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Stress Hypnotherapy Newcastle

Excess pressure leads to stress. Hypnotherapy Newcastle offers assistance and help in dealing with a wide variety of life’s stressors in ways that promote your own abilities to better deal the the inevitable stress causing problems we all face on a regular basis.

Have you ever wondered how some people have literally no stress response to something that can and often does drive you up the wall? How is it some people take huge stressors in their stride and literally the same situation will cause you to stress out, worry and panic as your heart races?

Newcastle hypnotherapy for stress can help you to respond in a better and calmer way to many of the things that can stress you out. How you respond to a situation, how you perceive yourself and what you do is what hypnotherapy can assist you with.

Stress Hypnotherapy Newcastle

The stressing situations will almost surely be the same yet by your responding in different ways you have the power to positively effect and take more control; the idea being your ‘natural’ stress response eases off.

THE NATURAL STRESS RESPONSE

The natural stress response to a situation where life is threatened, where we are powerfully emotionally engaged is a natural and perfectly normal survival mechanism which can save our life. This is a response to a direct physical threat such as an accident ( acute ) or being longer term ( chronic ) in, say, a war zone.

Any time our life is in physical danger, be this prolonged or crisis, our automatic stress responses should kick into high gear and all sorts of great things start happening in the body. We are doused with stress hormones adrenaline, cortisol, glucagon all to effectively help us through the danger.

The problem is that actual physical dangers for most of us are honestly few and far between. The real problem is the activation of our stress response for purely psychological reasons. This mean how we think about and perceive our situations activates a bodily response that is mean only to activate in life threatening  situations can activate because :

  • We have to give a public presentation
  • A colleague leaves us with a pile of work
  • We are worried about an upcoming business trip
  • We receive large winter fuel bills
  • etc, etc, etc

There is absolutely no physical life threatening situation at all yet the physical response is as though there were. It is fairly unlikely you will be able to change or massively affect your environment, working conditions or the pressures in life. What you can do is change how you respond. Hypnotherapy Newcastle is one way to explore how you can respond in ways that are better for you.

COPING BETTER WITH STRESS

So how is it some people can and do cope much better with stressors than others? What is it they do differently when faced with pretty much the same situations as you? They somehow respond differently.

Professor Sir Michael Marmot during the Whitehall Studies followed thousands of UK civil servants over decades. The results seemed to show that there is a correlation between health and stress. No surprise there. What was also shown from the studies is that there are certain factors ( listed below ) which seem to be predictors of how people respond to stressors and cope better or worse than others.

  • Predictable Environment
  • Sense of Control
  • Social Support
  • Outlets for Stress and Frustrations
  • A Sense Things are Getting Better

THE BODILY STRESS RESPONSE

There are essentially two elements to the bodily stress response irrespective of if the stressor is physical or psychological. These are bodily changes that practically all of us have had the experience of from time to time.

Autonomic Nervous System Response

Beginning certain activity in the hypothalamus and running down the central nervous system the autonomic or automatic nervous system has essentially two divisions. These being the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous system. It is the sympathetic nervous system ( SNS ) that is activated in times of stress.

The neurotransmitter acetylcholine activates a further transmitter which releases noradrenaline to many organs throughout the body and in turn releases adrenaline from the adrenal medulla just above the kidneys.

Your heart speeds up, your stomach clutches, eyes dilate and the lungs expand as well as a whole host of other responses to stress where some things speed up and others such as digestion stop. This happens within seconds and is the first part of the stress response.

Hormonal Response

The second part of the stress response is the release of hormones into the blood which in turn promote and grant access to energy from the bodies stores. This is taken or synthesised from energy stores in the liver, fat cells and muscles to transform into circulating glucose in the blood stream.

The neurological circuit involved is the Hypothalamic Pituitary Adrenal axis or HPA axis for short. The release of hormones which begins the process is within a handful of seconds and takes just minutes to release glucose into the blood.

Again the hypothalamus is involved. The hypothalamus releases a hormone called corticotropin releasing hormone ( CRH ) into the pituitary gland. This in turn dribbles adrenocorticotropic hormone ( ACTH ) into the blood stream and on reaching the adrenal gland affects the release of the glucocorticoid cortisol.

HYPNOTHERAPY SOLUTIONS FOR STRESS

Hypnotherapy has the potential to help you shift and change how you respond to psychological stressors. This could range from you taking more charge in your environment to helping you radically change how you react to the perceived and real psychological stressors in your life.

It is important to understand that hypnotherapy or any other psychotherapy, counselling or talking therapy is not a miracle cure. If it were there would be a global eradication of psychological problems.

The most important aspects in helping you change is you! In terms of people seeking therapy to help make positive changes in their life here are some revealing facts and figures from reference studies.

  • 40% of success is down to you in the belief you can make changes.
  • 30% has to do with the relationship between client and therapist.
  • 66% of clients who seek therapy make positive changes while 33% of people who do not seek therapy make positive changes.

You are more likely to make positive changes sooner with help from a change professional such as a clinical hypnotherapist. These figures are statistics and are some kind of adjusted average. Remember you are totally unique and will be treated that way.

For a absolutely free consultation call 0770 481 8467. If I am busy working with clients call back or leave a message. I will call you back if you leave a message.

Anxiety Hypnotherapy – A Living Paradox

Get help with your anxiety problems with hypnotherapy in Newcastle. People are not born anxious, we learn to be that way. Good news anxiety is un-learnable.

Charles Tebbitts stated that one of the ‘rules of the mind’ is that opposing thoughts can not be held at the same time. This is absolute twaddle.

In hypnotherapy Charles Tebbetts is a mighty name from the past. He did really exceptional pioneering work. He formulated some ‘Rules’ of the mind.

One of which is that “opposing ideas can’t be held at the same time” – Apart from the metaphorical contradiction, they can and do and are.

A simile for this is trance. A word for this is paradox and a meaning is transformation from a greater and new perspective.

While anxiety is un-learnable in people and animals, as people it is possible to use the exact same STRUCTURES to transform worry and anxiety into positive anticipation and well-being. This of course takes practice and commitment.

A Bout Of Anxiety

The body’s stress response is activated. Depending on the intensity of the response the terms may be deemed Anxious Arousal ( high ) or Anxious Apprehension ( less ). It is still the same body response.

Positive body stress is actually quite good, this is called stimulation. This is like going for a run, moderate exercise or some other positive activity.

A negative, and usually unwarranted stressor has all the same hall mark plus some metabolic activation of the Amygdala. This is a key neuro-biological difference.

In a fear or anxiety response there are, in a simplistic way, four nuclei in the brain activated. These lead to pretty much the same body responses hormonally.

ANXIETY – FEAR – STRESS

There are four brain areas activated.

  • Amygdala
  • Hippocampus
  • Frontal Cortex
  • Reticular Formation

Not surprisingly the hippocampus ( involved with memory ) is active. This means we are learning to be afraid or learning to be anxious.

The amygdala is all about fear, sexual behaviour in males and is a biological learning component of fear. This little bugger responds well to stress hormones and at the same time, kind of, overrides the normal hippocampus conscious learning function.

The reticular formation is a rhombencephalon, reptile brain nuculii that has a great deal to do with attention and in this instance, the blue spot ( locus coeruleus ) thrives on noradrelanine, a neuro transmitter involved in the stress response.

All of this is a scientific and neuro biological explanation of what is happening at a very small level of detail. Knowing all of this really wont stop anxiety, it is what we can do with this knowledge that can make a difference. A real difference!

Un Learning Anxiety

When laboratory rats ( like in Martin Seligmans ) un-learn learned depression, when OCD sufferors un-learn OCD there are two very important aspects or functions that metabolically change in terms of a stress response.

This is dirt cheep to know and can take effort, sweat and can also happen in just a few hours. The Amygdala lowers in metabolic activity and the Frontal Cortex increases in activity.

How this is accomplished can be a process of hypnotherapy for anxiety, cognitive and behavioural activity and a genuine commitment to change.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle offers committed and well structures ways for you to achieve freedom from anxiety … before you call … be sure of this …

The kind of people I want to work with to make positive changes are people who have made a solid decision to change. This is you when you are sure you are no longer willing to live anxious and both want and are committed to freedom from anxiety.

Professional hypnotherapy in Newcastle upon Tyne from Nigel Hetherington. Call on 0770 481 8467 or download and return your questionnaire. Calls are answered in 24 hours during working days.

 

Hypnotherapy Newcastle Anger

Newcastle Hypnotherapy can help you deal with the day to day events and intrusions that anger you. Anger is a transient mood that really indicates ‘your rules’ have been broken or disrespected. Rules in a lose sense, in that, when they are violated in some way, your expectations, create a autonomic response that we then equate to anger.

Anger can be directed towards others or directed towards the self. Anger directed towards the self is a less than subtle indication that you have in some way violated your own expectations, rules, beliefs or values. Anger towards others indicates you have been violated in some way; behaviourally, emotionally, physically or even culturally.

Anger Hypnotherapy Newcastle

Anger is a perfectly normal and actually good emotion. Anger can become problematic when the anger persists and despite all your best intentions seriously affects your relationships, your health and your psyche. The world is against you, you are right and continue whine and curse about it. Oh! the injustice of it all! And it’s all about justice / injustice and rule breaking.

Someone cuts you up in traffic, your 9 o’clock appointment doesn’t show up, you get endless cold calls from a machine. You may get a little angry at all of those and rightly so if you do. The problem is when that anger stays with you all day and you are ruminating. All of those irritations have long past but your still angry and you can’t let it go.

Long term this is not healthy for you or the people that are close to you. How nice would it be to not get angry for the least little irritation. How much more cosy could life be if you were a lot less angry, irritable and hot tempered?

Hypnotherapy for Anger in Newcastle upon Tyne can help you not be so inflammatory for little or no reason.

In its purest form anger can serve as a very useful way to become aware that your rules ( or cultural rules ) are not in sync with your environment. You really have three choices. Hypnotherapy for Anger issues can assist you making changes with the following points two and three.

  1. Accept your response as correct, let go and move on. Keep doing more of the same.
  2. Explore what specifically is irritating you. Check the appropriateness of the response.
  3. Update your values and beliefs should you realise they are totally inappropriate. Change your emotional response.

Physiological And Psychological Response

The psychological and physiological anger response that hypnotherapy can help with is not easily differentiated. Why? Because either one will promote the other and in a circular way lead to the other. It is very easy to have the physiological response that we equate to anger. Our limbic system and our higher order values and beliefs ( or expectations ) work together in our nervous system to alert

Anger And The Amygdala

One of the key players in the emotional response or limbic system is the amygdala. The amygdala responds to perceived threats, physical or psychological and becomes metabolically active. The net result is an awakening awareness that activates the sympathetic nervous system. This is the well known freeze, flight or fight response.

In adult males the neuro-biology involved in aggression and love are really quite similar and people can easily confuse the two and more importantly ascribe the wrong meanings or associations to what is happening in the body.

In the 1970’s Stanley Schacter created an experiment where willing volunteers were taking part in a survey to decide if some vitamin or other could improve vision. What they were actually participating in was an experiment with administered doses of adrenaline.

Given the same dose of adrenaline and a somewhat different social setting they became overly angry or overly loved up. The environment or specifically the shaped meanings they gave to their experience moulded what they ’emotionally’ made sense of and related to the ‘same’ situation.

Hypnotherapy in Newcastle for Anger can help you to diffuse the strong causal links to either you or other people violating your expectation sets and not behaving or even thinking in the ways you have physiologically deemed appropriate. Believe it or not, other people have all the rules, expectations and perceived ways of being that you have. What can change with hypnotherapy is your response.

Anger Promotes A Massive Stress Response

Adrenaline and Aoradrenaline pour out from the sympathetic nervous system in response to a threat. Given time this response will mediate the outpouring of  hydrocortisone ( the human stress hormone ) and create a feed forward state of hyper anxious arousal that is doing nobody, certainly not you, any real good.

Imagine that for a moment it is you who have inadvertently cut someone up driving into work, it is you how has placed an unreasonable yet unavoidable demand on an employee or its your job to cold call people. Looking from an alternative perspective you can a little understanding and compassion.

It was Epictetus that said “It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.” And this is a really good way to start to re frame and restructure you own responses. When you need a hypnotherapeutic intervention to help you with serious anger issues call 0770 481 8467 and talk with Nigel to see how hypnotherapy Newcastle for anger can help you.

 

Hypnotherapy Jesmond Exam Nerves – Nigel Hetherington

When the pressure, the exam pressure, is on and you have to perform because your future depends on a great performance, hypnotherapy for exam nerves and confidence can help you ace that exam. An Exam is about meeting a certain criteria but an exam can be thought about as’the worst that can happen.’ This is what we call ‘worry.’

Hypnotherapy is a common antidote to all kinds of exam nerves. Exams come in various forms; Written exams at college and university. Practical exams like a driving test or a presentation exam. For some people these create the worst possible environment and situations. Hands going clammy, mouth dry, you sweat and your mind can go blank. This is exam stress and hypnosis in Jesmond can help you beat it. We all worry about something! Don’t worry!!

But we do worry! Things that can end life worry us like cancer tests. Testicular or breast cancer screening or testing are massive worries for most. This is just an exam … This is just a check up of your knowledge but in some experiences it is just as worrisome as a cancer scare.

Hypnotherapy Jesmond Exam

Exam Nerves Hypnosis Jesmond

In a nut shell. Something happens and you lose it. You lose access to all the stored facts and ability to recall what you know you know. Why? Excess stress response. What is happening?

Your body is having a massive stress response. Hydrocortisone is marinating your nervous system and your hippocampus is getting over ridden by the amygdaloid bodies. It’s biological panic time and you can’t do squat about it.

Result, your Episodic memory goes for a leave and your body is ready to save your life. Trouble is there is not life threat. What you have is a completely out of proportion stress response and your mind has just gone blank. You just failed an exam and the colloquialism is “your fucked”. But it doesn’t have to be this way.

Learning Is State Dependent

Learning and access to your learnings, knowledge and behaviours are directly linked to the state you learn in. Your behaviours are state dependent and your state in an exam, to a very large extent, will mediate how well you perform.

A persons ‘state’, a word often used with great imprecision ( like self Esteem ) requires a solid definition in the same way an exam performance needs to be solid. So what does your state comprise of and what does ‘state’ mean?

A persons state can be defined as the sum total of the neuro-biological metabolic activity, but this really is not so helpful a definition. Breaking this down a little more; State is composed of breathing ( respiration ), endocrine activity, body positions and muscle tone  ( physiology ), mind activity ( psychology ) and neuronal activity ( nervous system ). That’s quite a lot of jargon.

Breathing And How You Breath

How you breath can dramatically affect how you feel and perform. This is a basic yoga and nlp principle. A person is shocked and the breathing changes. A person is excited and the breathing changes. A person is in love and the breathing changes. States produce breathing patterns and so breathing patterns produce states. In yoga this is called Pranayama – breath control.

Endocrine Activity

Our bodies have several endocrine glands. An endocrine gland releases hormones into the blood stream.  These hormones affect how we feel. Get massively stressed and there are stress hormones active for hours in the blood stream. Short term and in moderation these are health and mental activity promoting factors. Go overboard and the opposite happens.

A little stress or in other words pressure or stimulation and these can be really beneficial. To much and pressure becomes acute and we suffer, our ability to recall well rehearsed facts, answers and routines goes out the window.

Posture and Muscle Tone

One the the worlds leading coaches has said “physiology is king”, apart from the masculine accent, they are saying how you hold your posture affects your emotions and your performance. Crunch yourself up into a little tight ball and most people will report this is uncomfortable and learning is difficult. Stand tall or sit comfortably with a straight spine and relax any tense muscles and most report learning is easier.

Psychology – Your Thoughts

What you say to yourself, the thoughts and images that drive through your imagination and memory seriously affect your performance in an exam. Start the internal devil of “What if I can’t … ” or “I am not going to be able to pass …” and the wheel of doubt is in motion. Negative thoughts and images, real or imaginary, can adversely affect the ability to recall, replicate and think straight.

Thoughts, images and concepts have the power to create negative stress. You could test this out by imagining failing or flunking a very important exam and the long term consequences of any such ‘failure’. This is basically what people with anxiety problems do so very well enough to create a bodily state that is repressive and to a greater or larger extent prevents success and good feeling.

Neurology – Nervous System Responses

Putting conscious movement and thoughts aside for a moment or two. The involuntary or automatic nervous system comes in two parts. The para-sympathetic, rest, tend, relax, befriend. And the sympathetic nervous system, freeze, flight and fight. Stress activate the sympathetic system.

Stress and there is excess adrenaline and noradrenaline  diffused throughout your body. This is what you feel as a stomach churning fear. Get this in an exam? It’s not so helpful. Well maybe it is if you want to run away.

 Exam Nerves Solutions With Hypnotherapy

Assuming you know your stuff, you want to deal with and make at ease the exam nerves that create the stress response, knock you out of your learning state and have the potential to totally screw up your future. What is happening is you have an unconscious response that is as frisky as a wilde horse out the stable.

Hypnotherapy for exam nerves is all about changing the unconscious response because hypnotherapy is about changing unconscious responses.

Jesmond Hypnotherapy Exam

Instead of fretting and worrying, give Nigel a call on 0770 481 8467 for a free consultation regarding exam stress and how hypnotherapy in Jesmond can help you to be in the right state to pass your exams.  This will take around 20 minutes of your valuable study time.

Metabolic Syndrome Hypnotherapy Newcastle

Metabolic Syndrome also know as Syndrome X is predicted to be the single most devastating disease in the West by 2020.  It is estimated now that around one quarter of the world adult population has Metabolic Syndrome.

Hypnotherapy for Metabolic Syndrome can be an affective treatment for the psychological aspects and potentially some of the physical symptoms as well.

Metabolic Syndrome Hypnotherapy

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Metabolic Syndrome is a collection or cluster of symptomatology for various conditions that are reasonably good but not absolute, predictors of serious cardiovascular disease to come. These include but are not confined to :

  • Obesity
  • Insulin Resistance ( bordering type 2 diabetes )
  • Hypertension ( high blood pressure )
  • Dyslipidemia ( high blood cholesterol )

The word ‘syndrome’ means “the association of several clinically recognizable features, often occurring together, so that the presence of one or more features alerts the healthcare provider to the possible presence of the others.” Suggesting that if a person has one or two of these symptoms, they are likely heading to collect the full house.

Suppose you have high insulin levels raising the bad cholesterol ( LDL ) and you are well overweight. You are probably heading towards type 2 diabetes. Have Type 2 diabetes and high cholesterol and high blood pressure chances are you are a short bus ride away from being obese.

Having Metabolic Syndrome, one or more of the four indicators, and statistically you are three times as likely to have a stroke or heart attack than someone who hasn’t. You are also twice as likely to die that someone who hasn’t. Its all scary stuff with a pretty bleak outlook.

Biological and Psychological Components Metabolic Syndrome

A lot of not getting Syndrome X in the first place has to do with life style and attitudes to life. Hypnotherapy for Metabolic Syndrome can have several directed approaches to assist in changing the behaviours and attitudes that would seem to create Metabolic Syndrome.

  • Weight Loss
  • Managing the Stress Response
  • Change of Lifestyle
  • Motivation

No one is born with Syndrome X. A sedentary lifestyle, little exercise and a diet of processed ready meals are massive contributing factors. Now add in a life filled with stress and we have all the ingredients in abundance as a massive vector for developing Metabolic Syndrome.

How Hypnotherapy Can Help With Metabolic Syndrome

Hypnotherapy probably won’t change your genetics if you are predisposed to some aspects of Syndrome X that are inherited. But understand that being genetically more likely to develop Metabolic symptoms does not mean a person will. Environment,lifestyle and personal history are the real impactors.

When a person is stress regularly there are adverse health affects. Regular and over the top activation of the sympathetic nervous system seems to cause atherosclerosis by way of having regular and too much glucose and triglicerides in the blood. Hypertension can also be cause by way too much stress response.

Stressed people at least two thirds eat more carbohydrates. Eating as a stress response will most likely lead to obesity and Type 2 diabetes. So there is some very real and clear evidence that stress of a psychological nature can lead to many of the symptoms of Syndrome X.

The possibilities of using hypnotherapy to help with Metabolic Syndrome would be in helping you change the problematic and unhealthy attitudes, behaviours and ways of managing out of proportions stress response.

Hypnotherapy in Newcastle  for help with Metabolic Syndrome psychological factors. Call Nigel on 0770 481 8467 for a complementary consultation.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle – Generalised Anxiety Disorder ( GAD )

Clinical hypnotherapy for anxiety in Newcastle can help you mediate anxious responses that are extremely stressful and seem to serve no positive purpose. Newcastle hypnotherapy for generalised anxiety disorder ( GAD ) and helping you lean to be more at ease … because you learned to be anxious means you can learn to be at ease, which is our natural human state of being.

have you ever wondered WHY some people seem to be totally free of anxiety and other people, you? are often in a state of anxious arousal or anxious apprehension? Worrying about the future. This literally defines anxiety.Hypnotherapy Newcastle Anxiety GADAnxious arousal simply means that you are feeling anxious and anxious apprehension is more about thoughts and ideation of worry. Both of these have less than positive affects on mood, the nervous system and long term health.

No one begins life as a worrier. This makes perfect sense because to worry we need the intellectual capacity do it. Babies as Piaget put it are born into the world with a Sensory-Motor consciousness; they have no idea about death, growing old, losing a job or a partner. Babies are delivered in direct experience and that experience is all about the senses. And this has no past or future.

Adrenaline And The Amygdala

All of us mammals have a limbic system. The limbic system is a deep brain region that is all about emotions. Emotions here is defined as what we feel and NOT the meaning we attribute to what we are feeling. The neuro chemical biology of hate and anger is incredibly similar to what we feel with love and joy. The same neuro-chemicals are present in both states and it is the attributions of meanings that ‘consciously’ define out state, mood and long term temperaments.

Take a particularly negative stressor and the amygdala, a small nucleus in the limbic system, will become energetically active and will mediate a sympathetic nervous system response complete with danger and anxious arousal. Go for a run or play on a roller coaster and the sympathetic nervous system will activate BUT without the amygdala. The difference is massive.

Positive stressors, like running, a scary film or bungey jumping ( if you are that way inclined ) produce gluco-corticoids that mediate positive stress responses. When the amygdala is involved this equates to worry, negative stress and what we know as worry. It’s almost the same system, its the same system the difference is the meaning, conscious and unconscious, we make of experience.

There is almost always an adrenaline and noradrelanine release when the sympathetic nervous system activates, like being angry or in-love it is the meaning that is attributed to the physical sensations that are important.

Anxiety Your Body and Environment

Your brain is always receiving and processing information from your body. The psychologist William James proposed that the body actually has an emotion and then the brain makes sense of this. This is not a crazy or strange as this reads. If you are tense, your muscles are stiff and locked,the bio-feedback from your body will actually mediate your emotions. This is why a massage can feel so relaxing and stimulate a relaxed mood.

In a psychological experiment, conducted by Schacter in the 1950’s, it was discovered that your brain has been shown to attribute a bodily state , in this case anxiety to the immediate social environment.  This means if you are a setting where anxiety and worry are common place the feelings you feel will be attributed to the environment. Environment means people around you.

What You Can Anticipate From An Appointment

Each hypnotherapy Newcastle appointment with Nigel is a totally individual experience however as a minimalist basis for treatment we will most likely explore the following : How you do anxious? The most common way people make themselves anxious is talking to themselves, with the inner voice, in the following ways.

  • Talking at a way rapid speed
  • Beginning What If statements

Talking rapidly seems to have all of the ingredients to make you think faster. Beginning What If sentences and not finishing them or taking them to a logical extreme will tend to send the brain reeling and searching out answers, often unconscious and causing more anxiety.

By knowing how you do anxious thoughts you are now in a position, which will require effort on your part, to begin to learn how to make your self feel better.

We will find where you feel anxiety in your body of you have anxious arousal and use hypnosis as a body relaxation and combine this with hemispherical activity balancing exercises.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle for Anxiety, to help you relax your worrying mind, relax your body and learn some new strategies so you can worry less and strat living a more mentally calm emotional life. Call Nigel now on 0770 481 8467.

 

 

 

Newcastle Hypnotherapy Weight Loss – Nigel Hetherington

Hypnotherapy for weight loss in Newcastle and the North East because so very many people want the body beautiful and their idealised body shape. There are essentially two reasons people want to lose weigh. Obviously there are the physical aspects but there are also the psychological ones.

Hypnotherapy in Newcastle for weight loss is honestly not just about losing weight. There is a required focus on what losing weight will actually accomplish and mean for any client. What are the deeper values you will need to access when your size or shape changes because your psyche has changed in a way that supports a different set of psychologically driven eating behaviours?

Hypnotherapy Newcastle Weight Loss

Psychological Hunger – A Deeper Metaphor

There are two areas in the brain that are responsible for the biological trigger of eating and stopping eating. In the limbic system the hypothalamus, a cluster of dense functional neurons about the size of a grape mediate our physical appetites.  The ventromedial and lateral nuclei respectively monitor rising and falling glucose in the body and as so create the feeling of satiation and hunger.

Because the brain has evolved to utilise the same circuitry for both physical and abstract navigation in the world of body requirements and social and cultural requirements there is almost certainly a hunger for the psychological needs as well as the biological ones. Eating to excess or hungering for something other than food will be very easily confused neurologically.

If we eat food that is rancid we feel disgust and that same brain region, the insular cortex,  is also where we ‘feel’ moral disgust.  We feel the need for food but we can also feel other needs that are psychological. In order to satisfy a psychological need it is no surprise that we eat to alleviate the feelings of wanting something to satisfy the soul.

Why People Eat To Excess

It could be argued that eating is one way to combat negative feelings, that means when you are upset or ‘depressed’ it is likely ( 66% ) people become hyperphagic that is eat more carbohydrates to feel better and only one third of people when depressed become hypophagic eat less. Feed a cold and starve a fever.

This in the very general sense has everything to do with temporary moods or equally long term feelings of deprivation which causes mood to swing. Swing left, right and off centre. Eating something with carbs or sugar really does taste very good and albeit temporarily, is a stress reliever. The problems begin when eating becomes a comforter for stress and negative emotions. This is a really short term solution and not the most healthy by a long way.

In the US recent statistics suggest that over one third of people are obese. That is not just a bit overweight this is FAT! Being obese has massively strong correlations to health problems. Food is so very easily available and almost effortless to obtain. Think about all of the packaged ready meals or the ubiquitous all-you- can- eat buffets that attract so many people to sit a graze like happy cows chomping and gobbling up food.

Yo-Yo Dieting And Failure

Is this you? Begin a very well intentioned diet plan, stick to it for a day, a week or a month and then lose steam? Buy the latest dieting book, maybe even read it, and still hating being fat? Start stop,start stop … Yo-Yo! Self help books, self help audio and self help video all sell two things … hope and a miracle cure.

The self help library of products is a multi-million industry and unless you do actually do the exercises and practices as described is just filling the pockets of people other than you in terms of getting what you really want.

What you need to do is create long term and self powered, self motivated ways of creating the you you want to be and living the life you want to live. The crux for me is connecting and sponsoring a very real and honestly motivating psyche or mental state that powers your new behaviours and habits. In effect a new you that has access to the deepest reasons and motivation that drive forward the behaviours that make you take care of and nurture who you are.

What is often missing in all the failed attempts is a conscious understanding of why you need to lose weight and a really very long term commitment to investing in your health, happiness and personal evolution.

A Way Forward – Weight Loss Psychology

Before you seek any psychological, hypnotherapy or counselling ask yourself the following questions and you will already have one foot in the door to a lasting change.

  • What does losing weight actually mean?
  • What is important about losing weight?
  • What are the real important factors here?
  • What is driving me to lose weight?
  • What will be different when I have lost weight?
  • Where is this leading you towards?

When you have answers and this will equate to a honest and long term motivation, the kind that can prevent the Yo-Yo dieting trap and start you on a way forwards in life that is, as you think about this now, is not really to do with weight loss but instead becoming more of who you want to be …

Hypnotherapy Newcastle for weight loss and the personal evolution of your self that is much more of a living embodiment of a happier and healthier you. Call Nigel Hetherington of 0770 481 8467 for a free  consultation which will take about 20 minutes of your time and discover what weight loss really and honestly means for you.

 

Hypnotherapy Newcastle Addiction Treatment – Nigel Hetherington

Newcastle hypnotherapy for addiction treatment in Northumberland, Hexham and the North East of England. Help to stop smoking using hypnosis and NLP in Newcastle and additionally stop problematic addiction hypnotherapy for pornography, gambling and addictive drug use in Newcastle with hypnosis.

In September 2012 I was invited to discuss hypnotherapy in treating stop smoking for a local radio station as part of a discussion relating to the Stoptober 28 day challenge the UK government is promoting this October.

Within minutes of arriving at the radio station I was asked if I would work with one of the team to help them stop smoking. Pretty predictable for a story right? I immediately said YES, providing the person really wants to stop smoking and is honestly committed to quitting. Anything less is a waste of two peoples time.

Wanting to stop any drug addiction requires two essential elements; One an honest desire to stop and two, discovering genuinely meaningful reasons to stop. More on this in a few paragraphs …

The process of addiction is practically always like this. A person tries some behaviour like smoking, internet pornography, cocaine, gambling or buying shoes and discovers they both like and want to do it again.  Over time the behaviour becomes a part of that persons ‘normal’ repertoire of behaviours.

Liking and wanting are two different kinds of desire and crucially when wanting to stop an addiction a person wants, that is the addiction,  but does not like their behaviour. Now here is the kicker and of course some may well disagree.

An addiction is only a problem when the addict goes through cycles of, lets call it drug abuse, when they want to partake and afterwards hate themselves for having partaken. They love it when they are ‘high’ on spending, arguing, snorting or eating to excess AND THEN the down cycle is self loathing, disgust or promising to whatever deity is available at the time that it will never happen again … and then the cycle begins again.

If there is a cycle of ‘never again’ but again comes, then there is a problem. A problem of the psyche and problem in behaviour. This is the time to request professional assistance in stopping.

How An Addiction Is Created

It’s simple,  you do or try something you like or equally do something that displaces a stress response, like going to the gym, having a pint or smoking something.  Do it enough and BAM you have created a dopaminergic ‘reward’ for some behaviour. Reward is largely encouraged by the dopamine mesolimbic pathway ‘I want or can do this’  and satiation by a whole load of endorphins in the ‘that was good’ pleasure response brain pathway.

With repetition of an, in this case, addictive behaviour, there is a protein called DeltaFosB which builds up and remains long after the problematic behaviour. And this protein massively increases the desire for addiction and for a period of time, a long period, remains and alters basic genetics, promoting the problematic behaviour. The more you do a behaviour, the more DeltaFosB builds up and perpetuates a viscous cycle of addiction.

It works both ways. Good and health promoting behaviours like running or going to the gym or learning cool new things also promote a build up of DeltaFosB and in this way our bodies really don’t know the difference between good practice and potentially damaging practices. It comes down to a realisation of how we want to live our lives and the behaviours we choose or become addicted to.

There are two pleasure components Desire and Satisfaction, that’s wanting it and Yum, got it. The first is a drive to do a behaviour and the second is a ‘reward’ for having done the behaviour.

In terms of addiction, with increased exposure to something pleasurable we will very naturally want more. This is akin to the more of something that feels good, or equally calms a stress response, and very importantly as a result we cognitively know this is good, we derive a huge benefit that is long term and supports our life well. Here is the obverse.

In drug addiction increased exposure leads to tolerance and then means a person needs more of the drug to get the same affects, this is done by way of down regulation of the neuronal synapses and equates to a need more to get the same feeling. Additionally there is an increased sense of wanting more as it seems to make life better, but long term it does not.

Right, So How I Choose Who I Work With

OK, remember the radio station? The person in question who ‘wanted’ to stop was offered by the radio presenter as a candidate. This is a potential RED FLAG for me because they did not seek this for themselves.  I usually reject second hand requests for help in any form of therapy, why? Because it is someone else’s ideas of what another person needs.  So I asked a few questions as to why they wanted to quit. Their answers were kind of OK, BUT, I was really unsure so … Here is what I did.

I did the same structured interview as I do with any potential client. Have them return a questionnaire and arrange a call to check commitment to make a positive change. My email requests all clients to book, that means pay, in advance having has a conversation to determine, amongst other things a potential clients desire to make changes in their life.

I received a call from the radio presenter, not the client,  ( Another RED FLAG ) querying the request for payment. “I thought it was for free?” “No, I replied I do not provide a service for free, there has to be a psychological buy in for change”.

I hope you understand there is a very real equation in that change has a value. Now this potential client, a person who is on a substantial wage, described themselves as a ‘guinea pig’ for a stop smoking treatment. This description of themselves felt very wrong. Imagine describing yourself as a guinea pig?

Said radio presenter said that their company had no budget for this and assumed my services were for free. I invited the potential client to pay for it themselves. A relatively small cos, £123,  for a life change on 20+ cigarettes per day.  I have heard nothing back.

This to me indicates no real desire or investment in stopping smoking. This is not the kind of client I am interested to help stop smoking with hypnotherapy in Newcastle because primarily they have no demonstrable desire to stop, it was just a story for the radio station. Incidentally my interview has not been used.

NHS Stop smoking website : Stop Smoking Hypnotherapy Nigel Hetherington in Newcastle upon Tyne and Northumberland

When YOU want to stop smoking get in touch and make a commitment to your future so you can be free from a legally available drug that our government legitimises by a huge income in taxes that in monitory terms provides a government income which outways, by a large extent, the hospital costs for people with smoking related diseases.

Stop Smoking Newcastle Hypnotherapy : Newcastle upon Tyne Nigel Hetherington : 0770 481 8467

Newcastle Hypnotherapy : Fear of Public Speaking – Nigel Hetherington

Hypnotherapy Newcastle can be used to overcome public speaking fear with hypnotherapy so you can feel more confident and reorganise to change learned responses to public presentation. A fear of public presentation is a very common stress response and hypnosis is a particularly affective method to overcome a variety of stress responses.

Excess stress is known to cause heart damage and suppress the immune system. So having regular stress responses that are completely out of proportion to the actual situation are inappropriate and potentially harmful. Using hypnosis Newcastle you will be changing how you respond to perceived threat, stress situations as in public speaking or public presentation. The situation won’t change but your response will change so you can get on with presenting congruently.

For many people the fear of public speaking can cause the same kind of physiological response as a life or death situation. Public speaking or giving a presentation is a genuine bread and butter skill that today perhaps now more than ever is essential in bringing the kind of prosperity into you life that you want. Why is public speaking an essential skill?

It is because in practically all walks of life we as professional managers, directors, team leaders as being top class communicators in order to effect selling our ideas and meaningful values. And to do this we MUST be seen to be absolutely congruent.

In order to pitch and affectively communicate your ideas and beliefs to foster and create supporters in business you must be completely congruent. Congruent is the genuine felt sense of you walking your talk and knowing deeply the truth in the messages you are sending out.

Now imagine you do feel and connect deeply with your message BUT you begin to second guess your audience, you are talking to your self on the inside, reflecting on how you are being received whilst you are delivering your presentation, you begin to think the worst … your non-verbal communication leaks out those negative self thoughts and your presentation is not well received.

If you are preforming in a less than optimal and incongruent way OF COURSE your audience will detect this. And they will detect this on several levels of consciousness. Paul Ekman has a globally acknowledged body of research on what is called micro-signals or micro-expression leakage.

To summarise you need to be able to

  • Affectively communicate your values.
  • Influence others and sell your ideas.
  • Perform with confidence and fluency.

Lions Tigers & Bears – The Fear Public Speaking

a natural danger and stress response from an immediate life threatening situation such as an encounter with a lion, tiger or bear will activate your sympathetic nervous system in the following way.

Sensory information from our eyes and ears and possibly touch will be relayed to the information exchange centre of the human brain, the thalamus. This mixed mode of sensory information is then passed through the reticular formation, a small but complex nucleus in the brain stem and on to the amygdala, where fear emotions are heavily processed.  Following on from this the nerve impulses are shunted, very rapidly to the hypothalamus.

Hypothalamic – Pituitary – Adrenal Axis ( HPA )

The HPA can be understood as the stress response pathway. The hypothalamus is the gateway to our bodies homoeostasis system. This means the ways our bodies keep in balance within the system of life. In a life or death situation the hypothalamus mediates some bodily function. So in a potential life threatening situation the hypothalamus begins releasing CRH which in turn causes the anterior pituitary to release ACHT beginning a sympathetic nervous system response.

So all of this neuro transmitter and hormone release in the CNS and PNS now activate the endocrine system which activates the sympathetic nervous system and prepares the flight or fight response. The result of this is the adrenal endocrine release of catecholamines such as  epinephrine ( adrenaline ) and dopamine and the glucocorticoid cortisol. When the flight or fight response is activates we experience the following physiological shifts:

  • Suppression of the immune system.
  • Adrenal response.
  • Pupil dilation.
  • Vasoconstriction.
  • Increased hear rate.

So, clearly a stress response like that described above is completely out of proportion to the situation. The great majority of public presentations will no be life threatening at all. If you will like to change a mild or major stress response to public speaking get in touch to discover how hypnotherapy Newcastle can help you with public speaking.

 

Stress Hypnotherapy Newcastle # Nigel Hetherington

Is hypnosis for stress a truly viable solution?

Chronic or regular episodes of stress will over time damage the cardio-vascular and immune system.  It will impact on our physical and emotional wellbeing.

In our wonderful and hi tech world we physiologically respond to every day stresses as though we were gearing up to run away form a genuinely life threatening situation such as a confrontation with a sabre toothed tiger.

Our brain responds to both instinctual and learned fear the same way. The response involves our hypothalamus, pituitary gland and amygdalae. This system produces and activates the major stress hormones ACTH and cortisol and norepinephrine preparing the body for the flight fight response.

The vast majority of stress responses are not about life threatening situations but we have learned to dramatically over react and as such our neuro-physical response is completely out of proportion.

So is hypnotherapy for stress a really good treatment?

It may well be because hypnosis can be used for deep relaxation and you may also need to change certain behaviours to your advantage. Hypnotherapy can create the rest and relax cycles that promote physical and mental wellbeing though this is usually only half the story.

Our learned responses to stress such as ‘from’ other people can be unlearned. This means our interpretation to situations and events can have a huge emotional and physical impact on out life.

Additionally our own behaviours can be major stressors in our life.

I once worked with a woman who complained of stress. She ran her own business and worked seven days a week for just about every week of the year. It was common for her to work sixteen hours a day every day. Of course I advised her to work much less.

She responded well to hypnosis and relaxed in trance. I taught her self hypnosis and told her to do this once per day. For the first week she reported feeling much better. She continued to work long days.

After two weeks she stopped doing her own self hypnosis and complained she was again stressed. You will see that there is a balance required and in this case making time to relax was required and this woman chose to not do that.

Pressure is a natural and normal response to life’s challenges and adventures. Pressure is what can help us develop and go beyond current limits. We can think about our ability to cope with pressure like a container. We have a capacity to cope with pressure and when our capacity is exceeded we feel stress.

Hypnotherapy can help your both relax and learn ways to deal more affectively with stress in life. Explore hypnotherapy for stress here in Newcastle and contact me to see how I can help you.

Anxiety Hypnotherapy Newcastle – Nigel Hetherington

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Anxiety really can be a terrible and consuming thing to experience. Another word for anxiety is WORRY. Newcastle Hypnotherapy with Nigel Hetherington can be a real solution for you.

Anxiety will often reduce your capacity to respond as well as act in the ways you truly want to experience life. Another word for anxiety is worry. Worrying about how things can go wrong or how events can all turn out bad. How would it be when you can set yourself free?

Anxiety or worry is not a disease, it is not a pathology. Many so called counsellors or therapists would have you believe this. This is not true.

Anxiety its a way, a learned way of thinking about the future. Think about this, no one as far as I know was born anxious, it was a learned behaviour. This learned behaviour is all about how to cope and deal with physical / emotional feelings.

Anxiety is a behaviour, it is not a pathology and as such does not need to be suppressed with medication. This means there is no physical disease associated with anxious behaviour. There is of course neurological activity ( ways of thinking ) that are associated with anxiety. You don’t require drugs or medication to change thought patterns. At best drugs will suppress anxiety, they will likely suppress other things too.

If anxiety is really is screwing up your life, you are worrying and worrying and as a result suffering … I can most likely help you change your behaviour. I can assist you in turning your though patterns around. The purpose being to stop worrying and start living a more satisfying and meaningful life.

Cyclic negative, anxiety producing thought patterns tend to go like this.

“What if … but then what, if I don’t … and then What if … but what if …”

So the real key here is to STOP that thought pattern and engage in a better one right …

People who behave anxiously are never anxious about some general things. You are anxious about something specific and worst of all it has not happened. Anxiety is all about thinking about the future and creating, almost always, the worst possible outcome for yourself and others. Think about it, how could it be different if you started habitually thinking about better outcomes in the future?

Newcastle Hypnotherapy for Anxiety combines NLP, Hypnosis and Humour in a way that will really help you move through your old thought patterns and into a whole new way of thinking.

If you have tried counselling and it really hasn’t worked after lots of session and you are totally committed to making the changes in your life you honestly want … act now …

For a completely confidential and solution orientated approach for you to help getting yourself out of anxiety and worry and Getting on with your life, contact me right away, [ after all being anxious and a worrier what’s the worst that can happen 😉 ] call now.

nigel@nigelhetherington .co .uk

0770 481 8467

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Hypnotherapy For Guilt And Shame

Guilt and shame are two emotions that can cause suffering and stop you leading a full life. Both of these emotions are about not living up to values. These values can be your own or other peoples. Values are the kinds of experiences and behaviours that are important to both ourselves and to others.

If your behaviour or lack of it, in some way disrespects another persons values, you may well feel shame. Shame can also be imposed on you by another, such as by their public disapproval of your actions or even of you.

Guilt is about your response to how you are living up to and in accordance with your own values. How you behave or do not behave in relation to your own values can create the emotion we call guilt.

Both guilt and shame are emotions that are firmly located in the past. Guilt and shame are about past events and because there has been some perceived transgression of values, for some, those memories are replayed again and again and so can go on generate more guilt or shame.

Hypnotherapy and NLP can be very successfully used to stop most people feeling these negative emotions, for a specific event, in just one session. What is even more important to do after the feeling of guilt or shame is gone, is to re-evaluate the event and create strategies so that in any future situations that are similar, you will act much more in line with the values you want to honour.

For completely compassionate, confidential and non judgemental help dealing with Guilt and Shame and Getting on with your life

Contact Nigel Hetherington

nigel@nigelhetherington .co .uk

0770 481 8467

Surviving A Seriously Toxic Relationship – Part One

I honestly think people meet for a reason. My thoughts here are, it is to learn and create together or learn and create apart. Our relationships with our intimate lovers, friends and acquaintances can in some ways be defined by what we both learn and go on to accomplish, share and go on to help others through our own experiences.

If you have ever been in an unnecessarily argumentative, emotional, mentally or even physically abusive relationship that can be categorised with frequent breakups and passionate get back together’s then this may be of help and interest to you in both getting some kind of understanding of what’s happening and finding ways to live healthily together or move apart sooner.

It is my intention that these articles will provide examples you may relate to and to provide means to make the right changes for you in terms of your relationship.

If you choose to get out of this kind of toxic relationship the rest of this articles will offer some suggestions as to how as a survivor you can let go of the past, feel better and move forward with a sense of forgiveness and compassion. My reparation took me over six weeks to fully heal my heart and head, to let go of many unhelpful emotions and memories and feel whole again.

I most often find labelling people is not helpful. What I want to show here is a collection of coping mechanisms people with so called Borderline Personality Disorder ( BPD ) have for coping in their world and specifically coping in an intimate personal relationship.

It is honestly NOT their fault they have these modes of behaviour or coping mechanisms to be interacting with intimate partners but unless you are their therapist or their partner you will most likely never see this side of their personality. It can be like a real life Jekyll and Hyde. Relationships with this kind of characteristic can look like the Somme Battlefield from the outside. From the inside it is honestly much, much worse for both people.

Please read the following article for an insight into a BPD relationship. Click on the hyperlink below.

How a Borderline Personality Disorder Love Relationship Evolves

An Article by Roger Melton MA

The article above describes very well my perceptions of my own experience in a relationship with an ex partner who displayed all of the coping mechanisms that I will describe below. As such I have no intention of relating specific personal examples. This is for two reasons. Sometimes I feel ‘our story’ has an element of ‘the victim’ attached to it and so creates unhelpful gossip and agony aunt style, problem focused awareness and also this is really about recognising the signs and making a choice as to how best to move forward.

Having been in a toxic and mutually unhealthy relationship with a partner who exhibited these coping strategies for BPD with various intensities and frequencies; I have to say, at that time I simply didn’t understand what was happening or why they behaved that way. I did not understand many of our interaction. They often made little sense, more often than not no sense at all.

Arguments would frequently erupt from nowhere. My then partner would shout, make fists become verbally aggressive and abusive. In short a kind of totally unpredictable angry temper tantrum. Their raging arguments were paradoxical with what I perceived as frequent double standards that simply could not be reasoned out. I had no real idea how or why these would start arguments, but now I know, it is just one way of coping:

When you get to understand what childhood circumstances created these coping mechanisms or behavioural imprints ( DSM-IV-TR, The Angry Heart ) it is actually very easy to forgive and feel real compassion for an ex partner or even a current one; It is also very easy to forgive yourself. But when you don’t know, it is all too easy to feel hurt, used, manipulated, cheated and abused. This is the victim role. You can lose your sense of self value and self respect; Because you love them so you keep going back … for more of the same and so the cycle continues.

BPD Criteria and Coping Mechanisms

A pervasive pattern of instability of interpersonal relationships, self-image, and affects and markedly impulsivity beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts as indicated by five ( or more ) of the following :

1. Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment.
2. A pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterised by alternating between extremes of idealisation and devaluation.
3. Identity disturbance: markedly and persistently unstable self image or sense of self.
4. Impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self damaging ( spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating).
5. Recurrent suicidal behaviours, gestures or threats of self-mutilating behaviour.
6. Affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood ( intense episodic dysphoria, irritability, or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days).
7. Chronic feelings of emptiness.
8. Inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger ( frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights ).
9. Transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or sever dissociative symptoms.

DSM – IV -TR

Part Two of this article will go on to explore the issue of blame and responsibility. Part Three will offer suggestions and ways, that as a survivor of specifically this kind of toxic relationship you can heal your emotional past and then move forward in life with a genuine sense of forgiveness and compassion.

Can You Make A Living From Coaching or Therapy?

I run regular trainings in Newcastle for people to become certified Clinical Hypnotherapists and NLP Practitioners. Two days ago I received a call from a perspective participant regarding Hypnotherapy Training. One of their really good questions was “Can I make a living as a Hypnotherapist”.

The answer is a very BIG no and yes!

There are many, many training courses where you can become a qualified therapist, coach or hypnotherapist. Currently there is no legislation in the UK to stop anyone stating they are a ‘hypnotherapist’ or ‘coach’ any reader can do it right now. Some will get a ‘qualification’ yet if you want to make a good living as a professional people helper YOU NEED CLIENTS, no matter how good you think you are or the training you have received.

I strongly recommend Andy Austin’s Brass Bollocks [ if you will follow the process ] and then be prepared to commit to the time it takes to generate lots of clients AND build a reputation and successful practice!

Andy is someone I have done a great deal of training with, who I regard as a truly consummate professional, Andy Austin has stated …

A little humility will save you a lot of humiliation“.

There are so many products out in the market promising you can make £x,xxx,xxx in a year. This is a big sham! One of the biggest deceptions going in my opinion. There are no get rich quick schemes and if this is what you want you may well be in the wrong profession! Yet, the strategies are generally good BUT it takes time to build a good reputation, referrals and a professional practice.

My personal experience, never bothering to follow any of these get rich schemes was it took me five years to build a profitable practice in therapy. I am an ex-software engineer and have some savi regarding how to build an internet presence that works for you.

I was teaching hypnosis and NLP by 2005 and it is now 2011. This is five years in time and five years in reputations and referrals. Unless you have a massive number of contacts do not expect to make a living as soon as you are qualified. I think this applies to any professional practice, therapy or other …

One of the most important pieces of experience I can offer is you can do it. It usually wont happen over night. It takes practice, time and a real commitment to helping people transform their lives – as well as your own! If you are currently working I suggest you create what I call a ‘parachute fund’ to help you on your way, to transition between a job and a true calling. Don’t do what I did and sell your house to create you business, it is way too risky!

So, I sold my home and quite my job as a full time software developer and programmer to pursue my dream. I wouldn’t recommend this to anyone because it was very hard and was a one way ticket to survive and  flourish or go bust. I followed my dream …

Anything and everything to do what I love, my family and friends said I was mad to give up a lucrative job … YET … my heart was elsewhere in the future … and eventually … this came true … It was not easy! It is really hard work!!

Follow your heart … … … and at the same time, realise you do need to make a living in the process ….

Some hints and tips on what not to to … Basically don’t lie about yourself.

In therapeutic practice, there are so many people advertising skills they simply haven’t got.  For instance …

Do not advertise what you are not or make somewhat ridiculous claims on what you can do for clients. This includes ridiculous fees that simply do not attract clients.  The [ ] are examples of what I personally know has failed for certain people who try to present themselves as therapists or coaches.

  • £125 coaching by skype [ 4 clients in 18 months, two non paying ]
  • Child behaviour Specialist . [ Physically abusing their children by smacking then in the face and mouth ]
  • Saying you have 100% client success [ everyone knows this is not so ]
  • Divorced mother specialisation [ still married and ongoing incredibly troublesome divorce ]
  • Relationship expert [ 20 years of infidelity and non resolved personal issues ]
  • Get your magic job [ no income from therapy, dependent on the state for financial support ]
  • You can make a living doing what you love [ no income except state / partner dependent ]

Make you fees plainly accessible to one and all

The most well known and successful UK therapists are from £125 – per hour or session. These are the people who have 10 to 15 years plus of experience and practice to charge this. Get real. You will not compete with these people right away. These are well developed and recognised professionals. Better to charge £45 per hour and get some clients while building a real reputation.

The real trick here is to build up a practice

  • Don’t listen to anyone who tells you to up your prices especially when they have no clients of their own.
  • Get your Internet Site presence up and for the world to see.
  • Make presentations to your local therapy and counselling associations.
  • Do free work until you have people that will recommend you.
  • Be true to what you believe is right and set out to make a difference.
  • Patience and the rest will come with dedication.

Follow your dreams while you study and practice hard!

Love & Light

Nigel

Buddhism, Enlightenment and Learning How To Feel Better – Part Three

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Carrying on from the previous post about NLP and the connections to Buddhism or more precisely one of many ways towards what is tentatively called enlightenment or as I prefer to say living in and having as authentic a life as possible and being comfortable in your own skin …

So, having read the last post and having acknowledged the positive purpose of the unwanted emotion, we can then use one of many NLP therapeutic processes to help heal the regrets of the past.

One of the simplest methods of doing this is to change, what is know as the sub-modalities of the ‘memory’. Our memories are re-experienced through our five senses and the sub modalities are the smaller components of each of our five senses.

Here is one way for you to heal your own regret. Work on one specific ‘regret memory’ at a time and follow the process all the way through.

  1. Remember a situation or memory that at one time you did regret but now, when you think about it you realize and acknowledge the learning and the value of that learning such that having had that experience has in fact made you a much better, more rounded person with far greater resources and skills. Let’s call this the ‘reference memory’.
  2. Still thinking about the memory you, at one time regretted, but now see this as a resource; answer the following questions, making a list of your answers.
    • Where is the memory located? Point to it! Is it up to your left, down to your right, is it central in front of you, is it behind you to the right? You need to find the spatial location. Find out where abouts in your own personal space the memory seems to be.
    • Is the memory colour or black and white?
    • Is the memory like a picture, series of pictures or a DVD movie?
    • Is the memory life size, smaller or bigger?
    • Do you see yourself in the memory or is it like you are looking out of your own eyes?
    • What sounds accompany the memory and what is their location? There may be many or none!
    • What smells are you aware of that accompany this memory?
    • Is the memory sharp and clear or fuzzy and blurred?
  3. Write all your answers down and then go and make a cup of tea and come back in a few minutes.
  4. Now think about the specific situation, memory or incident you do still regret and answer the following questions, make a list of:
    • Where is the memory located? Point to it! Is it up to your left, down to your right, is it central in front of you, is it behind you to the right? You need to find the spatial location. Find out where abouts in your own personal space the memory seems to be.
    • Is the memory color or black and white?
    • Is the memory like a picture, series of pictures or a DVD movie?
    • Is the memory life size, smaller or bigger?
    • Do you see yourself in the memory or is it like you are looking out of your own eyes?
    • What sounds accompany the memory and what is their location? There may be many or none!
    • What smells are you aware of that accompany this memory?
    • Is the memory sharp and clear or fuzzy and blurred?
  5. You now have two lists of the sub modalities of each memory. Here is how to run your own brain. Look for the differences between the two experiences, for example are the two memories in different locations? Is one color and one black and white? You get the idea right! Differences here are the important factors!
  6. Start to make the sub modalities ( one at a time ) of the ‘regret’ memory the same as the ‘reference memory’ you used to regret and notice how your emotional response changes. It is your brain you can make any changes you want to make. Changes can be changed back or kept depending on how you feel.

Now maybe Buddha did not use this specific NLP process ( there are rather a lot to select from ) as he took many days to achieve his enlightenment and this can change how you feel much more rapidly. In a matter of minutes, you can have really practised this skill more fully. But perhaps Buddha had, like the rest of us, a great many regrets so he worked through them all, systematically, one at a time. NLP like Buddhism is about continued practice so please accept the invite to change, one at a time, the things you regret.

NLP is about learning how to run your own brain to get the kind of results you want in a systematic way.

Clean Language Clean Therapy ™ Solutions | Newcastle Hypnotherapy | Newcastle Hypnosis

Newcastle Hypnotherapist Nigel Hetherington demonstrates Clean Language leading into the Clean Therapy ™ model to assist in exploration and a solution orientation with one of the participants.

I have recently been working in Alaska delivering Clinical Hypnotherapy training. Here is the first of two parts of a demonstration of Clean Language and my Clean Therapy ™ Model.

One of the things that make the Clean Therapy ™ approach so powerful is clients never have to talk directly about their problems, which can often cause them even more distress. Using metaphor and physical movement the Clean Therapist directs the process of change at a different level of internal experience that the origional problem. That is, a metaphoric representation is created and then explored. As the metaphor is explored and changed the problem representation will naturally have been explored and changed too.

For Hypnosis in Newcastle and Hypnosis in Hexham contact call 0770 481 8467 or email nigel@nigelhetherington.co.uk

Change Your Mind – Change Your Feelings

Albert Einstein is said to have commented “Problems cannot be solved by the same level of thinking that created them!”

Here we use a metaphor to represent the problem state and the metaphor IS a different level of thinking!

This is a really neat process to help people move from unresourceful states to really positive and resourceful ones. Using emergent metaphor to change the internal representations or problem states as a 2nd order change process.

The process is created by Kevin Creedon and know as the Cloud Process.

NLP Practitioner Training @ £495 | Newcastle & North East NLP Practitioner Course

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When we want to make our life better and are frustrated that it is not happening the way we want it to be or not happening at all, there are some things we can do to take action and get better informed and equipped to make the changes we want happen.

This excellent value training begins in January 2011 and concludes in June. The Newcastle NLP Practitioner training course is three days Friday-Sunday each month.

We all experience and face common frustrations and problems just about each and every day.

Here are just some of them:

  • Wasting Time and Energy Worrying about the NOW…
  • Wasting Time and Energy Worrying about the future ( Anxiety )
  • Economy and Money
  • Your Job Security
  • Your Relationships both Personal and Professional
  • You are not happy or satisfied with you present situation
  • A lack motivation
  • Wanting to turn your life around
  • Worried about paying your bills
  • Unable to get on better with others and yourself

Neurolinguistic Programming or NLP is a kind of pseudo psychology developed in the 1970’s. It has grew to massive fame in the UK largely because of Paul Mckenna’s TV shows. NLP is a successful and powerful way of running your own brain, increasing your confidence, managing your state as well as learning and developing ethical influencing and communication tools. It is also a great deal of fun in the learning!

Excellent content, great presentation, great group. All if it linked together, I have really enjoyed it and learned a lot from the course, very useful.

Kim – Manager Outdoor Activity Centre

Taking an NLP Practitioner training will of course not solve each and every one of your problems yet it will give you tools you can use to take much more control of your life and generally feel much better about it. You will change the way you think and interact with others. You will learn how to get on much better with people and literally talk their language.

Totally fab, exceeded my expectations. Thank you very much! The trainers are great and the venue is ideal. For me, its the power and awareness of language are the most useful.

Rob – Counselling Lecturer

This special credit crunch price for the NLP Practitioner Course with six months training is just £495. This really is the most exceptional value certified NLP Practitioner in the UK. It is this price because the current economic climate which demands you get paramount value for your money and because Communicating Excellence is dedicated to increasing the success of all people in our North East community.

I have seen changes in myself that I wouldn’t have thought possible. Thank you so much

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Hypnosis Course

Hypnotherapy Course and Hypnosis Course in Newcastle upon Tyne with Nigel Hetherington.

Hypnosis course approved training with the General Hypnotherapy Standards Council and General Hypnotherapy Register. Graduates are eligible to join the General Hypnotherapy Register and receive membership of both the GHR and The Hypnotherapy Register.

The GHR is the largest organisation for professional hypnotherapist in the UK.

Clinical Hypnotherapy Training Course

Buddhism, Enlightenment and Learning How To Feel Better – Part Two

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Not every reader will be aware of the fact that many of the people who are developing and exploring their own spirituality, interestingly enough, will have something in common with people who are studying NLP or Hypnosis in Newcastle and the North East.

Now these connections may not be immediately obvious, so here is an invitation for you to look at some parallel lines of exploration.

In relating the science of Hypnosis and NLP to the spirituality of Buddhism there are some very clear connections in terms of outcomes or to put it another way, what students from either of these discipline’s can anticipate from their efforts and studies because …

Both Buddhism, Hypnotherapy and NLP at the higher level are concerned with moving towards true personal freedom, compassion and living your own life. Ultimately it is about being able to feel how you want to feel much more of the time and engage in what is truly important to you and satisfy your own values.

So to draw the first parallel let’s again recount the first temptation of the Buddha by the demon Kama, the Buddhas ‘solution’ to this problem and then see how you can do this from an NLP or Hypnosis perspective.

Kama sends by proxy his three daughters Regret ( past), Fulfillment ( present ) and Desire ( future ). Buddha being, still on his immovable spot, disengaged from the field of time, he is able to refute all three emotions and be free from desire, regret and fulfillment.

All very well for Buddha to deal with these emotions but the question many people will be asking is “how do I deal with these emotions?

Let’s explore regret. Regret is specifically about the past. Regret is a reviewing and reliving of past memories and for whatever reasons ( the list could be very long ) ruing the things that either were or were not done. Often times this in not even a choice to relive the memory it just seems to run and re-run all by itself. The brain just seems to do what it wants and not what you want.

Now, what if, like Buddha, you could change your past memories, here specifically regret, such that all the learning’s and education are preserved yet they have a completely neutral or even oddly pleasurable emotional response to the ‘same’ memory?

Looking through the therapeutic lens of applied Hypnotherapy and NLP, regret is an indication that some value, some behavior or experience that is especially important to you was in some way transgressed. This applies irrespective weather the regret is about something that did happen ( and wish it hadn’t ) or something that did not happen ( and wish it had ).

You know, we learn by making ‘mistakes’ so being able to keep the learning and dissolved any unwanted emotion is what this is about.

First and foremost and often the hardest step for people is to acknowledge that the feeling of regret is serving some very positive purpose. This feeling of regret can act like a ‘flag’ or ‘marker’ so that in any similar future situations, you will act differently and in ways that will respect and support the transgressed value.

The third article of this series will give a simple step by step process of how you can change the way you think about regret and start to run your own brain for a change.

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Bill O Hanlon Workshop Newcastle Upon Tyne September 2010

A very special workshop for solution focused and brief therapy professionals.

bill-headshot-bw.jpg“There is no use trying, she said.“One cannot believe impossible things.”“I dare say you haven’t had much practice” said the Queen “When I was your age, I always did it for half-an-hour a day.Why sometimes I’ve believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast.” – Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland

Possibility Therapy uses the power of acknowledgement to meet people where they are stuck and the power of possibility to invite them into change. Not just a positive approach, this approach recognizes problems, the influence of the past, and cultural, political and gender influences while creating a respectful, hopeful environment for change. It also adds a spiritual dimension to therapy.

Through clear handouts and lectures, videotapes and practice exercises, participants will have the opportunity to not only learn this approach to therapy but also to apply it to their own lives and selves.

Morning session Day 1

  • Introduction to a new way of thinking and working in therapy
    • Discovering solution-oriented therapy
  • First Things First: Starting therapy on the right foot
    • Finding a focus and identifying who wants to change what
    • Assessment as intervention
  • Solution-Oriented Therapy
    • Find exceptions and solutions from the past
    • Evoke competence
    • Notice change rather than stuckness
    • Imagine a future without the problem and work backwards from there

Afternoon session Day 1

  • Possibility Therapy: A further evolution of brief solution-oriented therapy
  • Acknowledgement and possibility
  • Collaboration/non-expert stance
  • Future pull
  • Inclusion

Morning session Day 2

  • Inclusive Therapy: Dissolving resistance (from clients and therapists)
    • Discovering inclusion
    • Three levels of inclusion
    • The Inclusive Self
    • The 3 Cs of spirituality in therapy

Afternoon session Day 2

  • Brief therapy
  • The three kinds of brief therapy
    • Strategies of brief therapy
    • Change patterns
      • Personal and interpersonal
    • Change the doing (action/interaction)
    • Change the viewing (attention/meaning-making)
      • Stories
    • Set achievable and observable goals
    • Small changes can produce big results

Objectives:

  • To learn the components of brief and solution-oriented therapy
  • To learn how to dissolve resistance and create a collaborative environment in therapy
  • To be able to use 5 methods of acknowledgement and possibility
  • To be able to use 3 methods of inclusion

Bill O’Hanlon, MS, LMFT, has authored or co-authored 29 books, the latest being A Guide to Trance Land (W.W. Norton, 2009), Write is a Verb (Writer’s Digest Books, July 2007) Pathways to Spirituality (W.W. Norton), Change 101: A Practical Guide to Creating Change (W.W. Norton, Fall 2006), and Thriving Through Crisis (Penguin/Perigee; winner of the Books for a Better Life Award).

He has published 54 articles or book chapters. His books have been translated into 15 languages: French, Spanish, Portuguese, Swedish, Finnish, German, Chinese, Bulgarian, Turkish, Korean, Indonesian, Italian, Croatian, Arabic and Japanese.

He has appeared on Oprah (with his book Do One Thing Different), The Today Show, and a variety of other television and radio programs. Since 1977, Bill has given over 2000 talks around the world. He has been a top-rated presenter at many national conferences and was awarded the Outstanding Mental Health Educator of the Year in 2001 by the New England Educational Institute.

Bill is a Licensed Mental Health Professional, Certified Professional Counselor, and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. Bill is clinical member of AAMFT (and winner of the 2003 New Mexico AMFT Distinguished Service Award), certified by the National Board of Certified Clinical Hypnotherapists and a Fellow and a Board Member of the American Psychotherapy Association.

He is known for his storytelling, irreverent humor, clear and accessible style and his boundless enthusiasm for whatever he is doing. His seminars are as entertaining as they are educational.

Where, When and How Much?

This workshop will take place on Saturday 11th and Sunday 12th of September at The Caledonian Hotel, Jesmond, Newcastle upon Tyne.

The workshop will start at 9:30 am and end at 5:30pm on both days.

Workshop fees

  • For the first 10 people to sign up online the fee is just £100
  • The early bird fee of £175 is available until July 19th extended to July 31st
  • The full fee of £225 applies thereafter

The booking system is online and will become live at 8:00am on Wednesday April 21st.

Hypnosis To Relieve Stress and Worry

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Movie super star Mel Gibson has recently had a mammoth 10 day hypnotherapy session to help him cope with all of the stress in his life.

Stress can be defined like this: All people have an ability to cope and thrive in a natural environment with natural pressures. When a persons ability to cope with natural pressure is exceeded, then there is an excess of pressure, this excess pressure, the excess an individual really can’t cope with is called stress.

Hypnosis can be used very effectively as a therapy for anything that is the human condition, to change behaviour and habits – and also for self improvement.

A great deal of peoples stress is caused by thinking the worst will happen and is exacerbated by telling yourself how bad it can get, that you can’t cope and then thinking and replaying all of this over and over again in your mind. Being stressed over a long time is known to be very bad for both physical and emotional well-being.

there is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so. To me it is a prison– Shakespeare, Hamlet

Hypnosis is an extremely effective way of reprogramming your brain so that you can deal with excess pressure and stress in more healthy ways. This is the first step, change how you feel. Secondly learn new ways to manage stress and third create ways of being that are intended to stop you getting into stressful situations. If stress really is getting you down and destroying your life, give me a call to find out how I can help you.

Hypnosis to relieve stress in Newcastle, Jesmond, Hexham and Northumberland. Call now! 0770 481 8467

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