Category Archives: Hypnosis Self Sabotage

Hypnotherapy Jesmond Exam Nerves – Nigel Hetherington

When the pressure, the exam pressure, is on and you have to perform because your future depends on a great performance, hypnotherapy for exam nerves and confidence can help you ace that exam. An Exam is about meeting a certain criteria but an exam can be thought about as’the worst that can happen.’ This is what we call ‘worry.’

Hypnotherapy is a common antidote to all kinds of exam nerves. Exams come in various forms; Written exams at college and university. Practical exams like a driving test or a presentation exam. For some people these create the worst possible environment and situations. Hands going clammy, mouth dry, you sweat and your mind can go blank. This is exam stress and hypnosis in Jesmond can help you beat it. We all worry about something! Don’t worry!!

But we do worry! Things that can end life worry us like cancer tests. Testicular or breast cancer screening or testing are massive worries for most. This is just an exam … This is just a check up of your knowledge but in some experiences it is just as worrisome as a cancer scare.

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Exam Nerves Hypnosis Jesmond

In a nut shell. Something happens and you lose it. You lose access to all the stored facts and ability to recall what you know you know. Why? Excess stress response. What is happening?

Your body is having a massive stress response. Hydrocortisone is marinating your nervous system and your hippocampus is getting over ridden by the amygdaloid bodies. It’s biological panic time and you can’t do squat about it.

Result, your Episodic memory goes for a leave and your body is ready to save your life. Trouble is there is not life threat. What you have is a completely out of proportion stress response and your mind has just gone blank. You just failed an exam and the colloquialism is “your fucked”. But it doesn’t have to be this way.

Learning Is State Dependent

Learning and access to your learnings, knowledge and behaviours are directly linked to the state you learn in. Your behaviours are state dependent and your state in an exam, to a very large extent, will mediate how well you perform.

A persons ‘state’, a word often used with great imprecision ( like self Esteem ) requires a solid definition in the same way an exam performance needs to be solid. So what does your state comprise of and what does ‘state’ mean?

A persons state can be defined as the sum total of the neuro-biological metabolic activity, but this really is not so helpful a definition. Breaking this down a little more; State is composed of breathing ( respiration ), endocrine activity, body positions and muscle tone  ( physiology ), mind activity ( psychology ) and neuronal activity ( nervous system ). That’s quite a lot of jargon.

Breathing And How You Breath

How you breath can dramatically affect how you feel and perform. This is a basic yoga and nlp principle. A person is shocked and the breathing changes. A person is excited and the breathing changes. A person is in love and the breathing changes. States produce breathing patterns and so breathing patterns produce states. In yoga this is called Pranayama – breath control.

Endocrine Activity

Our bodies have several endocrine glands. An endocrine gland releases hormones into the blood stream.  These hormones affect how we feel. Get massively stressed and there are stress hormones active for hours in the blood stream. Short term and in moderation these are health and mental activity promoting factors. Go overboard and the opposite happens.

A little stress or in other words pressure or stimulation and these can be really beneficial. To much and pressure becomes acute and we suffer, our ability to recall well rehearsed facts, answers and routines goes out the window.

Posture and Muscle Tone

One the the worlds leading coaches has said “physiology is king”, apart from the masculine accent, they are saying how you hold your posture affects your emotions and your performance. Crunch yourself up into a little tight ball and most people will report this is uncomfortable and learning is difficult. Stand tall or sit comfortably with a straight spine and relax any tense muscles and most report learning is easier.

Psychology – Your Thoughts

What you say to yourself, the thoughts and images that drive through your imagination and memory seriously affect your performance in an exam. Start the internal devil of “What if I can’t … ” or “I am not going to be able to pass …” and the wheel of doubt is in motion. Negative thoughts and images, real or imaginary, can adversely affect the ability to recall, replicate and think straight.

Thoughts, images and concepts have the power to create negative stress. You could test this out by imagining failing or flunking a very important exam and the long term consequences of any such ‘failure’. This is basically what people with anxiety problems do so very well enough to create a bodily state that is repressive and to a greater or larger extent prevents success and good feeling.

Neurology – Nervous System Responses

Putting conscious movement and thoughts aside for a moment or two. The involuntary or automatic nervous system comes in two parts. The para-sympathetic, rest, tend, relax, befriend. And the sympathetic nervous system, freeze, flight and fight. Stress activate the sympathetic system.

Stress and there is excess adrenaline and noradrenaline  diffused throughout your body. This is what you feel as a stomach churning fear. Get this in an exam? It’s not so helpful. Well maybe it is if you want to run away.

 Exam Nerves Solutions With Hypnotherapy

Assuming you know your stuff, you want to deal with and make at ease the exam nerves that create the stress response, knock you out of your learning state and have the potential to totally screw up your future. What is happening is you have an unconscious response that is as frisky as a wilde horse out the stable.

Hypnotherapy for exam nerves is all about changing the unconscious response because hypnotherapy is about changing unconscious responses.

Jesmond Hypnotherapy Exam

Instead of fretting and worrying, give Nigel a call on 0770 481 8467 for a free consultation regarding exam stress and how hypnotherapy in Jesmond can help you to be in the right state to pass your exams.  This will take around 20 minutes of your valuable study time.

Newcastle Hypnotherapy Weight Loss – Nigel Hetherington

Hypnotherapy for weight loss in Newcastle and the North East because so very many people want the body beautiful and their idealised body shape. There are essentially two reasons people want to lose weigh. Obviously there are the physical aspects but there are also the psychological ones.

Hypnotherapy in Newcastle for weight loss is honestly not just about losing weight. There is a required focus on what losing weight will actually accomplish and mean for any client. What are the deeper values you will need to access when your size or shape changes because your psyche has changed in a way that supports a different set of psychologically driven eating behaviours?

Hypnotherapy Newcastle Weight Loss

Psychological Hunger – A Deeper Metaphor

There are two areas in the brain that are responsible for the biological trigger of eating and stopping eating. In the limbic system the hypothalamus, a cluster of dense functional neurons about the size of a grape mediate our physical appetites.  The ventromedial and lateral nuclei respectively monitor rising and falling glucose in the body and as so create the feeling of satiation and hunger.

Because the brain has evolved to utilise the same circuitry for both physical and abstract navigation in the world of body requirements and social and cultural requirements there is almost certainly a hunger for the psychological needs as well as the biological ones. Eating to excess or hungering for something other than food will be very easily confused neurologically.

If we eat food that is rancid we feel disgust and that same brain region, the insular cortex,  is also where we ‘feel’ moral disgust.  We feel the need for food but we can also feel other needs that are psychological. In order to satisfy a psychological need it is no surprise that we eat to alleviate the feelings of wanting something to satisfy the soul.

Why People Eat To Excess

It could be argued that eating is one way to combat negative feelings, that means when you are upset or ‘depressed’ it is likely ( 66% ) people become hyperphagic that is eat more carbohydrates to feel better and only one third of people when depressed become hypophagic eat less. Feed a cold and starve a fever.

This in the very general sense has everything to do with temporary moods or equally long term feelings of deprivation which causes mood to swing. Swing left, right and off centre. Eating something with carbs or sugar really does taste very good and albeit temporarily, is a stress reliever. The problems begin when eating becomes a comforter for stress and negative emotions. This is a really short term solution and not the most healthy by a long way.

In the US recent statistics suggest that over one third of people are obese. That is not just a bit overweight this is FAT! Being obese has massively strong correlations to health problems. Food is so very easily available and almost effortless to obtain. Think about all of the packaged ready meals or the ubiquitous all-you- can- eat buffets that attract so many people to sit a graze like happy cows chomping and gobbling up food.

Yo-Yo Dieting And Failure

Is this you? Begin a very well intentioned diet plan, stick to it for a day, a week or a month and then lose steam? Buy the latest dieting book, maybe even read it, and still hating being fat? Start stop,start stop … Yo-Yo! Self help books, self help audio and self help video all sell two things … hope and a miracle cure.

The self help library of products is a multi-million industry and unless you do actually do the exercises and practices as described is just filling the pockets of people other than you in terms of getting what you really want.

What you need to do is create long term and self powered, self motivated ways of creating the you you want to be and living the life you want to live. The crux for me is connecting and sponsoring a very real and honestly motivating psyche or mental state that powers your new behaviours and habits. In effect a new you that has access to the deepest reasons and motivation that drive forward the behaviours that make you take care of and nurture who you are.

What is often missing in all the failed attempts is a conscious understanding of why you need to lose weight and a really very long term commitment to investing in your health, happiness and personal evolution.

A Way Forward – Weight Loss Psychology

Before you seek any psychological, hypnotherapy or counselling ask yourself the following questions and you will already have one foot in the door to a lasting change.

  • What does losing weight actually mean?
  • What is important about losing weight?
  • What are the real important factors here?
  • What is driving me to lose weight?
  • What will be different when I have lost weight?
  • Where is this leading you towards?

When you have answers and this will equate to a honest and long term motivation, the kind that can prevent the Yo-Yo dieting trap and start you on a way forwards in life that is, as you think about this now, is not really to do with weight loss but instead becoming more of who you want to be …

Hypnotherapy Newcastle for weight loss and the personal evolution of your self that is much more of a living embodiment of a happier and healthier you. Call Nigel Hetherington of 0770 481 8467 for a free  consultation which will take about 20 minutes of your time and discover what weight loss really and honestly means for you.

 

Newcastle Hypnosis Redressing Self Sabotage – Nigel Hetherington

Hypnotherapy in Newcastle upon Tyne for Self Sabotage problems. Self sabotage is the sense of almost achieving your goals, outcomes or dreams and again and again you do something that ruins or seriously jeopardises all your hard work and effort. Utilise hypnosis in Newcastle to redress your inner saboteur.

Developmental psychologists like Piaget, Gilligan, Gardner and Keegan have proposed stages of personal evolution and development for individuals.  Long term studies have validated their models and as such can by understood as a kind of generic road map for the normal development of each of us.

As we grow and evolve from small children into adults we all learn a great variety of way to cope in the world. These coping mechanisms take the forms of behaviours, ways of thinking and emotional response. Very often our environment shapes the coping behaviours we learn.

All of the learned behaviours and emotional responses we learn as children and adults are essentially fit for purpose. As children we learn ‘a cry’ behaviour can get us many different responses such as attention, being fed or changed. Emotional explosions as temper tantrums can get us attention, detained or even what we want.

As we grow in age our limbic system, the control centre for our emotional cocktail of urges and impulses is tamed and socialised by our higher order brain parts, our neo-cortex. The orbital frontal cortex, as we age, is responsible for checking the consequences of our actions and mediating our impulses. Our pre-frontal cortex is involved in executive functions like behavioural appropriateness and adaption. This area of the brain is strongly influenced by emotion.

Our higher brain regions are not generally fully myelinated until mid twenties. Before this time our brains are not working as efficiently as they can. Myelin is a fatty deposit on our neurons that helps the neurons in the brain and peripheral nervous system fire faster.

Usually as we continue on, growing up and evolving we become more socialised and learn additional behaviours and emotional displays that continue to work well for us. Self sabotaging behaviours on the other hand tend to have been a part of a persons way of being for a long time. A coping behaviour that has never yet had the proper conditions to evolve and grow.

Imagine if as a child you had had to learn to be quiet when a parent was angry because if you spoke up or made a noise something not nice happened. If that learned response never had the change to be updated you may have real trouble expressing your emotions when for example a spouse, friend or a employer makes emotionally charge unreasonable requests or loses their temper with you.

When emotions fly and stress is high it becomes more difficult to use your rational brain to mediate your responses and behaviours. In these situations the old coping mechanisms can and often do come back in full force. In a really stressful, high intensity hyper charged emotional situation the saboteur within can come out and make a special appearance.  This is usually an over the top, undesired behaviour.

The OTT response of the inner saboteur can be triggered in a variety of  ways, different and unique to each person. This inner spoiler usually manifests in one or more of these ways :

  • Overly or Underly emotional response
  • Excessive or Missing behaviours
  • Procrastination
  • Addictions

Your Inner Saboteur Is Your Ally

We have all registered with the term self-sabotage when some part of us, a behaviour or emotional bomb scuppers our best laid out plans. It goes against rational explanation and is counter intuitive but what if that inner saboteur was actually trying to help?

It’s the very beginning of the 19th century. In Europe the Industrial Revolution was well in swing. People are losing their jobs to machines that are labour saving but costly, very costly to the common worker.

In 1801 the Jacquard loom is one such machine that is beginning to take people’s jobs from them. As a way of rebellion, textile workers threw their wooden shoes called sabots into the machine loom and broke the guts and moving parts of the machine.

This destruction of machines by the wooden shoes or sabots became known as sabotage. This was indeed a purposeful act to attempt to accomplish the safeguarding of jobs and peoples livelihoods.

What Is The Inner Saboteur Really Trying To Do?

Let’s consider your inner saboteur as like a part of you. A part that is responsible for the behaviour of sabotaging and more importantly, responsible for the intention that drives the behaviour.

It is quite likely that the particular behaviour was learned a long time ago in the past and at that time the behaviour was adaptive and was both positively intentioned and productive. Now the behaviour causes emotional and psychological pain.

As an example, take the positive intention of a drug addiction. It may have been initially to experience pleasure and fit in with friends. Now the behaviour no longer serves the intention but the intention is still the same.

As another example, take eating a certain kind of sugary carb food. The initial intention may have been to feel better after sickness or mild depression. Now often eating the same kind of food leads to increased weight and lack of self-esteem. The intention is still the same but the behaviour doesn’t work in favour any more.

Self sabotaging behaviours are like being stuck in a rut. You get so far in the right direction but then you end sliding back. Its like a vicious cycle. And a good way out of the rut is to do something really quite  special and counter intuitive.

In a Newcastle hypnotherapy consultation you will discover the intention is positive and thank the part for all of its good intentions. Forgiveness, forgiveness of the self and taking responsibility, not blaming others, is a particularly affective way to dissolve the prison of past conditioning.

Sabotage can indeed be perceived as a disruptive or destructive behaviour yet the purpose or intention of that behaviour is very well intentioned. Here we make a distinction between a person and their behaviour, a behaviour and the driving intention behind behaviour.

The intention that your inner saboteur is carrying out is fundamentally honest and good. The resulting behaviour is of course not appropriate to you today.

Hypnotherapy in the North East and Newcastle upon Tyne. For professional help in transforming your inner saboteur into an inner resource and source of strength using Newcastle Hypnotherapy contact  : Nigel Hetherington : 0770 481 8467