop and not as some half hearted attempt to please someone else but must genuinely want to stop.

There is the actual stopping the addiction which means no longer indulging in the behaviour, drug or activity and doing something else instead.

There is also the environment. If a particular addiction primarily takes place in a certain location, situation or environment it is usually a very good idea to avoid this place at least until you are sure the addiction has passed. It may be a good idea to do this permanently if possible.

Hypnotherapy For Addiction In Newcastle

Newcastle hypnotherapy can help you discover and utilise the deep motivation to quit an addiction and to stay free from that.  The most importance step you can take is one of commitment to change.

No matter what you read on some hypnotherapy websites becoming free of a serious and long term addiction is likely to take more than just one or two sessions. It may take less sessions but do be realistic.

When you are totally committed to breaking free from an addiction and are committed to the process – Call Nigel Hetherington for a completely free consultation on 0770 481 8467 at Newcastle Hypnotherapy.

Anxiety Hypnotherapy – A Living Paradox

Get help with your anxiety problems with hypnotherapy in Newcastle. People are not born anxious, we learn to be that way. Good news anxiety is un-learnable.

Charles Tebbitts stated that one of the ‘rules of the mind’ is that opposing thoughts can not be held at the same time. This is absolute twaddle.

In hypnotherapy Charles Tebbetts is a mighty name from the past. He did really exceptional pioneering work. He formulated some ‘Rules’ of the mind.

One of which is that “opposing ideas can’t be held at the same time” – Apart from the metaphorical contradiction, they can and do and are.

A simile for this is trance. A word for this is paradox and a meaning is transformation from a greater and new perspective.

While anxiety is un-learnable in people and animals, as people it is possible to use the exact same STRUCTURES to transform worry and anxiety into positive anticipation and well-being. This of course takes practice and commitment.

A Bout Of Anxiety

The body’s stress response is activated. Depending on the intensity of the response the terms may be deemed Anxious Arousal ( high ) or Anxious Apprehension ( less ). It is still the same body response.

Positive body stress is actually quite good, this is called stimulation. This is like going for a run, moderate exercise or some other positive activity.

A negative, and usually unwarranted stressor has all the same hall mark plus some metabolic activation of the Amygdala. This is a key neuro-biological difference.

In a fear or anxiety response there are, in a simplistic way, four nuclei in the brain activated. These lead to pretty much the same body responses hormonally.

ANXIETY – FEAR – STRESS

There are four brain areas activated.

  • Amygdala
  • Hippocampus
  • Frontal Cortex
  • Reticular Formation

Not surprisingly the hippocampus ( involved with memory ) is active. This means we are learning to be afraid or learning to be anxious.

The amygdala is all about fear, sexual behaviour in males and is a biological learning component of fear. This little bugger responds well to stress hormones and at the same time, kind of, overrides the normal hippocampus conscious learning function.

The reticular formation is a rhombencephalon, reptile brain nuculii that has a great deal to do with attention and in this instance, the blue spot ( locus coeruleus ) thrives on noradrelanine, a neuro transmitter involved in the stress response.

All of this is a scientific and neuro biological explanation of what is happening at a very small level of detail. Knowing all of this really wont stop anxiety, it is what we can do with this knowledge that can make a difference. A real difference!

Un Learning Anxiety

When laboratory rats ( like in Martin Seligmans ) un-learn learned depression, when OCD sufferors un-learn OCD there are two very important aspects or functions that metabolically change in terms of a stress response.

This is dirt cheep to know and can take effort, sweat and can also happen in just a few hours. The Amygdala lowers in metabolic activity and the Frontal Cortex increases in activity.

How this is accomplished can be a process of hypnotherapy for anxiety, cognitive and behavioural activity and a genuine commitment to change.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle offers committed and well structures ways for you to achieve freedom from anxiety … before you call … be sure of this …

The kind of people I want to work with to make positive changes are people who have made a solid decision to change. This is you when you are sure you are no longer willing to live anxious and both want and are committed to freedom from anxiety.

Professional hypnotherapy in Newcastle upon Tyne from Nigel Hetherington. Call on 0770 481 8467 or download and return your questionnaire. Calls are answered in 24 hours during working days.

 

Hypnotherapy Newcastle Pain Management

We all experience pain because it is a part of being alive in what some call the human condition. Hypnosis in Newcastle for pain can help people manage and deal with the kinds of psychological and physical pain that is as real as physical pain.

Hypnotherapy in Newcastle can assist with the management of both physiological pain and / or the psychological components that make it … well … painful to do day to day run of the mill stuff.

This Is Very Important Regarding Pain Treatment

Physical pain is a signal that something is not right. Depending on the severity pain is usually a signal that alerts us to problems. You need to see your physician or doctor first. Once you doctor has offered their opinions and you have considered your options you may well consider the so called alternative treatments.

Having explored standard medical avenues regarding pain you may consider how using hypnotherapy to manage pain can help you.

Hypnotherapy – Pain And Bio-Neurology

Pain comes to us in a very basic sense in two forms. Fast sharp pain and slow continuous pain. The fast sharp pain is a signal we have injured or damaged our bodies. This is like stubbing a toe, a burn or cutting a finger. An immediate and comparatively short lived sting that alerts to damage.

Afferent nerve fibres of which there are two types relay pain sensations from the periphery of skin, muscles or fibres  or the deeper viscera to the brain. This is where you have the experience of pain. Glutamate is the neurotransmitter involved in pain along with a peptide know as Substance P.  The presence of Substance P increases the intensity and efficacy of pain transmitters.

Our pain sensing nerves are on a job share. The nerves in your brain and body use the same tracks to convey information ( pain ) back to your brain and to your cerebral cortex so you have a conscious recognition of what the neuro-transmitters signal as pain.

Seemingly intractable pain is often the slow dull pain the can be visceral, from extremities or even both. Symptoms of allodynia and hyperalgesia can compound nociceptive and neuropathic pain. Prolonged pain can trigger long term cellular and neuronal changes which exacerbate pain even more.

A further insult can be the aspects of remembered and anticipated pain. Remembering pain can and will activate the neurology of that pain. Same kind of experience for anticipated pain.

Hypnotherapy for Pain Relief

Hypnotherapy here in Newcastle may be able to help you adjust your perceptions and subjective experience relating to your pain. You can know quite rapidly in one session if hypnotherapy can help you because you have immediate experience which you can evaluate.

Hypnotherapy for Pain Management in Newcastle with Nigel Hetherington. For a free consultation call Nigel on 0770 481 8467.

 

 

Hypnotherapy In Newcastle

Hypnotherapy is being used more and more by sports personalities and even film stars to help them with motivation, mental attitude alterations and even change long standing addictions and problematic behaviours.

Most of us are not top sports or film personalities yet we can still experience the same kinds of problems in life. So, what really is hypnotherapy here in Newcastle upon Tyne? And what could hypnotherapy help you with?

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Hypnotherapy in Newcastle – Debunking The Myths

There are many myths and urban legions about hypnotherapy here in Newcastle. Let’s explore a few of these and attempt to offer a credible and honest perspective from a professional clinical hypnotherapist.

Hypnosis is a process of communicating ideas and experiences” – M. Hyland Erickson.

Clinical hypnotherapy is really very different from stage hypnosis. Primarily because in a clinical setting the intention is about helping a client to make and maintain psychological and bio-physiological beneficial changes. Stage hypnosis is essentially geared towards entertainment.

Both stage and clinical hypnosis can and do use similar processes. These processes are about creating the trance state from which suggestions or a little more precisely, certain kinds of experiences, trance phenomena and the communication of ideas that can be utilised to support new learnings and psychodymanic changes in thoughts, behaviours and perceptions.

One accurate definition of hypnosis I like from a respected colleague in the field of hypnotherapy and personal change Gary Turner is this :

Hypnosis has nothing to do with trance, sleep, eyes closed, relaxation – they can happen with hypnosis, yet are not exclusive to hypnosis. Hypnosis is when your imagination is guided so that it becomes your reality.”

Can Anybody Be Hypnotised?

The answer is a very clear and honest no! Some people will not respond to hypnosis in any conventional way. The ability to experience hypnosis, or a deeper trance phenomena has both to do with the hypnotherapist, their flexibility and attitude to explore and the hypnotic subject. This could take several sessions, just one or never happen at all in that interaction.

Making the claim, ‘ANYONE CAN BE HYPNOTISED’ as some do on the promotional material and websites, really is lacking in any professional integrity. The honest answer to this is when I don’t know about any new person I work with is ‘I don’t know.’

In hypnosis, trance phenomenon could include types of inability to move such as eyes locking, unbendable arms, feet stuck to the floor or the inability to release an object. Inability in this instance would be against your conscious will.

You can experience ideo-motoric or automatic movements in your fingers, your arms or legs. You will be conscious enough to know you are moving and it is not under your own conscious will.

These are all possible aspects of trance and at the same time non of trance phenomena are required for engendering change.

Stating anyone can be hypnotised is like saying any depressive will get better by taking Prozac. It is simply not true. Any honest and experienced hypnotherapist will confirm this from vicarious and more importantly their own experience.

How Do You Know Hypnotherapy Has Worked?

The only way to know about difference and the accessing of resources is in practice is to have an experience. That means that following hypnotherapy you try out your new behaviours, thoughts and motivations and notice what is different.

Certain types of behaviours can be tested well in the therapy room. These are things like seriously traumatic memories. The resolution being more easily tested there and then. Public speaking will be better tested out in reality outside the change therapy room.

Part of a change agreement or contract is to explore and try out new behaviours and new ideas in the context of what was a problem. The feedback from you, having experienced hypnotherapy, is go out into the real world and notice for yourself differences that result from the work we have done together.

Doing this is the ONLY way you will know that the change work, new perspectives and ways of being fostered in the therapy room will be real in the world. The changes you need could be accomplished on one session or could take several.

Is It Possible To Be Hypnotised Against Your Will?

This is a very obvious yes! Or No! Depending on what is understood by ‘Your  Will’. The concept of ‘will’, might be explained by levels or a spectrum of consciousness. There are very different, well documented and researched levels of brain activities that correlate to certain kinds of experience or consciousness.

All of these states can be accessed in hypnosis yet this is not the essence of hypnosis. The essence is is really about creating and sponsoring a context, an experience, where change, and ideas are communicated authentically.

The most well researched levels of brain wave activity fit into five levels of neuro activity. These being Gamma, Beta, Alpha, Theta and Delta, in reducing frequency.

What is really important to grasp at the beginning is that there is absolutely no separation between mind and body.  We can see our body and other peoples but there is no mind to be seen or objectified in the physical world. The mind is an inner-subjective experience we can all have from the inside out.

One Hertz – abbreviated Hz is defined as one cycle or firing per second.

My experience it is possible for a person to be asked to consciously resist hypnosis and at the same time respond to and experience trance phenomena.

Hypnotic trance states and meditative states share similar characteristics in neuronal activity and frequencies. There are differences which relate to different areas of brain activity. In hypnosis there is increased activity in motor and sensory areas with more internal focus of attention.

  • Gamma – Rapid High Firing – Above 40 Hz.
  • Beta – Waking State  – 14 to 40 Hz
  • Alpha – Light Sleeping / Relaxed State – 7 to 14 Hz
  • Theta – Dreaming State – 4 to 7 Hz
  • Delta – Deep Dreamless Sleep – 0.5 to 4 Hz

In each of these brain wave frequencies and their collieries of states, it is very possible to activate and grow new neuronal connection which equate to new behaviours, new ideas and new ways of behaving. In the proper conditions this can take just around 15 minutes.

Your brain is fundamentally plastic in that you can learn and unlearn, given the most honest and fundamental motivation. This motivation, when properly tapped, is why you are seeking help with hypnotherapy in Newcastle.

So can you be made to things against your will? Well I certainly hope so. Most people see a hypnotherapist in Newcastle because they already can’t do things against their will.

People over weight, addicted or having phobic responses know in all consciousness their behaviour is unwanted and they desire, with their will, to make positive changes. Yet they don’t. So they are already doing behaviours against their will.

Hypnotherapy In Newcastle

When the time is right for you to seek the kind of help and assistance you need to make honest and genuinely positive changes in your life contact Nigel Hetherington for hypnotherapy in Newcastle. 0770 481 8467.

Newcastle hypnotherapy for help with psychological, behavioural, pain management and types of negative thinking that is spoiling your life.

Depression Hypnotherapy Newcastle

Hypnotherapy depression in Newcastle can help you turn around and drop many of the psychological aspects of depression that are ruining your life at the moment.

When you are really depressed, the normal things in life, people take for granted are not very easy at all. If you are feeling depressed, even reading this can be a bit of a task. The invitation even now is to keep reading, just for a bit.

Depression Hypnotherapy Newcastle

Approximately 20% of people will at some time in their life suffer from a clinical depression. And what is very interesting is 20% of people with depressive symptoms will have this caused by an under active thyroid gland that is something your doctor should check.

Depression in the most common terms is about loss. This can be loss of a loved one, loss of a job or loss of the personality or identity you have related to for a very long time. Hypnotherapy Newcastle can help.

Depression in a clinical or medical sense is generally divided into to kinds. This will not fit everyone because you are unique so this is just a categorical term yet at the same time you may relate to this.

Number one : Reactive Depression

This means you have experienced a loss and you are feeling down, lost, guilty or grieving. Chances are, real good chance, you will get over this on you own,likely with the help of good support form your friends. This is perfectly normal.

You can probably rate where you are on the Kubler-Ross scale.  It goes something like this, easily remembered by the acronym D.A.B.D.A. that any counsellor will recognise as part of their very basic training.

  • D – Denial
  • A – Anger
  • B – Bargaining
  • D- Depression
  • A – Acceptance

Hypnotherapy Newcastle can best help you after you have grieved properly and are are experiencing the latter two stages. And your Doctor could prescribe SSRI’s to help you. Prosac and the many brand names of the same drug show that reactive depression can be assuaged with this drug.

My preference is not to use drugs to help you come to terms with loss and I also respect a drug based approach that you can work out with your pharmacologist.

Number Two : Clinical Depression

This is the real bad end of the stick. And you know it! However chances are within a few months you will be out the other end and living and experiencing life with all the joy and enthusiasm you used to have.

Clinical Depression, what a term! will be the symptomatology that you have felt ‘depressed’ for over two weeks and its not getting any better.

The major symptom of a major clinical depression is the complete loss of pleasure in life. This is termed anhedonia. Other symptomatology may be psycho-motor retardation, a lack of get up and go. Depressed people will most likely have very disturbed sleeping patterns too.

There are thought to be at least three neurotransmitters involved in clinical depression. These are Seratonin ( 5HT ),  Dopamine and Noradrenalin. The parts these play are complicated though can be summarised as these:

  • Serotonin – Sad Thoughts
  • Noradrenalin – Lack Of Energy
  • Dopamine – Loss Of Pleasure

There are plenty of drugs that work on and in the respective neurotransmitter pathways and synaptic transmission. Clinical hypnotherapy in Newcastle offers a way to help you that can be complementary to drugs or drug free.

Clinical Depression is very much a regarded to be a severe imbalance in the neuro-chemistry in the brain and as such is as real a disease as diabetes. Depression is completely felt in the now and usually accompanied with intense feeeling of grief, guilt and remorse.

Clinical hypnotherapy for depression is both about becoming future positive orientated and moping up unresolved issues from the past that are potentially causing grief. It will also focus in the very likely internal self talk that is very probably very negative and compounds the situation.

For help with depression, hypnotherapy in Newcastle with Nigel Hetherington could help you recover faster. Call Nigel on 0770 481 8467 for a completely free initial consultation which will take up to 20 minutes.

 

Hypnotherapy Newcastle Anger

Newcastle Hypnotherapy can help you deal with the day to day events and intrusions that anger you. Anger is a transient mood that really indicates ‘your rules’ have been broken or disrespected. Rules in a lose sense, in that, when they are violated in some way, your expectations, create a autonomic response that we then equate to anger.

Anger can be directed towards others or directed towards the self. Anger directed towards the self is a less than subtle indication that you have in some way violated your own expectations, rules, beliefs or values. Anger towards others indicates you have been violated in some way; behaviourally, emotionally, physically or even culturally.

Anger Hypnotherapy Newcastle

Anger is a perfectly normal and actually good emotion. Anger can become problematic when the anger persists and despite all your best intentions seriously affects your relationships, your health and your psyche. The world is against you, you are right and continue whine and curse about it. Oh! the injustice of it all! And it’s all about justice / injustice and rule breaking.

Someone cuts you up in traffic, your 9 o’clock appointment doesn’t show up, you get endless cold calls from a machine. You may get a little angry at all of those and rightly so if you do. The problem is when that anger stays with you all day and you are ruminating. All of those irritations have long past but your still angry and you can’t let it go.

Long term this is not healthy for you or the people that are close to you. How nice would it be to not get angry for the least little irritation. How much more cosy could life be if you were a lot less angry, irritable and hot tempered?

Hypnotherapy for Anger in Newcastle upon Tyne can help you not be so inflammatory for little or no reason.

In its purest form anger can serve as a very useful way to become aware that your rules ( or cultural rules ) are not in sync with your environment. You really have three choices. Hypnotherapy for Anger issues can assist you making changes with the following points two and three.

  1. Accept your response as correct, let go and move on. Keep doing more of the same.
  2. Explore what specifically is irritating you. Check the appropriateness of the response.
  3. Update your values and beliefs should you realise they are totally inappropriate. Change your emotional response.

Physiological And Psychological Response

The psychological and physiological anger response that hypnotherapy can help with is not easily differentiated. Why? Because either one will promote the other and in a circular way lead to the other. It is very easy to have the physiological response that we equate to anger. Our limbic system and our higher order values and beliefs ( or expectations ) work together in our nervous system to alert

Anger And The Amygdala

One of the key players in the emotional response or limbic system is the amygdala. The amygdala responds to perceived threats, physical or psychological and becomes metabolically active. The net result is an awakening awareness that activates the sympathetic nervous system. This is the well known freeze, flight or fight response.

In adult males the neuro-biology involved in aggression and love are really quite similar and people can easily confuse the two and more importantly ascribe the wrong meanings or associations to what is happening in the body.

In the 1970’s Stanley Schacter created an experiment where willing volunteers were taking part in a survey to decide if some vitamin or other could improve vision. What they were actually participating in was an experiment with administered doses of adrenaline.

Given the same dose of adrenaline and a somewhat different social setting they became overly angry or overly loved up. The environment or specifically the shaped meanings they gave to their experience moulded what they ’emotionally’ made sense of and related to the ‘same’ situation.

Hypnotherapy in Newcastle for Anger can help you to diffuse the strong causal links to either you or other people violating your expectation sets and not behaving or even thinking in the ways you have physiologically deemed appropriate. Believe it or not, other people have all the rules, expectations and perceived ways of being that you have. What can change with hypnotherapy is your response.

Anger Promotes A Massive Stress Response

Adrenaline and Aoradrenaline pour out from the sympathetic nervous system in response to a threat. Given time this response will mediate the outpouring of  hydrocortisone ( the human stress hormone ) and create a feed forward state of hyper anxious arousal that is doing nobody, certainly not you, any real good.

Imagine that for a moment it is you who have inadvertently cut someone up driving into work, it is you how has placed an unreasonable yet unavoidable demand on an employee or its your job to cold call people. Looking from an alternative perspective you can a little understanding and compassion.

It was Epictetus that said “It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.” And this is a really good way to start to re frame and restructure you own responses. When you need a hypnotherapeutic intervention to help you with serious anger issues call 0770 481 8467 and talk with Nigel to see how hypnotherapy Newcastle for anger can help you.

 

Hypnotherapy Jesmond Exam Nerves – Nigel Hetherington

When the pressure, the exam pressure, is on and you have to perform because your future depends on a great performance, hypnotherapy for exam nerves and confidence can help you ace that exam. An Exam is about meeting a certain criteria but an exam can be thought about as’the worst that can happen.’ This is what we call ‘worry.’

Hypnotherapy is a common antidote to all kinds of exam nerves. Exams come in various forms; Written exams at college and university. Practical exams like a driving test or a presentation exam. For some people these create the worst possible environment and situations. Hands going clammy, mouth dry, you sweat and your mind can go blank. This is exam stress and hypnosis in Jesmond can help you beat it. We all worry about something! Don’t worry!!

But we do worry! Things that can end life worry us like cancer tests. Testicular or breast cancer screening or testing are massive worries for most. This is just an exam … This is just a check up of your knowledge but in some experiences it is just as worrisome as a cancer scare.

Hypnotherapy Jesmond Exam

Exam Nerves Hypnosis Jesmond

In a nut shell. Something happens and you lose it. You lose access to all the stored facts and ability to recall what you know you know. Why? Excess stress response. What is happening?

Your body is having a massive stress response. Hydrocortisone is marinating your nervous system and your hippocampus is getting over ridden by the amygdaloid bodies. It’s biological panic time and you can’t do squat about it.

Result, your Episodic memory goes for a leave and your body is ready to save your life. Trouble is there is not life threat. What you have is a completely out of proportion stress response and your mind has just gone blank. You just failed an exam and the colloquialism is “your fucked”. But it doesn’t have to be this way.

Learning Is State Dependent

Learning and access to your learnings, knowledge and behaviours are directly linked to the state you learn in. Your behaviours are state dependent and your state in an exam, to a very large extent, will mediate how well you perform.

A persons ‘state’, a word often used with great imprecision ( like self Esteem ) requires a solid definition in the same way an exam performance needs to be solid. So what does your state comprise of and what does ‘state’ mean?

A persons state can be defined as the sum total of the neuro-biological metabolic activity, but this really is not so helpful a definition. Breaking this down a little more; State is composed of breathing ( respiration ), endocrine activity, body positions and muscle tone  ( physiology ), mind activity ( psychology ) and neuronal activity ( nervous system ). That’s quite a lot of jargon.

Breathing And How You Breath

How you breath can dramatically affect how you feel and perform. This is a basic yoga and nlp principle. A person is shocked and the breathing changes. A person is excited and the breathing changes. A person is in love and the breathing changes. States produce breathing patterns and so breathing patterns produce states. In yoga this is called Pranayama – breath control.

Endocrine Activity

Our bodies have several endocrine glands. An endocrine gland releases hormones into the blood stream.  These hormones affect how we feel. Get massively stressed and there are stress hormones active for hours in the blood stream. Short term and in moderation these are health and mental activity promoting factors. Go overboard and the opposite happens.

A little stress or in other words pressure or stimulation and these can be really beneficial. To much and pressure becomes acute and we suffer, our ability to recall well rehearsed facts, answers and routines goes out the window.

Posture and Muscle Tone

One the the worlds leading coaches has said “physiology is king”, apart from the masculine accent, they are saying how you hold your posture affects your emotions and your performance. Crunch yourself up into a little tight ball and most people will report this is uncomfortable and learning is difficult. Stand tall or sit comfortably with a straight spine and relax any tense muscles and most report learning is easier.

Psychology – Your Thoughts

What you say to yourself, the thoughts and images that drive through your imagination and memory seriously affect your performance in an exam. Start the internal devil of “What if I can’t … ” or “I am not going to be able to pass …” and the wheel of doubt is in motion. Negative thoughts and images, real or imaginary, can adversely affect the ability to recall, replicate and think straight.

Thoughts, images and concepts have the power to create negative stress. You could test this out by imagining failing or flunking a very important exam and the long term consequences of any such ‘failure’. This is basically what people with anxiety problems do so very well enough to create a bodily state that is repressive and to a greater or larger extent prevents success and good feeling.

Neurology – Nervous System Responses

Putting conscious movement and thoughts aside for a moment or two. The involuntary or automatic nervous system comes in two parts. The para-sympathetic, rest, tend, relax, befriend. And the sympathetic nervous system, freeze, flight and fight. Stress activate the sympathetic system.

Stress and there is excess adrenaline and noradrenaline  diffused throughout your body. This is what you feel as a stomach churning fear. Get this in an exam? It’s not so helpful. Well maybe it is if you want to run away.

 Exam Nerves Solutions With Hypnotherapy

Assuming you know your stuff, you want to deal with and make at ease the exam nerves that create the stress response, knock you out of your learning state and have the potential to totally screw up your future. What is happening is you have an unconscious response that is as frisky as a wilde horse out the stable.

Hypnotherapy for exam nerves is all about changing the unconscious response because hypnotherapy is about changing unconscious responses.

Jesmond Hypnotherapy Exam

Instead of fretting and worrying, give Nigel a call on 0770 481 8467 for a free consultation regarding exam stress and how hypnotherapy in Jesmond can help you to be in the right state to pass your exams.  This will take around 20 minutes of your valuable study time.

Metabolic Syndrome Hypnotherapy Newcastle

Metabolic Syndrome also know as Syndrome X is predicted to be the single most devastating disease in the West by 2020.  It is estimated now that around one quarter of the world adult population has Metabolic Syndrome.

Hypnotherapy for Metabolic Syndrome can be an affective treatment for the psychological aspects and potentially some of the physical symptoms as well.

Metabolic Syndrome Hypnotherapy

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Metabolic Syndrome is a collection or cluster of symptomatology for various conditions that are reasonably good but not absolute, predictors of serious cardiovascular disease to come. These include but are not confined to :

  • Obesity
  • Insulin Resistance ( bordering type 2 diabetes )
  • Hypertension ( high blood pressure )
  • Dyslipidemia ( high blood cholesterol )

The word ‘syndrome’ means “the association of several clinically recognizable features, often occurring together, so that the presence of one or more features alerts the healthcare provider to the possible presence of the others.” Suggesting that if a person has one or two of these symptoms, they are likely heading to collect the full house.

Suppose you have high insulin levels raising the bad cholesterol ( LDL ) and you are well overweight. You are probably heading towards type 2 diabetes. Have Type 2 diabetes and high cholesterol and high blood pressure chances are you are a short bus ride away from being obese.

Having Metabolic Syndrome, one or more of the four indicators, and statistically you are three times as likely to have a stroke or heart attack than someone who hasn’t. You are also twice as likely to die that someone who hasn’t. Its all scary stuff with a pretty bleak outlook.

Biological and Psychological Components Metabolic Syndrome

A lot of not getting Syndrome X in the first place has to do with life style and attitudes to life. Hypnotherapy for Metabolic Syndrome can have several directed approaches to assist in changing the behaviours and attitudes that would seem to create Metabolic Syndrome.

  • Weight Loss
  • Managing the Stress Response
  • Change of Lifestyle
  • Motivation

No one is born with Syndrome X. A sedentary lifestyle, little exercise and a diet of processed ready meals are massive contributing factors. Now add in a life filled with stress and we have all the ingredients in abundance as a massive vector for developing Metabolic Syndrome.

How Hypnotherapy Can Help With Metabolic Syndrome

Hypnotherapy probably won’t change your genetics if you are predisposed to some aspects of Syndrome X that are inherited. But understand that being genetically more likely to develop Metabolic symptoms does not mean a person will. Environment,lifestyle and personal history are the real impactors.

When a person is stress regularly there are adverse health affects. Regular and over the top activation of the sympathetic nervous system seems to cause atherosclerosis by way of having regular and too much glucose and triglicerides in the blood. Hypertension can also be cause by way too much stress response.

Stressed people at least two thirds eat more carbohydrates. Eating as a stress response will most likely lead to obesity and Type 2 diabetes. So there is some very real and clear evidence that stress of a psychological nature can lead to many of the symptoms of Syndrome X.

The possibilities of using hypnotherapy to help with Metabolic Syndrome would be in helping you change the problematic and unhealthy attitudes, behaviours and ways of managing out of proportions stress response.

Hypnotherapy in Newcastle  for help with Metabolic Syndrome psychological factors. Call Nigel on 0770 481 8467 for a complementary consultation.

Addiction Hypnotherapy Newcastle – Nigel Hetherington

Hypnotherapy for addiction in Newcastle upon Tyne

Hypnotherapy can be utilised to help you break free from the physical and psychological addictions that usually begin as pleasurable or stress reducing activities but end up dominating and controlling your behaviours.

An addiction in this instance is defined as something, an activity, that is literally compulsive and is engaged in but that you really, really don’t want to do. An instance where the mind or intention is completely overruled by compulsion.

Hypnotherapy Addiction Newcastle

The rather important definition of an addiction here is that urges and compulsions seem to take over the conscious or rational self and the aftermath is a feeling of regret, remorse and never again. But cyclically it happens again and again. This defines an addiction that is neither good or beneficial long term.

An addiction is a pathologically or negative behaviour and has noting to do with recreational drug use or behaviours unless it becomes a problem. Many people can have a drink, smoke a joint, run ever day or have a flutter at the horses, no problem. The problem comes into being when a person can’t function well without engaging in such a behaviour and the behaviour is necessary to feel normal.

Addictions come in the widest variety and flavours you or anyone could possibly imagine. The more common addictions hypnotherapy can help with are addictions to drugs, behaviours and even ways of thinking.

To offer a flavour of exogenous drug addictions that are common are addictions to two of the most freely available and government endorsed ( they make more money from revenue than it cost’s to treat ) are alcohol and tobacco. The basic underground drug of addiction top trump is cocaine and more so derivatives.

Other addictions that are sponsored by our government are gambling and pornography. They are both genuine as being very very old and established and for the most part harmless in that most of us do engage in these activities in some form in a very mild way. Serious problems arise when these activities form routine behaviours that initially feel good but seep into our life’s as escapism.

Addictions Neuro Biology

Addictions are biologically and neurologically formed and activated by a gorgeous little part in the brain in the meso-limbic-cortical path way. Specifically the midbarain ( mesencephalon ) in the ventral tegmental area, the nucleus accumbens septi ( diencephalon ) and into projected pathways in the frontal cortex.

The meso-limbic-cortex pathway makes great use of the neuro-transmitter dopamine. This is the so called pleasure pathway of the brain.  What is amazingly interesting is that dopamine is not really to do with reward but has everything to do with the anticipation of reward or in other words MOTIVATION.

From a stumulus, not the act of doing, we are massively motivated to perform an action. Check this out – if you are a drug addict imagine or think about taking your drug of choice – you most likely have the urge to participate. Maybe if you are a current smoker you can imagine having  a tab, if you are a gambler imagine placing a bet … you are not doing it but probably feel a sense, a rising compulsion to act.

STOP. The reward will never be as good as seasiationing or actually doing it. But this is conscious mind stuff. You probably will act on your motivation or you are no longer and addict and you have just discovered a new freedom.

In case you are still an addict and you want a way to free yourself and whatever you have tried and failed to stop you have another option. The option you have is hypnotherapy for addiction that is a honest and one to one way for you to go forward.

But … before you call you really need to be solid in the following concepts.

  • You will engage in ANY set tasks relative to your freedom.
  • You will provide feedback from sessions.
  • You accept a real and genuine responsibility for change. This means you do not expect your problems to go away with no effort from you.

Remember its only a problem when its a problem and I only work with you if you are absolutely committed to change otherwise we are both wasting out time. When you are committed to changing a serious problematic behaviour call now.

For help with addictions call Nigel Hetherington for Hypnotherapy in Newcastle to help you break free from the addictions that are destroying your life. 0770 481 8467. Complementary initial consultation that will take about 20 minutes.

Phobia Hypnotherapy Newcastle – Nigel Hetherington

Hypnotherapy can help you become free of phobic responses that can leave a person a shaking wreck, incapacitated and having a full on major stress response. A phobia is not a fear, a phobia is classified as an anxiety disorder.

We are using hypnotherapy here to unlearn an out of proportion response to some stimulus. So if the phobia is of spiders, we are using hypnotherapy to unlearn the particular response to spiders and to have a different, more mediated response to spider stimulus. Phobia have very specific triggers.

Phobia Hypnotherapy Newcastle

Nobody is born with phobic responses – they are learned. While there seems to be a body of evidence that suggest some inbuilt fears of snakes, spiders and heights there is no evidence that any of these makes us genuinely phobic of them.

A phobic response will be ‘learned’ in a very stressful or terrifying situation. Assume there is or there feels like a life or death situation. The sympathetic nervous system will be releasing noradrelanin, the endocrine system will be releasing stress hormones. Our body is completely geared up to make a survival attempt.

Our amygdala’s will be massively activated and our memory of this situation or it’s moments will be being formed. Formed because should we survive this situation then it will make perfect sense that should a similar situation ever occur we have a memory template to save our skins again.

When we are responding to a gigantic life or death type stressor ( or the sense of extreme fear or terror ) the hippocampus becomes less affective at storing our memories and the role to some extent is mediated by the amygdala. It is the amygdala that plays a crucial role in a phobic response as part of the unconscious limbic system response.

Neil Slade talks about clicking or tickling the amygdala to pacify an over active amygdala to reduce anxiety, fear or any unwanted unconscious activation. This could be thought of a mindfulness activity. The accent is having an pretty much unconscious and unwanted nervous system response stop.

Hypnotherapy can be used to re-educate a particular,in this case phobic, response to a stimulus that most likely poses no danger at all. Nobody knows how hypnosis works quickly to remove a phobia. What is evidenced is that an unconscious process can be changed using hypnotherapy.

Phobia or Fear?

Many people describe a fear or an apprehension as a phobia. These are really very different things.  Being apprehensive is a little wary and courage can usually overcome fear. A phobic response will leave a person incapacitated, flooded with adrenaline, paralysed with fear or running away hell for leather.

Hypnotherapy Jesmond and Newcastle can help you overcome phobias, fears and social apprehensions. Nigel works from Jesmond Therapy Centre, 7 Holly Avenue West easy accessible hypnotherapy North Shields, Durham and Sunderland. Call Nigel on 0770 481 8467 for help with phobia.

 

Hypnotherapy Trauma & PTSD – Nigel Hetherington Hypnotherapy

Hypnotherapy is an affective way to deal with psychological and emotional trauma. Post Traumatic Stress Disorder ( PTSD ) and Traumatic memories leave survivors with scars, that live on in forever reoccurring states of severe distress when the actual danger is long passed, never quite heal.

Trauma is defined here as the result of a massively emotional and or physical situation where a person has survived but is still from time to time experiencing the negative real-time emotional responses that are debilitating, hugely stress inducing and crippling to every day life.

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A potential traumatic event that can mediate PTSD could literally be anything. This could be a life or death situation, physical and emotional violence or a huge emotional loss. Some people seems to experience such situations and be able to get on with their life but others can’t or don’t.

PTSD And Flash Backs

Take an extreme stressor. This could be a conflict in a war zone, a rape, physical violence or a car crash. In those moments the body will be seeped and drenched in a cocktail of stress hormones and neuro-transmitters. The Amygdala is hyper active and every cell in the body is doing the freeze, flight flight natural reaction.

With this chemical bodily infusion the Hippocampus, where short and long term conscious memories are made, literally shuts down and the amygdaloid ‘memories’ as of how to survive is quite rightly active. The amygdala is learning to promote the response of ‘how to survive’. Problems occur when this survival response becomes the norm or becomes a totally out of proportion response. This is PTSD.

What results is an EXTREME format of neuro-biological learning. IF a person survives there is an intense reaction and an intense learning. This learning is a body wisdom learning. It will not be conscious, that is too slow to save a life.

Environmental triggers, like a similar car, a loud noise or something or a little part of the trigger events in everyday life set of the survival response.

Using hypnotherapy for Eye Movement Integration Plus for PTSD to re-educate the unconscious response offer real ways for the nervous system to change a survival pattern in all the wrong circumstances into new way of being.

Contact Nigel Hetherington on 0770 481 8467 when you want to be free of a totally out of whack BUT totally understandable bodily response that is traumatic memories or PTSD using hypnotherapy and EMIPlus.

 

Hypnotherapy Newcastle – Generalised Anxiety Disorder ( GAD )

Clinical hypnotherapy for anxiety in Newcastle can help you mediate anxious responses that are extremely stressful and seem to serve no positive purpose. Newcastle hypnotherapy for generalised anxiety disorder ( GAD ) and helping you lean to be more at ease … because you learned to be anxious means you can learn to be at ease, which is our natural human state of being.

have you ever wondered WHY some people seem to be totally free of anxiety and other people, you? are often in a state of anxious arousal or anxious apprehension? Worrying about the future. This literally defines anxiety.Hypnotherapy Newcastle Anxiety GADAnxious arousal simply means that you are feeling anxious and anxious apprehension is more about thoughts and ideation of worry. Both of these have less than positive affects on mood, the nervous system and long term health.

No one begins life as a worrier. This makes perfect sense because to worry we need the intellectual capacity do it. Babies as Piaget put it are born into the world with a Sensory-Motor consciousness; they have no idea about death, growing old, losing a job or a partner. Babies are delivered in direct experience and that experience is all about the senses. And this has no past or future.

Adrenaline And The Amygdala

All of us mammals have a limbic system. The limbic system is a deep brain region that is all about emotions. Emotions here is defined as what we feel and NOT the meaning we attribute to what we are feeling. The neuro chemical biology of hate and anger is incredibly similar to what we feel with love and joy. The same neuro-chemicals are present in both states and it is the attributions of meanings that ‘consciously’ define out state, mood and long term temperaments.

Take a particularly negative stressor and the amygdala, a small nucleus in the limbic system, will become energetically active and will mediate a sympathetic nervous system response complete with danger and anxious arousal. Go for a run or play on a roller coaster and the sympathetic nervous system will activate BUT without the amygdala. The difference is massive.

Positive stressors, like running, a scary film or bungey jumping ( if you are that way inclined ) produce gluco-corticoids that mediate positive stress responses. When the amygdala is involved this equates to worry, negative stress and what we know as worry. It’s almost the same system, its the same system the difference is the meaning, conscious and unconscious, we make of experience.

There is almost always an adrenaline and noradrelanine release when the sympathetic nervous system activates, like being angry or in-love it is the meaning that is attributed to the physical sensations that are important.

Anxiety Your Body and Environment

Your brain is always receiving and processing information from your body. The psychologist William James proposed that the body actually has an emotion and then the brain makes sense of this. This is not a crazy or strange as this reads. If you are tense, your muscles are stiff and locked,the bio-feedback from your body will actually mediate your emotions. This is why a massage can feel so relaxing and stimulate a relaxed mood.

In a psychological experiment, conducted by Schacter in the 1950’s, it was discovered that your brain has been shown to attribute a bodily state , in this case anxiety to the immediate social environment.  This means if you are a setting where anxiety and worry are common place the feelings you feel will be attributed to the environment. Environment means people around you.

What You Can Anticipate From An Appointment

Each hypnotherapy Newcastle appointment with Nigel is a totally individual experience however as a minimalist basis for treatment we will most likely explore the following : How you do anxious? The most common way people make themselves anxious is talking to themselves, with the inner voice, in the following ways.

  • Talking at a way rapid speed
  • Beginning What If statements

Talking rapidly seems to have all of the ingredients to make you think faster. Beginning What If sentences and not finishing them or taking them to a logical extreme will tend to send the brain reeling and searching out answers, often unconscious and causing more anxiety.

By knowing how you do anxious thoughts you are now in a position, which will require effort on your part, to begin to learn how to make your self feel better.

We will find where you feel anxiety in your body of you have anxious arousal and use hypnosis as a body relaxation and combine this with hemispherical activity balancing exercises.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle for Anxiety, to help you relax your worrying mind, relax your body and learn some new strategies so you can worry less and strat living a more mentally calm emotional life. Call Nigel now on 0770 481 8467.

 

 

 

Newcastle Hypnotherapy Weight Loss – Nigel Hetherington

Hypnotherapy for weight loss in Newcastle and the North East because so very many people want the body beautiful and their idealised body shape. There are essentially two reasons people want to lose weigh. Obviously there are the physical aspects but there are also the psychological ones.

Hypnotherapy in Newcastle for weight loss is honestly not just about losing weight. There is a required focus on what losing weight will actually accomplish and mean for any client. What are the deeper values you will need to access when your size or shape changes because your psyche has changed in a way that supports a different set of psychologically driven eating behaviours?

Hypnotherapy Newcastle Weight Loss

Psychological Hunger – A Deeper Metaphor

There are two areas in the brain that are responsible for the biological trigger of eating and stopping eating. In the limbic system the hypothalamus, a cluster of dense functional neurons about the size of a grape mediate our physical appetites.  The ventromedial and lateral nuclei respectively monitor rising and falling glucose in the body and as so create the feeling of satiation and hunger.

Because the brain has evolved to utilise the same circuitry for both physical and abstract navigation in the world of body requirements and social and cultural requirements there is almost certainly a hunger for the psychological needs as well as the biological ones. Eating to excess or hungering for something other than food will be very easily confused neurologically.

If we eat food that is rancid we feel disgust and that same brain region, the insular cortex,  is also where we ‘feel’ moral disgust.  We feel the need for food but we can also feel other needs that are psychological. In order to satisfy a psychological need it is no surprise that we eat to alleviate the feelings of wanting something to satisfy the soul.

Why People Eat To Excess

It could be argued that eating is one way to combat negative feelings, that means when you are upset or ‘depressed’ it is likely ( 66% ) people become hyperphagic that is eat more carbohydrates to feel better and only one third of people when depressed become hypophagic eat less. Feed a cold and starve a fever.

This in the very general sense has everything to do with temporary moods or equally long term feelings of deprivation which causes mood to swing. Swing left, right and off centre. Eating something with carbs or sugar really does taste very good and albeit temporarily, is a stress reliever. The problems begin when eating becomes a comforter for stress and negative emotions. This is a really short term solution and not the most healthy by a long way.

In the US recent statistics suggest that over one third of people are obese. That is not just a bit overweight this is FAT! Being obese has massively strong correlations to health problems. Food is so very easily available and almost effortless to obtain. Think about all of the packaged ready meals or the ubiquitous all-you- can- eat buffets that attract so many people to sit a graze like happy cows chomping and gobbling up food.

Yo-Yo Dieting And Failure

Is this you? Begin a very well intentioned diet plan, stick to it for a day, a week or a month and then lose steam? Buy the latest dieting book, maybe even read it, and still hating being fat? Start stop,start stop … Yo-Yo! Self help books, self help audio and self help video all sell two things … hope and a miracle cure.

The self help library of products is a multi-million industry and unless you do actually do the exercises and practices as described is just filling the pockets of people other than you in terms of getting what you really want.

What you need to do is create long term and self powered, self motivated ways of creating the you you want to be and living the life you want to live. The crux for me is connecting and sponsoring a very real and honestly motivating psyche or mental state that powers your new behaviours and habits. In effect a new you that has access to the deepest reasons and motivation that drive forward the behaviours that make you take care of and nurture who you are.

What is often missing in all the failed attempts is a conscious understanding of why you need to lose weight and a really very long term commitment to investing in your health, happiness and personal evolution.

A Way Forward – Weight Loss Psychology

Before you seek any psychological, hypnotherapy or counselling ask yourself the following questions and you will already have one foot in the door to a lasting change.

  • What does losing weight actually mean?
  • What is important about losing weight?
  • What are the real important factors here?
  • What is driving me to lose weight?
  • What will be different when I have lost weight?
  • Where is this leading you towards?

When you have answers and this will equate to a honest and long term motivation, the kind that can prevent the Yo-Yo dieting trap and start you on a way forwards in life that is, as you think about this now, is not really to do with weight loss but instead becoming more of who you want to be …

Hypnotherapy Newcastle for weight loss and the personal evolution of your self that is much more of a living embodiment of a happier and healthier you. Call Nigel Hetherington of 0770 481 8467 for a free  consultation which will take about 20 minutes of your time and discover what weight loss really and honestly means for you.

 

Hypnotherapy Newcastle Phobia – Nigel Hetherington

Hypnotherapy Newcastle for helping you break free of debilitating phobias and fears. Phobias are known as irrational but they are perfectly rational when you have a conscious understanding and a neuro biological basis of how they are formed. Hypnotherapy Newcastle can help you to be free of phobic responses.

A true phobic response, should you see one or worse experience one, is really very dramatic. You will see and witness a person loosing all control of normal consciousness and watching them experiencing feeling the completely debilitating experience of a full blown traumatic stress response. This is clearly not the same as feeling fear albeit debilitating.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle Phobia

What a vast majority of clients I see for what they called phobias are really fears because a phobic response will activate a full freeze, flight or fight ( in that order ) response. A phobic response will feel like terror and your autonomic nervous system will pretty much take full control of you and as a result you will be quite literally incapacitated.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle is a psychological and neuro biological method for helping you to break the tyranny of ‘irrational’ phobic responses by attempting to rewire your neural networks that are responsible for phobic responses. There will be a trigger or triggers that cause the phobic response. Hypnotherapy Newcastle to help you de-couple your phobia triggers.

Phobias and Fears

Phobias and regular fears tend to be formed with a single or multiple occasion conditioning where there is both a stress response and activation of the amygdaloid bodies in the limbic system.  The amygdala is involved in a kind of less than conscious memory ( fear, phobic response ) and activates when a person feels fear or experiences a phobic response.

During a major stressor ACTH is poured out from the pituitary and causes release of glucocorticoids from the adrenal glands. When we survive a threatening or dangerous situation it is of high certitude that the levels of stress hormones, glucocorticoids in the body during and after the trauma are massively elevated.

For a phobic response to now be laid down neurologically speaking there needs to be a link, a connection between the the feelings in the body and some trigger. The trigger really could be just about anything and this is where the notion of an irrational phobia comes from.

other times the trigger is well known and seems to have an obvious link,  for instance, a spider for a person having a phobic response to spiders.  The traumatic incidence here could have been a child hood event where as a child a nest of 100’s of spiders fell into their hair and face.  The sympathetic nervous system explodes into action, a child terrified and the trigger is neurologically hard wired in.

Hypnotherapy in Newcastle, North Shields , Morpeth and Hexham for helping you break free of phobias using hypnosis and NLP from Nigel Hetherington. Call 0770 481 8467 for a free consultation.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle Depression – Nigel Hetherington

Depression is described as a loss of the ability to feel and experience pleasure. Not being able to experience joy and pleasure is also known as anhedonia.  Hypnotherapy Newcastle opens the possibility of helping you move back towards feeling OK and taking the next steps to have a more colourful life.

Hypnotherapy for depression in Newcastle can help because depression is both a biological and psychological condition where the emotionally pleasurable texture of life is drained away and colours fade to grey. Major depression is likely to affect approximately 15% of people in the course of their life.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle Depression

Symptoms Of Depression

  • Feelings of guilt
  • Loss of libido
  • Feelings of remorse
  • Sad thoughts and ideation
  • Lack of energy

Some 50% of depressive symptoms without any recognisable loss experienced in life can be attributed to poorly functioning thyroid gland which can be treated with medication and your doctor should be able to make this diagnosis.

Ruling out thyroid gland problems, psychologically ( and biologically ) based depression is a response to loss; loss of a loved one, loss of status and loss of material possession. The good news, even in the face of one of the most horrendous psychological diseases is that most people will recover quite fully in about six months.

Neuro Architecture Of Depression

There are several components that are creating the neuro biology of depression. The anterior cingulate gyrus in the frontal lobe can be thought to be ‘whispering’ sad thoughts to the rest of the brain especially the limbic system. The limbic system creates the negative feelings of sadness and guilt that are associated with depression.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle may be able to help you shift through the stages of depression faster and into recovering you deepest sense of self and feeling pleasure again.

It is thought that at least three neuro transmitters are related to depression and specifically to specific aspects of depression.

Serotonin is thought to have affects relating to the feelings of sadness and remorse being linked to thinking sad and guilt laden thoughts. Noradrelanin is thought to have affects relating to lack of energy and Dopamine is thought to have affects relating to the lack of experiencing pleasure.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle for help breaking free from depression.  For a free consultation to see how hypnotherapy Newcastle could help you call consultant hypnotherapist Nigel Hetherington now on 0770 481 8467.

Newcastle Hypnotherapy Erectile Dysfunction – Nigel Hetherington

Hypnotherapy in Newcastle for men’s help with sexual impotence. Men’s erectile problems are common though they aren’t usually discussed openly.

The most common cause of men’s erectile dysfunction is excess stress. Stress accounts for around 50% of male impotence. When you have affective methods to manage stress you are far more likely to be able to gain and maintain an erection. It can be hard to seek professional help.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle with Nigel Hetherington offers a discrete service using hypnosis and NLP to help you both relax and change your response to stress. Newcastle hypnotherapy can help alleviate male impotence and erectile dysfunction.

When we are relaxed and calm there is much more, if not all, parasympathetic nervous system activation. The parasympathetic system is what is activated after a meal, during sleep, relaxing or when meditating. When people are stressed it is sympathetic nervous system that is activate.

For a man to gain and maintain an erection, the parasympathetic nervous system must be activated.  This won’t happen if you are worried, nervous or hyper anxious about your sexual performance.

Impotence problems can naturally compound because being impotent is stressing in and of itself. It can be embarrassing as well as feeling guilt and shame.

How Hypnotherapy Newcastle Can Help

Being able to discuss your problem is usually a big relief and being able to have straight talk with a professional can actually ease a burden. Undiscussed problems of this nature can be quite inflationary in terms of anxtious apprehension so being able to talk about it can begin a change process.

There are two essential steps in dealing with what is know as psychogenic ( stress related ) impotency and to have some ideas and indications as to whether excess stress is the culprit.

Firstly using hypnosis to strengthen your responses to stress we are attempting to make you more robust to non-sexually related stressors. This can mean having better outlets for work and relationship stresses and feeling more in control of your own life.

Secondly hypnotherapy in Newcastle is used to de-couple previous problematic memories and feelings guilt and anxiety that is directly sexually related. Using hypnosis and NLP to create positive ideas and body responses that can reorganise and  straighten out your thoughts so you can relax into the mood you really want to achieve.

Identifying Stress Related Impotence

You will most likely have a very accurate idea of the stress levels in your life – if you are honest with yourself. You will know whether erection problems occur only when you are with a partner or on your own or both.

Additionally you can use Holmes and Rahe’s scale of major Life Events to explore your own ‘subjective’ stress scale day to day measures. When you believe that stress or some psychological basis is causing impotence then hypnotherapy may well be a real solution for you.

When adults enter the later, deeper stages of sleep, REM sleep they get erections. Getting erections in sleep very much suggests stress related erection problems when you are awake. So…

You can do one more personal experiment to see if your impotence has a psychogenic or stress related basis. Take a thin strip of paper or a long cigarette paper using just the adhesive part and fit this to the penis before sleeping.

This should be fitted to wrap around the girth and be loosely affixed. The fixing could be a sliver of sellotape or a dab of Pritstick glue or the natural adhesive gum on a cigarette paper.

The idea is, the ring of paper you have fitted around the girth ( think of a napkin holder ) will open or break if you experience an erection during sleep.  Check if the lightly attached paper has broken during your sleep.

Hypnotherapy in Newcastle for erectile dysfunction and stress related impotence with consultant hypnotherapist Nigel Hetherington. Call now for a free consultation on 0770 481 8467.

Newcastle Hypnotherapy Procrastination – Nigel Hetherington

Hypnotherapy Newcastle for creating positive New Year habits where you can get more done so you can be more successful. Hypnosis in Newcastle 2013 specifically for stopping procrastination. Newcastle hypnotherapy helping you to mind shift into getting your tasks and goals completed.

Procrastination literally means putting off until tomorrow. People procrastinate for a million different reasons  like a lack of energy, not being motivated or a surprise invitation to the cinema. It could even be being overwhelmed by our task to begin with, not knowing how to begin.

Most of us actually do have really valuable and important goals and tasks to complete. They will most likely benefit others as well as ourselves. Newcastle hypnotherapy is one way you can address your procrastination and make positive changes in attaining your goal.

This is a short clip from a Clinical Hypnotherapy training in Newcastle upon Tyne.

We all have task or goals we want to complete. Sometimes for whatever reason these are put off and we do something else instead.

This looks like this : “I want to do ‘X’ but do ‘Y’ instead

Procrastination really only becomes a problem when regular procrastination mounts up and almost nothing gets done. And like most developing habits the longer it goes on, the harder it seems to break the habit.

  • I want to be slimmer but I eat chocolate every night instead
  • I want to complete my study but I watch television instead
  • I want to do public speaking but I shy away instead
  • I want to finish writing my book but I have a cup of tea instead
  • I want to share my views  with my boss but I bite my tongue instead

The premise for this particular technique is acknowledging and valuing each behaviour individually and in its own right. Using physicalised postures for each behaviour and in a hypnotic trance slowly alternating between the two.

Neuro Biology of Procrastination

This is easy to understand on one level. In terms of doing a behaviour the neurotransmitter dopamine plays a big part in motivating us to take action. If we consider the choice between two tasks, simplistically, we will do the one where we are most motivated.

Having a real sense of what will happen positively as a result of you completing your goals and tasks will increase your motivation.

Our frontal cortex also has a role to play here, so it’s not as simple as just dopamine. The frontal cortex helps us choose to put off short term pleasures now in favour of long term pleasures and rewards later on. This is about will-power. The antagonist here is most likely the limbic system which is concerned with much more immediate rewards and pleasures.

So in valuing both behaviours, we could say one more limbic and one more frontal cortex and acknowledging the positive aspects of both actions, the intention is to create a more agreeable balance in what you are doing.

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Hypnotherapy Sunderland Trauma Resolution – Nigel Hetherington

Sunderland Hypnotherapy and Newcastle Hypnotherapy for professional help in dealing with a past trauma and flashbacks that are still impacting very negatively on your life. Hypnosis in Sunderland and Newcastle that can help you de-couple painful and emotionally charged memories so you can let go of psychological pain and move forward unburdened of the past.

I want to define trauma here, in the context of hypnosis for trauma resolution in Sunderland, so let’s call trauma, as being an event from the past that is projected mostly here in the now, causing negative emotions and suffering in the present. Or, again something from the past that occasionally surfaces, creates havoc, and then, recedes into the depths, like a virus, waiting to surface again in the future.

A trauma can take many forms. Trauma can be physical or psychological or both. Trauma resolution using hypnosis can be used to de-couple the negative or unwanted, often prolonged and uncontrollable emotions and feelings associated with a traumatic episode.

A traumatic incident is a major stressor and that means a massive stress response. Our bodies are made to help us survive the kind of life or death experience that we will either survive or we won’t; for most primates its either over or its OVER. Its not the same for most humans.

Stress Response and Trauma

From any immediate environmental danger our bodies will respond appropriately by shutting down our digestion, make our mouths dry and diverting all available energy to our muscles, specifically our running muscles in our legs. Our system will literally tear all available stored energy reserves from our liver and muscles as glucose and fatty acids which are transported in our blood to our working muscles. All in about fifteen seconds.

Before this happens and is registered, we will feel the adrenalin response. With a major stressor within about two seconds our sympathetic nervous system is pouring out both adrenalin and noradrenalin all over the body. This creates the very familiar gut clenching, pant filling fear and at the sharp edge of danger adrenergic  response we are all very familiar with.

Bazoom! A technical term, for all the life saving chemicals creating a stress response in the body that could imprint on our nervous system as a traumatic episode.  Problems begin when we re-experience this same bodily survival experience remembering and feeling emotionally aspects of the episode when it is over and there is no real physical danger; Remembering and feeling aspects often again and again in inappropriate circumstances and this is said to be a trauma re-expreience.

Psychological to Physiological Stressors

The initial imprints of physiological and psychological traumatic experiences will alter the nature of how a memory is stored. Highly stressful situations depress one particular type of memory and enhance another. In a high stress response situation, the body will be drenched in an endogenous hormones known as glucocorticoids.

A stress response will have the limbic system, particularly the amygdala, more energetically activated.

The amygdalae are flighty birds. They sit on a lonely beech, letting the waves wash over them passively. But when you approach, no matter how carefully, they take to the air. The amygdalae send the hypothalamus chemical messengers which in turn activate the ANS, producing more glucocorticoids.

Feeling The Trauma Long After It’s Passed

Recurrence of stron negative emotion or reliving traumatic experiences, long after the actual incident has passed is not uncommon. There may be environmental triggers, internal thoughts or some combination of these that re-activates your memories and unleashes the same chemicals of the ANS and limbic system activation and you re-experience the trauma.

Hypnosis and often Eye Movement Integration can be used together to help you de-couple the negative emotions from the traumatic problem memory.

What A Personal Hypnosis Session Will Be Like

It is important you know that not everyone can be hypnotised. Many people can be hypnotised. The people who can be hypnotised do experience different depths of trance.

If you are a person who can’t be hypnotised there are many other ways to help you de-couple traumatic memories, eye movement integration being one.

If you are expecting baublery you will be disappointed. There won’t be any spinning discs on the ceiling, there won’t be any modified karaoke machines or swinging pocket watches.

It may surprise you but I won’t guarantee or even say that I definitely can help you. This is because that question can only be answered after our initial hypnotic session together. I do find it a little unsettling to read that some hypnotists are claiming they can cure any phobia in minutes or heal any trauma within five sessions.

Prior to any session we will have a phone conversation. This is completely free and can take up to 25 minutes.

Hypnotherapy in Sunderland for trauma resolution. Sunderland and Newcastle hypnosis for trauma relief from professional hypnotherapist Nigel Hetherington. Contact Nigel for help dissolving trauma and flashback using hypnotherapy in Northumberland | Durham | Darlington and Teesside.

 

Hypnotherapy Newcastle Stop Smoking New Year Resolutions – Nigel Hetherington

Hypnosis in Newcastle to stop smoking using hypnotherapy and neuro linguistics. Every New Year huge numbers of people want to stop smoking. Some succeed and some do not. Hypnotherapy to Stop Smoking may be the way for you to succeed and stop smoking using hypnosis in Newcastle.

New Year resolutions to help you stop smoking with professional assistance using clinical hypnotherapy in the North East, Newcastle and easily accessible from Sunderland, Middlesbrough, Durham, Teesside and all of Northumberland to stop smoking using hypnotherapy.

Nicotine Is Massively Addictive – Why It Is Hard To Stop

Nicotine, through smoking, imbibing, is one of the most difficult habits to break free of. It is difficult so stop because when inhaling nicotine, through a bio-chemical process, we activate the Nicotinic receptors, the receptors in the brain that respond to and communicate with Acetylcholine.  Acetylcholine is a neuro-transmitter that is used in the body to move muscles and in the brain to stimulate memory.

Nicotine is an exogenous ( externally administered ) chemical that mimics the Cholenergic, specifically acetylcholine receptors in the nervous system and neurologically ‘feels’ very  good. This is very bad new when you want to quit smoking because when a person smokes there is a large release of nicotine and your neurons love this stuff. They are partying like they have won the lottery and jumping and dancing, stewing in excess excitation and activity.

Unlike cocaine, heroin and most addictive drugs there is practically no loss of identity, no loss of coordination and nicotine is not a huge euphoriant, in other words, when smoking, you will not feel particularly blissful or loved up.

There is no massive come down, a technical term for feeling psychologically and physically fucked the next day where brain neurons are massively down-regulating to a normal way of working. No, there is just the nagging craving for another smoke.

It is also bed news because when the initial flood of nicotine that activates all the nicotine loving receptors recedes, those poor receptors begin screaming for more, more MORE! This is why it is both physically and psychologically difficult to stop for long periods.

But there is good news. After stopping for a little while, just days in-fact, your neurons get back into the swing of normal neurological operation.  And in these few days your brain neurons are plastically beginning to unwire and unconnect the habits that have enslaved you.

Newcastle Hypnotherapy to Stop Smoking

Here are some things you might like to know about what will and equally importantly what wont happen in a session together.

Firstly not every one can be hypnotised. This is a fact and any experienced and honest hypnotherapist will confirm this to you.  I find it a little unsettling when I read statements on other hypnotherapist web sites that say ‘ anyone can be hypnotised’ ‘and you will stop smoking in one session.’ If you cant be hypnotised then there are many other ways you can stop smoking and sometimes it can take several session.

I do not charge an exorbitant fee just for people who are wanting to stop smoking or weight loss for that matter. All of my sessions are the the same price and same duration. The processes I utilise to help you and ways of working together do not necessitate a fee per unique service. To me this would count as a particular immoral cashing in on people, some who can be desperate to make changes. And of course each to their own!

I don’t use baublery in hypnotic sessions. There will be no spinning disks on the ceiling. There is no glorified karaoke machine and ‘special’ soothing music as I regard these as unnecessary gimmicks. I don’t use scripts. Each session is totally unique and as much as possible is a co-created hypnotic space where my objective is for you to really get the changes you have come to make.

There is no one best way to stop smoking for everyone. There is most likely a good way for your personally. Some people can quit there and then in one session. Other people will begin to reduce their smoking perhaps removing one or two cigarettes per day, perhaps only one half a day.

Before we meet and do any hypnosis, you are required to complete a questionnaire and have a telephone conversation with me. This is so our session together can fully concentrate on you making the changes you want. Working with the events and stressors that make you smoke the most, understanding your reasons for quitting.

Additionally you are obligated to refrain from smoking for at least 24 hours before our session together. Why? Simply because I want you to be desperate for a cigarette. I want you to be in the emotional space and deep craving for a smoke so we can work on that sensation that causes many people to have a cigarette. This makes sense because it is the craving you are desperately wanting to dissolve. This way we work directly with the problem state.

Transparent pricing, no extra fee for this ( or weigh loss ) all sessions are £123 for 2 hours. Stop smoking with Newcastle Hypnotherapy in the New Year. Make 2013 Stop Smoking new year resolution much more achievable and realistic with Newcastle Hypnosis. When you know and are committed to stop smoking in Newcastle using hypnotherapy … do something about it.

What You Can Do Next – Hypnosis Stop Smoking Selection

My suggestion is to look at various web sites, contact various hypnotherapist and discover who you feel is the right person to really help you. Nigel Hetherington Clinical Hypnotherapy in Newcastle to Stop Smoking.

Depression Hypnosis Newcastle – Nigel Hetherington

Newcastle hypnosis for depression with Nigel Hetherington offering you ways to stop the feelings of depression which can include emotions like guilt, loss and feeling somehow you deserve to feel this way as well as physical symptoms such as lack of energy and pain. Why consider hypnotherapy Newcastle? Because it is a drug free alternative to lifting depression using hypnosis.

Experiences of Depression

  • Inability to experience pleasure
  • Many or most experiences are negative
  • Feelings of guilt and grief
  • Suicidal thoughts
  • Experienced recently four or more  major life changes
  • Poor sleep patterns

We are all used to hearing the word ‘depression’ in everyday conversation. The word is in very common use and is used to indicate the natural response to loss or probably even more commonly a blue mood. Reactive depression is the perfectly normal response to loss. Loss defined in this way could be a partner, self belief, possessions, health, a job or even freedom. With reactive depression people will usually make full and complete recoveries given enough time and support.

Clinical depression is very different. Clinical depression is defined as two or more weeks of unabating depression symptoms which may be in response to loss as defined above or could be caused by other origins. Clinical depression is characterised by anhedonia and that means the loss of the ability to feel and experience pleasure from friends, eating, sex and even sun-rises.

It is probably almost inconceivable for anyone who has not been or seen someone who is clinically depressed to really get what anhedonia really is but in fact all of the thousands of ways most people have the good emotional texture of life is missing; there is no pleasure to be had at all. And this is what makes clinical depression such a terrible and destructive dis-ease.

In addition to a heavy tax on pleasure there is one more down side. There is a great deal of negative and unpleasurable experiences, thoughts and emotions that adds more and more straws to an already overstressed back.

While a clinically depressed person may look and appear to be quite still and energy-less this can most often be quite far from the truth.  Often ( 50% ) a clinically depressed persons blood work will reveal high levels of glucocorticoids. Glucorcorticiods are endogenous steroid hormones released from the adrenal glands in response to AdrenoCorticoTropic Hormone  ( ACTH ) which is itself released from the pituitary gland in the brain.

The human stress response essentially has two parts. The first is a very rapid, seconds, release of adrenalin and noradrenalin from nerve endings to organs and muscles. The second is the release of hormones into the blood stream that mobilise energy and muscles to save life. This second stage begins around 15 seconds and takes minutes to fully activate. The slower, second stage glucocorticoid part can last for many minutes, hours or even days in the body.

Prolonged exposure to glucocorticoids turns off the immune system, tends to stop sexual reproduction and turns of the rest and repair bio-mechanisms in the body.  If this is not all bad enough, with clinical depression, sufferers tend to give up the ghost and think that no matter what they do they won’t get better and often take on the attitude that no matter what is tried it wont get any better.

If this paints a picture in shades of grey with all the missing vibrancy of life missing then it is pretty accurate but … it’s not all bad news. Research suggests ( Time to recovery, chronicity, and levels of psychopathology in major depression ) that many people make complete recoveries within six months to a year and some within 3 – 6 months when aided with professional help. This is a statistic and faster recovery is possible.

For professional help using hypnotherapy for treating depression in Newcastle, North East England, Durham and Darlington. Lifting the blues without drugs hypnotherapeutic solutions without tricyclics or SSRI’s.

Call Nigel Hetheringon 0770 481 8467  : Newcastle hypnotherapy depression

Hypnotherapy Newcastle Addiction Treatment – Nigel Hetherington

Newcastle hypnotherapy for addiction treatment in Northumberland, Hexham and the North East of England. Help to stop smoking using hypnosis and NLP in Newcastle and additionally stop problematic addiction hypnotherapy for pornography, gambling and addictive drug use in Newcastle with hypnosis.

In September 2012 I was invited to discuss hypnotherapy in treating stop smoking for a local radio station as part of a discussion relating to the Stoptober 28 day challenge the UK government is promoting this October.

Within minutes of arriving at the radio station I was asked if I would work with one of the team to help them stop smoking. Pretty predictable for a story right? I immediately said YES, providing the person really wants to stop smoking and is honestly committed to quitting. Anything less is a waste of two peoples time.

Wanting to stop any drug addiction requires two essential elements; One an honest desire to stop and two, discovering genuinely meaningful reasons to stop. More on this in a few paragraphs …

The process of addiction is practically always like this. A person tries some behaviour like smoking, internet pornography, cocaine, gambling or buying shoes and discovers they both like and want to do it again.  Over time the behaviour becomes a part of that persons ‘normal’ repertoire of behaviours.

Liking and wanting are two different kinds of desire and crucially when wanting to stop an addiction a person wants, that is the addiction,  but does not like their behaviour. Now here is the kicker and of course some may well disagree.

An addiction is only a problem when the addict goes through cycles of, lets call it drug abuse, when they want to partake and afterwards hate themselves for having partaken. They love it when they are ‘high’ on spending, arguing, snorting or eating to excess AND THEN the down cycle is self loathing, disgust or promising to whatever deity is available at the time that it will never happen again … and then the cycle begins again.

If there is a cycle of ‘never again’ but again comes, then there is a problem. A problem of the psyche and problem in behaviour. This is the time to request professional assistance in stopping.

How An Addiction Is Created

It’s simple,  you do or try something you like or equally do something that displaces a stress response, like going to the gym, having a pint or smoking something.  Do it enough and BAM you have created a dopaminergic ‘reward’ for some behaviour. Reward is largely encouraged by the dopamine mesolimbic pathway ‘I want or can do this’  and satiation by a whole load of endorphins in the ‘that was good’ pleasure response brain pathway.

With repetition of an, in this case, addictive behaviour, there is a protein called DeltaFosB which builds up and remains long after the problematic behaviour. And this protein massively increases the desire for addiction and for a period of time, a long period, remains and alters basic genetics, promoting the problematic behaviour. The more you do a behaviour, the more DeltaFosB builds up and perpetuates a viscous cycle of addiction.

It works both ways. Good and health promoting behaviours like running or going to the gym or learning cool new things also promote a build up of DeltaFosB and in this way our bodies really don’t know the difference between good practice and potentially damaging practices. It comes down to a realisation of how we want to live our lives and the behaviours we choose or become addicted to.

There are two pleasure components Desire and Satisfaction, that’s wanting it and Yum, got it. The first is a drive to do a behaviour and the second is a ‘reward’ for having done the behaviour.

In terms of addiction, with increased exposure to something pleasurable we will very naturally want more. This is akin to the more of something that feels good, or equally calms a stress response, and very importantly as a result we cognitively know this is good, we derive a huge benefit that is long term and supports our life well. Here is the obverse.

In drug addiction increased exposure leads to tolerance and then means a person needs more of the drug to get the same affects, this is done by way of down regulation of the neuronal synapses and equates to a need more to get the same feeling. Additionally there is an increased sense of wanting more as it seems to make life better, but long term it does not.

Right, So How I Choose Who I Work With

OK, remember the radio station? The person in question who ‘wanted’ to stop was offered by the radio presenter as a candidate. This is a potential RED FLAG for me because they did not seek this for themselves.  I usually reject second hand requests for help in any form of therapy, why? Because it is someone else’s ideas of what another person needs.  So I asked a few questions as to why they wanted to quit. Their answers were kind of OK, BUT, I was really unsure so … Here is what I did.

I did the same structured interview as I do with any potential client. Have them return a questionnaire and arrange a call to check commitment to make a positive change. My email requests all clients to book, that means pay, in advance having has a conversation to determine, amongst other things a potential clients desire to make changes in their life.

I received a call from the radio presenter, not the client,  ( Another RED FLAG ) querying the request for payment. “I thought it was for free?” “No, I replied I do not provide a service for free, there has to be a psychological buy in for change”.

I hope you understand there is a very real equation in that change has a value. Now this potential client, a person who is on a substantial wage, described themselves as a ‘guinea pig’ for a stop smoking treatment. This description of themselves felt very wrong. Imagine describing yourself as a guinea pig?

Said radio presenter said that their company had no budget for this and assumed my services were for free. I invited the potential client to pay for it themselves. A relatively small cos, £123,  for a life change on 20+ cigarettes per day.  I have heard nothing back.

This to me indicates no real desire or investment in stopping smoking. This is not the kind of client I am interested to help stop smoking with hypnotherapy in Newcastle because primarily they have no demonstrable desire to stop, it was just a story for the radio station. Incidentally my interview has not been used.

NHS Stop smoking website : Stop Smoking Hypnotherapy Nigel Hetherington in Newcastle upon Tyne and Northumberland

When YOU want to stop smoking get in touch and make a commitment to your future so you can be free from a legally available drug that our government legitimises by a huge income in taxes that in monitory terms provides a government income which outways, by a large extent, the hospital costs for people with smoking related diseases.

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Stress Hypnosis Newcastle – Nigel Hetherington

We all know a little stress or more accurately pressure can be a good thing but when there is regular excess stress on our life we suffer and our quality of life declines. You can use Newcastle Hypnosis for stress reduction and a calmer attitude to life.

The Inappropriate Stress Response

Of all the species on our planet there are only a very select few that can have a completely inappropriate stress response. What is an inappropriate stress response you may be asking?

The human stress response consists of a very rapid mobilisation of energy, glucose that is ‘designed’ to save your life from a life or death episode. At the same time energy storage is stopped adrenalin and noradrenalin are secreted from the nerve endings of the sympathetic nervous system and glucocorticoids from your adrenal glands on top of your kidneys as all hell breaks loose.

Your heart beats faster, your pupils dilate, your blood pressure increases, your interest in sex is gone you could outrun a charging rhinoceros or at least you are all geared up to do some such escape. This is the problem with stress and way to much of it. For most of us we will not be running from elephants tigers or bears and in no way will our life be in any real danger.

The inappropriate stress response is the mobilisation of all the glucose you require to escape a charging raptor when your boss ask you to work late or you are in a traffic jam or you are worried about that meeting presentation you have to do next week.

Regular and repeated activation of your stress response is not good news for your long term health. Remember the stress response is ‘designed’ to save your life. It is a costly process. In a bout of stress the immune responses are put on hold. You don’t need them if you are going to be eaten by a pack of hungry lions.

The hormones / neurotransmitters adrenaline and noradrenaline take mere seconds to activate in the body. Glucocorticoids take minutes to act and stay in the system much longer. With repeated stress responses to the likes of bosses, exams, anxiety or public speaking the glucocorticoid hormones in the body may be on high alert for a long time, days, weeks perhaps even longer.

There have been links established between depression and high levels of glucocorticoids as well as links between anxiety and noradrenalin and adrenalin. With anxiety, depression and hypertension being some of the top diseases being overly stressed can make more likely, here are a few more :

  • Heart Disease
  • Atherosclerosis
  • Irritable Bowel Symptom
  • Ulcers
  • Type 2 Diabetes
  • Acid Reflux
  • Immune Suppression
  • Disturbed Sleep

But it is not all bad news. You can right now take steps to alleviate a completely over board stress responses which could right now begin to extend your life. The simplest and one of the best things an individual can do is take up meditation. Learning to meditate for just 10 minutes in the morning and evening will be paying you back wonders in a very short time.

Moderate exercise is also considered to be very good in managing an over active stress response and in an of itself being good for your body and immune system. I recommend joining a gym and or personal trainer for a weight lifting routine.

There are several well documented outlets and conversely inlets for out of proportions stress responses, how our bodies respond to stressors in life.  It is particularly interesting that all of these outlets / inlets are in your control, especially the ones relating to perceptions.

Professor Sir Michael Marmot over a 40 year period followed some 28,000 British civil servants. He followed their health from top manager executives to billy the tea boy.  A similar study by Professor Robert Sapolsky on Baboons over decades show similar predictors for high stress. Is this you?

  • Little social support
  • Low perceived control in life
  • Few outlets for your frustrations
  • Unpredictable environment

For help dealing with the psychological aspects of stress using hypnosis and nlp you can call in confidence for a free consultation. Get help for anxiety worry and inappropriate stress hypnotherapy Newcastle from Nigel Hetherington.

Anxiety And Your Attention – Nigel Hetherington

Anxiety is a feeling and emotion that indicates to the sufferer that everything is not right. Being overly anxious will drain and deplete energy and to excess can cause illness and wear the immune system away. Hypnosis Newcastle is an affective way for people to learn to change the feeling of unease in a variety of situations. Anxious people are not anxious all of the time, attention is not always directed at anxiety and Newcastle hypnotherapy can teach you ways to direct your attention on what is more important.

In order to know you are anxious your attention must be directed to consciously recognising the feeling and then consciously labelling or naming the physiological feelings that you call anxiety. Anxiety by definition is felt in the now and is directed to events and situations that are in the immediate or long term future but, the feeling is in the now and so it steals attention.

Anxiety is about uncertainty and the more anxious you are, the more you do it the more neurological responses you will have anticipating anxiety.

What You Have Learned To Expect = Dopamine

Dopamine is the neuro-transmitter that is largely responsible for for motivation to get you to a particular response. Dopamine is not discriminatory between a desired or undesired response … it is basically a motivator. Did you know, like any addiction your body can crave a stress response? The more unsurity about a ‘known’ reponse, the more dopamine. Anxiety is all about unsurity.

We can only have conscious appreciation of our state, in this instance anxiety, by registering and then labelling this emotion linguistically and in comparison to our past experiences. Our emotional or limbic brain, particularly the pituitary gland, stress hormones and amygdala are key neurological players here. The more worry, the more reactive response the bigger the snowball effect.

Anxiety is a form of anticipation. Anticipation can be positive or negative and what comes next should surprise you; both negatively and positively.

There is research that conclusively proves that having mastered one kind of experience, when you anticipate it again in the same kind of environment and situation when the words maybe or could be, that is when it is a 50% likely hood you are massively more likely to experience just that. Now this has a huge affect on your dopamine production. And it is dopamine that is your motivation to draw you to a specific experience. This is shown in the graph above.

Individual triggers for anxiety responses do naturally vary from person to person and will include two distinct categories of ‘behaviour’. These two categories can be conceptualised as a reactive responsive or meta-response to feelings labelled as anxiety and proactive behaviours that can generate the anxiety feelings in the first instance. Both types of response have a huge amount influence based on where an individual learns to put their attention.

Reactive behaviours to anxiety are the ways of thinking, behaving and worrying about anxiety that is already being experienced and then will logically create the next consequences that are being predicted as almost inevitable. This is a reaction to stimulus and with practice and dedication can be greatly diminished because people can, with practice and guidance learn new ways to respond.

Proactive behaviours to create anxiety are like cognitive exercises, such as worrying ahead of time, taking to yourself in rapid and unfinished sentences and hyperventilating that can all activate the reactive response that activates the sympathetic nervous system, speeds up the heart, releases glucocorticoids, adrenaline and gives that all too familiar body response that we call anxiety.

Anxiety can be pretty much summed up as a neuro-physiological stress response that is completely out of proportion and inappropriate response relevant to what is actually happening in the moment. For example imagine a person that is anxious about public speaking and is in one moment speaking publically, any anxiety response in that moment of public speaking is not about public speaking.

Anxiety is the thief of attention. It is a very much learned response and because we are, as a species, extremely good at learning once you have that pattern it can be the first and easy approach to a variety of situations. But being very good at learning, with some determination, practice and focus of your attention you can learn to have a very different and much more appropriate response.

OK so What Can You Do?

It is very simple but not necessarily very easy because making lasting changes and incorporating them into a life style that is salubrious ( look that word up ) will take some more effort on your behalf. And it is very worth your while.

I work with a great deal of clients who’s lives are so demanding they come home from work from massively stressed jobs and quite literally switch off from themselves, their partners, their friends and children. I also work with people who are seriously anxious about their relationships at home and at work so how they are with people and upcoming situations. Here is what you can do.

  1. In stead of knowing and anticipating anxiety, consider you maybe ( 50 % ) wrong about anxiety and that upcoming situation will be more or less OK.
  2. If the worst comes to the worst … acknowledge it and consider what you can do instead.
  3. Take up a regular exercise like running, weight lifting or meditation; and notice over a week and a month having done this how much more able you are managing.
  4. Notice when you are talking to yourself and stop! Put your attention outwards and be present. This does take practice and the paybacks are massive. This is a very much get out of your own head routine.
  5. Do some proactive relaxation. Lots of FREE hypnosis audio’s here.

So if none of these suggestions are for you, you do want to learn to stop anxiety and be more relaxed and present in your day to day situations then consider professional hypnotherapy Newcastle. Not expecting a one session turn around for 20 years of anxiety and making a commitment to change with Newcastle hypnosis with Nigel Hetherington can help you to to learn much better ways for coping with day to day anxiety triggers and stressors. Hypnosis in Jesmond and now Newcastle City Centre at week day lunch times. Anxiety? Act Hypnosis Newcastle solutions.

 

Hypnotherapy Newcastle for Weigh Loss – Nigel Hetherington

Stress, comfort eating, comfort drinking add up over time to overweight, unhappy and potentially unhealthy people. Hypnotherapy Newcastle offers alternative ways to help you change habits of overeating and excess alcohol and manage the stress in your life. Newcastle hypnotherapy for weigh loss can help you create better ways to cope with stress and lose weight. Hypnotherapy is not a magic fix this requires a real and genuine commitment to make changes.

Comfort Eating Is Weight Addition

We have all heard the term comfort eating but what does it actually mean. Well for once the term is quite self explanatory. Eating brings comfort, so we can safely assume that life is uncomfortable or stressful to the extent that people eat sugary, biscuity, chrispy food substitutes to make themselves feel better. The interesting thing is that this actually works to produce a rather short term feeling of comfort.

Research shows that two thirds of people who are seriously stressed turn to food, eating more than average ( hyperphagic ) to bring some comfort into their lives. The other one third eat less that average ( hypophagic ).

The vast majority of overweight people are overweight because of what they eat and their physical activity or lack of it. A small percentage of people are overweight due to biological / genetic predisposition but this is a very small percentage. The former can then be said to be overweight due to the situations and behaviours that drive overeating and excess sugary drinks. These are explored below.

Now, imagine you are one of these over eaters, eating more than the calories you require each day as a way to cope with stress. Your body will cleverly be storing these extra energy reserves for your future in fat cells, saving them for a rainy day or some hyper stress response or even some heavy exercise. Keep on depositing excess calories in your account of energy reserves and you will keep growing and growing while you keep getting fatter and fatter.

Now imagine that you are using alcohol or some sugary drink in excess. Even more calories, even more deposits into the growing energy bank. Drink too much to ease the stresses of life and you are potentially damaging your memory and ability to learn new things. One bottle of wine each night is equivalent in terms of calories to 12 fried fish fingers, yummy. That can be close to 700 calories from booze alone.

Alcohol also slows your metabolism down so you are using up less calories while you are putting more into the calorie bank by consuming excess. That is putting more in than you are using. For example lets say one glass or red wine is 230 calories playing basket ball for around 45 minutes would use this up.

Of course the above three paragraphs tend to paint a rather grim picture of ways people get overweight by having not so good coping mechanisms of dealing with stress. Though, if this is you, some life style changes can help you lose some weight and deal with stress in a better, healthier way. Newcastle hypnotherapy can help you alter your attitude to eating and exercise and can also, even more importantly help you deal with the causes of overindulging.

Yo Yo Dieting – The ‘G’ Spot factor : An analogy

Another night in; another pizza followed by a bag of maltezers all washed down with some fizzy drink made largely from corn syrup. Short term it even feels good.  The following morning you wake up a bit tired, look in the mirror and the slim lithe and muscular figure of your early years has deserted you and looking at yourself this way, thinking about cholesterol and furring arteries you decide it is high time to take stock of your life now so you live longer and have a much better future.

With the best intention in the world you are going to enter into a new era of your life with much better eating habits and you are even considering exercising too. You are imagining getting into your old clothes without a shoe horn or better yet some new clothes that will make you look and feel great. Excellent!

You leave for work, arrive at work … The day continues …

The Guilt ( G ) Spot is where after promising yourself, your friends and even sometimes god you will never eat another cup cake covered in sprinkles you do and then you do it again. After a good bout of porcine grazing you hate yourself and you are all ready to start again.

Weigh Loss : The Parasympathetic System

A very well known hypnotherapist claims they worked with weight loss and did nothing other that do relaxation over 10 one hour sessions and their clients got excellent results. What was going on and how can you help yourself to lose weight without seeing a hypnotherapist? Just relaxation for one hour is activating your rest and digest body systems. This is called the parasympathetic system and this activates in an absence of stress.

A very good reason for why many people that are overweight is how they cope with excess stress. Remember about 2/3 of people who are stressed are hyperphagic that means they eat more calories than they require. And many of these foods eaten or even the act of eating does reduce stress temporarily.

First step is to make an unbreakable commitment to take just 30 minutes per day for a month to meditate or listen to some hypnosis relaxation. When you really want to do this but again and again you slip back into eating and drinking to excess it is time to think about seeing a professional for help.

If you are already saying I don’t have time for 30 minutes each day, think again.

For professional hypnotherapy in Newcastle for weight loss and dealing with stress contact Nigel Hetherington on 0770 481 8467 or email as described in Booking A Therapy Session for Newcastle Hypnotherapy.

Hypnotherapy for Stress Newcastle – Nigel Hetherington

Hypnotherapy in Newcastle and Northumberland to help you remove more of the stress and worry from your life. People characterised as Type A personality are more likely to suffer heart attacks because of their response to stressors and  way overly responsive stress response to every day issues. Newcastle hypnotherapy for stress may help you live a longer and healthier life.

Watch Dr Robert Sapolsky exploring some issues around Type A personality and stress response. Type A personality have these kinds of characteristics : Feeling time pressure,  impatient, boiling on the inside while seeming cool to others, regimented and rigid organisation, joyless and hostile to others.

Hypnosis like meditation will activate the para-sympathetic nervous system helping to counteract the effects of over active stress responses. Newcastle stress hypnotherapy because learning to relax much more could extend your life by lowering stress hormones in your body.

Newcastle Hypnotherapy : Fear of Public Speaking – Nigel Hetherington

Hypnotherapy Newcastle can be used to overcome public speaking fear with hypnotherapy so you can feel more confident and reorganise to change learned responses to public presentation. A fear of public presentation is a very common stress response and hypnosis is a particularly affective method to overcome a variety of stress responses.

Excess stress is known to cause heart damage and suppress the immune system. So having regular stress responses that are completely out of proportion to the actual situation are inappropriate and potentially harmful. Using hypnosis Newcastle you will be changing how you respond to perceived threat, stress situations as in public speaking or public presentation. The situation won’t change but your response will change so you can get on with presenting congruently.

For many people the fear of public speaking can cause the same kind of physiological response as a life or death situation. Public speaking or giving a presentation is a genuine bread and butter skill that today perhaps now more than ever is essential in bringing the kind of prosperity into you life that you want. Why is public speaking an essential skill?

It is because in practically all walks of life we as professional managers, directors, team leaders as being top class communicators in order to effect selling our ideas and meaningful values. And to do this we MUST be seen to be absolutely congruent.

In order to pitch and affectively communicate your ideas and beliefs to foster and create supporters in business you must be completely congruent. Congruent is the genuine felt sense of you walking your talk and knowing deeply the truth in the messages you are sending out.

Now imagine you do feel and connect deeply with your message BUT you begin to second guess your audience, you are talking to your self on the inside, reflecting on how you are being received whilst you are delivering your presentation, you begin to think the worst … your non-verbal communication leaks out those negative self thoughts and your presentation is not well received.

If you are preforming in a less than optimal and incongruent way OF COURSE your audience will detect this. And they will detect this on several levels of consciousness. Paul Ekman has a globally acknowledged body of research on what is called micro-signals or micro-expression leakage.

To summarise you need to be able to

  • Affectively communicate your values.
  • Influence others and sell your ideas.
  • Perform with confidence and fluency.

Lions Tigers & Bears – The Fear Public Speaking

a natural danger and stress response from an immediate life threatening situation such as an encounter with a lion, tiger or bear will activate your sympathetic nervous system in the following way.

Sensory information from our eyes and ears and possibly touch will be relayed to the information exchange centre of the human brain, the thalamus. This mixed mode of sensory information is then passed through the reticular formation, a small but complex nucleus in the brain stem and on to the amygdala, where fear emotions are heavily processed.  Following on from this the nerve impulses are shunted, very rapidly to the hypothalamus.

Hypothalamic – Pituitary – Adrenal Axis ( HPA )

The HPA can be understood as the stress response pathway. The hypothalamus is the gateway to our bodies homoeostasis system. This means the ways our bodies keep in balance within the system of life. In a life or death situation the hypothalamus mediates some bodily function. So in a potential life threatening situation the hypothalamus begins releasing CRH which in turn causes the anterior pituitary to release ACHT beginning a sympathetic nervous system response.

So all of this neuro transmitter and hormone release in the CNS and PNS now activate the endocrine system which activates the sympathetic nervous system and prepares the flight or fight response. The result of this is the adrenal endocrine release of catecholamines such as  epinephrine ( adrenaline ) and dopamine and the glucocorticoid cortisol. When the flight or fight response is activates we experience the following physiological shifts:

  • Suppression of the immune system.
  • Adrenal response.
  • Pupil dilation.
  • Vasoconstriction.
  • Increased hear rate.

So, clearly a stress response like that described above is completely out of proportion to the situation. The great majority of public presentations will no be life threatening at all. If you will like to change a mild or major stress response to public speaking get in touch to discover how hypnotherapy Newcastle can help you with public speaking.

 

Newcastle Hypnotherapy Treating Addiction ~ Nigel Hetherington

Newcastle Hypnotherapy to help you beat addiction because at one time in your life you weren’t addicted. You learned addiction. Hypnotherapy in Newcastle can help you unlearn the old habits you desperately need to change.

Addictive behaviours can be understood as the regular use of drugs like, alcohol, cannabis, cocaine, heroin, tobacco and chocolate. They can also be behavioural such as gambling, sex, pornography or running up huge credit card bills. Hypnotherapy Newcastle with Nigel Hetherington can help you change.

You know that true addictions are really hard to overcome. This is because an addiction has become an deeply ingrained habit that is both controlled and rewarded through powerful chemicals in our body and brain.

It’s not all bad news, the very neuro-plasticity that formed these ‘brain-maps’ of problematic behaviour can help addicts unlearn them and equally as important learn and adopt new more beneficial behaviours. It is possible for you to discover a new path and lead a much more rewarding and fulfilling life.

Why is it so very difficult to stop Addictive Behaviours?

All addictive behaviours are know to involve a part of the brain called the nucleus accumbens located in the basal ganglia in the telencephalon; all parts of the forebrain.

The nucleus accumbens is a neuron cluster on a primary dopamine pathway. Dopamine is a neurotransmitter and in addictions is massively responsible for the very active and attentive seeking, finding and DOING of an addictive behaviour. Think of dopamine as the ‘I WANT IT’ part of the problem behaviour. Dopamine can be thought of as motivating you to do it.

Following on from the addictive activity our brains then release serotonin which gives us that feeling of satisfaction or satiatedness. Think of serotonin as the ‘REWARD’ part of the problem which is the pleasure you feel when you have done the addictive behaviour or drug. Of course with drugs there are other chemical involved too but thinking in terms of  motivation / desire and reward / pleasure we can say it is a dopamine and serotonin combo.

The dopamine and serotonin combo is a perfectly normal cycle for example in keeping us alive and well. Looking for food, watching a sunrise, eating a meal with our friends and loved ones will have the combo activated in a normally functioning human body.

By regularly using drugs, stimulants or suppressants our brain cells actually change shape, function differently and down regulate the affects of drugs and addictive behaviours so that using them again requires more and more. In short our brains although they can respond to drugs and addictive behaviours in initially incredibly pleasurable ways, really don’t like working in those ways.

Because addictive behaviours are driven and rewarded from our internal chemistry. Even when we logically know they are not good for us we still do them. They are pleasurable in the short term and can be regarded as both coping mechanisms that help us deal with undesirable emotions and because they are deeply ingrained habits.

How can Newcastle Hypnosis help me beat my addiction?

Addictions will seem to be firstly physiological or psychological. There appears to be really no difference as to how this is experienced in the brain. The second is addictions at least initially were used to feel a certain way. For example alcohol or ecstasy will be used to feel good or socially confident or even to remove shyness. Heavy use of these drugs often has the opposite effect although initially users will still feel good. And that kind of appetite for the effect is often at the expense of feeling very different after the drug wears off.

As someone who really wants or needs to change addictive habits or behaviours you do require a commitment to the process. For example, being a cocaine addict for 15 years and hoping you will miraculously be cured in one session is probably pretty unrealistic. Sometimes really long term addictions are helped in one session but this is unusual. After our first session you are expected to do any assigned tasks and provide honest feedback to me at our agreed time. We plan any required follow up sessions based on our work and interaction together.

Newcastle hypnotherapy with Nigel Hetherington to help you become free of problematic addictions and addictive behaviours that you want to and need to change.

Depression Hypnotherapy Newcastle – Nigel Hetherington

Depression can be split into two basic kinds of classification, these being reactive depression and unipolar or Clinical depression. Newcastle hypnotherapy with Nigel Hetherington can help you come to terms and move forwards in life from both reactive and clinical depression.

When people have depression many will make a return to a normal life and usual temperament on their own. Other times sufferers of depression require help in moving forwards. Help can come in various forms like medication, active exercise or talk therapies such as Newcastle hypnotherapy or CBT.

Dr. Lewis Baxter and Dr. Arthur Brody from U.C.L.A have independently shown that patients overall recovery, neurochemistry and reduction of high frontal cortex activity undergo similar changes irrespective of whether the treatment is antidepressant drugs or talk therapy such as CBT or Newcastle hypnosis.

As human beings we are emotionally wired to form attachments and bonds. Reactive depression occurs when we experience some form of loss. Loss can be the loss of a loved one when a relationship ends or a person we deeply care about dies. Loss can also be the loss of objects, like a house or car or other valued possession. We can also experience reactive depression when we feel a loss of a concept, idea or trust.

Clinical ( unipolar ) depression is regarded as a neurological disorder characterised by an imbalance of neurotransmitters in the brain and often heightened prefrontal cortex activity. Similar mechanisms seem to underlie both types of depression so treatments such as exercise and hypnotherapy Newcastle can be particularly effective ways to end the tyranny of depression in the sufferer.

In reactive depression people often transition through the loss bereavement or grief cycle defined by Kubler Ross where depression is the forth stage in the sequence. Coming out of depression people will have a general return to their general temperament start living and laughing again. When an individual does not exit the fourth stage of active depression an individual may transition into clinical depression.

Sufferers of clinical depression have prolonged and intense mood disorders, are prone to self loathing and even suicidal thoughts. Often described as a blackness of experience and disconnection from others and life. Physical pain can also be part of this dark abyss.

Many people recover and come out of depression themselves. For others coming out from depression requires professional assistance. There are many options for you to explore to assist you in your recovery from depression. Talk therapies such as Hypnotherapy, psychotherapy or CBT has been shown to be at least as effective as antidepressant drugs.

 

 

Newcastle Hypnotherapy And Neuroplasticity – Nigel Hetherington

Neuroplasticity is the term to describe how our brains at the neuronal level can plastically, physically rewire to create new behaviours and attitudes. Hypnotherapy is one proven method to facilitate personal change at the neuronal and behavioural level. Hypnotherapy Newcastle works from a fundamental principle that people can and do change both behaviourally and attitudinally.

At one time it was thought that the neurological functions of the brain, for example hearing, spatial awareness or attention are hardwired to a certain locations within the brain. This brain model of function specific areas of the brain is known as localisationism and was the model adopted by the early neuroscientists of the 19th century. Our modern neuroscience has shown that our brains and our behaviours are almost always changeable. This is witnessed in many cases where there has been brain damage or some brain pathology and functionality has been restored, undiminished or partially returned.

Many clients turn to Newcastle Hypnotherapy to make changes in problematic behaviours and attitudes they have had for a long time, sometimes several years. Now researchers are making links between the brain wave frequency of dreaming ( alpha ) and REM ( theta ) sleep, and the laying down of long term memory and learning. Brain scans of people who are in a state of hypnosis show their brain activity frequency to often be in the alpha and theta states.

Repetition and motivation are two key ingredients in learning any new skill, behaviour or attitude. After all no one was born anxious, depressed or over weight, these, let’s call them qualities, were learned over time. Such ‘qualities’ in Newcastle hypnotherapy can be unlearned, that is replaced with some other preferential behaviours. And in hypnosis, time is plastic, one minute of hypnosis time can be like 10 minutes, 30 minutes or an hour of real time. We know this from both our own dreams and our own experiences of time distortion. So in hypnosis, practice and rehearsal time is plastic.

Through hypnosis we are quite literally creating new mind maps of neurons that will perform and run the more desirable behaviours. The principle being that the old behaviour was at the neuronal and behavioural level the ‘best’ mind map of neurons to fire in the ‘problem situation’.

Old behaviours ( or neuronal maps ) can be thought of like a familiar route through a forest. By walking the same route, you become more and more familiar with it. Sure you will not always step in exactly the same place sometimes you will veer off the track a bit. But walk that old route enough times and you will leave a groove. Well that is like how your brain works with behaviours, good or bad. The good news is like changing your route, with some practice and motivation you can learn complementary and completely new ones with new perspectives leading you to new places.

Trauma And Intrusive Memories Hypnotherapy Newcastle

One of the most effective and content free ways I know to assist clients over and through a personal trauma and / or  intrusive memories is Eye Movement Integration ( EMI ). EMI is developed by Steve and Connirae Andreas.

Content free, very simply means, your clients, my clients don’t need to discuss ( talk about ) and re-live a seriously traumatic episode for you to assist them in making deep psychological and neurological change. Most client’s don’t want to share the intimate and painful details of a trauma, having to re-live it day in day out is enough.

This is a short video of me teaching aspects of EMI on one of my NLP Practitioner trainings. EMI is as far as I am concerned one of the most important tools in the toolbox of a professional change worker. I run regular workshops in EMI for change professionals.

If you want to see EMI in action with a real participant check out this link.

 

Anxiety Hypnotherapy Newcastle – Nigel Hetherington

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Anxiety really can be a terrible and consuming thing to experience. Another word for anxiety is WORRY. Newcastle Hypnotherapy with Nigel Hetherington can be a real solution for you.

Anxiety will often reduce your capacity to respond as well as act in the ways you truly want to experience life. Another word for anxiety is worry. Worrying about how things can go wrong or how events can all turn out bad. How would it be when you can set yourself free?

Anxiety or worry is not a disease, it is not a pathology. Many so called counsellors or therapists would have you believe this. This is not true.

Anxiety its a way, a learned way of thinking about the future. Think about this, no one as far as I know was born anxious, it was a learned behaviour. This learned behaviour is all about how to cope and deal with physical / emotional feelings.

Anxiety is a behaviour, it is not a pathology and as such does not need to be suppressed with medication. This means there is no physical disease associated with anxious behaviour. There is of course neurological activity ( ways of thinking ) that are associated with anxiety. You don’t require drugs or medication to change thought patterns. At best drugs will suppress anxiety, they will likely suppress other things too.

If anxiety is really is screwing up your life, you are worrying and worrying and as a result suffering … I can most likely help you change your behaviour. I can assist you in turning your though patterns around. The purpose being to stop worrying and start living a more satisfying and meaningful life.

Cyclic negative, anxiety producing thought patterns tend to go like this.

“What if … but then what, if I don’t … and then What if … but what if …”

So the real key here is to STOP that thought pattern and engage in a better one right …

People who behave anxiously are never anxious about some general things. You are anxious about something specific and worst of all it has not happened. Anxiety is all about thinking about the future and creating, almost always, the worst possible outcome for yourself and others. Think about it, how could it be different if you started habitually thinking about better outcomes in the future?

Newcastle Hypnotherapy for Anxiety combines NLP, Hypnosis and Humour in a way that will really help you move through your old thought patterns and into a whole new way of thinking.

If you have tried counselling and it really hasn’t worked after lots of session and you are totally committed to making the changes in your life you honestly want … act now …

For a completely confidential and solution orientated approach for you to help getting yourself out of anxiety and worry and Getting on with your life, contact me right away, [ after all being anxious and a worrier what’s the worst that can happen 😉 ] call now.

nigel@nigelhetherington .co .uk

0770 481 8467

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Hypnotherapy Depression Newcastle

Great Depression

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An interesting article from the BBC website 7th April is suggesting that there is currently a fuelled rise in depression in England that is caused by money worries. Depression is on the rise and if you had shares in it or the related drug indistries you would be doing well. I will offer some information, as a professional hypnotherapist, on what sufferers can do now to help yourself.

Depression can be described as a very generalist way of worrying about or ‘coping’ with problems. There is a tendency to be thinking about the past and with this reliving the most painful memories, either emotional or physical. People exhibiting ‘depression’ may seem a little withdrawn from the outside work and feel they are powerless to make positive changes in their life.

One of the major researchers into the field of depression, Martin Seligman, has described depression as “Learned Pessimism.” Seligman is describing a way of thinking, which really means the way in which we have learned to experience the world. The way we think can make us have a bias to being either a pessimist or an optimist. A depressive has learned to behave in such a ways that is described as learned helplessness. What is extremely important here is it is very possible to learn to think in different ways.

Seeking professional help can be a very good option, if you get a change consultant who will stay outcome or solution orientated. It can also cause more problems and reinforce depression if the counsellor invites their client into discovering child hood issues, raking up the past and finding the cause of the depression.

The change process is far more likely to aid someone suffering from depression if the change consultant is geared towards and directed to specific solutions with an emphasis in the future. And facilitating different strategies or ways to think that will promote a learned optimism style of how to cope differently.

There are statically many more people depressed now than one hundred years ago. It can be a depressing thought that at any time over 25% of people in America would fit the description of depression. In many but not all cases I don’t believe medications and drugs are the answer. Why? Because they do not change thinking patterns and they do not help depressives adopt new strategies to become more able to adapt and thrive in life’s problematic situations.

Some good news is research shows that one year on from a diagnosis of a major depressive episode 20% of people will be better and still have some symptoms and 40% of people are fully recuperated with no signs of depression.

What you can do to help yourself:

  • Exercise. Go for a 15 minute run. Research shows that a 15 minute run can stop depression for 8 hours.
  • Laugh. Go to comedy shows, watch very funny videos, hang out with people who laugh lots.
  • Pay attention to specific things that are working in your life and celebrate them.
  • Each morning make a list of three things your are looking forward to this day.
  • Each evening make a list of three things you are looking forward to the following week.

For completely confidential and solution orientated help getting yourself out of depression and Getting on with your life, contact me

nigel@nigelhetherington .co .uk

0770 481 8467

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Hypnotherapy For Guilt And Shame

Guilt and shame are two emotions that can cause suffering and stop you leading a full life. Both of these emotions are about not living up to values. These values can be your own or other peoples. Values are the kinds of experiences and behaviours that are important to both ourselves and to others.

If your behaviour or lack of it, in some way disrespects another persons values, you may well feel shame. Shame can also be imposed on you by another, such as by their public disapproval of your actions or even of you.

Guilt is about your response to how you are living up to and in accordance with your own values. How you behave or do not behave in relation to your own values can create the emotion we call guilt.

Both guilt and shame are emotions that are firmly located in the past. Guilt and shame are about past events and because there has been some perceived transgression of values, for some, those memories are replayed again and again and so can go on generate more guilt or shame.

Hypnotherapy and NLP can be very successfully used to stop most people feeling these negative emotions, for a specific event, in just one session. What is even more important to do after the feeling of guilt or shame is gone, is to re-evaluate the event and create strategies so that in any future situations that are similar, you will act much more in line with the values you want to honour.

For completely compassionate, confidential and non judgemental help dealing with Guilt and Shame and Getting on with your life

Contact Nigel Hetherington

nigel@nigelhetherington .co .uk

0770 481 8467

Provocative Therapy and Coaching Workshop

I am hosting a workshop with my good friend Phil Jeremiah for coaches, hypnotherapists, therapists and change workers in Newcastle.

Humour can help to break old patterns and establish new ones

So many research papers and books tell us of the positive effects of laughter. Apparently 20 minutes of laughter is equivalent to 20 minutes of physical activity, likened to an inner form of jogging. It may well act as a buffer against day to day stressful perceptions. However, laughter is not easy to come by in our mixed up fear driven world. Consequently Thought Provoking Dialogue sets out to challenge our sometimes negative mind-sets and self-limiting beliefs.

Phil provides training, motivational speaking and support to organisations in the use of humour. Laughter in the workplace is proven to reduce symptoms of stress and can promote good team working in a fun way with groups or individuals. This two day workshop offers us the opportunity to experiment with, understand why and how, and develop confidence in using humour in coaching or therapy.

It’s a must for your development and an even greater must for right now – with our economic and social structures all in turmoil, we could all do with a little humour to help us frame it in ways that are useful to and for us and to and for our clients.

This weekend workshop takes place May 12-13 and is excellent value at £125 AND you are guaranteed outrageous laughter and learning as well as highly workable and client centred ways of engendering change. Book your place now!


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Northern Changeworkers, Counsellors, Coaches & Therapist Conference : May 14-15

I am seriously delighted and very excited to now be announcing the first Northern ChangeWorkers, Counsellors, Coaches and Therapists Conference ( NCCCTC ), here in Newcastle. A conference where we are continuing to highlight The North East as a centre for Excellence in Change Work and Therapy.

With our Magnificent Seven presenters, we can all draw from their experience and absorb their uniquely individual approach to successful change work.

Get their real MASSIVE value insights and their methods that the top North East Change Professionals, Coaches and Therapists use One to One with clients.

A genuine golden opportunity to learn from top North East change workers and to do some great networking and create new relationships. Book right away as there are limited places …

 

 

Conference topics will include:

  • General ways and methodologies for Brief Therapy.
  • Working with Eating Disorders.
  • Grief and Bereavement.
  • Solution Focused Brief Therapy.
  • Self Acceptance.
  • Dealing with Guilt.
  • True Co-Creative Coaching Alliances.

Enter your name & email now to receive a FREE audio CD interview with Harry Knox ( Brief Grief Therapy ) and Sharon Cox ( Eating Disorders ) discussing their backgrounds and providing insights into how they work in their specialised fields.

 

The NCCCT conference, over two days in May 14-15, is specifically for all of us people involved in professional change work as counsellors, therapists and coaches. And now by attending you will get:

  • Insights and practices of the top professionals.
  • The best value conference this year by far.
  • Specific methods for your client groups.
  • Incredible networking opportunities.

The ticket price for this two full day conference is only £40 and this IS incredible value for a two day conference. BUT

If you ACT NOW and are one of the first 100 people to book your place you get your ticket for ONLY £30. So, go ahead and BOOK YOUR PLACE now!

 

 

As well as all attendants receiving a series of interviews with the presenters which will give you a general overview of the presenters unique way of working all conference participants will be able to discover the ways and methodologies in which to work with your clients with Eating Disorders, Grief and Bereavement, Solution Focused Therapy, Self Acceptance, Guilt, True Co-Creative Coaching Alliances and a great deal more.

NCCCTC is taking place in May 14-15 in Newcastle upon Tyne 2011. Be Sure You Attend!

Introducing our presenters for 2011, each with many years of both one to one experience as well as excellent group facilitation skills:

Harry KnoxBereavement and Brief Grief Therapy
With an unparalleled career of over 30 years working in psychiatry in the NHS. Harry now splits his time between supervision, one to one therapy and training facilitation. As a Master practitioner and accredited trainer of NLP, Harry has a unique, humorous and entirely engaging style to change work and is the creator of ‘Brief Grief Therapy’.

Sharon CoxEating Disorder Specialist
Sharon is a BACP accredited counsellor, with a private practice based in North Tyneside, offering both short and long-term counselling for a wide range of psychological and emotional concerns. She provides counselling supervision to both training and qualified counsellors and has extensive experience in Substance Misuse, Bereavement Care and Victim Support. Sharon’s special interest is in eating disorders. Combining a busy practice and training facilitation she is also studying to gain a PhD in Counselling Studies.

John Wheeler – Solution Focused Brief Therapy
Well published and equally well known in the field of Brief Therapy, John has over 18 years experience in facilitation, clinical supervision and one to one work both internationally and here in the UK. John is also responsible for the excellent BTNE organisation.

Rob McGinleyAnxiety And Depression
Rob S. McGinley is a qualified, experienced and effective counsellor. His extensive background includes bereavement & loss, work stress, relationship & family issues, depression & anxiety and youth counselling. BACP registered, Rob works as a counsellor/ NLP practitioner , has his own small private practice and lectures full time on the counselling foundation degree training program at TyneMet College.

Andy HuntCompassionate Self Acceptance
Andy works with people who give themselves a hard time, judge themselves harshly, feel bad about themselves or spend far too much time having a problem with themselves. Andy’s clients may typically feel irresistibly drawn to choose situations and relationships that reinforce their bad opinion of themselves, Andy helps them to experience and make positive changes. A NLP Master Practitioner, accredited EFT and NLP trainer, Andy is well know for his ability to run change processes while creating a deep and respectful rapport.

Paula McCormack – UK Social Leaders Coach
With over 20 years experience as both an individual and group development facilitator Paula has developed her own unique approach to change and development know as The Adaptive. Paula is dynamic and has an incredible ability to deeply connect and create the space that fosters true discoveries and engenders personal change.

Nigel Hetherington – Addictions & Trauma
Nigel is the NCCCTS organiser. He works as an approved NLP and Clinical Hypnotherapy training facilitator, has a private practice and is particularly interested in helping people recover and move forward in life from serious addictions, trauma and abusive relationships. Nigel facilitates regular NLP, Hypnotherapy and Therapist workshops and practice groups in the North East and Newcastle.

This conference is seriously affordable to everyone; Why? Because all of our presenters are dedicated to the real direction and goal of excellence in therapy for all attendees. We are all involved in developing further our skills and ways of practice in mutually beneficial and co-created change alliances.

Your personal investment for this value packed and quality information conference is ONLY £30 for the first 100 registrants. After this the price increases to £40, which is still excellent value. After 5th May the price increases to £50.

 

 

But think about this; £50 for a two day conference with the top therapists, change workers and coaches is still incredible value because you will get to understand the unique ways and methods of the presenters that they use which makes them the very top of their profession and they will be sharing their methods and ways of getting excellent results with their clients.

Addiction Therapy Newcastle

15.Carl Jung

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“I can resist anything but temptation” – Oscar Wilde

It is said that one of Carl Jung’s patients, a hopeless alcoholic went to Jung for treatment. After one session all was going well and the addict recoverer for some few days. After yet another relapse the addict returned to Jung and said “I have relapsed and I need you to fix me“.

Jung’s response was excellent. “I can’t help you, you are the most sever alcoholic I have ever met and I can’t help you.

Gob smacked the alcoholic asked “Then what can I do? Is all hope lost?

Here is something you can try, it may save you or it may not. I can’t help you. The only thing that might help you is …” Jung paused, for effect …

This is called an olive branch. It requires both hope and action

… Is this. Go to all the Churches and Spiritual meetings you can until you find something that is bigger than you and that you honestly can relate to. I don’t know if you will ever find this, yet you can try.

The first steps of becoming free of an addiction is often to first realise then admit the problem of addiction. If it is not a problem then it is not a problem.

If it is a problem then … It Is a Problem.

It is very curious to know that many of the so called addictions are actually a coping mechanism for dealing with pain and the often relentless struggles in life. Perhaps a return to the simplicity of the womb and carefree state of bliss.

Addictions be they food related ( comfort eating ), drugs, sex, co-dependency or alcohol  are all related with a common them. What is this common theme? It is some perceived lack of something in life. And the ‘addiction’ is a mechanism ( that may well be past the sell by date ) that is functioning to fill what is missing in your life by numbing your pain or just as easily maintaining some kind of status quo.

It is often very difficult for the so called addict to admit to them self they have a problem, even more difficult to realise that in order to regain their life they need to do one of two things.

One. Seek professional help and or

Two. Seek something much more encompassing, bigger than them self to become free of that old addiction.

I offer a comprehensive and respectful professional service that can help you both free your self from serious addictions and equally fill your life with something far more satisfying and meaningful.

Please get in touch with me for professional assistance when, and only when, you are truly ready to break free of the prison of addictions and start to live a much more meaningful and satisfying life.

So, I bet you are wondering what happened to the ‘hopeless alcoholic’. Well acting on Jung’s invitation, he found something bigger than himself. He gave up alcohol and was closely involved, a personal acquaintance of one of the founders of the world famous AA – Alcoholics Anonymous.

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Surviving A Seriously Toxic Relationship – Part One

I honestly think people meet for a reason. My thoughts here are, it is to learn and create together or learn and create apart. Our relationships with our intimate lovers, friends and acquaintances can in some ways be defined by what we both learn and go on to accomplish, share and go on to help others through our own experiences.

If you have ever been in an unnecessarily argumentative, emotional, mentally or even physically abusive relationship that can be categorised with frequent breakups and passionate get back together’s then this may be of help and interest to you in both getting some kind of understanding of what’s happening and finding ways to live healthily together or move apart sooner.

It is my intention that these articles will provide examples you may relate to and to provide means to make the right changes for you in terms of your relationship.

If you choose to get out of this kind of toxic relationship the rest of this articles will offer some suggestions as to how as a survivor you can let go of the past, feel better and move forward with a sense of forgiveness and compassion. My reparation took me over six weeks to fully heal my heart and head, to let go of many unhelpful emotions and memories and feel whole again.

I most often find labelling people is not helpful. What I want to show here is a collection of coping mechanisms people with so called Borderline Personality Disorder ( BPD ) have for coping in their world and specifically coping in an intimate personal relationship.

It is honestly NOT their fault they have these modes of behaviour or coping mechanisms to be interacting with intimate partners but unless you are their therapist or their partner you will most likely never see this side of their personality. It can be like a real life Jekyll and Hyde. Relationships with this kind of characteristic can look like the Somme Battlefield from the outside. From the inside it is honestly much, much worse for both people.

Please read the following article for an insight into a BPD relationship. Click on the hyperlink below.

How a Borderline Personality Disorder Love Relationship Evolves

An Article by Roger Melton MA

The article above describes very well my perceptions of my own experience in a relationship with an ex partner who displayed all of the coping mechanisms that I will describe below. As such I have no intention of relating specific personal examples. This is for two reasons. Sometimes I feel ‘our story’ has an element of ‘the victim’ attached to it and so creates unhelpful gossip and agony aunt style, problem focused awareness and also this is really about recognising the signs and making a choice as to how best to move forward.

Having been in a toxic and mutually unhealthy relationship with a partner who exhibited these coping strategies for BPD with various intensities and frequencies; I have to say, at that time I simply didn’t understand what was happening or why they behaved that way. I did not understand many of our interaction. They often made little sense, more often than not no sense at all.

Arguments would frequently erupt from nowhere. My then partner would shout, make fists become verbally aggressive and abusive. In short a kind of totally unpredictable angry temper tantrum. Their raging arguments were paradoxical with what I perceived as frequent double standards that simply could not be reasoned out. I had no real idea how or why these would start arguments, but now I know, it is just one way of coping:

When you get to understand what childhood circumstances created these coping mechanisms or behavioural imprints ( DSM-IV-TR, The Angry Heart ) it is actually very easy to forgive and feel real compassion for an ex partner or even a current one; It is also very easy to forgive yourself. But when you don’t know, it is all too easy to feel hurt, used, manipulated, cheated and abused. This is the victim role. You can lose your sense of self value and self respect; Because you love them so you keep going back … for more of the same and so the cycle continues.

BPD Criteria and Coping Mechanisms

A pervasive pattern of instability of interpersonal relationships, self-image, and affects and markedly impulsivity beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts as indicated by five ( or more ) of the following :

1. Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment.
2. A pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterised by alternating between extremes of idealisation and devaluation.
3. Identity disturbance: markedly and persistently unstable self image or sense of self.
4. Impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self damaging ( spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating).
5. Recurrent suicidal behaviours, gestures or threats of self-mutilating behaviour.
6. Affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood ( intense episodic dysphoria, irritability, or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days).
7. Chronic feelings of emptiness.
8. Inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger ( frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights ).
9. Transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or sever dissociative symptoms.

DSM – IV -TR

Part Two of this article will go on to explore the issue of blame and responsibility. Part Three will offer suggestions and ways, that as a survivor of specifically this kind of toxic relationship you can heal your emotional past and then move forward in life with a genuine sense of forgiveness and compassion.

Spirituality In Coaching and Therapy – Nigel Hetherington & Paula McCormack

The more you lose yourself in something bigger than yourself, the more energy you will have.

Norman Vincent Peale

Spirituality In Coaching and Therapy – Newcastle NLP and Hypnosis Cafe Monday 7th February 7-9pm : Gosforth Library Newcastle NE3 3HD : £10 Including Biscuits. Book online below.

When we come direct from heart space we create an energetic connection that surpasses the concept of empathy or our multi-sensory capacity. In doing so we create the neutral void that two souls can share to explore, discover, test, challenge and shift. For us, this is our recipe for lasting and generative change.

So in this café Paula and Nigel will facilitate your unpacking of the deeper and more connecting ways in which yours and our therapeutic alliances work. How they are formed, how they grow and the effect and impact they have on our and the world.

We will open and share our thoughts and processes of how to develop co-created alliances by exploring the concepts of projections and reflections prior to, during and after a dynamic interaction. We will also consider projection and reflection in terms of attracting clients into your life for mutual healing and purposeful learnings.

Every person we meet has something to teach us, and every person has something to say that only they can say. We both believe we attract the clients that will help and be beneficial to our ongoing development. This may also include ‘healing’ your past. viz a vie we meet together to co-create something that is more than mutually beneficial …

From this place we’ll look at working from heart space that dynamically co-creates a change process as being fundamental in effective change and evolution work. We will show you how this offers a place that goes way beyond our understanding of rapport. Indeed it transcends the thoughts that if we shared some common value, belief, outcomes, goals and even purpose we can go anywhere in the relationship.

Newcastle NLP and Hypnosis Cafe

Monday 7th February 7-9pm :

Gosforth Library Newcastle NE3 3HD : £10 Including Biscuits.

Book online now.





Can You Make A Living From Coaching or Therapy?

I run regular trainings in Newcastle for people to become certified Clinical Hypnotherapists and NLP Practitioners. Two days ago I received a call from a perspective participant regarding Hypnotherapy Training. One of their really good questions was “Can I make a living as a Hypnotherapist”.

The answer is a very BIG no and yes!

There are many, many training courses where you can become a qualified therapist, coach or hypnotherapist. Currently there is no legislation in the UK to stop anyone stating they are a ‘hypnotherapist’ or ‘coach’ any reader can do it right now. Some will get a ‘qualification’ yet if you want to make a good living as a professional people helper YOU NEED CLIENTS, no matter how good you think you are or the training you have received.

I strongly recommend Andy Austin’s Brass Bollocks [ if you will follow the process ] and then be prepared to commit to the time it takes to generate lots of clients AND build a reputation and successful practice!

Andy is someone I have done a great deal of training with, who I regard as a truly consummate professional, Andy Austin has stated …

A little humility will save you a lot of humiliation“.

There are so many products out in the market promising you can make £x,xxx,xxx in a year. This is a big sham! One of the biggest deceptions going in my opinion. There are no get rich quick schemes and if this is what you want you may well be in the wrong profession! Yet, the strategies are generally good BUT it takes time to build a good reputation, referrals and a professional practice.

My personal experience, never bothering to follow any of these get rich schemes was it took me five years to build a profitable practice in therapy. I am an ex-software engineer and have some savi regarding how to build an internet presence that works for you.

I was teaching hypnosis and NLP by 2005 and it is now 2011. This is five years in time and five years in reputations and referrals. Unless you have a massive number of contacts do not expect to make a living as soon as you are qualified. I think this applies to any professional practice, therapy or other …

One of the most important pieces of experience I can offer is you can do it. It usually wont happen over night. It takes practice, time and a real commitment to helping people transform their lives – as well as your own! If you are currently working I suggest you create what I call a ‘parachute fund’ to help you on your way, to transition between a job and a true calling. Don’t do what I did and sell your house to create you business, it is way too risky!

So, I sold my home and quite my job as a full time software developer and programmer to pursue my dream. I wouldn’t recommend this to anyone because it was very hard and was a one way ticket to survive and  flourish or go bust. I followed my dream …

Anything and everything to do what I love, my family and friends said I was mad to give up a lucrative job … YET … my heart was elsewhere in the future … and eventually … this came true … It was not easy! It is really hard work!!

Follow your heart … … … and at the same time, realise you do need to make a living in the process ….

Some hints and tips on what not to to … Basically don’t lie about yourself.

In therapeutic practice, there are so many people advertising skills they simply haven’t got.  For instance …

Do not advertise what you are not or make somewhat ridiculous claims on what you can do for clients. This includes ridiculous fees that simply do not attract clients.  The [ ] are examples of what I personally know has failed for certain people who try to present themselves as therapists or coaches.

  • £125 coaching by skype [ 4 clients in 18 months, two non paying ]
  • Child behaviour Specialist . [ Physically abusing their children by smacking then in the face and mouth ]
  • Saying you have 100% client success [ everyone knows this is not so ]
  • Divorced mother specialisation [ still married and ongoing incredibly troublesome divorce ]
  • Relationship expert [ 20 years of infidelity and non resolved personal issues ]
  • Get your magic job [ no income from therapy, dependent on the state for financial support ]
  • You can make a living doing what you love [ no income except state / partner dependent ]

Make you fees plainly accessible to one and all

The most well known and successful UK therapists are from £125 – per hour or session. These are the people who have 10 to 15 years plus of experience and practice to charge this. Get real. You will not compete with these people right away. These are well developed and recognised professionals. Better to charge £45 per hour and get some clients while building a real reputation.

The real trick here is to build up a practice

  • Don’t listen to anyone who tells you to up your prices especially when they have no clients of their own.
  • Get your Internet Site presence up and for the world to see.
  • Make presentations to your local therapy and counselling associations.
  • Do free work until you have people that will recommend you.
  • Be true to what you believe is right and set out to make a difference.
  • Patience and the rest will come with dedication.

Follow your dreams while you study and practice hard!

Love & Light

Nigel

Newcastle Weight Loss Hypnosis | Jesmond Weigh Loss Hypnosis

We are all so engaged in doing things to achieve purposes of outer value we forget that the inner value the rapture that is associated with being alive is what it’s all about‘ – Joseph Campbell

There is something else, much more to losing weigh and weight loss … and this is a fundamental change of attitude and heart … and … getting a real sense, a knowing if you like, of what you will actually feel and experience from losing weight!

Click here to book an appointment for Weight Loss Hypnosis Newcastle in early New Year of 2011.

Public Speaking Hypnotherapy Newcastle

You probably know that the vast majority of people shrink back from the very idea of public speaking.

The fear of public speaking including not being heard, clamming up and potentially making a complete and utter fool of yourself plagues so very many people you would not believe … or actually maybe you DO!!! I know at one time I certainly did!

The more practice you get the more comfortable you can become with public speaking. My own experience of this was, initially it terrified me! Honestly it did. And at some point I realised and grasped what I can say has massive meaning and value to me as well as others.

We all have thoughts, feelings and insight we want to share with the people we really want to connect with. Remember … Your purpose in public or group or peer speaking is to share how and what you feel, think and know for a purpose that is bigger than you that will benefit all.

The Common Problems

There are three very common and often interlinked problems for people facing public speaking and they are this :

  1. You have ( in the past ) had one or more experiences of doing this and it going horribly wrong.
  2. You have worried and worried and worried and … Dun It And … What happened … It went HORRIBLY.
  3. You have worried and worried and worried and … Thought The Worst And … You haven’t even done it yet!

So what is your solution?

Clearing up any problems from the past and literally putting that out of your mind. The past is the past, yet it can come back to haunt you … unless you deal with it.

Starting to cultivate the attitude of what you actually want to have happen. Not what you don’t! The attitude of a truly positive outcome where you are fully able to speak your truth from your heart is empowering. You feeling congruent and confident in and with what you say will show.

Knowing your true purposes and motivations will help you set a direction and focus your intention to talk from your heart and also be heard.

How You Can Speak Your Truth From Your Heart

I can help you remove blocks from the past, set your focus on what you want and make you purpose clear … So you can … speak publicly with a real conviction and congruence.

Click Here to book an appointment to Learn To Speak Your Truth With Passion and Purpose

Newcastle Trauma PTSD Resolution Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy

The majority of traumatic memories or post traumatic stress intrusions can usually be successfully cleared in one to two session.

Here is a demonstration from Hypnotherapist Nigel Hetherington using NLP EMI – Eye Movement Integration to remove the associated emotional residue from a traumatic experience.

NLP Eye Movement Integration is the creation of Steve and Connirae Andreas.

Weigh Loss Hypnotherapy Newcastle Jesmond Gosforth Hexham

Struggling to become a desirable and healthy weight is one of the most common and often ever present problems people today are facing. Weight issues are not usually genetic, probably not your diet and not destiny. You can change and this means cleaning up your past and changing your attitudes and habits to support more than just losing weight.

There are very many reasons or causes for this problem. Knowing the reasons as to why you are overweight and potentially emotionally depressed with the situation usually wont help you lose weight and keep it off. Changing who you were and becoming the person you want to be will. There is very likely some connection with your past, an emotional issue or maybe a habit and attitude you need to change.

Do you know many over weight people suffer from

  • Low Self Esteem
  • Negative Thoughts
  • Lack Of Confidence
  • Diet – Comfort Eat – Diet – Comfort Eat Cycles
  • A Longing To Discover Real Love

If you have tried every diet or self help book you can and are still getting nowhere fast and you are still fat then read on :

There are three things you honestly need to know about and do to make the changes you truly want in your life happen.

Firstly knowing how the benefits of changing your weight will effect you is extremely important. In short there needs to be a real purpose in your losing weight. It is not about losing weight in and of itself. It is what you will get from losing weight. This may be feeling much more confident, feeling more attractive, increased health benefits and leading a more active life in all areas.

Secondly you need to understand there is some underlying emotional pain that is creating and sustaining your current problem. Remember the brain seeks things to make us feel better. Comfort eating can and does alleviate emotional pain BUT it is only temporary. You eat, feel a little better, feel guilty about binging as well as the unresolved emotional pain and then the cycle starts again like ever increasing circles!

Finally you have to do something about it and then get on with living the way you want to live. This involves getting professional help to help you make changes in your attitude and coach you through the change period to a much better life.

The Brain Stuff

The brains main function is to keep the body in which it resides alive and functioning and to find food, reproduce and other vital requirements. It does this by a complex neuro-chemical endogenous reward mechanism. Simply put, finding food, sex and the other essential needs creates a neuro-chemical reward and makes us feel very good. If you continue looking outside yourself for this you always will …

This system of reward is driven sequentially like this:

Stimulus -> Desire -> Action -> Reward

Let’s call this the SDAR cycle.

Stimulus to find food, sex, or other essential need like security. This can come from your environment, like seeing some favourite food, your partner or even looking for a more comfortable or secure living environment. Stimulus can also come from the inside as in when we think about our emotional state, think about problems or think about a missing loved one.

Desire is thinking about what you want and also what is painful in life. When the pain or emotional turbulence becomes too strong you seek to find a way out. One way is finding something to alleviate the pain, this is temporary and may be eating a cake, chocolate or any activity that temporarily shunts negative thoughts, pain or emotional issues off to one side. But they are still there!!

Action in this case, is putting the next best alternative into action. Usually a stop gap measure. This is doing what you have always done and hoping for a different result. It wont happen, sorry. You need to change what you do. And this means a fundamental change in your attitude towards yourself!

Reward is the feeling you get when you do something to alleviate your emotional pain. Your brain releases some good chemicals and you feel good for a short while but it doesn’t last and then the cycle starts again.

  • What if you can stop this cycle?
  • What if you can honestly heal the emotional pain that is at the heart of your situation?
  • What if you really can make and sustain positive changes that will give you the life and feelings you really what to have?

Comfort eating, drinking or any other activity that temporarily assuages the underlying emotional hurt or pain you are feeling and is a substitute for addressing your real needs and desires. You can honestly never get enough of second best! So now is your open window to let some fresh air of change into you life.

And here is your invitation to take action …

Book an appointment, get your life on track and become who are … sooner … than you may have thought possible.

Book an appointment to turn your life around now.

Tel : 0770 481 8467

email : nigel@nigelhetherington.co.uk

Buddhism, Enlightenment and Learning How To Feel Better – Part Three

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Carrying on from the previous post about NLP and the connections to Buddhism or more precisely one of many ways towards what is tentatively called enlightenment or as I prefer to say living in and having as authentic a life as possible and being comfortable in your own skin …

So, having read the last post and having acknowledged the positive purpose of the unwanted emotion, we can then use one of many NLP therapeutic processes to help heal the regrets of the past.

One of the simplest methods of doing this is to change, what is know as the sub-modalities of the ‘memory’. Our memories are re-experienced through our five senses and the sub modalities are the smaller components of each of our five senses.

Here is one way for you to heal your own regret. Work on one specific ‘regret memory’ at a time and follow the process all the way through.

  1. Remember a situation or memory that at one time you did regret but now, when you think about it you realize and acknowledge the learning and the value of that learning such that having had that experience has in fact made you a much better, more rounded person with far greater resources and skills. Let’s call this the ‘reference memory’.
  2. Still thinking about the memory you, at one time regretted, but now see this as a resource; answer the following questions, making a list of your answers.
    • Where is the memory located? Point to it! Is it up to your left, down to your right, is it central in front of you, is it behind you to the right? You need to find the spatial location. Find out where abouts in your own personal space the memory seems to be.
    • Is the memory colour or black and white?
    • Is the memory like a picture, series of pictures or a DVD movie?
    • Is the memory life size, smaller or bigger?
    • Do you see yourself in the memory or is it like you are looking out of your own eyes?
    • What sounds accompany the memory and what is their location? There may be many or none!
    • What smells are you aware of that accompany this memory?
    • Is the memory sharp and clear or fuzzy and blurred?
  3. Write all your answers down and then go and make a cup of tea and come back in a few minutes.
  4. Now think about the specific situation, memory or incident you do still regret and answer the following questions, make a list of:
    • Where is the memory located? Point to it! Is it up to your left, down to your right, is it central in front of you, is it behind you to the right? You need to find the spatial location. Find out where abouts in your own personal space the memory seems to be.
    • Is the memory color or black and white?
    • Is the memory like a picture, series of pictures or a DVD movie?
    • Is the memory life size, smaller or bigger?
    • Do you see yourself in the memory or is it like you are looking out of your own eyes?
    • What sounds accompany the memory and what is their location? There may be many or none!
    • What smells are you aware of that accompany this memory?
    • Is the memory sharp and clear or fuzzy and blurred?
  5. You now have two lists of the sub modalities of each memory. Here is how to run your own brain. Look for the differences between the two experiences, for example are the two memories in different locations? Is one color and one black and white? You get the idea right! Differences here are the important factors!
  6. Start to make the sub modalities ( one at a time ) of the ‘regret’ memory the same as the ‘reference memory’ you used to regret and notice how your emotional response changes. It is your brain you can make any changes you want to make. Changes can be changed back or kept depending on how you feel.

Now maybe Buddha did not use this specific NLP process ( there are rather a lot to select from ) as he took many days to achieve his enlightenment and this can change how you feel much more rapidly. In a matter of minutes, you can have really practised this skill more fully. But perhaps Buddha had, like the rest of us, a great many regrets so he worked through them all, systematically, one at a time. NLP like Buddhism is about continued practice so please accept the invite to change, one at a time, the things you regret.

NLP is about learning how to run your own brain to get the kind of results you want in a systematic way.