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Trauma Relief Hypnotherapy Newcastle

Suffering trauma and being traumatised is a horrendous experience. Primarily because trauma such as PTSD comes back again and again, forcing the victim to relive that experience as thought it is in the present moment.

Of course reliving trauma is just that. It is experienced in the present moment reliving a horrible event, usually in full technocolor with all the heightened emotions and feelings. And relief from a waking nightmare is possible.

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Conventionally trauma can be thought of as surviving a life threatening situation or a situation where lose of life is perceived. Typical examples are acts of terrorism, war, torture and kidnapping. But these extreme events are not what causes the trauma most people experience though it is trauma nonetheless.

Experts in the field such as Robert Scaer and Peter Levine have extended the causes of trauma to more common occurrences such as vehicular crash, surgical operations and dental treatment. This is blatantly obvious to anyone who has suffered and recognition of such causes are slowly being recognised by medical professionals.

Additional sadly even more common events such as losing benefits, stage fright in public speaking or ad hominem attacks by malicious people may also affect as exposure to a traumatic experience.

The reality is the meaning and perceptions of traumatic experience is unique to the person experiencing it. What could traumatise one person could have zero effect on another and vice versa.

There is evidence that occurrences in childhood may predispose a person to be more susceptible to being traumatised via a specific event as well as potential genetic disposition thought predisposition does not necessitate it will happen.

You can think about trauma as ‘trapped energy’ that was not naturally dissipated after survival of a traumatic event. In fact the energy was somehow locked in and is metaphorically stuck.

Trauma and the Stress Response

When in a situation of perceived threat to life the body naturally is flooded with a cocktail of hormones and neuro-transmitters that nature has evolved to save our life. This is the well know flight/fight/freeze response.

During this process our episodic memory can be hijacked by the amygdalla ( a kind of unconscious memory to threat ) in order to process danger faster and ultimately provide life saving time and decision making that is not in conscious perception.

Scaer has ( I think quite correctly ) postulated that the freeze response, as in when we can’t really escape danger, has much to do with the encoding of trauma into a traumatic memory.

In animals after a freeze response has ended and they are not some predators lunch, they will shake and convulse and deep breath for a while before getting up and unscathed and untraumatised walk away non the worse for wear.

It seems somewhat different with humans having so much more neocortex and attempted rational thinking we don’t really do the ‘shake it off and walk away’. We have a tendency in retain and lock in all that energy into our bodies, our psyche and amygdalla and hence one model for the formation of trauma from a traumatic event.

“It’s not what happens to you, but how you respond to it that matters” Epictetus

But the trouble is that during high stress and perceived danger to life the responses are largely unconscious. A memory that is in actuality a resource, a blue print for survival. Though it won’t feel that way.

Memory is Associative

In writing this article I have been recollecting some of my own personal traumas. The first I remember was at the age of around four or five. I fell head first through a glass door. What at the time traumatised me most was not the actual fall or the cuts. It was the Doctors words “If he was just a little smaller the glass would have fell and decapitated him”.

This lead onto a second traumatic memory, one when I was around fifteen or sixteen. At school, along with the rest of a class was shown a film about the use of pigs in the US army. The pig was tied down and was blow-torched. Its skin was blistering. The ‘torturers’ stopped several times to give the pig water to drink before they continued blow-torching its skin. The pigs vocal cords had been cut so no screams would be heard. This was an experiment in burn survival.

In both these early traumas it was secondary and tertiary effects that caused trauma. It was not the fall but the doctors words. It was seeing the pig tortured on film.

Scaer describes that actual events followed by seeing and event then reading or watching an event are all possible causes to induce trauma. So it makes perfect sense that there can be different levels of exposure to events that all have the potential to be traumatic and cause long term problems.

Once a trauma is ingrained even the smallest of internal or external cues can set the memory in motion in the present. A similar environment, a certain body posture and even thoughts of the event. The more a traumatic memory is re-experienced the more the neuronal connections relating to it are strengthened. This is basically unconscious habit formation.

And traumatic events produce strong memories due to the hormones and neuro-transmitters that are released during stress. Repeated remembrance is habit formation.

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The very good news there is serious hope that your trauma can be alleviated. Since we are really describing an unconscious process that has at its heart ‘trapped neuro-physiological-psychological energy’ a highly feasible idea for releasing this trapped energy is hypnotherapy because hypnotherapy is focused on working with the unconscious mind-body.

Just reading about the proposed model of how traumas take root may be one additional step towards freeing yourself from the tyranny of traumatic memories. Imagine the kind of potential to release enormous amounts of energy previously expended in reliving trauma; what could you do with such released energy? How would your life and those closest to you benefit from such an improvement?

If you would like to discuss how I may be able to help you overcome and release your traumatic memory please either email me ( don’t use the comment box ) or call to arrange a free consultation.

 

Bereavement Hypnotherapy Newcastle upon Tyne

An estimated 45 million people died during the Chinese famine 1958-1962. An estimated 1 million people have died as a result of the Iraq war. And a quick look at data from the Office of National Statistics reveals that 60,891 people died in January 2015 from England and Wales. Of which 298 people died in Newcastle upon Tyne.

Unless you personally knew one of the people who died during the famine, died during the war or one of the 298 that died in January 2015 you may not feel any great loss. When you know someone, a friend, a partner, a parent or child that has died, chances are that your feelings of loss are immense.

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All people response to loss is essentially different in that your experiences and treasured memories of the dead will be individually unique. There is a useful model of the stages of grief by Kubler-Ross which may help you in understanding what is happening and why prolonged grieving my be happening.

The model is useful but remember it is a model and the so called stages may not always happen in the order the model dictates and it is possible to regress to previous stages.

How you deal with grief will be a uniquely individual experience and the healing that can come after is also unique to you. As humans we are all neurologically hard wired to be very loss adverse and react to bad events.

Some twenty years ago I was at my good friends fathers funeral. It was very emotional and there was literally hundreds of people in attendance.It was obvious my friend was close to tears, struggling and doing his best to honor his father.

One of my other friends ( who has lost one of his brothers ) shouted angrily and with some passion “you keep that in, be a man! You keep that in!” as if someone else can tell you how to feel and how those feelings are expressed. But it is the way the other friend has dealt with his brother dying.

So however you are dealing with loss and the emotions that accompany it, you are doing it in your own unique way. We all know that the counter point of life is death. We know this yet when we lose someone close it can take a very long time to recover and be enjoying life again.

If you are struggling with bereavement please get in touch to find out how I can help you heal, preserve your good memories and experiences and go forward with life.

 

How to Love the Pains of Weight Loss : Hypnotherapy Newcastle

Losing weight can be painful. It is not uncommon to experience psychological, emotional and even physical pain when losing weight.

Desire can be a powerful motivator and if you are reading this you probably have the desire to lose some weight. The ability to navigate the potential pains of weight loss could greatly help you sail to your desired new weight. But its not all plain sailing is it?

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You most likely know people who are a healthy weight and look good with it too. These people often seem to eat what they want and still continue to stay a stable healthy size. Their secret is not genetics but they do have one secret in common.

I will share this secret and more importantly how to apply it later in this post. First though, understanding your own desires to be a healthier weight is of the utmost importance.

Soon it will be New Year and with it people all over the world setting resolutions or goals to make their life better and more enjoyable. Often such goals are not reached. They are started but not maintained. So you need to understand your motivations!

Understanding Your Motivations

It’s not really enough to decide to lose some weigh and off you go to join a gym or hire a dietician. All of this can help but unless you have a very clear understanding of your own values, the deep reasons for starting this journey, you might not maintain the volition to stay on course and reach your destination.

It is more common for people to want to avoid pain than seek what will make them feel better. This is simple biology; for an equal amount of pain and pleasure the pain hurts more. In more psychological terms this is called either problem or solution focused and to make changes you need to have both.

For instance are you more motivated to avoid, to move away from being overweight? Or are you more motivated to seek to be the weight you want to be? You need to know your own biases because it will make it easier for you to reach your goals.

What is the bigger picture or what will losing weight actually do for you? Weight loss is never just about weight loss. What kinds of values are you willing to make use of in order for you to reach your goals? How will this affect the other people in your life? What is the long term purpose and utility of attaining your weigh loss goal? Again you need to explore and know all of this. Why?

Why You Need to Understand Your Motivations

If you look back over the history of you life, you will see that everything you have attained of genuine value has taken some effort. Effort can be physical , psychological and emotional. Effort or lack of, creates your habits.

In order to establish a new habit like healthy eating, it will require you to quite literally change your brain. Our brains are inherently plastic and what we do regularly strengthens those parts of our brain that drive our habits.

Exploring and deeply connecting with your own true motivations will help you to change that part of your brain that runs your personal auto-biography. This is the story we tell ourselves about ourself. It will help you stay on course. Think self fulfilling prophesy.

Changing a habit is therefor effortful. When you are truly aligned with the value of your goals, the bigger picture and can see the clear benefits. Putting the effort in to attain your goals becomes easier!

The Pains of Weight Loss

OK so we both know weight loss is not always plain sailing. If you have dieted before you probably know most diets work well for a while and then they tend to go off course and stop working. Only something like one in ten people who start a diet continues in life keeping the weight off. A significant portion also end up gaining weight!

Diets fail for a number of reasons. Mainly I think a lack of sustained motivation, diminishing returns and a combinations of life stressors blow people off course and that is when the old habits resurface.

Knowing just a little about how life stressors affect you can be a great aide in maintaining new habits long enough until the become your normal habits.

There are two very important aspects to setting and maintaining new habits and these come from the work of Dr D. Kahneman and equally Dr R. Sapolsky and Professor M. Marmot.

First from Kahneman is Prospect Theory and Regression to the Mean. Secondly from Sapolsky and Marmot is how stressors affect people. You don’t need to know the names just the concepts because they will help you sail through the pains of weight loss.

  • Weight loss is immediately to the weight you are now. Not some weight from the past or future but now.
  • The psychological pains or pleasures from weight gain or weight loss will feel less emotional over time. So regular updating your goals and motivations is important. This is a key factor in the failure of diets and the formation of new habits.
  • If you gained 1kg or lost 1kg, the weight gain will be more emotionally negative than losing 1kg will give emotional pleasure.

When people are stressed around two thirds of people turn to high carbohydrate foods. This actually reduces stress and makes us happier – but only short term.

  • Events being unpredictable. The more unpredictable your life is the more stress you experience.
  • Feelings of being out of control. The more out of control your life feels the more stress.
  • If there is a sense that life events are getting worse you will feel more stress.
  • If you are stressed and don’t have outlets for your stress you will feel more stressed.
  • Lack of social support makes stress more stressful.

We both know that weight loss is going to be more like a wave than a calm ocean. So you will likely both lose and gain weight over the days and months to come.

If you know that some days you may gain a little, knowing that weight gain will have a negative effect. Simply knowing about this effect means you are ready to deal with better. This means weight gain is predictable and the potentially negative emotional effect can be controlled.

Working with me you will be keeping a daily record of your weight. This is really useful because you can chart your progress and notice the patterns of habit formation in relation to your emotional states.

When you are in love pain doesn’t hurt” – Joseph Campbell

Aligning your values and purpose and loving those emotions like the wind in your sails to reach your goal could help you make all the difference. To stay on course avoiding the stressors your going to need to navigate and keep going sailing towards the kind of future you want.

So What is that One Secret?

These people have habits that are aligned with their emotional outcomes and have been strengthened over time to become their usual behavior. They learned to be that way. And habits are learnable with effort and the correct motivations.

You could become a new you by changing your habits.

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Understanding and fully using your motivations coupled with effort is a great way to make the habits of healthy eating a permanent vacation. It will take real effort on your part and most things you have attained in life of real value have required effort.

Aligning your emotional values with your goal is incredibly important. Understanding how and why stress will affect you during new habit formation helps you stay on course.

What I can help you with is maintaining the positive psychology to help you change old habits for new. This will also involve regular follow up conversations following any hypnotherapy sessions we have.

When you are ready to set a new course in your life. When you are serious about losing weight through the establishment of new habits please give me a call to find out how I can help you.

Thank you for reading!

Nigel Hetherington 0770 481 8467

 

 

Hypnotherapy for Depression : Changing Thoughts and Feelings

When I hear someone say they are depressed I want to know what they mean by that, what are their circumstances and how come they call themselves depressed.

The cold semi scientific, semi psychological diagnosis of ‘depression’  is a label and that label, perhaps described by a professional, is just that a label. It does not define a human being. It can define a set of life conditions that at the moment fits a diagnostic criteria. We are not a diagnostic criteria.

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I took this picture some years ago in a place I like to go walking in Northumberland. It was during Autumn where contrasts in the changes of life are significant. It is such a collaboration of the ‘one – ness of nature’. Natural seasons, cold and warm, life, death and rebirth.

Sometimes a label like ‘depression’ can be helpful in the sense that it begins to help a person understand what is happening with their mood and outlook for life. Depression symptoms commonly are the feeling or absence of pleasure in life ( anhedonia ) and often a lack of motivation to do just about anything.

Depression essentially has two forms. Typically, depression is a response to loss. This is know as a reactive depression. Losing something of value such as a job, physical mobility, loved one or even a deep belief system. Our mood changes we feel down and out, pointless often cry and wish for the past; and then we recover and life goes on.

What is know as a clinical depression is having similar symptoms to a reactive depression yet the cause is not necessarily loss. It can actually be unknown yet having similar feelings of worthlessness, very negative thoughts about the self and the future and few if any moments of joy.

The Good News Is: Most people experiencing depression make a full recovery in weeks to months. And this is without any professional help so this is encouraging. People who seek professional help may well recover faster and at the same time learn new strategies to help.

The Not So Good News Is: Our thinking affects how we feel. Our feelings affects how we think. This can be a pretty unfortunate negative spiral. But changing thoughts and feelings even in small ways can begin to reverse a negative spiral. Remember from small acorns mighty oaks grow!

I am not a great fan of the kind of talking therapies where as a client you are encouraged to tell your story of why you are depressed. You already know your story. In part your story is part of the way you feel so going over that story will likely exacerbate negative feelings.

I am much more interested in what you feel and equally what you would like to feel differently moving forwards. This can be the first steps moving forward to a more active, engaging and colourful life.

Statistically around 20% of people will suffer a depressive episode during their lifetime. So you will probably know some people who have been depress and have made full and complete recoveries.

You probably already know that exercise, changing your breathing, yoga, changing negative self talk or going for a walk will help but the symptoms include a lack of motivation and believing your own negative self talk. This is where hypnotherapy can help.

Depression not classically a stress problem but some of the key component actions which can alleviate stress can help with depression symptoms. These include:

  • A sense things are getting better.
  • Social support.
  • A sense of control.

A sense that your circumstances and you are getting better. This means you beginning to notice even the tiniest positives in life. Remembering it takes much more positives to balance negatives in our life because we as humans are more prone to notice negatives! This has a huge amount to do with our perceptions.

Having good social support such as friends, family and relatives being there for you. Human contact such as hugs, conversation and the inevitable laughter help release oxytocin which helps make us happier. This means supportive and compassionate connections.

Feeling depressed can feel like being out of control. No control to change negative feelings and negative self talk. No control in motivation to do something like exercise. Control is a curious word. In hypnotherapy I prefer the word influence and anticipation. These are more future oriented as oppose to an immediate action. As anticipation for a better future is nurtured and considered, you can wonder when better self talk and outlook will be noticed.

Hypnotherapy Can Help by being the outside input that can begin to help you change negative self talk, rewrite your story changing your perceptions. Hypnotherapy can also help to change your mood, feelings and begin to see again the wonder in life.

When you want to take action to help yourself, see the colour and joy in life more,  give me a call or send an email and we will arrange a completely free consultation. Hypnotherapy in Newcastle and Jesmond. Call me, Nigel on 0770 481 8467

 

 

 

Utilising Your Inner Resources to Solve Your Problems : Hypnotherapy Newcastle

Most of the time as you struggle through the problems inherent in life you will find solutions. There will most likely be other times when you need some professional assistance in creating a breakthrough because everything you have tried, and tried hard to do didn’t work. This is where hypnotherapy may help.

As humans we seek to find order and patterns of meaning in our experience. As you grow as a person, you will find ways and means that become our coping mechanisms or way of being, usually in a specific context.

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This often means that thriving in say a work context is different to thriving in a social context. Being out with your friends can be worlds apart from how you behave and act in a work meeting. You get the picture right?

What hypnotherapy can help you do is to utilise a life time’s worth of skills within what can and does feel like a problem situation. This is a very specific, physiological cue to needing to do something different.

We have probably all heard the expression “Eureka!” It is said to have originated with a philosopher named Archimedes when he ‘realised’ that the volume of water displaced had some direct link to the density of an object. Eureka means ‘to find’ or discover. This is what we commonly all know as a ‘light bulb moment.’

Many stories of people struggling with problems have a common aspect. Firstly there is struggle and frustration with problems which is effortful. Secondly taking time away from such frustrations can in some instances, when we are occupied with something very different, suddenly lead to light bulb intuitions that are solutions to problems. If you are interested there are two brilliant from Jonah Lehrer ( How We Decide and Imagine ) that detail this process.

Now let us take a slight diversion. Each night you go to sleep and you dream. You may not always remember your dreams but you do dream. Dreaming is both a way of memory and learning consolidation and a way to clean up your brain after a days use.

Dreaming is also a process where the days problems can be resolved because when we dream our habitual ways of thinking ( the same ways that can keep us in problem mode ) are softened and our wildly creative aptitudes are more free to create.

What is interesting is that when you dream, particularly REM sleep there is one part of the brain that is switched off. This part is the dorsal lateral prefontal context ( DLPFC ) and this is the part of the brain that is involved in both effortful cognitive thought and the same part that conforms to habits. This part is what Dr Robert Sapolsky refers to as ‘doing the harder thing’.

This is also the part of the brain that maintains tight psychological and to some sense physiological controls on what you do. When you dream this is switched off and by way of this opens your whole experience in life to be utilised in what is of dreaming importance.

This is where the internally generated possibility of solutions, without the contextually learned ‘it has to be this way’ can come to the reality of now. This is how hypnosis can assist you in using your life time of experience in a way that is deeply creative to you and for you. Literally, getting out of your own way enough to utilise your innate creativity so solve a problem.

When you want to explore new and different ways to solve your problems. please get in touch. The telephone consultation is free and will take up to 25 minutes to talk with each other and find out how I can help.

 

 

 

 

Anxtious About Anxiety : How Hypnotherapy May Help

Many years ago when I worked for a computer software company I was involved with both writing software code and additionally making sure that the end users of the software couldn’t make the programs and their interface crash.

In some sense for some of my role in that job, I was paid to worry about how a user could crash the software. I was, if you like, trouble shooting what could possibly go wrong. This was mostly OK, But, when the deadlines came, myself and my programming companions would demonstrate worry moving into anxiety.

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So lets skip ahead some many years. One of my good friends, for years, has been telling me about an author, they knew I would like and appreciate. Of course I resisted this for many years too. When I eventually started reading the books of Alan Watts, I realised my friend was quite correct.

I almost has anxiety about having wasted so many years without Alan Watts wisdom in my life. But its only the right time to be open to learn something new when its the right time. One of Alan Watts books that I highly recommend is ‘The Wisdom of Insecurity’.

Another way to express this is security is an illusion. We can of course think and feel that we are secure and this is clearly advantageous and quells many anxieties. Of course there is nothing stopping a previously undiscovered comet, an alien race or ‘natural disaster’ wiping all humanity of our globe like a grease spot.

If we make a distinction come working definition that anxiety is the worrying and accompanying negative emotional response about possible / probable future events that may or may not happen. We can immediately ‘see’ that this is a thought constructed realm. It hasn’t happened yet and may not happen at all. And of course it feels remarkable real.

Anxiety and The Stress Response

Biologically speaking our stress response ( heart rate elevation, increased respiration, adrenaline and glucocorticoid production ) are specifically activated when our bodies experience a physical stressor.

This could be defined as having our physical life in immediate danger and accessing the fuel to freeze and play dead, run away or even fight tooth and nail to survive.

In this instance our bodies respond to immediate physical danger and by way of complex electro-chemical interactions kick start our emergency escape systems. Our Hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal ( HPA ) system lurches into overdrive accessing and creating massive energy to run away while monitoring the developing situation. A bit like a semi-stuck accelerator on a car.

Our problems with anxiety become transparent because with negatively emotionally driven anxiety, created with only thought and imagination alone the same system ( our stress response ) can become highly activated. And guess what? No physical danger.

And guess what else? Everybody does this from time to time. But for some people this can become habitual because of life conditions or situations where there seems like a huge loss of control in day to day life.

What Can I Do To Ease Anxiety?

If we think about anxiety as thinking about some bad case scenario without any seeming solutions to escape, just a cycle of worry causing negative emotions which in turn cycle into more worry and negative emotions.

One solution is to find a way of the merry-go-round by doing just about anything else. That’s just the trouble isn’t it? It can feel like there is no way off the merry-go-round. The question is then how can I take my mind of the present anxious worries?

One factor in anxious arousal is a lack of feeling of control. So doing anything that can feel like you are making choices ( such as praying, meditating, going for a walk, playing a computer game, doing a cross word puzzle, adding up lists of numbers ) is you making and acting on your choices.

Such activities also makes use of the area in our brains in the frontal cortex ( Dorsal Lateral Prefontal Cortex ) that is part our the worry circuit. So potentially instead of worrying we are using thought to do something more productive.

There are also lots of physical exercises that by way of design make use of both our brain hemispheres. There is some empirical evidence that activities such as Brain-Gym, Swimming, Running, Juggling and Singing ( words and melody ) can alleviate anxiety.

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It took me some years to listen to my good friends recommendations about reading Alan Watts books. Up until I read my first one I had been resisting for all manner of reasons ( that would be a story of what I was doing instead ) but when I did, withing just a few pages I was reading something that was speaking to me in ways that complemented so very much of the work and interests I was engaged with.

Perhaps I can say with some accuracy, that none of what I read was new and at the same time it was a new way of thinking about similar ideas. This is what I call the cascade effect. When there is a threshold passed where ideas, thoughts and actions emerge. For me at that time I simply needed to be open enough to begin reading and see for myself.

And like I said I used to get paid to worry writing software code. What I wasn’t getting paid for was lots of thankless anxiety and way too much stress so I made a decision and chose to leave that job some sixteen years ago and pursue a much more meaningful profession. But that is another story.

If you are struggling with anxiety and the often negative emotional effects then hypnotherapy may be a solution for you.

For a free consultation to see if I can help you, give me ( Nigel ) a call on 0770 481 8467 Tuesday to Friday between 8am and 3.30pm and we can arrange a mutually convenient consultation.

 

 

 

Hypnotherapy to Help You Change Your Situation

A question many people ask is what is hypnosis? And this is answered or defined in a great many ways. I want to answer this question by way of suggesting what hypnosis can do to create the kinds of changes many people want in life.

We all have what can be called a certain outlook in life. This means we see the world and ourselves in a certain way. This is know as ‘our world view’. Our life experiences, our upbringing and environment all contribute to our world view or our reality.

Perhaps you can remember the first time you stood up as a baby, even if you don’t remember, you know you did. This is one occasion when your world view quite literally changed.

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Hypnotherapy has the potential to help you change your world view.

Not so long ago the idea of climate change was not taken seriously, not was recycling. Now if we seriously look at the evidence, as well as the popular and often conflicting story’s, we can see that unless we take action now, our world ecology and ability to sustain both us and the people who will follow is seriously in the balance.

Sometimes it may literally be too late to make a change that makes a real difference. Fortunately this seems not to be the case with psychological changes. So there is both hope and belief it can be better in the future.

When people seek psychological assistance using hypnotherapy it is not uncommon that many other avenues have been explored and no technique or action plan has yet had the desired effect.

It’s difficult not to compare a current problem situation with what was once had. Its human nature to compare the present to the past but we are really talking and exploring how you want your future to be.

So there may be a tendency, a predisposition to make a comparison based on a present ( not so good ) and past situation; which in this kind of assessment the comparison point or current situation is inherently not a good one. And this will have a tendency to reinforce and exacerbate the negative situation.

There is an alternative. And even considering this alternative could begin to change a negative-problematic outlook from an undesirable situation into what could be possible, a brighter future.

Solution Focused Hypnotherapy

Working with a variety of people who’s situation they will describe as depressed, anxious, traumatised, addicted or stressed, I believe the people I work with are ultimately capable of creating the changes that will change their life for the better.

There is often little or no need to understand the history of how the people I work with came to be depressed, anxious … You are probably wondering why this is? It’s because asking deeply about a story, your-story, will tend to cement and solidify a certain world view.

That problem oriented world view may well be ‘the story we tell ourselves’ that reinforces our problems. If we explore a solution oriented approach to leaving our problems and focusing on what you really want to be different, how would that be?

In exploring the future you want we will endeavor to create something that is sustainable, fitting and ecological. This means discovering ways you can, perhaps with some real effort, begin changing your current world view.

Is it time for you to stand up again and begin to see your world differently? What would it be like to begin to see your situation with an outlook of hope? What would that feel like?

To arrange a free telephone consultation for hypnotherapy in Newcastle upon Tyne or Hexham, please call me, Nigel on 0770 481 8467. Calls are usually returned within 24 working hours.

The Bitter-Sweet Lemons of Anxiety : How Hypnotherapy Can Help Beat Anxiety

Everybody knows what a lemon looks like right? Now as you read on, imagine you have a lemon in one of your hands. Feel the weight and look at the imaginary lemon in your hand. Notice the colour and the texture of the skin.

Continue imagining the lemon in your hand and as you do, imagine cutting a thin slice out and from the lemon and recall the smell as you cut into it. The lemon scent that you are so familiar with. Now, imagine looking at that slice and see the light on the cut segment as you see the juice on the skin and smell that juicy lemon scent.

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Now put that lemon slice in your mouth, noticing the texture and bite down on the juicy lemon slice. Feel the juice squirt in your mouth as you really taste the lemon.

Right now, even if you just read the words, more so if you engaged in the process, you are salivating having a physical reaction. Depending if you like lemon or not your face is a little contorted with the imagined taste or maybe you are enjoying the refreshing experience.

Whatever is happening with your face and body, you are responding to an experience that is totally created in your imagination. Another experience totally manufactured in your imagination is anxiety.

Anyone who can make themselves anxious by worry is very good at self hypnosis because you do this to yourself with your thoughts. It’s not a particularly productive or massively useful application of self hypnosis yet that is what it is.

Hypnotherapy and Anxiety

Now the application of Hexham or Newcastle hypnotherapy for anxiety can take a variety of different approaches which will be specific to both how and the type of anxiety my client displays.

Hypnotherapy can address specific problems that a great deal of conscious effort, tapping and not actually dealing with the cause will usually fail to make long lasting positive impact with.

One very important factor is DO NOT expect a miracle effortless one session cure because the anxious person will only worry it WILL NOT WORK and after all how many people do we know that has either been struck by lightning or a meteor? That is unlikely to happen, as are most things people worry about.

Anxiety is predominantly about imagined events and scenarios from a future that may or may not happen. Anxiety is an unchecked worry machine that is focused on a future you don’t want.

Most of us really don’t know about the structure of our thoughts, the types of thought that generate anxiety.

Even less of us have been taught to understand how we think and that by knowing how we think we are so much more able to positively alter the negative thought patterns that produce anxiety.

How Is Anxiety Caused?

The vast majority of anxiety is caused by an making negative internal pictures about the future and an internal voice that asks the ‘What if? and ‘As if?’ questions that will have a tendency to be biased towards negative situations.

Anxiety is related to a perceived lack of control about the environment situations in the future as well as a certain predilection to think about bad or negative outcomes.

As an example let’s say you have to do a presentation to a group of people.

An anxious persons response may be immediately imagine the group laughing at them because they have started blushing, turned red and choked up. And remembering the lemon started feeling bad.

A non-anxious, someone else, may have thought “A presentation about what?”

Another hugely important factor is where the sufferer of anxiety has the majority of their attention. To worry and think the negative things there has to be a of lack of focus of attention in the outside world and a greater focus of attention within the mind.

Have you ever been worrying enough ( inside your own worry machine, listening to all the what ifs ) that you have completely failed to hear what someone else is saying to you? It’s not that uncommon.

Now what is important ( remember the lemon? ) is that you weren’t born anxious it is a way you have learned to think. Like most thinking patterns it is done mostly without much conscious thought. The good news is you can learn new ways in thinking, ones that offer you more control in how you think.

You can learn new ways of directing your attention so you can be more present in your relationships and ideally start to work to retrain your thoughts and thinking.

How Many Sessions?

How long have you had anxiety for? I don’t think it should take as long to cure anxiety as you’ve had it for though it will take a reasonable amount of time and more so some effort on your behalf.  If you are willing to put effort into your freedom, the release from anxiety because you want to make real positive changes in your life, you can.

An anxious thought pattern may well be “What if I have a session and it doesn’t work?” You are worrying about finances and about your own outcomes and already building a negative anticipation. Don’t worry we will talk this through during our telephone consultation.

A different and more enabling thought pattern is this “Let’s find out what can be done and what my role will be in turning my anxious thoughts off or to a minimum and what role will Nigel have as therapist and coach.”

Free Consultation for Hypnotherapy in Newcastle or Hexham

There is a free telephone consultation available for anyone wishing to become more free of anxiety. This will take up to 30 minutes because it is right for you to find the therapist who is best for you and so you fully understand your role in the therapeutic process. Call 0770 4818 467 now.

Depression Hypnotherapy Newcastle

Approximately one in five people will suffer from a major clinical depression during their life time. When depression hits other symptoms are often present too and it can feel like there is no hope, no future. It can … but it doesn’t have to.

Additional symptoms of depression include worry, guilt and lack of energy to do the simplest of things. Depression is dark with deep forbidding. The major component of depression is anhedonia which literally means a lack of pleasure.

“On the lonely mountain, its all grey and I am left once more, alone in my depression”

Depression Hypnotherapy Newcastle

Depression can be triggered by many life events which can be large and negatively or lots of small negative events which can add up over time to trigger a depression. The darkest hour right now is before dawn.

Important : If you are suffering from depression see your doctor. Depression may be caused by an underactive thyroid gland which is treatable with prescription drugs like thyroxine.

The main cause of depression triggering events are losses. This can be loss of a job, a relationship, a death of a loved one or an overly negative outlook in life and the lack of decent future prospects.

The depression, or response to loss is perfectly normal. We all lose people, ideas, positions and securities during the course of our life. A reactive depression is our response to loss. After some time, weeks or even months we begin to feel better and we go on to make full recoveries.

A clinical depression is when we do not recover from loss and the symptoms persist and it feels like there is no way out or forward and the pleasures in life become scant or don’t seem to exist at all. This is a major depression.

OK So How Can Hypnotherapy Help Me?

I actually don’t know if it can. This may sound like at best a semi positive statement but it is a reality. Talking about your problem may help and talking about how you want to be can help a great deal. To focus on a solution is the way forward.

To actually discover how hypnotherapy in Newcastle could help you, you need to take the next step and arrange a free telephone consultation. Call 0770 481 8467 and we will arrange a consultation and determine how hypnotherapy can help.

With depression there is a general lack of hope so focusing your attention on a more colourful and brighter future can in itself be helpful. I know it can be very difficult to begin to imagine your future without feeling the way you do right now.

And I believe you can, on your own or more likely with professional help, make the kind of changes you need to make in order to move forwards.

Psycho Neurology of Depression

Depression is akin to one part of your brain, elevated activity in the right dorsal lateral prefrontal cortex, is associated with low moods.  There is the anterior cingulate cortex which, simplistically talks a lot of negative and depressin thoughts enough to convince the rest of the brain that is reality working along with the amygdala which has something to do with emotional or subjective pain which feels like real physical pain.

Hypnotherapy to Lift Depression

There are no guarantees but let’s say there is a real chance. What I can promise is my most sincere efforts to help you. It’s different for everyone. Hypnotherapy is a direct and subtle way of exorcising and exercising thoughts in the attempt to re-establish well being and promote mental health.

If you are suffering from depression, clinical or reactive, and you want to explore genuine ways to lift your depression and get back to leading a good life please do get in touch. Call 0770 481 8467 to arrange a free consultation and lets move to get your life back in order.

Living With and Without Pain a Hypnotherapy Approach

It’s a safe bet to think practically every person who has every lived on this planet from the time of our earliest tool making ancestors, Homo Habilis some two and a half million years ago to each and every one of us alive now today, has experienced pain in a variety of forms.

Who today hasn’t learned to avoid putting fingers in a closing door frame at an early age or who can’t imagine an ancient toolmaking ancestor cracking her thumb with something resembling a hammer. In these instances the function of pain is obvious.

Pain Hypnotherapy Newcastle

Pain can be instructional in our learning and also hurt enough when we are required to rest and heal our affected limbs or digits. Pain sensors comes in two basic flavours these being mechanoreceptor and nociceptors both of which ‘conduct pain’ at different speeds to the spine and then the brain.

A Simple Understanding of Pain

Pain instructs us something is wrong. This can be as simple as paper-cut or as immobilising as a sprained ankle. Pain once it has been processed in the nervous system has essentially two types: Fast sharp sting and Slow long and throbbing.

The fast and sharp pain could be a sting, a puncture a break. This can often cause a spinal reflex which will get our affected limbs our of harms way. The longer, duller pain is usually a signal we need to stop using that limb, have that tooth filled at the dentist, have some inflammatory immune response or need to seek medical advice.

Adding Complexity to the Picture of Pain

Our mood, our environment and the meaning we ascribe can massively change how we experience pain. It wont change the basic nuts and bolts mechanism of sending the signals yet our mood can change our experience of it.

A person on their way to church about to get married all in love and emancipated with the days celebrations may not notice they sprain their ankle as leap eagerly out of the wedding car.

A fireman rescuing people from a building might not notice cutting his leg on an old jaggerdy pipe until much later on, after the rescue event.

So our situations, mental state, emotions and purpose can and usually do change our experience of pain to a greater or lesser degree.

Exercise can be painful in terms of physical demands, exercising muscles or battling through the pain barrier.  You know what is on the other side of that pain barrier? Some home grown opioids and that is like morphine or heroin.

Of course these are perfectly legal and constitute what is commonly known as runner high. This is actually one of the serious benefits of moderate exercise that kick in somewhere around the 20 minute period.

What is modulating or ameliorating our pain response in this instance? Our endogenous ( internal ) opioids which act as pain killers or suppressors. The make us feel good and this ‘feeling’ good alters our experience of pain.

Hypnotherapy and Changing your State

Hypnosis is far more common that most people think. Think about how you react to reading some tragic news headline. You have thoughts and emotions about what you see and more so about the feelings this conjurers up.

In some sense a tragic headline focuses your attentions and your thoughts and suddenly you may feel angry, relieved, patriotic or something that your reading some headline has caused.

By moving your attentions to what has become ( albeit transitorily ) immediately relevant, your whole ongoing experience changed.

Many people, sadly are effected by chronic pain. People do find ways to mediate this experience it may be drugs, acupuncture ( which can switch off a certain kind of pain receptor for a while ), swimming or what are know as displacement activities or distractions.

Hypnosis may be a way of employing a ‘psychological distraction’ that can change how you perceive pain because hypnotherapy has been used successfully for conducting surgical operations without anaesthetic.

Where Pain Problems Begin

There are several instances where pain is no longer serving a truly positive and benevolent function. These can be auto-immune disease such as arthritis, chronic neuropathology pain like carpal tunnel or what is known as idiopathic pain ( pain of an unknown cause ).

Long term, long term pain and its remembered and anticipated effects can be pretty depressing. Our aim together, where it is safe, is to use hypnotherapy to alter and direct attentions towards solutions and living more agreeably.

A Possible Pain Solution With Hypnotherapy

One of the most common questions regarding hypnotherapy is will this work? Do you know doctors can not guaranteed drugs or surgery will cure a patients ailments.  Similarly no therapist should be making such guarantees or promises  to clients.

The only way we will know is by having the time together and then be able to give a experienced based evaluation.

Before working with hypnotherapy for pain management, it is essential you have seen your doctor or medical professional for a diagnosis.

Having has your doctor or medical professional, where it is both safe to and desirable to explore ways of pain management, you may wish to explore what hypnotherapy in Newcastle, Jesmond can offer you.

Please call me, Nigel, to arrange a free telephone consultation to see how I may be able to assist you. 0770 481 8467

 

 

 

Hypnotherapy to Address Bad Habits

Welcome to 2015 and with this New Year many people want to address and resolve their ‘bad habits’. First off the block is what is a bad habit? And of course following on immediately from this how can a bad habit be addressed and made good with hypnotherapy?

What is a Bad Habit?

A bad habit is something a person does ( or doesn’t do ) that primarily creates problems in their life and secondarily, creates problems in other peoples life. It is only a problem to the owner of the Bad Habit if it is a problem. Period.

You might consider excessive procrastination, worrying, gambling, spending, over eating, over drinking, neglecting friends and family and yourself or a lack of exercise as typical examples.

Hypnotherapy Change Habits Newcastle

How Habits Form

Do you have a familiar route to work? Perhaps a routine in the morning like coffee, shower a shave and something else? Perhaps you always call your mother on Sunday.

Our routines as we do them again and again have the incredible effect of putting extra myelin on our neurons axons, that’s our brain nerves or cables, making them more and more efficacious. The more we do and re-do something the more insulating myelin we have for those particular cables. That translates as an ‘unconscious’ habit – for good or bad or neither.

Our habits seem to form as we learn ways to cope and act in the world. So most habits have over time become ingrained into what we do on a regular or semi-regular basis. Most habits become automatic in the sense there is little wilful thought to make them happen. After all which shoe do you take of first?

Typical examples we can all relate to are going to the toilet, brushing our teeth, having a cup of tea or coffee in the morning. They are usually to make our life comfortable and serve us well.

Other ‘habits’ like repetitive email checking, checking social media, betting, excessive checking, worrying or the ‘bad habit’ you want to change have most likely formed so you can in some way feel reassured, calmer or at ease but as its a ‘bad habit’ it is likely having the opposite effect.

When habits are formed, there are certain neurological circuits and systems that can create genuine impulses in our body to actually seek out the behaviour that supports a habit especially when we are trying to stop that habit.

Here are two examples :

Suppose a person has nurtured a habit of avoiding public speaking. Avoiding public speaking will most likely feel good and safe. Problems can arise when this person needs to do a public talk, for instance to further their career or lets say do a wedding speech.

The body is ‘saying’ avoid but the intention of will is ‘saying’ lets do the public speaking. This will cause a stress response.

Another person is attempting to stop a long term gambling habit. They have damaged their bank account, their relationship with their partner and they really want to stop. Their habitual systems are screaming gamble gamble gamble.

They are trying to stop and this causes a stress response.

To a very large extent we are dealing with a stress response and a defying a reward seeking injunction which is modulating the stress response.

Neuro-Physiology Homoeostasis

Many years ago, I watched someone who was ‘doing cold turkey’ as they were coming down from heroin addiction. They were shaking and covered in sweat. Pretty unpleasant to watch and no doubt much worse to experience.

They were experiencing a serious stress response caused by stopping a highly addictive drug, experiencing withdrawal and their set-point or homoeostasis re-compensation was literally all over the place.

Our bodies, brains and minds in their interaction have what can be called a ‘set-point’. That is an equivalence to homoeostasis. Homoeostasis means the ‘natural’ balance or equilibrium in our bodies bio-electro-chemical system.

Even the seemingly innocuous activity of habitual checking a smart phone for face book updates can create systemic motivation to regularly check.

The Brain and Addiction

Very simplistically all addictive behaviours involve some very specific parts of the brain. Specifically two parts: The ventral tegmental area ( VTA ) in the midbrain and the Nucleus Accumbens Septi ( NAc ) in the forebrain.

These two brain regions are connected by the meso-limbic and meso-cortical pathways which are dopamine circuits. Dopamine is the motivational or injunctional brain wiring that ‘helps’ us to carry out known and ‘rewarding’ behaviours be they physical or mental or both.

We get little chemical rewards that ‘make us’ actively engage in all sorts of habits be they deemed good or bad because our bodies really doesn’t often make the distinction between good and bad. The conscious meanings we make however really does and this is a cause of disharmony when its a bad habit.

Of course, its is not as simple as this. There are often situations and circumstances that make us remember our patterns of behaviour in such a place. So exploring the interaction of environment, people and triggers is part of the solution.

Hypnotherapy To Change Habitual Behaviours

Hypnotherapy in Newcastle can help to address the unconscious or bodily driven behaviours that have been made familiar over long use. These tend to be the sort of problems that seem to resist the conscious will and mind over matter approaches.

It’s a bit like updating the software to replace the old habits. See, we all know babies cry when they want food, changing, attention … Now imagine that an adult would still cry to get attention to to indicate they are hungry?

That would be odd to say the least. Because as adults we have ‘updated’ our programming to not cry when hungry or to get attention. We do something else like talk to people or take action to get some good food.

In the same sense our problem habits we want to change need updating while at the same time preserving what the behaviour is attempting to satisfy. So the idea being to create and utilise new behaviours which can replace the old problem ones and still angle at making us feel good. So one of the real keys if finding the real and honest motivation to change an old behaviour.

Helping Change Habits with Hypnotherapy in Newcastle

If you would like to explore how hypnotherapy can help here is how it works.

First telephone or email me, Nigel, on 0770 481 8467 and we can arrange a time for a completely free consultation. This will take up to 25 minutes.

Following on from this telephone consultation, you will fill in a simple questionnaire and then we will book your appointment. All appointments are two hours and take place in Jesmond in Newcastle.

You can find additional appointment booking information here by clicking on the link Booking a Therapy Session.

Take action and get professional assistance in changing your problematic habits with hypnotherapy in Jesmond Newcastle. Have an amazing New Year and … over to you to make the call.

Ready To Fail In Your New Year Resolutions Again?

2014 will be a time when huge numbers of people from around the world and naturally in Northumberland and the Northeast make New Year resolutions.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle is about success through sincere and mutual efforts.

People will seek hypnotherapy in Newcastle typically to help with ‘things’ like weight loss, stop smoking, stop drinking, quit drugs, stop emotional spending, leave abusive relationships the list could become very long.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle Habits

But its all ‘things’ you should or shouldn’t do right? With shoulds and shouldn’ts you need to Think Again. Before you make another rash and possibly desperate decision to see a therapist, do another diet, fork out for a series of hypno gastric banding, join a gym, order the latest self help book or leave a dying relationship …

Get a free consultation. Not only will it save you a great deal of frustrations and save you lots of time, it is highly likely to help you take the right steps in the right direction. Here is why, I want you to empower and protect your wellbeing.

It is the 8th of January and I have already politely declined to work with three people. Why? Because I only work with people who are both invested and committed to bringing about desirable change in their life.

As far as I could tell, from conversations and an email, they wanted a ‘magic wand’ fix for something ( smoking, lack of confidence and a ‘bad relationship’ ) that had gone on that way for years and they were not prepared to do anything other than turn up and be ‘fixed’. This is not how hypnotherapy Newcastle works.

All of the responsibility to change was it seemed down to me. You can probably understand why I speak with clients before we work together and why I decline to work with that kind of mind set.

Changing An Old Habit Using Hypnotherapy

There are two very important factors in making real and positively empowering changes in your life.

  1. The first is being willing to take action and responsibility to make the changes you want with professional assistance.
  2. The second is having honest and really compelling reasons to change in valuable and beneficial ways.

Let’s take smoking. Some call this an addiction and some call this a habit. It’s a very interesting distinction because habits are clearly easier to change than addictions. Smokers can and often do go a long time without lighting up.

Where? Airlines, Sleeping Time, Work. When the situation is right and with some will power or simply being highly occupied, time in between cigarettes is easily and often effortlessly extended.

By exploring when and where a habit is most likely to take place, as in what situations, you can use hypnotherapy to assist you to make better choices much more of the time.

Most interestingly and what can come as quite a big surprise is that every one of these New Year resolutions, to give up one thing or attain another is not about the thing itself. What does that mean?

Lets take weight loss, a huge favourite for the New Years resolution, year in year out. OK I am saying it loud and clear. Weight loss is not about weigh loss!

Weight loss it is about what weight loss will mean and enable you to do differently. It is about the changes that losing weight will manifest in your life.

You can begin to rationalise this – and decide what it is worth to you, what effort you are willing to invest in yourself.

Can you answer these questions to get a real felt sense of the value of your goal or outcome? If it is a should or shouldn’t you will find next to zero motivation to do anything other than hope for a magic wand solution.

  • When I achieve my goal what is it honestly worth to me?
  • What will be different when I have this outcome?
  • What will I be able to do then that I can’t do now?

If you are honestly motivated and want professional hypnotherapy assistance to realise your goals then call 0770 481 8467 for a free consultation for Hypnotherapy Newcastle. Remember to leave your name, number and a brief description of what you want so I can call you back.

The Dangers, Hypnosis and Benefits of Diagnostic Labelling

Clients looking for Clinical hypnotherapy in Newcastle for the most part will seek the assistance of a hypnotherapist for what are well know ‘labels’ in psycho-therapeutic work. Often these labels are self diagnosed or could have come from doctors or other ‘qualified to ascribe’ medical professionals.

These labels, and we all know them, can sometimes be helpful yet for the most part create pretty unhelpful, stuck, and unfounded type categorisations about exactly who this person is as a diagnostic label. This can be a dangerous kind of hypnosis for both hypnotherapist and client. Why?

Because this will, as a shadow, tend to obscure everything that is amazing, good and excellent about the human being seeking help and assistance. And as such focus on the diagnostic label and not a real and feeling and capable human. Hypnotherapy Newcastle aims to de-couple those unhelpful diagnostic labels from your identity as soon as possible and remind you you are so much more.

Professional Hypnotherapy Newcastle

Exploring Diagnostic Labels – The Hidden People

There is a big difference, if you explore this yourself between the following statements. These differences may appear to be quite subtle.

  • Julia the depressive
  • Julia is a depressive
  • Julia is depressive
  • Julia has been behaving depressed
  • Julia has been acting depressed

Some common labels are ‘depression or depressive’, ‘anxiety or anxious’, ‘traumatized, phobic, schizophrenic,  borderline, crazy, psychotic, addict, IBS, neurotic, fat, lazy, low self esteem; Some are diagnostic and some are not but all carry generalised injunctions that in no way categorise and define a human being. They try to describe symptomatology.

Ask yourself this and imagine what comes to mind? Who is Mike the Depressive, who is Sarah the OCD woman. Who is fatty Monica? Who is Jay the schizophrenic? Each of this labels conjurer up a representation of a categorised individual. They exclude

I Bet you are not thinking about the Monica the CEO mother and stamp collector, or Sarah the genuinely successful entrepreneur, sports car enthusiast and super special Aunty or Mike the high achieving sports professional, property developer and campaigner for the homeless or Jay the social worker, father of three and political aspirant.

While there can be a value in knowing the symptomatology of certain types of diagnostic criteria, the rest and that is a GREAT DEAL, of that persons life, experiences, values and accomplishments are often side lined.

A diagnostic label could be very useful in an instance where there is clear and obvious mental health issues and having a diagnosis of lets say schizophrenia, psychosis or manic depression could be a great thing.

Such a diagnosis from a medical professional could help vastly a person who knowing there is something seriously wrong, like massive mood swings or detached reality would at least know ‘what they have’ and possible forward moving treatment plans.

So sometimes knowing the symptomatology and diagnostic label can help. And as soon as possible moving away from unhelpful diagnostic label towards generative solutions ways of having the sense of “I have { diagnostic label } and I am so much more.” Can in and of itself be empowering in psychological change.

Hypnotherapy in Newcastle from Nigel Hetherington. For help and assistance in moving past unhelpful terms and labels using therapeutic process. Call 0770 481 8467 for a free consultation. if Nigel is available you will talk otherwise please leave a message. Calls usually returned within 24 working hours.

 

Choosing Your Hypnotherapist – How To Make An Informed Decision

Imagine for one moment that you or a friend had this experience. Its 16.23 on a Thursday afternoon and you have just discovered that your car has a flat tyre. You look a little closer and discover a puncture. “Oh dear” you say while resourcefully Googling ‘car tyre puncture repair’ on your smart phone. You wait a little while and are rewarded with the following:

  1.   Puncture repair takes up to one hour and costs £10.
  2.   Puncture repair takes up to one hour, costing between £10 and £50 depending on your car make and model.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle - Honest

So, You might think, well, OK, that probably involves removing the tyre, finding the puncture and doing a repair. Why does the cost depend on the make and model of my car? Probably something to do with material costs.

Still, the same time, scenario two. You want a gardener to do some work in your garden. Again you Google ‘gardeners’ in your local vicinity. And get the following results:

  1. Gardening – no job too small or large. £20 per hour
  2. Gardening: between £20 – £50 per hour depending on your exact postcode.

You might again be wondering what on earth does my post-code have to do with the cost per hour? We would be wondering the same.

Scenario three. You require some psychological help in dealing with a problem. Let’s call this problem X because that is general. X could be weight loss, trauma resolution, addictions – you name it. You choose to explore the options for hypnotherapy.

Again at the same time you Google ‘Hypnotherapy for help with X’. You receive the following results.

  1. Hypnotherapy – all one hour sessions £100.
  2. Hypnotherapy – Weight Loss £120 per hour, Stop Smoking £200 per hour, Addictions £150 per hour.

Again you might be thinking what is the price difference about? Why does a different ‘problem’ incur a different price for the same session time?

Is there something very different that is done in each session? Maybe the hypnotherapist has to exert much more effort or something radically depending on a specific problem?

On closer examination you find that some hypnotherapists have different rates for different methodologies, for example:

  • Hypno-analysis 1 hour = £ 125.00
  • Suggestion Therapy 1 hour = £75.00
  • EFT 1 hour = £55.00

All of these different prices for differing problems and different methodologies are unsettling and really confusing.

Adding even further confusion to the public domain is the fact that some hypnotherapists suggest a series of 8 – 12 sessions one per week.

Now just to put things in perspective 8 sessions at say £75.00 per session will cost you £600.00 and no therapist who is worth their salt or has any integrity or experience will promise or guaranteed a result, if they do, be extra vigilant.

The reality is, in our view, that you are paying for the hypnotherapist’s skills and experience for a set period of time and that, in our opinion, should be a standardised fee based on a standard session time spent. Not the type of presenting problem or methodology used.

When you are looking to find a hypnotherapist to help you, we suggest you seek to find a therapist who offers the following:

  • Standard fee per session regardless of the presenting problem.
  • Pay as you go sessions with an option to block book, if YOU choose.
  • Who does not promise the ‘magic pill’ result, because there is no such thing.

Having found a hypnotherapist who offers this kind of good working criteria, the next step is to talk with them so you can find out if this is the right person for you.

What you could do for fun, in addition to choosing Nigel or Peter is call one of the hypnotists that do structured pricing based on problems or methodologies and ask this question. “Why do you charge more for X?” – We are sure you will enjoy their response.

This article was prepared by Nigel Hetherington of Hypnotherapy Newcastle and Peter Doherty Hypnotherapy Haverhill as part of a public information awareness report regarding sound ethical practice from hypnotherapists.

Phobia Hypnotherapy Newcastle

A phobia is one in a class of recognised anxiety disorders. A phobic response is a fear response. Most often characterised as a highly disproportionate response to some stimulus that is neither dangerous of life threatening.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle can help suffers with the psychological aspects of their irrational or rational phobic responses. The response, a phobic one, is most always learned in our early formative years, a time when learning was way too easy and as such becomes a habit.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle Phobia

As far as is known, there are no inbuilt or hard wired phobias. The myth that people ( and monkeys ) are genetically or disposed to a fear of snakes is simply not true. What is true is there are biases towards a fear of snakes for humans and our primate cousins.

A lab monkey never exposed to a snake in many generations does not have an inbuilt fear of snakes, but, interestingly enough, show the lab monkey another monkey’s fear response to a snake and bingo, there is a massive transference.

Here in the UK, there are no deadly snakes or spiders. Sure there are Adder’s of which I have seen one some four years ago while running in Thrunton Woods on a very hot day. I ran right around that! So a phobia in the sense here is an irrational fear.

The last part of our brain to ‘come on line’ or to be fully myelinated is the frontal cortex. For most adults this happens in the early 20’s. This is the Universes gift to unlearning phobia and fears.

On a neurological level the Amygdala is highly metabolically active in the Limbic System and gives rise to feeling of fear, anxiety and you guessed it phobic responses. In some senses our savior is the Frontal Cortex that through effort and some de-conditioning of the amygdala response can blunt and remove what used to be a phobia.

Another extremely useful response in alleviating phobias is laughter and irrelevance. The more you laugh the less able you are to be phobic. This has some serious reference to your physiology, which is another aspect you can control.

I worked with a client who had a dog phobia. They had a fear of dogs and displayed some physical signs of allergy reaction when in the presence of a dog. Mainly around their eyes and a heavy, labored breathing. After successful resolution of that old response they requested to know ‘why’ is was that way.

During regression hypnosis we traced back the initial imprinting experience to a bus ride when they were six years old. A big dog jumped up at them while they were playing with the dog. Their father became massively anxious and worried that the dog had hurt them, picking them up and ‘raving’ at the dog owner. This seemingly transferred to my client.

Knowing the why’s and hows of a trauma or anxiety imprint are not required in changing behavioral responses. Knowing how this happened wouldn’t, I think, have helped my client become comfortable with dogs. Yet this is a great example of how early imprinting and environment can cause anxiety responses.

For a free consultation regarding your freedom from phobia, call hypnotherapy Newcastle and talk with me, Nigel on 0770 481 8467. Act now – if I am free we will talk otherwise please leave a message. Calls usually returned within 24 hours.

 

Anxiety Self Help – Newcastle Hypnotherapy

Hypnotherapy can and often is a helpful solution to common anxiety, even in its less common extreme forms. What follows are some self help tips for helping you to become less anxious and more at ease and calm in problem situations.

Firstly it is important to clarify what ‘Anxiety’ means here. Anxiety here means worry about the future, the imminent future or soon to be present or even aspects of the past – that will in turn produce consequences in the future.

This will have likely little bearing on certain kinds of anxiety conditions like PTSD though could help with aspects of conditions like a Phobia.

Anxiety Hypnotherapy Newcastle

So in this instance, dispensing with technical terms, we are talking just good old straight forward, bread and butter anxiety. That what most of us know as every day excessive worry.

ANXIETY = UN-CONTROL

Anxiety in this instance is Un-Control. Put this another way, if you could control the future to turn out just the way you want there would be absolutely no anxiety. If this makes sense to you then you are on your way to a little more freedom from anxiety. If this doesn’t then you are not anxious.

There are aspects of the future you can strongly influence and aspects of the future where you are literally in the hands of your own god, the universe or any witnessing deity that happens to be present. The agnostic deity Umnotsure is a favourite, when it can be found.

Understanding what you can reasonably control and what you can’t is an important distinction that can, in most instances, ease life’s stressors or to put it another way ease anxiety.

There are essentially five factors that relate to living more free-er from anxiety and worry and these have much more to do with perception of events and not the events in and of themselves.

  1. Predictability
  2. Sense of Control
  3. Social Support
  4. Outlets for Frustrations
  5. Sense of Getting Better

These five are based in strong research from among others Professor Sir Michael Gideon Marmot’s famous Whitehall study, spanning some 20 plus years and 20 thousand UK civil service and Professor Robert Maurice Sapolsky’s over decades with our hirsute cousins, baboons in the Serengeti. The parallels are scary!

Hypnotherapy Newcastle is about changing our perspectives and adaptive responses to life. When this works well we are gifted with new and alternative ways to progress through life’s challenges and opportunities. Ideally so that we are not experiencing the same old problem, anxiety, again and again.

Hypnotherapy is a way to re-educate the learned responses we have all learned during the course of our lives in a way that is generative and builds in new and more adaptive coping mechanisms so we are not experiencing the same old problems in the same old ways.

You might not believe this immediately but anxiety or excessive worry is a learned habit. In order to be really anxious there has to be an underlying structure or process you use – your imagination – that is in itself a process of self hypnotism. Think about it, to be anxious, you are imagining a future that breeds anxiety.

We would be noting without anxiety, or more precisely the ability to worry, and at the same time, equally in fact, the ability to imagine and create the most amazing futures for ourselves and those who come after us.

It is a double edged sword that makes us, when we truly think, and act, a process in the imagination that could be used just as readily to bring bliss and joy as anxiety and worry.

What Can You Do? Really?

Number one is do, systematically, something about it! You have to be prepared to expend effort to learn a new habit. Think, seriously, about learning to write with your other hand. This is an of itself is an excellent way to stop your mind ticking over in worry mode.

Count up all the time you have been a worry wart! 15 minutes? 1 hour, 3 hours 5 hours a day? Every day? Every day for years? When this number is totalled it is often quite a shock to the system.

Yes can you imagine the kind of differences you could make if the same time just each day was used contemplating and imagining a delightful future. So most people do worry by talking to themselves ( often in a voice tone that they wouldn’t use on another person! ) and imagining a pretty unpleasant future.

There are very likely very specific words or phrases and memories that a worrier will use with some regularity. Discover yourself, what these are and learn, through patience and repetition to reprogram them into something helpful and kind.

So, talking to yourself much more kindly ( answering back is fine too! ) and using the same words to talk to yourself about the future you actually want. Adding what you would like to see and hear. Most of all take time and invest in your long term health and happiness.

Realistic Expectation for Change

This is usually NOT an overnight cure for long term problems. If you have been anxious for many years then it is kind of pretty unreasonable to anticipate an immediate cure that is not medication or surgery based. Even then it is most likely not the case!

This takes effort – and little by little. Think about learning to walk or talk! It takes time and persistence! It does happen, it just takes time, trust me! Reprogramming your internal speech patterns is one way to give yourself more perceived control in life. Remember anxiety is about UN-Control. The more control you can affect the less anxiety.

Excess stress and anxiety is know not to be salubrious. That means your health can suffer with excess stress and strain in your life. After one week of intense stress the thymus gland which is responsible for the production of T-cells, in the endocrine immune system can shrink to 25% of normal size. Lose the stress and the thymus makes a full recovery and can produce the T-cells required for a health immune response.

The philosopher Alan Watts mentioned a right wing democrat ( he moved from the UK to the US ) that because is their right wing ( metaphor ) attitude would never take a left turn when driving. All they did was drive talking right turns, this is mad! To be able to KNOW the rough is to know the smooth, to know good is to know evil. And to know anxiety is to know calm.

Anxiety Hypnotherapy Facts

Hypnotherapy Newcastle is is about a real integration with seemingly inconsolable opposites. Or at least to get going in ways that work, where you can see and feel you are making progress. Let’s be clear sometimes ‘miracles’ in hypnotherapy happen but that is not a good commitment from you, to have an expectation that a hypnotherapy can ‘cure’ you from years of suffering in one session is learning in some aspects to continue to be helpless.

There has to be a real commitment from you, and that is a required ingredient in real change, change that is generative. If it wasn’t think about how many hypnotherapists, theta healers or ‘magic’ workers would be claiming real success. Truth is the real ones don’t. The charlatans and snake oilers do. Sorry but this approach, the one I apply is psychological and often physiological and you wont, can’t be a passive observer!

This approach helps you deal with the head and body aspects yet at the same time most requires input and energy from you. You will be given tasks, post or pre session to implement the psychological and behavioural aspects of change into your life.

For a completely free consultation, for anxiety help using hypnotherapy and psychological NLP techniques call Nigel Hetherington on 0770 481 8467.

 

Emotonial Problems Newcastle Hypnotherapy

If we pause for thought, emotional problems or problematic emotional responses are the basis for most peoples real problems. Hypnotherapy Newcastle uses hypnosis and other psychological interventions to help overcome learned negative emotional responses that cause problems and suffering.

Solution Focused Hypnotherapy is all about re-education behavioural and thinking responses in ways that are directed towards creating practical solutions to the every day problems that are the cause of feeling depressed, anxious, stressed or down right angry about the every day problems we all face.

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Many counselling or CBT approaches can focus way too much on problems. People seek professional hypnotherapy to alleviate problems and suffering so talking about the problem is both something a sufferer can already do well, likely massively contributing towards problems and failing to focus on solutions.

Often pointless questions like the dreaded ( with some kind of attempt at sincerity ) “and how does that make you feel?” serve mostly to reinforce helplessness, exacerbate emotional problems and put the people needing to make changes at the reactive end of being able to do damn near nothing about their own situation.

Two Factors In Change

A great deal of people perceived problems are down to two factors. The first is the meaning that is made of the actual experience of the ‘problem’ and the second is some kind of justification or self-validation of just why it is that way.

Let’s take the Second Factor first. Justification of behaviours and attitudes. No matter what or who is ‘causing the problem’ the only person who can change behaviours, thinking patterns or ways of being is you! You can’t really change other people, sure you can influence this BUT changes in your problems need to begin with you.

Solutions can focus on three areas, with the individual and their ways of, thinking and acting. With the other people involved in problem situations if these are relevant and thirdly within the environment in which they occur.

If a person continues to justify or give reasons and explanations for their problems ( which is fair enough ) all they will do is continue to perpetuate a problem. This makes perfect sense because on a neurological level anything like a behaviour, thinking pattern or environment that stays the same creates the necessary conditions for our brains to stay the same. This is the same for really good and really bad habits. To change – something has to give.

The First Factor, not what happened on a sensory basis but the meaning we make of the experience. Here is a little quote that sums this up nicely from a Greek philosopher that died just under 2000 years ago. Epictetus, probable not exactly what he said though close enough. For the hard of thinking, this applies to all sexes.

Men are disturbed not by things, but by the view which they take of them

Let’s put this into a contextual example. Mr Joe X is complaining about his daughter that won’t listen to his advice, refused his good intentioned advice and wants to live her own life. This is a real bugger for Mr X. He knows best. A classic change of meaning – is that his daughter, having learned the value of havng their own opinion, not being wavered by others is indeed a complement in his fatherhood. He has a self directed daughter that won’t be directed from her purpose. Same stuff different meaning – capiche?

We are not really talking about Mr J.X we are talking about you. Much more important. What is happening on a non-psychodymamic but neurological basis, this is easy. We all learn coping behaviours sometimes, like now, they need to be updated, just like a Windows update. Sure this will almost surely bring in new problems ( hurray we are alive ) BUT they won’t be the same problems, Viz moving forward.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle with Nigel Hetherington is about playing to your strengths and utilising the very best in you in transformational ways. Change in the most best sense is transforming meanings and those all justifications for problems so that you can take responsibility for you and your behaviours in ways that help you move forward in control to live more of the life you really want.

Newcastle Hypnotherapy – Public Speaking

Hypnotherapy Newcastle for Public Speaking fears, worries and unavoidable panics. People worry about lots of aspects regarding speaking in public, addressing an audience and not appearing as a shaking, stuttering wreak. Lost nights of sleep leading up to an event and excessive planning.

The fear of public speaking is as common as muck. It has plagued and will plague countless people causing worry, anxiety and the shrinking violet sensation of wishing to be anywhere, anywhere other than doing that public speech.

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If you have had them, you know from experience the kinds of worries, fears and often absolute dread the knowledge of having to make a public speech can have on people. People like you, who are faced with nameless terrors about how badly it could be to fuck up really, really badly making an absolute ass of yourself by going to pieces and getting it all wrong in that crucial public speaking engagement.

Thing is, now, probably more than every before, we are called upon or need to make public speeches in our business, social or personal enterprises. That is the way of it today, so, what can you do to become more at ease and composed to make a great impression? Please read on to see how hypnotherapy Newcastle can help you deliver a great speech and stay focused on what is really important.

Psychology of Public Speaking Problems

Have you ever talked with a really negative, depressing type of person? Have you noticed how they seem to expect the worst, are caught up in problems and not much fun to be around? Well if you are worrying, fretting about Public Speaking performance you are probably doing the exact same but you are talking to yourself.

A very common aspect of anxiety is the use of self talk to generate problem focused scenarios that have the power to cause anxiety, worry and the physical conditions of a stress response. “What if …” is by far the most common way people make themselves anxious. Here are some examples.

  • “What if I forget what I am supposed to say?”
  • “What if I make a fool of myself?”
  • “What if I shake and sweat?”
  • “What if I can’t answer questions?”
  • “What if I blush and faint?”

All of these are pretty common ways people make themselves more anxious about Public Speaking. If you think about it, these questions are a form of unhelpful self hypnosis that negatively affect a persons state. But it’s not just the words!

The tonality and speed of how we talk to other people can change the meaning of the words. So if a person talks to themselves in a fast and ‘worrying’ tone it will have more of a negative impact. And there is more though! These ‘what ifs’ lead to further unanswered questions for instance;

“What if I forget what I am supposed to say?” implies that something will happen as a consequence, of course it would. It could lead to huge embarrassment and humiliation, it could lead to not being asked to present that important presentation again and not being invited for a pay rise, promotion and extra bonus, it could lead to reassignment to Sunderland.

You are creating a very large and negative self fulfilling prophesy because you have been rehearsing what could go wrong.

Physiology of Public Speaking Problems

You are activating your stress response. This is indicative of hight sympathetic nervous system arousal so there is plenty of adrenaline and noradrenaline  in your system. You heart is probably beating faster, your systolic and diastolic blood pressure has increased, your mouth is dry and there are probably knots in your stomach.  You are probably not having what is called a good time.

Meanwhile, your brain is analysing your body responses, making meaning of the various aspects of the unwanted stress response and coming to the conclusion that your body is not having a good time and this really does influence your mood and adds to the anxiety you are experiencing. Its a vicious circle.

So about now all of those imagined fears are probably to make a physical manifestation. You feel you are starting to visibly shake, all of those ‘worst case scenarios’ have their opportunities to be enacted, blushing, word amnesia to name just a few. Your breathing is likely a bit too fast and high in your chest so both literally and metaphorically you are unbalanced and off centre.

Three Things Really Good Presenters Know

There are three aspects to doing a great presentation that you can learn ( through practice ) to do in order to dramatically improve your performance when engaging in Public Speaking. There are more than three but these three are big ones!

  • Stay Relaxed in the body. Avoid unnecessary tension and stay relaxed.
  • Use your peripheral vision. Avoid focusing myopically on anyone or anything and stay peripherally open.
  • Quiet on the inside. Avoid talking to yourself ( on the inside ) as this splits your attention. Learn through experience to flow!

Hypnotherapy for Public Speaking Fears

Public speaking is a very, very common fear. It could be a cultural, British thing and also likely a combination of perceived ‘high stakes’ and lack of experience of speaking to groups and large gatherings. In short it is perfectly normal!

Hypnotherapy Newcastle can help you to learn how to manage and change your fears into ways to start to rehearse how you actually want your performance to be. After all it makes much more sense to plan for success that failure. Also we will be using hypnosis to help you feel much more comfortable, so ideally you can enjoy the whole experience and keep your attention focused on your audience.

Some methods that are not used at Newcastle hypnotherapy are visualising the audience naked. This is a pretty old and I think a really odd idea. If I walked into a group for a speaking engagement and the audience were naked I would leave, not the kind of group I would want to talk with. This kind of technique probably says a lot more about the therapist and their ways of ( not ) thinking.

Other methods that will not be used are the arrogance based ones. These include, but are not limited to having mantras like “fuck the audience, I am in charge here”, “these people are mine” and talking over the top of any peoples questions. I found these uncharming techniques from people who have seen other hypnotherapists before they found me.

For a completely free, no obligation telephone consultation for help with Public Speaking or help with any hypnotherapy related problem call Nigel on 0770 481 8467. This will take around 20 minutes.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle Weight Loss

Newcastle hypnotherapy for help and assistance in weight loss and more importantly keeping the weight off.  The UK is fastest becoming one of the fattest peoples in the world, this is not a good thing at all. Why is this?

Because being overweight is just one contributing factor to what the World Health Organisation describe and predict is going to be the leading health issue, leading to premature death and potentially nasty complication on the way – Metabolic Syndrome or Syndrome X. You could look and feel better slimmer.

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Most if not all of us eat junk from time to time. We eat at restaurants or have regular habits of eating quick, fast foods. But did you know that you make your habits real. Do you know what eating just one, just one, bag of crisps every day for a year adds up to?

Over one year if you eat just one little bag of crisps each day you are consuming about FIVE litres of fat per year. Little adds up over a long time.  Change a little habit and, over time, the results add up to a slimmer you.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle can assist you in changing your attitude to emotional eating and discovering how you can change your your attitude to using food in relationship to becoming the weight and shape you want to be, Please read on …

Nuts and Bolts What is Overweight Anyway? Overweight, poor diet and lack of exercise together are a leading cause of heart disease. As we, as a species, in the Western world, are tending to live longer, the natural termination of life is more like a gradual falling apart. By taking care of your body in healthy ways it may well be possible to live longer and live longer healthier.

Have a diet of ready meals, live a stressful life, do little exercise and chances may be you are asking for trouble.  Weight loss hypnotherapy is honestly not the quick effortless fix some people expect. The same way some people control their diabetes with drugs and continue eating with porcine abandon.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle for weight loss and more importantly staying healthy is more interested in helping you change your attitude to both eating and your body with long term health as a main agenda. The focus is changing your attitude to respect yourself better. Overeating is a learned habit, usually over many years and is about changing habits based in future focused positive change.

When we eat at regular meal times, snack times we are teaching our body to have some very specific biological responses related to food consumption and fat storage. Say you eat every day at 6pm. At about quarter to six, based on histological habits, your body will produce insulin. Insulin is the hormone that is responsible for fat storage. You happy pancreas at this time, before meals will secrete a hormone that is telling you body to get ready to store fat.

Fat is stored in fat cells, in muscles and in the liver. Over eat, put too much in the proverbial biological fuel tank and you store fat. Eat too much and the body does excess storage which is easily seen in being over weight and, well fat. As we move about, think and do activities through our daily life we require energy.

Our bodies convert fat into energy. The trick is really about getting a balance in what we intake and what we use. Too much in and too little activity usually equals being overweight.

Your Heart Is Like A Pump

When you have excess fat circulating in your body your blood is in essence thicker. Blood can thicken during stressful responses, after meals or because there is too much bad cholesterol in your system.  Claggy, thicker blood puts more stress on the pump, your heart, increasing systolic and diastolic pressure, possibility causing damage to your blood vessels and atherosclerosis.

Cholesterol : The Good, The Bad and Nothing To Do With Looks

There are two types of cholesterol the so called good and bad types. High density lipoprotein associated cholesterol ( HDL ) and low density lipoprotein associated cholesterol ( LDL ) respectively. Atherosclerosis plaque is caused mainly with LDL where the HDL cholesterol is the type that has been removed from plaques and is going to your liver. Too little HDL and lots of LDL is bad news. Stress increases LDL so learn to relax more because it could make you live longer!

Why People Eat To Excess

Couple of reasons. One food tastes really good! We love sugar and fudge and cake and all that high energy stuff. The other reason is habit. Habit can be in the form of little nibbles to alleviate stress, give us a little hit of energy or even boredom! Habits work like this in neurological terms.

We have the desire to eat, perhaps a crisp or a biscuit, and we have a little surge of dopamine. Dopamine is the motivating neurotransmitter. Then we do a behaviour, in this case eating, and we have the sense of reward. It all makes perfect sense because it tastes good or stops us being board or gives us that little boost of energy we ‘want’.

What is not being addressed right at the time ( or actually just before ) of eating extras is the bigger picture. The bigger picture is you want or need to lose weight. Well that is only a bit of the bigger picture in reality. Sure people want to lose weight but that is not the real outcome at all. The real outcome is what losing weight will get you, will do for you and what this is leading too. It is not about losing weight!

Metabolic Syndrome

Syndrome X (read about and scare yourself here ) is a potentially disastrous meeting of things that can ‘go wrong’ in a human body. A collection of way too much sugary and fatty foods contributing to thick circulating blood. A lack of exercise that leads to the sedentary life style; building up more and more fatty deposits. Excess psychological stress, releasing stress hormones in a not good way. All putting an abnormal load on the old ticker and potentially leading to diabetes, hight blood pressure, heat disease and checking out way too early.

How Hypnotherapy Newcastle Can Help

Hypnotherapy can help you not only to lose weight and keep it off; It can help you alter your attitude to food and connect deeper with the real reasons you want to lose weight. You might feel more confident, increase your self esteem and have a sense of increased satisfaction too.

Newcastle Hypnotherapy for helping you loose weight, stay motivated and connected to your own outcome of a healthier, slimmer self. Call Newcastle hypnotherapist Nigel Hetherington on 0770 481 8467 for a free consultation.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle Addictions

Clinical Hypnotherapy in Newcastle for Addictions. Addiction hypnotherapy in Newcastle to help you break problematic, bad habits such as Gambling, Drug Addiction, Eating, Pornography, Alcohol and Emotional Spending.

Addictions are habits ( usually ways of behaving ) that have formed over time. Surprisingly some ‘addictions’ can be healthy as in ‘addicted to kindness’. Problem addictions can really be defined as something that is needed, craved or can’t function without but, very importantly is not wanted.

When Addictions are no longer fun, ruining your life and you want to stop – contact Hypnotherapy Newcastle on 0770 481 8467 – Free Consultation.

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Honest and Ethical Hypnotherapy in Newcastle

In the last week I was contacted by a potential client who needed help in overcoming and addiction. A great question they asked was “Is this Guaranteed to work?” – “Absolutely not” I replied. They went on to tell me that they has either seen or been told by a local hypnotherapist in Newcastle that any work they did together was indeed guaranteed. This perspective client went on to say they were glad I didn’t guarantee success as this sounded ridiculous.

Apart from being in breach of no small few marketing laws, of most hypnotherapy codes of professional conduce, it is plainly UNTRUE. No Newcastle hypnotherapist, counsellor, coach psychotherapist or change worker can GUARANTEE success. It should be obvious why.

5 Reasons Why Hypnotherapist’s Should Not Guarantee Success

  1. They can not tell the future.
  2. It is completely unethical.
  3. It will place unrealistic expectations on the therapist.
  4. Clients may feel they have no work to do themselves.
  5. It will disempower clients in their own abilities.

Addictions and Habits

Most problematic addictions do not start out that way. Drug taking, Alcohol, Emotional Shopping practically always start out as pleasurable and fun! Problems arise over time when the fun and enjoyment start to drift out and the person, you? Need to have more a a drug, more shopping, more ever increasing [ insert addiction here ] to get the same feeling of pleasure that is shorter and shorter lived.

As addictions form in a neurobiological sense, neural networks for a specific addiction become stronger. This is like a well work path in a forest. The more the path is used the more known, familiar and easy it is to use. As this happens a transcription factor called DeltaFosB is deposited in various places in the brain which makes behaviours become more locked in and rewarding.

All addictive behaviours have several components in common. The mezolimbic pathway consisting of the ventral tegmental area and nucleus accumbens also known as the reward path. This is primarily a dopamine pathway and dopamine is all about reward. Cocaine feels so good because it delivers many hundreds of times more dopamine that is naturally available.

All of this is not good news because ( if you are an addict you know this ) it makes it difficult to change because there are both psychological and physiological aspects which can keep addicts addicts for a long time.

How Hypnotherapy in Newcastle Could Help

Hypnotherapy is a well known way to make psychological changes that relate to behaviours, desires and motivations. No one really knows why hypnotherapy works yet practically everyone has experience hypnosis in everyday life.

Who hasn’t misplaced their keys, a watch or purse, searched everywhere twice and eventually sees them there on that table there right in plain site.  Hypnosis is a process of communicating ideas and of changing perceptions. Most people have had the experience of knocking, cutting or bumping themselves but not been aware of any pain or discomfort because something else was more pressingly important.

Creating a professional relationship together, I will work with you ( not for you – because breaking an addiction usually requires effort from you! ) to help you make the necessary changes in your way to freedom from an addiction. This means following on from our session together you will provide updates of your progress and agreed tasks. We work together to change certain perceptions and realities that support your outcomes.

For a completely free, no obligation phone consultation for hypnotherapy Newcastle call Nigel Hetherington on 0770 481 8467. This will take up to 20 minutes. When you want and need to quit an addiction get the professional and experienced help here with me, Nigel Hetherington.

Bereavement Hypnotherapy Newcastle

Hypnotherapy Newcastle for help with bereavement and coming to terms with the deep loss and forward with hope to continue living with acceptance and gratitude to have known those who have touched us so deeply.

Bereavement is a fact of life, there can, if we think about it, be no life without death. Death and life co-define each other. We all know this yet loosing a loved one can be one of the testing times in a persons life. Hypnotherapy Newcastle can help you move forward and be living again.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle Bereavement

Bereavement or loss comes in many forms. One of the most unexpected and difficult to deal with is the loss of a child to a parent. This really is not in the natural order of things we all know and try to accept.

A Brief Case Study – Hypnotherapy Bereavement

A few years ago I was contacted by a man who had lost his daughter just over twenty years ago. He has reported he has seen counsellors and some therapists over this period and was still deeply grieving. Talking with him he really was.

This person was deeply religious and I really don’t think any of his previous ‘helpers’ had discussed his beliefs about death and the relationships between his beliefs, his daughter death and grief, perhaps it was too painful for them?

His grief was resolved in around two hours ( which is very short and remarkable ) and I saw his wife for two sessions, using a very different approach. They both reported having come to terms and being at peace.

Bereavement and Grieving Properly

It is very important to grieve properly. This does actually take some time and the very well known Kubler Ross sequence can be extremely, cognitively, helpful for a grieving person to walk through what are very normal stages of grieving and return to living. When grieving last too long it is time to seek professional and compassionate help to move forwards.

Kubler Ross Scale is in five stages which do not have to happen in this order and can have stages missed entirely. use it as a guide.

  1. Denial
  2. Anger
  3. Bargaining
  4. Depression
  5. Acceptance

I have a very good friend who is a practising Buddhist who parents died. As far as I could tell he was accepting very quickly. He loved his parents dearly yet through his training was able to accept this as a natural order of life. This is not so easily accomplished for most people.

For people who are presented with the knowledge a loved one will die before them, there is an almost incredible and usually transformational opportunity to say all of the things and do what they can together before one of then leaves this world. Pre-Grieving is a very useful and purposeful service I offer.

Pre-grieving softens the blow that we know will come and offers a compassionate and open space to prepare for one of the most impacting and transformations aspects we as living, human being will ever experience in this life time.

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When we have no opportunity to pre grieve and we are mourn the loss of a loved one, you really will either move on or you wont. When you can’t move on and the loss is too great this was called melancholia by Freud. Freud can often have a lot of not so positive press, partially because some of his ideas have been outdated or really upgraded. Melancholia is one thing he got right.

During a lifetime or a long time of relationship with a loved one, there will almost certainly be times where we have been experiencing a huge range of emotions with our lost love. These will be but are not limited to, love, laughter, happiness, anger, disappointment, sadness …

Grieving tends to focus on the psychological aspects of the relationship we are missing. This form of attachment is perfectly normal and usual. What is often forgotten are the harder or trickier times where the relationship was not perfect, not ideal and honestly, problematic. By re-accessing the good and the bad times it can become easier to experience the whole of the person that is gone.

By psychologically moving away from just the loss, to the the whole experiences it often, but not always, becomes a transformational experience of serious appreciations of and in life. For no matter where you have sat in the performance, it really is the greatest shown on this earth.

Contact me Nigel Hetherington, for a completely free consultation by phone which will last around 20 minutes, to get a felt sense of how I can help you move forwards and onwards at Newcastle hypnotherapy. Call now on 0770 481 8467.

Weight Loss Hypnotherapy Newcastle

Hypnotherapy weight loss Newcastle. Summer is reputed to be coming and you want to look good and keep the weigh loss in the right balance so is using hypnotherapy Newcastle weigh loss is for you?

Its a pretty simple formula for most to gain weight. This is take in more energy than you use and it gets stored away in fat cells. Eat bits and bobs of junk food, a biscuit more often than not and do little or no exercise and you have the perfect formula to put on weigh and that can get you down right?

Hypnotherapy Newcastle Weight Loss

Many people choose to use hypnosis for weigh loss because they understand the psychological factors in changing old habits or they have yo-yo dieted for so long they require new momentum to break free of old mannerisms that are potentially going to cause problems.

The World Health Organisation predicts that Cardiovascular  ( Metabolic Syndrome isomorphism ) will become the biggest risk to health and biggest percentage killer of high, medium and low income people between 2015 and 2030.

Metabolic Syndrome is a collection of things that can go wrong in the human body where each is not life threatening but having a few of these symptoms is becoming a strong predictor for ill health and cardiovascular problems.

Metabolic Syndrome predictors are as follows:

  • Having ‘apple’ rather than ‘pear’ shaped fat on the body.
  • High amounts of LDL cholesterol and low amounts of HDL cholesterol.
  • High blood sugar; a predictor of diabetes.
  • High concentrations of triglycerides in the blood.
  • High blood pressure.

 Why Do People Eat More Than Required?

People eat to excess for many reasons. A very common reason is carbohydrate rich food actually make you feel good, albeit for a short time. In times of stress, even mild, two thirds of people use food to make themselves feel better!

It can become like an addiction. The drive, a dopamine function, for food, for comfort eating or because sugar tastes good can actually drive people, even people wanting to or needing to lose weigh to eat.

Following on from this there is an endogenous reward released and physiologically it can actually feel good to eat. It can be a tricky situation to get the balance right and this is where hypnosis Newcastle can help you get and maintain the right balance for you.

Eating Food – You Are What You Eat

There are essentially three food forms. These are Carbohydrates like bread, pasta and potato. There are Fats such as in dairy, oil and chocolate and there are Proteins as in chicken, eggs and cheese. We require all of these food types to be healthy and function well.

When we eat protein it is broken down into amino acids in the blood stream. Starch, sugars and carbohydrates are turned into glucose in the blood stream and are stored as glycogen. Fat is turned into fatty acids, glycerol and is stored as triglyceriods in fat cells, the liver and muscles.

Psychological and Physiological Balance

No matter how your days are it is really very easy, cheap and little effort to eat healthily. It is all to easy to eat ‘rubbish’ which is mass produced and as we all know in quantity is not the best health option.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle can help you tap into the real motivation and purpose that is a part of you wanting to lose weigh, stop yo-yo dieting and live a much more healthy and content life. You may also really want consider the benefits of exercise as part of your life style.

The Truth About Weight Loss

No one actually wants to lose weight just for the sake of losing weight. Think about it!

It is what you will get from losing weight that is the real importance and value to you. Perhaps it is to feel healthier or live longer. Perhaps losing weight will mean you have more self esteem or self worth. It could be for any number of very important reasons but it is NOT just about losing weight.

Newcastle weight loss hypnotherapy is for you when you have made a decision to change your life in good ways. Call Nigel 0770 481 8467 for a free consultation ( allow 15-30 minutes ) and see if hypnotherapy for weight loss is right for you. What are you waiting for? Call now or fill in the questionnaire in BOOKING A THERAPY SESSION.

 

Anxiety Hypnotherapy – A Living Paradox

Get help with your anxiety problems with hypnotherapy in Newcastle. People are not born anxious, we learn to be that way. Good news anxiety is un-learnable.

Charles Tebbitts stated that one of the ‘rules of the mind’ is that opposing thoughts can not be held at the same time. This is absolute twaddle.

In hypnotherapy Charles Tebbetts is a mighty name from the past. He did really exceptional pioneering work. He formulated some ‘Rules’ of the mind.

One of which is that “opposing ideas can’t be held at the same time” – Apart from the metaphorical contradiction, they can and do and are.

A simile for this is trance. A word for this is paradox and a meaning is transformation from a greater and new perspective.

While anxiety is un-learnable in people and animals, as people it is possible to use the exact same STRUCTURES to transform worry and anxiety into positive anticipation and well-being. This of course takes practice and commitment.

A Bout Of Anxiety

The body’s stress response is activated. Depending on the intensity of the response the terms may be deemed Anxious Arousal ( high ) or Anxious Apprehension ( less ). It is still the same body response.

Positive body stress is actually quite good, this is called stimulation. This is like going for a run, moderate exercise or some other positive activity.

A negative, and usually unwarranted stressor has all the same hall mark plus some metabolic activation of the Amygdala. This is a key neuro-biological difference.

In a fear or anxiety response there are, in a simplistic way, four nuclei in the brain activated. These lead to pretty much the same body responses hormonally.

ANXIETY – FEAR – STRESS

There are four brain areas activated.

  • Amygdala
  • Hippocampus
  • Frontal Cortex
  • Reticular Formation

Not surprisingly the hippocampus ( involved with memory ) is active. This means we are learning to be afraid or learning to be anxious.

The amygdala is all about fear, sexual behaviour in males and is a biological learning component of fear. This little bugger responds well to stress hormones and at the same time, kind of, overrides the normal hippocampus conscious learning function.

The reticular formation is a rhombencephalon, reptile brain nuculii that has a great deal to do with attention and in this instance, the blue spot ( locus coeruleus ) thrives on noradrelanine, a neuro transmitter involved in the stress response.

All of this is a scientific and neuro biological explanation of what is happening at a very small level of detail. Knowing all of this really wont stop anxiety, it is what we can do with this knowledge that can make a difference. A real difference!

Un Learning Anxiety

When laboratory rats ( like in Martin Seligmans ) un-learn learned depression, when OCD sufferors un-learn OCD there are two very important aspects or functions that metabolically change in terms of a stress response.

This is dirt cheep to know and can take effort, sweat and can also happen in just a few hours. The Amygdala lowers in metabolic activity and the Frontal Cortex increases in activity.

How this is accomplished can be a process of hypnotherapy for anxiety, cognitive and behavioural activity and a genuine commitment to change.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle offers committed and well structures ways for you to achieve freedom from anxiety … before you call … be sure of this …

The kind of people I want to work with to make positive changes are people who have made a solid decision to change. This is you when you are sure you are no longer willing to live anxious and both want and are committed to freedom from anxiety.

Professional hypnotherapy in Newcastle upon Tyne from Nigel Hetherington. Call on 0770 481 8467 or download and return your questionnaire. Calls are answered in 24 hours during working days.

 

Hypnotherapy In Newcastle

Hypnotherapy is being used more and more by sports personalities and even film stars to help them with motivation, mental attitude alterations and even change long standing addictions and problematic behaviours.

Most of us are not top sports or film personalities yet we can still experience the same kinds of problems in life. So, what really is hypnotherapy here in Newcastle upon Tyne? And what could hypnotherapy help you with?

Newcastle Hypnotherapy

Hypnotherapy in Newcastle – Debunking The Myths

There are many myths and urban legions about hypnotherapy here in Newcastle. Let’s explore a few of these and attempt to offer a credible and honest perspective from a professional clinical hypnotherapist.

Hypnosis is a process of communicating ideas and experiences” – M. Hyland Erickson.

Clinical hypnotherapy is really very different from stage hypnosis. Primarily because in a clinical setting the intention is about helping a client to make and maintain psychological and bio-physiological beneficial changes. Stage hypnosis is essentially geared towards entertainment.

Both stage and clinical hypnosis can and do use similar processes. These processes are about creating the trance state from which suggestions or a little more precisely, certain kinds of experiences, trance phenomena and the communication of ideas that can be utilised to support new learnings and psychodymanic changes in thoughts, behaviours and perceptions.

One accurate definition of hypnosis I like from a respected colleague in the field of hypnotherapy and personal change Gary Turner is this :

Hypnosis has nothing to do with trance, sleep, eyes closed, relaxation – they can happen with hypnosis, yet are not exclusive to hypnosis. Hypnosis is when your imagination is guided so that it becomes your reality.”

Can Anybody Be Hypnotised?

The answer is a very clear and honest no! Some people will not respond to hypnosis in any conventional way. The ability to experience hypnosis, or a deeper trance phenomena has both to do with the hypnotherapist, their flexibility and attitude to explore and the hypnotic subject. This could take several sessions, just one or never happen at all in that interaction.

Making the claim, ‘ANYONE CAN BE HYPNOTISED’ as some do on the promotional material and websites, really is lacking in any professional integrity. The honest answer to this is when I don’t know about any new person I work with is ‘I don’t know.’

In hypnosis, trance phenomenon could include types of inability to move such as eyes locking, unbendable arms, feet stuck to the floor or the inability to release an object. Inability in this instance would be against your conscious will.

You can experience ideo-motoric or automatic movements in your fingers, your arms or legs. You will be conscious enough to know you are moving and it is not under your own conscious will.

These are all possible aspects of trance and at the same time non of trance phenomena are required for engendering change.

Stating anyone can be hypnotised is like saying any depressive will get better by taking Prozac. It is simply not true. Any honest and experienced hypnotherapist will confirm this from vicarious and more importantly their own experience.

How Do You Know Hypnotherapy Has Worked?

The only way to know about difference and the accessing of resources is in practice is to have an experience. That means that following hypnotherapy you try out your new behaviours, thoughts and motivations and notice what is different.

Certain types of behaviours can be tested well in the therapy room. These are things like seriously traumatic memories. The resolution being more easily tested there and then. Public speaking will be better tested out in reality outside the change therapy room.

Part of a change agreement or contract is to explore and try out new behaviours and new ideas in the context of what was a problem. The feedback from you, having experienced hypnotherapy, is go out into the real world and notice for yourself differences that result from the work we have done together.

Doing this is the ONLY way you will know that the change work, new perspectives and ways of being fostered in the therapy room will be real in the world. The changes you need could be accomplished on one session or could take several.

Is It Possible To Be Hypnotised Against Your Will?

This is a very obvious yes! Or No! Depending on what is understood by ‘Your  Will’. The concept of ‘will’, might be explained by levels or a spectrum of consciousness. There are very different, well documented and researched levels of brain activities that correlate to certain kinds of experience or consciousness.

All of these states can be accessed in hypnosis yet this is not the essence of hypnosis. The essence is is really about creating and sponsoring a context, an experience, where change, and ideas are communicated authentically.

The most well researched levels of brain wave activity fit into five levels of neuro activity. These being Gamma, Beta, Alpha, Theta and Delta, in reducing frequency.

What is really important to grasp at the beginning is that there is absolutely no separation between mind and body.  We can see our body and other peoples but there is no mind to be seen or objectified in the physical world. The mind is an inner-subjective experience we can all have from the inside out.

One Hertz – abbreviated Hz is defined as one cycle or firing per second.

My experience it is possible for a person to be asked to consciously resist hypnosis and at the same time respond to and experience trance phenomena.

Hypnotic trance states and meditative states share similar characteristics in neuronal activity and frequencies. There are differences which relate to different areas of brain activity. In hypnosis there is increased activity in motor and sensory areas with more internal focus of attention.

  • Gamma – Rapid High Firing – Above 40 Hz.
  • Beta – Waking State  – 14 to 40 Hz
  • Alpha – Light Sleeping / Relaxed State – 7 to 14 Hz
  • Theta – Dreaming State – 4 to 7 Hz
  • Delta – Deep Dreamless Sleep – 0.5 to 4 Hz

In each of these brain wave frequencies and their collieries of states, it is very possible to activate and grow new neuronal connection which equate to new behaviours, new ideas and new ways of behaving. In the proper conditions this can take just around 15 minutes.

Your brain is fundamentally plastic in that you can learn and unlearn, given the most honest and fundamental motivation. This motivation, when properly tapped, is why you are seeking help with hypnotherapy in Newcastle.

So can you be made to things against your will? Well I certainly hope so. Most people see a hypnotherapist in Newcastle because they already can’t do things against their will.

People over weight, addicted or having phobic responses know in all consciousness their behaviour is unwanted and they desire, with their will, to make positive changes. Yet they don’t. So they are already doing behaviours against their will.

Hypnotherapy In Newcastle

When the time is right for you to seek the kind of help and assistance you need to make honest and genuinely positive changes in your life contact Nigel Hetherington for hypnotherapy in Newcastle. 0770 481 8467.

Newcastle hypnotherapy for help with psychological, behavioural, pain management and types of negative thinking that is spoiling your life.

Depression Hypnotherapy Newcastle

Hypnotherapy depression in Newcastle can help you turn around and drop many of the psychological aspects of depression that are ruining your life at the moment.

When you are really depressed, the normal things in life, people take for granted are not very easy at all. If you are feeling depressed, even reading this can be a bit of a task. The invitation even now is to keep reading, just for a bit.

Depression Hypnotherapy Newcastle

Approximately 20% of people will at some time in their life suffer from a clinical depression. And what is very interesting is 20% of people with depressive symptoms will have this caused by an under active thyroid gland that is something your doctor should check.

Depression in the most common terms is about loss. This can be loss of a loved one, loss of a job or loss of the personality or identity you have related to for a very long time. Hypnotherapy Newcastle can help.

Depression in a clinical or medical sense is generally divided into to kinds. This will not fit everyone because you are unique so this is just a categorical term yet at the same time you may relate to this.

Number one : Reactive Depression

This means you have experienced a loss and you are feeling down, lost, guilty or grieving. Chances are, real good chance, you will get over this on you own,likely with the help of good support form your friends. This is perfectly normal.

You can probably rate where you are on the Kubler-Ross scale.  It goes something like this, easily remembered by the acronym D.A.B.D.A. that any counsellor will recognise as part of their very basic training.

  • D – Denial
  • A – Anger
  • B – Bargaining
  • D- Depression
  • A – Acceptance

Hypnotherapy Newcastle can best help you after you have grieved properly and are are experiencing the latter two stages. And your Doctor could prescribe SSRI’s to help you. Prosac and the many brand names of the same drug show that reactive depression can be assuaged with this drug.

My preference is not to use drugs to help you come to terms with loss and I also respect a drug based approach that you can work out with your pharmacologist.

Number Two : Clinical Depression

This is the real bad end of the stick. And you know it! However chances are within a few months you will be out the other end and living and experiencing life with all the joy and enthusiasm you used to have.

Clinical Depression, what a term! will be the symptomatology that you have felt ‘depressed’ for over two weeks and its not getting any better.

The major symptom of a major clinical depression is the complete loss of pleasure in life. This is termed anhedonia. Other symptomatology may be psycho-motor retardation, a lack of get up and go. Depressed people will most likely have very disturbed sleeping patterns too.

There are thought to be at least three neurotransmitters involved in clinical depression. These are Seratonin ( 5HT ),  Dopamine and Noradrenalin. The parts these play are complicated though can be summarised as these:

  • Serotonin – Sad Thoughts
  • Noradrenalin – Lack Of Energy
  • Dopamine – Loss Of Pleasure

There are plenty of drugs that work on and in the respective neurotransmitter pathways and synaptic transmission. Clinical hypnotherapy in Newcastle offers a way to help you that can be complementary to drugs or drug free.

Clinical Depression is very much a regarded to be a severe imbalance in the neuro-chemistry in the brain and as such is as real a disease as diabetes. Depression is completely felt in the now and usually accompanied with intense feeeling of grief, guilt and remorse.

Clinical hypnotherapy for depression is both about becoming future positive orientated and moping up unresolved issues from the past that are potentially causing grief. It will also focus in the very likely internal self talk that is very probably very negative and compounds the situation.

For help with depression, hypnotherapy in Newcastle with Nigel Hetherington could help you recover faster. Call Nigel on 0770 481 8467 for a completely free initial consultation which will take up to 20 minutes.

 

Hypnotherapy Newcastle Anger

Newcastle Hypnotherapy can help you deal with the day to day events and intrusions that anger you. Anger is a transient mood that really indicates ‘your rules’ have been broken or disrespected. Rules in a lose sense, in that, when they are violated in some way, your expectations, create a autonomic response that we then equate to anger.

Anger can be directed towards others or directed towards the self. Anger directed towards the self is a less than subtle indication that you have in some way violated your own expectations, rules, beliefs or values. Anger towards others indicates you have been violated in some way; behaviourally, emotionally, physically or even culturally.

Anger Hypnotherapy Newcastle

Anger is a perfectly normal and actually good emotion. Anger can become problematic when the anger persists and despite all your best intentions seriously affects your relationships, your health and your psyche. The world is against you, you are right and continue whine and curse about it. Oh! the injustice of it all! And it’s all about justice / injustice and rule breaking.

Someone cuts you up in traffic, your 9 o’clock appointment doesn’t show up, you get endless cold calls from a machine. You may get a little angry at all of those and rightly so if you do. The problem is when that anger stays with you all day and you are ruminating. All of those irritations have long past but your still angry and you can’t let it go.

Long term this is not healthy for you or the people that are close to you. How nice would it be to not get angry for the least little irritation. How much more cosy could life be if you were a lot less angry, irritable and hot tempered?

Hypnotherapy for Anger in Newcastle upon Tyne can help you not be so inflammatory for little or no reason.

In its purest form anger can serve as a very useful way to become aware that your rules ( or cultural rules ) are not in sync with your environment. You really have three choices. Hypnotherapy for Anger issues can assist you making changes with the following points two and three.

  1. Accept your response as correct, let go and move on. Keep doing more of the same.
  2. Explore what specifically is irritating you. Check the appropriateness of the response.
  3. Update your values and beliefs should you realise they are totally inappropriate. Change your emotional response.

Physiological And Psychological Response

The psychological and physiological anger response that hypnotherapy can help with is not easily differentiated. Why? Because either one will promote the other and in a circular way lead to the other. It is very easy to have the physiological response that we equate to anger. Our limbic system and our higher order values and beliefs ( or expectations ) work together in our nervous system to alert

Anger And The Amygdala

One of the key players in the emotional response or limbic system is the amygdala. The amygdala responds to perceived threats, physical or psychological and becomes metabolically active. The net result is an awakening awareness that activates the sympathetic nervous system. This is the well known freeze, flight or fight response.

In adult males the neuro-biology involved in aggression and love are really quite similar and people can easily confuse the two and more importantly ascribe the wrong meanings or associations to what is happening in the body.

In the 1970’s Stanley Schacter created an experiment where willing volunteers were taking part in a survey to decide if some vitamin or other could improve vision. What they were actually participating in was an experiment with administered doses of adrenaline.

Given the same dose of adrenaline and a somewhat different social setting they became overly angry or overly loved up. The environment or specifically the shaped meanings they gave to their experience moulded what they ’emotionally’ made sense of and related to the ‘same’ situation.

Hypnotherapy in Newcastle for Anger can help you to diffuse the strong causal links to either you or other people violating your expectation sets and not behaving or even thinking in the ways you have physiologically deemed appropriate. Believe it or not, other people have all the rules, expectations and perceived ways of being that you have. What can change with hypnotherapy is your response.

Anger Promotes A Massive Stress Response

Adrenaline and Aoradrenaline pour out from the sympathetic nervous system in response to a threat. Given time this response will mediate the outpouring of  hydrocortisone ( the human stress hormone ) and create a feed forward state of hyper anxious arousal that is doing nobody, certainly not you, any real good.

Imagine that for a moment it is you who have inadvertently cut someone up driving into work, it is you how has placed an unreasonable yet unavoidable demand on an employee or its your job to cold call people. Looking from an alternative perspective you can a little understanding and compassion.

It was Epictetus that said “It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.” And this is a really good way to start to re frame and restructure you own responses. When you need a hypnotherapeutic intervention to help you with serious anger issues call 0770 481 8467 and talk with Nigel to see how hypnotherapy Newcastle for anger can help you.

 

Hypnotherapy Jesmond Exam Nerves – Nigel Hetherington

When the pressure, the exam pressure, is on and you have to perform because your future depends on a great performance, hypnotherapy for exam nerves and confidence can help you ace that exam. An Exam is about meeting a certain criteria but an exam can be thought about as’the worst that can happen.’ This is what we call ‘worry.’

Hypnotherapy is a common antidote to all kinds of exam nerves. Exams come in various forms; Written exams at college and university. Practical exams like a driving test or a presentation exam. For some people these create the worst possible environment and situations. Hands going clammy, mouth dry, you sweat and your mind can go blank. This is exam stress and hypnosis in Jesmond can help you beat it. We all worry about something! Don’t worry!!

But we do worry! Things that can end life worry us like cancer tests. Testicular or breast cancer screening or testing are massive worries for most. This is just an exam … This is just a check up of your knowledge but in some experiences it is just as worrisome as a cancer scare.

Hypnotherapy Jesmond Exam

Exam Nerves Hypnosis Jesmond

In a nut shell. Something happens and you lose it. You lose access to all the stored facts and ability to recall what you know you know. Why? Excess stress response. What is happening?

Your body is having a massive stress response. Hydrocortisone is marinating your nervous system and your hippocampus is getting over ridden by the amygdaloid bodies. It’s biological panic time and you can’t do squat about it.

Result, your Episodic memory goes for a leave and your body is ready to save your life. Trouble is there is not life threat. What you have is a completely out of proportion stress response and your mind has just gone blank. You just failed an exam and the colloquialism is “your fucked”. But it doesn’t have to be this way.

Learning Is State Dependent

Learning and access to your learnings, knowledge and behaviours are directly linked to the state you learn in. Your behaviours are state dependent and your state in an exam, to a very large extent, will mediate how well you perform.

A persons ‘state’, a word often used with great imprecision ( like self Esteem ) requires a solid definition in the same way an exam performance needs to be solid. So what does your state comprise of and what does ‘state’ mean?

A persons state can be defined as the sum total of the neuro-biological metabolic activity, but this really is not so helpful a definition. Breaking this down a little more; State is composed of breathing ( respiration ), endocrine activity, body positions and muscle tone  ( physiology ), mind activity ( psychology ) and neuronal activity ( nervous system ). That’s quite a lot of jargon.

Breathing And How You Breath

How you breath can dramatically affect how you feel and perform. This is a basic yoga and nlp principle. A person is shocked and the breathing changes. A person is excited and the breathing changes. A person is in love and the breathing changes. States produce breathing patterns and so breathing patterns produce states. In yoga this is called Pranayama – breath control.

Endocrine Activity

Our bodies have several endocrine glands. An endocrine gland releases hormones into the blood stream.  These hormones affect how we feel. Get massively stressed and there are stress hormones active for hours in the blood stream. Short term and in moderation these are health and mental activity promoting factors. Go overboard and the opposite happens.

A little stress or in other words pressure or stimulation and these can be really beneficial. To much and pressure becomes acute and we suffer, our ability to recall well rehearsed facts, answers and routines goes out the window.

Posture and Muscle Tone

One the the worlds leading coaches has said “physiology is king”, apart from the masculine accent, they are saying how you hold your posture affects your emotions and your performance. Crunch yourself up into a little tight ball and most people will report this is uncomfortable and learning is difficult. Stand tall or sit comfortably with a straight spine and relax any tense muscles and most report learning is easier.

Psychology – Your Thoughts

What you say to yourself, the thoughts and images that drive through your imagination and memory seriously affect your performance in an exam. Start the internal devil of “What if I can’t … ” or “I am not going to be able to pass …” and the wheel of doubt is in motion. Negative thoughts and images, real or imaginary, can adversely affect the ability to recall, replicate and think straight.

Thoughts, images and concepts have the power to create negative stress. You could test this out by imagining failing or flunking a very important exam and the long term consequences of any such ‘failure’. This is basically what people with anxiety problems do so very well enough to create a bodily state that is repressive and to a greater or larger extent prevents success and good feeling.

Neurology – Nervous System Responses

Putting conscious movement and thoughts aside for a moment or two. The involuntary or automatic nervous system comes in two parts. The para-sympathetic, rest, tend, relax, befriend. And the sympathetic nervous system, freeze, flight and fight. Stress activate the sympathetic system.

Stress and there is excess adrenaline and noradrenaline  diffused throughout your body. This is what you feel as a stomach churning fear. Get this in an exam? It’s not so helpful. Well maybe it is if you want to run away.

 Exam Nerves Solutions With Hypnotherapy

Assuming you know your stuff, you want to deal with and make at ease the exam nerves that create the stress response, knock you out of your learning state and have the potential to totally screw up your future. What is happening is you have an unconscious response that is as frisky as a wilde horse out the stable.

Hypnotherapy for exam nerves is all about changing the unconscious response because hypnotherapy is about changing unconscious responses.

Jesmond Hypnotherapy Exam

Instead of fretting and worrying, give Nigel a call on 0770 481 8467 for a free consultation regarding exam stress and how hypnotherapy in Jesmond can help you to be in the right state to pass your exams.  This will take around 20 minutes of your valuable study time.

Metabolic Syndrome Hypnotherapy Newcastle

Metabolic Syndrome also know as Syndrome X is predicted to be the single most devastating disease in the West by 2020.  It is estimated now that around one quarter of the world adult population has Metabolic Syndrome.

Hypnotherapy for Metabolic Syndrome can be an affective treatment for the psychological aspects and potentially some of the physical symptoms as well.

Metabolic Syndrome Hypnotherapy

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Metabolic Syndrome is a collection or cluster of symptomatology for various conditions that are reasonably good but not absolute, predictors of serious cardiovascular disease to come. These include but are not confined to :

  • Obesity
  • Insulin Resistance ( bordering type 2 diabetes )
  • Hypertension ( high blood pressure )
  • Dyslipidemia ( high blood cholesterol )

The word ‘syndrome’ means “the association of several clinically recognizable features, often occurring together, so that the presence of one or more features alerts the healthcare provider to the possible presence of the others.” Suggesting that if a person has one or two of these symptoms, they are likely heading to collect the full house.

Suppose you have high insulin levels raising the bad cholesterol ( LDL ) and you are well overweight. You are probably heading towards type 2 diabetes. Have Type 2 diabetes and high cholesterol and high blood pressure chances are you are a short bus ride away from being obese.

Having Metabolic Syndrome, one or more of the four indicators, and statistically you are three times as likely to have a stroke or heart attack than someone who hasn’t. You are also twice as likely to die that someone who hasn’t. Its all scary stuff with a pretty bleak outlook.

Biological and Psychological Components Metabolic Syndrome

A lot of not getting Syndrome X in the first place has to do with life style and attitudes to life. Hypnotherapy for Metabolic Syndrome can have several directed approaches to assist in changing the behaviours and attitudes that would seem to create Metabolic Syndrome.

  • Weight Loss
  • Managing the Stress Response
  • Change of Lifestyle
  • Motivation

No one is born with Syndrome X. A sedentary lifestyle, little exercise and a diet of processed ready meals are massive contributing factors. Now add in a life filled with stress and we have all the ingredients in abundance as a massive vector for developing Metabolic Syndrome.

How Hypnotherapy Can Help With Metabolic Syndrome

Hypnotherapy probably won’t change your genetics if you are predisposed to some aspects of Syndrome X that are inherited. But understand that being genetically more likely to develop Metabolic symptoms does not mean a person will. Environment,lifestyle and personal history are the real impactors.

When a person is stress regularly there are adverse health affects. Regular and over the top activation of the sympathetic nervous system seems to cause atherosclerosis by way of having regular and too much glucose and triglicerides in the blood. Hypertension can also be cause by way too much stress response.

Stressed people at least two thirds eat more carbohydrates. Eating as a stress response will most likely lead to obesity and Type 2 diabetes. So there is some very real and clear evidence that stress of a psychological nature can lead to many of the symptoms of Syndrome X.

The possibilities of using hypnotherapy to help with Metabolic Syndrome would be in helping you change the problematic and unhealthy attitudes, behaviours and ways of managing out of proportions stress response.

Hypnotherapy in Newcastle  for help with Metabolic Syndrome psychological factors. Call Nigel on 0770 481 8467 for a complementary consultation.

Addiction Hypnotherapy Newcastle – Nigel Hetherington

Hypnotherapy for addiction in Newcastle upon Tyne

Hypnotherapy can be utilised to help you break free from the physical and psychological addictions that usually begin as pleasurable or stress reducing activities but end up dominating and controlling your behaviours.

An addiction in this instance is defined as something, an activity, that is literally compulsive and is engaged in but that you really, really don’t want to do. An instance where the mind or intention is completely overruled by compulsion.

Hypnotherapy Addiction Newcastle

The rather important definition of an addiction here is that urges and compulsions seem to take over the conscious or rational self and the aftermath is a feeling of regret, remorse and never again. But cyclically it happens again and again. This defines an addiction that is neither good or beneficial long term.

An addiction is a pathologically or negative behaviour and has noting to do with recreational drug use or behaviours unless it becomes a problem. Many people can have a drink, smoke a joint, run ever day or have a flutter at the horses, no problem. The problem comes into being when a person can’t function well without engaging in such a behaviour and the behaviour is necessary to feel normal.

Addictions come in the widest variety and flavours you or anyone could possibly imagine. The more common addictions hypnotherapy can help with are addictions to drugs, behaviours and even ways of thinking.

To offer a flavour of exogenous drug addictions that are common are addictions to two of the most freely available and government endorsed ( they make more money from revenue than it cost’s to treat ) are alcohol and tobacco. The basic underground drug of addiction top trump is cocaine and more so derivatives.

Other addictions that are sponsored by our government are gambling and pornography. They are both genuine as being very very old and established and for the most part harmless in that most of us do engage in these activities in some form in a very mild way. Serious problems arise when these activities form routine behaviours that initially feel good but seep into our life’s as escapism.

Addictions Neuro Biology

Addictions are biologically and neurologically formed and activated by a gorgeous little part in the brain in the meso-limbic-cortical path way. Specifically the midbarain ( mesencephalon ) in the ventral tegmental area, the nucleus accumbens septi ( diencephalon ) and into projected pathways in the frontal cortex.

The meso-limbic-cortex pathway makes great use of the neuro-transmitter dopamine. This is the so called pleasure pathway of the brain.  What is amazingly interesting is that dopamine is not really to do with reward but has everything to do with the anticipation of reward or in other words MOTIVATION.

From a stumulus, not the act of doing, we are massively motivated to perform an action. Check this out – if you are a drug addict imagine or think about taking your drug of choice – you most likely have the urge to participate. Maybe if you are a current smoker you can imagine having  a tab, if you are a gambler imagine placing a bet … you are not doing it but probably feel a sense, a rising compulsion to act.

STOP. The reward will never be as good as seasiationing or actually doing it. But this is conscious mind stuff. You probably will act on your motivation or you are no longer and addict and you have just discovered a new freedom.

In case you are still an addict and you want a way to free yourself and whatever you have tried and failed to stop you have another option. The option you have is hypnotherapy for addiction that is a honest and one to one way for you to go forward.

But … before you call you really need to be solid in the following concepts.

  • You will engage in ANY set tasks relative to your freedom.
  • You will provide feedback from sessions.
  • You accept a real and genuine responsibility for change. This means you do not expect your problems to go away with no effort from you.

Remember its only a problem when its a problem and I only work with you if you are absolutely committed to change otherwise we are both wasting out time. When you are committed to changing a serious problematic behaviour call now.

For help with addictions call Nigel Hetherington for Hypnotherapy in Newcastle to help you break free from the addictions that are destroying your life. 0770 481 8467. Complementary initial consultation that will take about 20 minutes.

Phobia Hypnotherapy Newcastle – Nigel Hetherington

Hypnotherapy can help you become free of phobic responses that can leave a person a shaking wreck, incapacitated and having a full on major stress response. A phobia is not a fear, a phobia is classified as an anxiety disorder.

We are using hypnotherapy here to unlearn an out of proportion response to some stimulus. So if the phobia is of spiders, we are using hypnotherapy to unlearn the particular response to spiders and to have a different, more mediated response to spider stimulus. Phobia have very specific triggers.

Phobia Hypnotherapy Newcastle

Nobody is born with phobic responses – they are learned. While there seems to be a body of evidence that suggest some inbuilt fears of snakes, spiders and heights there is no evidence that any of these makes us genuinely phobic of them.

A phobic response will be ‘learned’ in a very stressful or terrifying situation. Assume there is or there feels like a life or death situation. The sympathetic nervous system will be releasing noradrelanin, the endocrine system will be releasing stress hormones. Our body is completely geared up to make a survival attempt.

Our amygdala’s will be massively activated and our memory of this situation or it’s moments will be being formed. Formed because should we survive this situation then it will make perfect sense that should a similar situation ever occur we have a memory template to save our skins again.

When we are responding to a gigantic life or death type stressor ( or the sense of extreme fear or terror ) the hippocampus becomes less affective at storing our memories and the role to some extent is mediated by the amygdala. It is the amygdala that plays a crucial role in a phobic response as part of the unconscious limbic system response.

Neil Slade talks about clicking or tickling the amygdala to pacify an over active amygdala to reduce anxiety, fear or any unwanted unconscious activation. This could be thought of a mindfulness activity. The accent is having an pretty much unconscious and unwanted nervous system response stop.

Hypnotherapy can be used to re-educate a particular,in this case phobic, response to a stimulus that most likely poses no danger at all. Nobody knows how hypnosis works quickly to remove a phobia. What is evidenced is that an unconscious process can be changed using hypnotherapy.

Phobia or Fear?

Many people describe a fear or an apprehension as a phobia. These are really very different things.  Being apprehensive is a little wary and courage can usually overcome fear. A phobic response will leave a person incapacitated, flooded with adrenaline, paralysed with fear or running away hell for leather.

Hypnotherapy Jesmond and Newcastle can help you overcome phobias, fears and social apprehensions. Nigel works from Jesmond Therapy Centre, 7 Holly Avenue West easy accessible hypnotherapy North Shields, Durham and Sunderland. Call Nigel on 0770 481 8467 for help with phobia.

 

Hypnotherapy Trauma & PTSD – Nigel Hetherington Hypnotherapy

Hypnotherapy is an affective way to deal with psychological and emotional trauma. Post Traumatic Stress Disorder ( PTSD ) and Traumatic memories leave survivors with scars, that live on in forever reoccurring states of severe distress when the actual danger is long passed, never quite heal.

Trauma is defined here as the result of a massively emotional and or physical situation where a person has survived but is still from time to time experiencing the negative real-time emotional responses that are debilitating, hugely stress inducing and crippling to every day life.

NLP Eye Movement Integration For Therapists Training – FREE

NLP Eye Movement Integration Plus is freely available for all therapists and change workers to have the DVD of a two day training in using EMIPlus in treating Trauma and PTSD and many anxiety disorders. Go to www.emiplus.co.uk

A potential traumatic event that can mediate PTSD could literally be anything. This could be a life or death situation, physical and emotional violence or a huge emotional loss. Some people seems to experience such situations and be able to get on with their life but others can’t or don’t.

PTSD And Flash Backs

Take an extreme stressor. This could be a conflict in a war zone, a rape, physical violence or a car crash. In those moments the body will be seeped and drenched in a cocktail of stress hormones and neuro-transmitters. The Amygdala is hyper active and every cell in the body is doing the freeze, flight flight natural reaction.

With this chemical bodily infusion the Hippocampus, where short and long term conscious memories are made, literally shuts down and the amygdaloid ‘memories’ as of how to survive is quite rightly active. The amygdala is learning to promote the response of ‘how to survive’. Problems occur when this survival response becomes the norm or becomes a totally out of proportion response. This is PTSD.

What results is an EXTREME format of neuro-biological learning. IF a person survives there is an intense reaction and an intense learning. This learning is a body wisdom learning. It will not be conscious, that is too slow to save a life.

Environmental triggers, like a similar car, a loud noise or something or a little part of the trigger events in everyday life set of the survival response.

Using hypnotherapy for Eye Movement Integration Plus for PTSD to re-educate the unconscious response offer real ways for the nervous system to change a survival pattern in all the wrong circumstances into new way of being.

Contact Nigel Hetherington on 0770 481 8467 when you want to be free of a totally out of whack BUT totally understandable bodily response that is traumatic memories or PTSD using hypnotherapy and EMIPlus.

 

Hypnotherapy Newcastle – Generalised Anxiety Disorder ( GAD )

Clinical hypnotherapy for anxiety in Newcastle can help you mediate anxious responses that are extremely stressful and seem to serve no positive purpose. Newcastle hypnotherapy for generalised anxiety disorder ( GAD ) and helping you lean to be more at ease … because you learned to be anxious means you can learn to be at ease, which is our natural human state of being.

have you ever wondered WHY some people seem to be totally free of anxiety and other people, you? are often in a state of anxious arousal or anxious apprehension? Worrying about the future. This literally defines anxiety.Hypnotherapy Newcastle Anxiety GADAnxious arousal simply means that you are feeling anxious and anxious apprehension is more about thoughts and ideation of worry. Both of these have less than positive affects on mood, the nervous system and long term health.

No one begins life as a worrier. This makes perfect sense because to worry we need the intellectual capacity do it. Babies as Piaget put it are born into the world with a Sensory-Motor consciousness; they have no idea about death, growing old, losing a job or a partner. Babies are delivered in direct experience and that experience is all about the senses. And this has no past or future.

Adrenaline And The Amygdala

All of us mammals have a limbic system. The limbic system is a deep brain region that is all about emotions. Emotions here is defined as what we feel and NOT the meaning we attribute to what we are feeling. The neuro chemical biology of hate and anger is incredibly similar to what we feel with love and joy. The same neuro-chemicals are present in both states and it is the attributions of meanings that ‘consciously’ define out state, mood and long term temperaments.

Take a particularly negative stressor and the amygdala, a small nucleus in the limbic system, will become energetically active and will mediate a sympathetic nervous system response complete with danger and anxious arousal. Go for a run or play on a roller coaster and the sympathetic nervous system will activate BUT without the amygdala. The difference is massive.

Positive stressors, like running, a scary film or bungey jumping ( if you are that way inclined ) produce gluco-corticoids that mediate positive stress responses. When the amygdala is involved this equates to worry, negative stress and what we know as worry. It’s almost the same system, its the same system the difference is the meaning, conscious and unconscious, we make of experience.

There is almost always an adrenaline and noradrelanine release when the sympathetic nervous system activates, like being angry or in-love it is the meaning that is attributed to the physical sensations that are important.

Anxiety Your Body and Environment

Your brain is always receiving and processing information from your body. The psychologist William James proposed that the body actually has an emotion and then the brain makes sense of this. This is not a crazy or strange as this reads. If you are tense, your muscles are stiff and locked,the bio-feedback from your body will actually mediate your emotions. This is why a massage can feel so relaxing and stimulate a relaxed mood.

In a psychological experiment, conducted by Schacter in the 1950’s, it was discovered that your brain has been shown to attribute a bodily state , in this case anxiety to the immediate social environment.  This means if you are a setting where anxiety and worry are common place the feelings you feel will be attributed to the environment. Environment means people around you.

What You Can Anticipate From An Appointment

Each hypnotherapy Newcastle appointment with Nigel is a totally individual experience however as a minimalist basis for treatment we will most likely explore the following : How you do anxious? The most common way people make themselves anxious is talking to themselves, with the inner voice, in the following ways.

  • Talking at a way rapid speed
  • Beginning What If statements

Talking rapidly seems to have all of the ingredients to make you think faster. Beginning What If sentences and not finishing them or taking them to a logical extreme will tend to send the brain reeling and searching out answers, often unconscious and causing more anxiety.

By knowing how you do anxious thoughts you are now in a position, which will require effort on your part, to begin to learn how to make your self feel better.

We will find where you feel anxiety in your body of you have anxious arousal and use hypnosis as a body relaxation and combine this with hemispherical activity balancing exercises.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle for Anxiety, to help you relax your worrying mind, relax your body and learn some new strategies so you can worry less and strat living a more mentally calm emotional life. Call Nigel now on 0770 481 8467.

 

 

 

Newcastle Hypnotherapy Weight Loss – Nigel Hetherington

Hypnotherapy for weight loss in Newcastle and the North East because so very many people want the body beautiful and their idealised body shape. There are essentially two reasons people want to lose weigh. Obviously there are the physical aspects but there are also the psychological ones.

Hypnotherapy in Newcastle for weight loss is honestly not just about losing weight. There is a required focus on what losing weight will actually accomplish and mean for any client. What are the deeper values you will need to access when your size or shape changes because your psyche has changed in a way that supports a different set of psychologically driven eating behaviours?

Hypnotherapy Newcastle Weight Loss

Psychological Hunger – A Deeper Metaphor

There are two areas in the brain that are responsible for the biological trigger of eating and stopping eating. In the limbic system the hypothalamus, a cluster of dense functional neurons about the size of a grape mediate our physical appetites.  The ventromedial and lateral nuclei respectively monitor rising and falling glucose in the body and as so create the feeling of satiation and hunger.

Because the brain has evolved to utilise the same circuitry for both physical and abstract navigation in the world of body requirements and social and cultural requirements there is almost certainly a hunger for the psychological needs as well as the biological ones. Eating to excess or hungering for something other than food will be very easily confused neurologically.

If we eat food that is rancid we feel disgust and that same brain region, the insular cortex,  is also where we ‘feel’ moral disgust.  We feel the need for food but we can also feel other needs that are psychological. In order to satisfy a psychological need it is no surprise that we eat to alleviate the feelings of wanting something to satisfy the soul.

Why People Eat To Excess

It could be argued that eating is one way to combat negative feelings, that means when you are upset or ‘depressed’ it is likely ( 66% ) people become hyperphagic that is eat more carbohydrates to feel better and only one third of people when depressed become hypophagic eat less. Feed a cold and starve a fever.

This in the very general sense has everything to do with temporary moods or equally long term feelings of deprivation which causes mood to swing. Swing left, right and off centre. Eating something with carbs or sugar really does taste very good and albeit temporarily, is a stress reliever. The problems begin when eating becomes a comforter for stress and negative emotions. This is a really short term solution and not the most healthy by a long way.

In the US recent statistics suggest that over one third of people are obese. That is not just a bit overweight this is FAT! Being obese has massively strong correlations to health problems. Food is so very easily available and almost effortless to obtain. Think about all of the packaged ready meals or the ubiquitous all-you- can- eat buffets that attract so many people to sit a graze like happy cows chomping and gobbling up food.

Yo-Yo Dieting And Failure

Is this you? Begin a very well intentioned diet plan, stick to it for a day, a week or a month and then lose steam? Buy the latest dieting book, maybe even read it, and still hating being fat? Start stop,start stop … Yo-Yo! Self help books, self help audio and self help video all sell two things … hope and a miracle cure.

The self help library of products is a multi-million industry and unless you do actually do the exercises and practices as described is just filling the pockets of people other than you in terms of getting what you really want.

What you need to do is create long term and self powered, self motivated ways of creating the you you want to be and living the life you want to live. The crux for me is connecting and sponsoring a very real and honestly motivating psyche or mental state that powers your new behaviours and habits. In effect a new you that has access to the deepest reasons and motivation that drive forward the behaviours that make you take care of and nurture who you are.

What is often missing in all the failed attempts is a conscious understanding of why you need to lose weight and a really very long term commitment to investing in your health, happiness and personal evolution.

A Way Forward – Weight Loss Psychology

Before you seek any psychological, hypnotherapy or counselling ask yourself the following questions and you will already have one foot in the door to a lasting change.

  • What does losing weight actually mean?
  • What is important about losing weight?
  • What are the real important factors here?
  • What is driving me to lose weight?
  • What will be different when I have lost weight?
  • Where is this leading you towards?

When you have answers and this will equate to a honest and long term motivation, the kind that can prevent the Yo-Yo dieting trap and start you on a way forwards in life that is, as you think about this now, is not really to do with weight loss but instead becoming more of who you want to be …

Hypnotherapy Newcastle for weight loss and the personal evolution of your self that is much more of a living embodiment of a happier and healthier you. Call Nigel Hetherington of 0770 481 8467 for a free  consultation which will take about 20 minutes of your time and discover what weight loss really and honestly means for you.

 

Newcastle Hypnotherapy Erectile Dysfunction – Nigel Hetherington

Hypnotherapy in Newcastle for men’s help with sexual impotence. Men’s erectile problems are common though they aren’t usually discussed openly.

The most common cause of men’s erectile dysfunction is excess stress. Stress accounts for around 50% of male impotence. When you have affective methods to manage stress you are far more likely to be able to gain and maintain an erection. It can be hard to seek professional help.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle with Nigel Hetherington offers a discrete service using hypnosis and NLP to help you both relax and change your response to stress. Newcastle hypnotherapy can help alleviate male impotence and erectile dysfunction.

When we are relaxed and calm there is much more, if not all, parasympathetic nervous system activation. The parasympathetic system is what is activated after a meal, during sleep, relaxing or when meditating. When people are stressed it is sympathetic nervous system that is activate.

For a man to gain and maintain an erection, the parasympathetic nervous system must be activated.  This won’t happen if you are worried, nervous or hyper anxious about your sexual performance.

Impotence problems can naturally compound because being impotent is stressing in and of itself. It can be embarrassing as well as feeling guilt and shame.

How Hypnotherapy Newcastle Can Help

Being able to discuss your problem is usually a big relief and being able to have straight talk with a professional can actually ease a burden. Undiscussed problems of this nature can be quite inflationary in terms of anxtious apprehension so being able to talk about it can begin a change process.

There are two essential steps in dealing with what is know as psychogenic ( stress related ) impotency and to have some ideas and indications as to whether excess stress is the culprit.

Firstly using hypnosis to strengthen your responses to stress we are attempting to make you more robust to non-sexually related stressors. This can mean having better outlets for work and relationship stresses and feeling more in control of your own life.

Secondly hypnotherapy in Newcastle is used to de-couple previous problematic memories and feelings guilt and anxiety that is directly sexually related. Using hypnosis and NLP to create positive ideas and body responses that can reorganise and  straighten out your thoughts so you can relax into the mood you really want to achieve.

Identifying Stress Related Impotence

You will most likely have a very accurate idea of the stress levels in your life – if you are honest with yourself. You will know whether erection problems occur only when you are with a partner or on your own or both.

Additionally you can use Holmes and Rahe’s scale of major Life Events to explore your own ‘subjective’ stress scale day to day measures. When you believe that stress or some psychological basis is causing impotence then hypnotherapy may well be a real solution for you.

When adults enter the later, deeper stages of sleep, REM sleep they get erections. Getting erections in sleep very much suggests stress related erection problems when you are awake. So…

You can do one more personal experiment to see if your impotence has a psychogenic or stress related basis. Take a thin strip of paper or a long cigarette paper using just the adhesive part and fit this to the penis before sleeping.

This should be fitted to wrap around the girth and be loosely affixed. The fixing could be a sliver of sellotape or a dab of Pritstick glue or the natural adhesive gum on a cigarette paper.

The idea is, the ring of paper you have fitted around the girth ( think of a napkin holder ) will open or break if you experience an erection during sleep.  Check if the lightly attached paper has broken during your sleep.

Hypnotherapy in Newcastle for erectile dysfunction and stress related impotence with consultant hypnotherapist Nigel Hetherington. Call now for a free consultation on 0770 481 8467.

Newcastle Hypnotherapy Procrastination – Nigel Hetherington

Hypnotherapy Newcastle for creating positive New Year habits where you can get more done so you can be more successful. Hypnosis in Newcastle 2013 specifically for stopping procrastination. Newcastle hypnotherapy helping you to mind shift into getting your tasks and goals completed.

Procrastination literally means putting off until tomorrow. People procrastinate for a million different reasons  like a lack of energy, not being motivated or a surprise invitation to the cinema. It could even be being overwhelmed by our task to begin with, not knowing how to begin.

Most of us actually do have really valuable and important goals and tasks to complete. They will most likely benefit others as well as ourselves. Newcastle hypnotherapy is one way you can address your procrastination and make positive changes in attaining your goal.

This is a short clip from a Clinical Hypnotherapy training in Newcastle upon Tyne.

We all have task or goals we want to complete. Sometimes for whatever reason these are put off and we do something else instead.

This looks like this : “I want to do ‘X’ but do ‘Y’ instead

Procrastination really only becomes a problem when regular procrastination mounts up and almost nothing gets done. And like most developing habits the longer it goes on, the harder it seems to break the habit.

  • I want to be slimmer but I eat chocolate every night instead
  • I want to complete my study but I watch television instead
  • I want to do public speaking but I shy away instead
  • I want to finish writing my book but I have a cup of tea instead
  • I want to share my views  with my boss but I bite my tongue instead

The premise for this particular technique is acknowledging and valuing each behaviour individually and in its own right. Using physicalised postures for each behaviour and in a hypnotic trance slowly alternating between the two.

Neuro Biology of Procrastination

This is easy to understand on one level. In terms of doing a behaviour the neurotransmitter dopamine plays a big part in motivating us to take action. If we consider the choice between two tasks, simplistically, we will do the one where we are most motivated.

Having a real sense of what will happen positively as a result of you completing your goals and tasks will increase your motivation.

Our frontal cortex also has a role to play here, so it’s not as simple as just dopamine. The frontal cortex helps us choose to put off short term pleasures now in favour of long term pleasures and rewards later on. This is about will-power. The antagonist here is most likely the limbic system which is concerned with much more immediate rewards and pleasures.

So in valuing both behaviours, we could say one more limbic and one more frontal cortex and acknowledging the positive aspects of both actions, the intention is to create a more agreeable balance in what you are doing.

Newcastle hypnotherapy for help with procrastination and completing your goals and outcomes. Easily accessible for Hypnotherapy in Sunderland | Hypnotherapy Darlington | Hypnotherapy Durham | Hypnotherapy Northumberland

Hypnotherapy Sunderland Trauma Resolution – Nigel Hetherington

Sunderland Hypnotherapy and Newcastle Hypnotherapy for professional help in dealing with a past trauma and flashbacks that are still impacting very negatively on your life. Hypnosis in Sunderland and Newcastle that can help you de-couple painful and emotionally charged memories so you can let go of psychological pain and move forward unburdened of the past.

I want to define trauma here, in the context of hypnosis for trauma resolution in Sunderland, so let’s call trauma, as being an event from the past that is projected mostly here in the now, causing negative emotions and suffering in the present. Or, again something from the past that occasionally surfaces, creates havoc, and then, recedes into the depths, like a virus, waiting to surface again in the future.

A trauma can take many forms. Trauma can be physical or psychological or both. Trauma resolution using hypnosis can be used to de-couple the negative or unwanted, often prolonged and uncontrollable emotions and feelings associated with a traumatic episode.

A traumatic incident is a major stressor and that means a massive stress response. Our bodies are made to help us survive the kind of life or death experience that we will either survive or we won’t; for most primates its either over or its OVER. Its not the same for most humans.

Stress Response and Trauma

From any immediate environmental danger our bodies will respond appropriately by shutting down our digestion, make our mouths dry and diverting all available energy to our muscles, specifically our running muscles in our legs. Our system will literally tear all available stored energy reserves from our liver and muscles as glucose and fatty acids which are transported in our blood to our working muscles. All in about fifteen seconds.

Before this happens and is registered, we will feel the adrenalin response. With a major stressor within about two seconds our sympathetic nervous system is pouring out both adrenalin and noradrenalin all over the body. This creates the very familiar gut clenching, pant filling fear and at the sharp edge of danger adrenergic  response we are all very familiar with.

Bazoom! A technical term, for all the life saving chemicals creating a stress response in the body that could imprint on our nervous system as a traumatic episode.  Problems begin when we re-experience this same bodily survival experience remembering and feeling emotionally aspects of the episode when it is over and there is no real physical danger; Remembering and feeling aspects often again and again in inappropriate circumstances and this is said to be a trauma re-expreience.

Psychological to Physiological Stressors

The initial imprints of physiological and psychological traumatic experiences will alter the nature of how a memory is stored. Highly stressful situations depress one particular type of memory and enhance another. In a high stress response situation, the body will be drenched in an endogenous hormones known as glucocorticoids.

A stress response will have the limbic system, particularly the amygdala, more energetically activated.

The amygdalae are flighty birds. They sit on a lonely beech, letting the waves wash over them passively. But when you approach, no matter how carefully, they take to the air. The amygdalae send the hypothalamus chemical messengers which in turn activate the ANS, producing more glucocorticoids.

Feeling The Trauma Long After It’s Passed

Recurrence of stron negative emotion or reliving traumatic experiences, long after the actual incident has passed is not uncommon. There may be environmental triggers, internal thoughts or some combination of these that re-activates your memories and unleashes the same chemicals of the ANS and limbic system activation and you re-experience the trauma.

Hypnosis and often Eye Movement Integration can be used together to help you de-couple the negative emotions from the traumatic problem memory.

What A Personal Hypnosis Session Will Be Like

It is important you know that not everyone can be hypnotised. Many people can be hypnotised. The people who can be hypnotised do experience different depths of trance.

If you are a person who can’t be hypnotised there are many other ways to help you de-couple traumatic memories, eye movement integration being one.

If you are expecting baublery you will be disappointed. There won’t be any spinning discs on the ceiling, there won’t be any modified karaoke machines or swinging pocket watches.

It may surprise you but I won’t guarantee or even say that I definitely can help you. This is because that question can only be answered after our initial hypnotic session together. I do find it a little unsettling to read that some hypnotists are claiming they can cure any phobia in minutes or heal any trauma within five sessions.

Prior to any session we will have a phone conversation. This is completely free and can take up to 25 minutes.

Hypnotherapy in Sunderland for trauma resolution. Sunderland and Newcastle hypnosis for trauma relief from professional hypnotherapist Nigel Hetherington. Contact Nigel for help dissolving trauma and flashback using hypnotherapy in Northumberland | Durham | Darlington and Teesside.

 

Depression Hypnosis Newcastle – Nigel Hetherington

Newcastle hypnosis for depression with Nigel Hetherington offering you ways to stop the feelings of depression which can include emotions like guilt, loss and feeling somehow you deserve to feel this way as well as physical symptoms such as lack of energy and pain. Why consider hypnotherapy Newcastle? Because it is a drug free alternative to lifting depression using hypnosis.

Experiences of Depression

  • Inability to experience pleasure
  • Many or most experiences are negative
  • Feelings of guilt and grief
  • Suicidal thoughts
  • Experienced recently four or more  major life changes
  • Poor sleep patterns

We are all used to hearing the word ‘depression’ in everyday conversation. The word is in very common use and is used to indicate the natural response to loss or probably even more commonly a blue mood. Reactive depression is the perfectly normal response to loss. Loss defined in this way could be a partner, self belief, possessions, health, a job or even freedom. With reactive depression people will usually make full and complete recoveries given enough time and support.

Clinical depression is very different. Clinical depression is defined as two or more weeks of unabating depression symptoms which may be in response to loss as defined above or could be caused by other origins. Clinical depression is characterised by anhedonia and that means the loss of the ability to feel and experience pleasure from friends, eating, sex and even sun-rises.

It is probably almost inconceivable for anyone who has not been or seen someone who is clinically depressed to really get what anhedonia really is but in fact all of the thousands of ways most people have the good emotional texture of life is missing; there is no pleasure to be had at all. And this is what makes clinical depression such a terrible and destructive dis-ease.

In addition to a heavy tax on pleasure there is one more down side. There is a great deal of negative and unpleasurable experiences, thoughts and emotions that adds more and more straws to an already overstressed back.

While a clinically depressed person may look and appear to be quite still and energy-less this can most often be quite far from the truth.  Often ( 50% ) a clinically depressed persons blood work will reveal high levels of glucocorticoids. Glucorcorticiods are endogenous steroid hormones released from the adrenal glands in response to AdrenoCorticoTropic Hormone  ( ACTH ) which is itself released from the pituitary gland in the brain.

The human stress response essentially has two parts. The first is a very rapid, seconds, release of adrenalin and noradrenalin from nerve endings to organs and muscles. The second is the release of hormones into the blood stream that mobilise energy and muscles to save life. This second stage begins around 15 seconds and takes minutes to fully activate. The slower, second stage glucocorticoid part can last for many minutes, hours or even days in the body.

Prolonged exposure to glucocorticoids turns off the immune system, tends to stop sexual reproduction and turns of the rest and repair bio-mechanisms in the body.  If this is not all bad enough, with clinical depression, sufferers tend to give up the ghost and think that no matter what they do they won’t get better and often take on the attitude that no matter what is tried it wont get any better.

If this paints a picture in shades of grey with all the missing vibrancy of life missing then it is pretty accurate but … it’s not all bad news. Research suggests ( Time to recovery, chronicity, and levels of psychopathology in major depression ) that many people make complete recoveries within six months to a year and some within 3 – 6 months when aided with professional help. This is a statistic and faster recovery is possible.

For professional help using hypnotherapy for treating depression in Newcastle, North East England, Durham and Darlington. Lifting the blues without drugs hypnotherapeutic solutions without tricyclics or SSRI’s.

Call Nigel Hetheringon 0770 481 8467  : Newcastle hypnotherapy depression

Newcastle Hypnosis Redressing Self Sabotage – Nigel Hetherington

Hypnotherapy in Newcastle upon Tyne for Self Sabotage problems. Self sabotage is the sense of almost achieving your goals, outcomes or dreams and again and again you do something that ruins or seriously jeopardises all your hard work and effort. Utilise hypnosis in Newcastle to redress your inner saboteur.

Developmental psychologists like Piaget, Gilligan, Gardner and Keegan have proposed stages of personal evolution and development for individuals.  Long term studies have validated their models and as such can by understood as a kind of generic road map for the normal development of each of us.

As we grow and evolve from small children into adults we all learn a great variety of way to cope in the world. These coping mechanisms take the forms of behaviours, ways of thinking and emotional response. Very often our environment shapes the coping behaviours we learn.

All of the learned behaviours and emotional responses we learn as children and adults are essentially fit for purpose. As children we learn ‘a cry’ behaviour can get us many different responses such as attention, being fed or changed. Emotional explosions as temper tantrums can get us attention, detained or even what we want.

As we grow in age our limbic system, the control centre for our emotional cocktail of urges and impulses is tamed and socialised by our higher order brain parts, our neo-cortex. The orbital frontal cortex, as we age, is responsible for checking the consequences of our actions and mediating our impulses. Our pre-frontal cortex is involved in executive functions like behavioural appropriateness and adaption. This area of the brain is strongly influenced by emotion.

Our higher brain regions are not generally fully myelinated until mid twenties. Before this time our brains are not working as efficiently as they can. Myelin is a fatty deposit on our neurons that helps the neurons in the brain and peripheral nervous system fire faster.

Usually as we continue on, growing up and evolving we become more socialised and learn additional behaviours and emotional displays that continue to work well for us. Self sabotaging behaviours on the other hand tend to have been a part of a persons way of being for a long time. A coping behaviour that has never yet had the proper conditions to evolve and grow.

Imagine if as a child you had had to learn to be quiet when a parent was angry because if you spoke up or made a noise something not nice happened. If that learned response never had the change to be updated you may have real trouble expressing your emotions when for example a spouse, friend or a employer makes emotionally charge unreasonable requests or loses their temper with you.

When emotions fly and stress is high it becomes more difficult to use your rational brain to mediate your responses and behaviours. In these situations the old coping mechanisms can and often do come back in full force. In a really stressful, high intensity hyper charged emotional situation the saboteur within can come out and make a special appearance.  This is usually an over the top, undesired behaviour.

The OTT response of the inner saboteur can be triggered in a variety of  ways, different and unique to each person. This inner spoiler usually manifests in one or more of these ways :

  • Overly or Underly emotional response
  • Excessive or Missing behaviours
  • Procrastination
  • Addictions

Your Inner Saboteur Is Your Ally

We have all registered with the term self-sabotage when some part of us, a behaviour or emotional bomb scuppers our best laid out plans. It goes against rational explanation and is counter intuitive but what if that inner saboteur was actually trying to help?

It’s the very beginning of the 19th century. In Europe the Industrial Revolution was well in swing. People are losing their jobs to machines that are labour saving but costly, very costly to the common worker.

In 1801 the Jacquard loom is one such machine that is beginning to take people’s jobs from them. As a way of rebellion, textile workers threw their wooden shoes called sabots into the machine loom and broke the guts and moving parts of the machine.

This destruction of machines by the wooden shoes or sabots became known as sabotage. This was indeed a purposeful act to attempt to accomplish the safeguarding of jobs and peoples livelihoods.

What Is The Inner Saboteur Really Trying To Do?

Let’s consider your inner saboteur as like a part of you. A part that is responsible for the behaviour of sabotaging and more importantly, responsible for the intention that drives the behaviour.

It is quite likely that the particular behaviour was learned a long time ago in the past and at that time the behaviour was adaptive and was both positively intentioned and productive. Now the behaviour causes emotional and psychological pain.

As an example, take the positive intention of a drug addiction. It may have been initially to experience pleasure and fit in with friends. Now the behaviour no longer serves the intention but the intention is still the same.

As another example, take eating a certain kind of sugary carb food. The initial intention may have been to feel better after sickness or mild depression. Now often eating the same kind of food leads to increased weight and lack of self-esteem. The intention is still the same but the behaviour doesn’t work in favour any more.

Self sabotaging behaviours are like being stuck in a rut. You get so far in the right direction but then you end sliding back. Its like a vicious cycle. And a good way out of the rut is to do something really quite  special and counter intuitive.

In a Newcastle hypnotherapy consultation you will discover the intention is positive and thank the part for all of its good intentions. Forgiveness, forgiveness of the self and taking responsibility, not blaming others, is a particularly affective way to dissolve the prison of past conditioning.

Sabotage can indeed be perceived as a disruptive or destructive behaviour yet the purpose or intention of that behaviour is very well intentioned. Here we make a distinction between a person and their behaviour, a behaviour and the driving intention behind behaviour.

The intention that your inner saboteur is carrying out is fundamentally honest and good. The resulting behaviour is of course not appropriate to you today.

Hypnotherapy in the North East and Newcastle upon Tyne. For professional help in transforming your inner saboteur into an inner resource and source of strength using Newcastle Hypnotherapy contact  : Nigel Hetherington : 0770 481 8467

Hypnotherapy Newcastle Addiction Treatment – Nigel Hetherington

Newcastle hypnotherapy for addiction treatment in Northumberland, Hexham and the North East of England. Help to stop smoking using hypnosis and NLP in Newcastle and additionally stop problematic addiction hypnotherapy for pornography, gambling and addictive drug use in Newcastle with hypnosis.

In September 2012 I was invited to discuss hypnotherapy in treating stop smoking for a local radio station as part of a discussion relating to the Stoptober 28 day challenge the UK government is promoting this October.

Within minutes of arriving at the radio station I was asked if I would work with one of the team to help them stop smoking. Pretty predictable for a story right? I immediately said YES, providing the person really wants to stop smoking and is honestly committed to quitting. Anything less is a waste of two peoples time.

Wanting to stop any drug addiction requires two essential elements; One an honest desire to stop and two, discovering genuinely meaningful reasons to stop. More on this in a few paragraphs …

The process of addiction is practically always like this. A person tries some behaviour like smoking, internet pornography, cocaine, gambling or buying shoes and discovers they both like and want to do it again.  Over time the behaviour becomes a part of that persons ‘normal’ repertoire of behaviours.

Liking and wanting are two different kinds of desire and crucially when wanting to stop an addiction a person wants, that is the addiction,  but does not like their behaviour. Now here is the kicker and of course some may well disagree.

An addiction is only a problem when the addict goes through cycles of, lets call it drug abuse, when they want to partake and afterwards hate themselves for having partaken. They love it when they are ‘high’ on spending, arguing, snorting or eating to excess AND THEN the down cycle is self loathing, disgust or promising to whatever deity is available at the time that it will never happen again … and then the cycle begins again.

If there is a cycle of ‘never again’ but again comes, then there is a problem. A problem of the psyche and problem in behaviour. This is the time to request professional assistance in stopping.

How An Addiction Is Created

It’s simple,  you do or try something you like or equally do something that displaces a stress response, like going to the gym, having a pint or smoking something.  Do it enough and BAM you have created a dopaminergic ‘reward’ for some behaviour. Reward is largely encouraged by the dopamine mesolimbic pathway ‘I want or can do this’  and satiation by a whole load of endorphins in the ‘that was good’ pleasure response brain pathway.

With repetition of an, in this case, addictive behaviour, there is a protein called DeltaFosB which builds up and remains long after the problematic behaviour. And this protein massively increases the desire for addiction and for a period of time, a long period, remains and alters basic genetics, promoting the problematic behaviour. The more you do a behaviour, the more DeltaFosB builds up and perpetuates a viscous cycle of addiction.

It works both ways. Good and health promoting behaviours like running or going to the gym or learning cool new things also promote a build up of DeltaFosB and in this way our bodies really don’t know the difference between good practice and potentially damaging practices. It comes down to a realisation of how we want to live our lives and the behaviours we choose or become addicted to.

There are two pleasure components Desire and Satisfaction, that’s wanting it and Yum, got it. The first is a drive to do a behaviour and the second is a ‘reward’ for having done the behaviour.

In terms of addiction, with increased exposure to something pleasurable we will very naturally want more. This is akin to the more of something that feels good, or equally calms a stress response, and very importantly as a result we cognitively know this is good, we derive a huge benefit that is long term and supports our life well. Here is the obverse.

In drug addiction increased exposure leads to tolerance and then means a person needs more of the drug to get the same affects, this is done by way of down regulation of the neuronal synapses and equates to a need more to get the same feeling. Additionally there is an increased sense of wanting more as it seems to make life better, but long term it does not.

Right, So How I Choose Who I Work With

OK, remember the radio station? The person in question who ‘wanted’ to stop was offered by the radio presenter as a candidate. This is a potential RED FLAG for me because they did not seek this for themselves.  I usually reject second hand requests for help in any form of therapy, why? Because it is someone else’s ideas of what another person needs.  So I asked a few questions as to why they wanted to quit. Their answers were kind of OK, BUT, I was really unsure so … Here is what I did.

I did the same structured interview as I do with any potential client. Have them return a questionnaire and arrange a call to check commitment to make a positive change. My email requests all clients to book, that means pay, in advance having has a conversation to determine, amongst other things a potential clients desire to make changes in their life.

I received a call from the radio presenter, not the client,  ( Another RED FLAG ) querying the request for payment. “I thought it was for free?” “No, I replied I do not provide a service for free, there has to be a psychological buy in for change”.

I hope you understand there is a very real equation in that change has a value. Now this potential client, a person who is on a substantial wage, described themselves as a ‘guinea pig’ for a stop smoking treatment. This description of themselves felt very wrong. Imagine describing yourself as a guinea pig?

Said radio presenter said that their company had no budget for this and assumed my services were for free. I invited the potential client to pay for it themselves. A relatively small cos, £123,  for a life change on 20+ cigarettes per day.  I have heard nothing back.

This to me indicates no real desire or investment in stopping smoking. This is not the kind of client I am interested to help stop smoking with hypnotherapy in Newcastle because primarily they have no demonstrable desire to stop, it was just a story for the radio station. Incidentally my interview has not been used.

NHS Stop smoking website : Stop Smoking Hypnotherapy Nigel Hetherington in Newcastle upon Tyne and Northumberland

When YOU want to stop smoking get in touch and make a commitment to your future so you can be free from a legally available drug that our government legitimises by a huge income in taxes that in monitory terms provides a government income which outways, by a large extent, the hospital costs for people with smoking related diseases.

Stop Smoking Newcastle Hypnotherapy : Newcastle upon Tyne Nigel Hetherington : 0770 481 8467

Weight Loss Hypnotherapy Newcastle – Nigel Hetherington

Have you ever wished that you got into something right at the very start? OK, that didn’t happen … BUT …

Is Hypnotic Gastric Banding the ship that has already sailed in hypnotherapy? If so, here is the little ferry boat to take you on board.

Hypnotic Gastric Band Newcastle - Nigel Hetherington

My co-trainer Ian Walshaw, an extremely experienced Gastric Band Hypnotherapist, believes there is going to be a massive wave of new interest in Gastric Band Hypnotherapy in the 2013 new year. Because in order to take advantage of this renewed interest you have to be ready to take that advantage and this is your opportunity. Now.

If you are not already offering Hypnotic Gastric Banding ( HGB ) to your clients, friends and family, but you know other change professionals and hypnotherapists surrounding you who have lots of weight loss clients perhaps you are wishing that you could be offering an even better service, then now is your opportunity to do more than that. before this tide of change and this ship sets sail again. Come aboard.

Every day in the news there is some story re the dangers of obesity, gastric band surgery is incredibly difficult to obtain on the NHS. Plastic surgery companies in the UK charge approximately £6000 for gastric banding operations and people pay for this this hand over fist to lose weight more easily.

In fact, the weight loss industry in the UK is worth billions of pounds because in the words of one of Ian Walshaw’s colleagues that he taught the HGB process “I have never met people so prepared to pay anything to resolve their problem“.

Ian Walshaw & me, Nigel Hetherington, are both vastly experienced in the real world of successful hypnotherapy techniques, and we have teamed up to offer this unique training and learning experience.

Your HGB training will take place over two days and offer hands on practical training that is specifically designed to give you a full experiential education in HGB and to answer all your questions about how to and what if’s so ensuring that the first time you take someone through HGB process you will be as powerful and effective as you can possibly be.

In order now to do this, you will be guided through a four session format that creates the HGB sequence. If you have your own issues regarding weight loss you can use this as your own unique opportunity to take advantage of the HGB process for yourself. Not only will you complete the process just like a client, each step of the process will be addressed in to specific details so that you know and understand each section implicitly.

You will you learn the formation of each section step and you will be shown the resources and implements that you will require to create your own audio tracks to give to your clients including where to source the sound effects and theatrical aspects to the HGB operation session so you can inject such a level of reality into the process that the unconscious mind simply cannot tell the difference between this process and real gastric banding surgical operation.

Nigel Hetherington is going to specifically deliver modules on the neurology of weight loss so that you can predict and negate you clients resistance before it arises.

We believe that this is going to be the most comprehensive HGB training available in the UK. At £80.00 it represents fantastic value, you will not be tied into any groups or organisations like your competitors may be but you will be able to take advantage of their advertising.

This training is suitable for anyone with experience in using the practical aspects of hypnotherapy from beginner to advanced. So do you know that in January 2013, Paul McKenna is releasing his new book on Hypnotic Gastric Banding. Paul Mckenna is a worldwide phenomena in the field of hypnosis and he comes with a multi million pound advertising and marketing team.

It is our view that come January HGB is going to be in every newspaper, on morning TV and in the bookshops. People who for years have felt powerless in relation to their weight loss are going to once again have the process brought into their awareness and they are going to be seeking help from people just like you.

So don’t miss out on this unique opportunity because, we don’t know when we will be able to take advantage this international marketing campaign again.

There are 11 places currently available for this training. Book now. Go on … Book NOW!

Jesmond Dene Conference Centre
Newcastle upon Tyne : NE7 7BQ

December 1-2 2012Training Course Fully Booked – Next Training 2013

Stress Hypnosis Newcastle – Nigel Hetherington

We all know a little stress or more accurately pressure can be a good thing but when there is regular excess stress on our life we suffer and our quality of life declines. You can use Newcastle Hypnosis for stress reduction and a calmer attitude to life.

The Inappropriate Stress Response

Of all the species on our planet there are only a very select few that can have a completely inappropriate stress response. What is an inappropriate stress response you may be asking?

The human stress response consists of a very rapid mobilisation of energy, glucose that is ‘designed’ to save your life from a life or death episode. At the same time energy storage is stopped adrenalin and noradrenalin are secreted from the nerve endings of the sympathetic nervous system and glucocorticoids from your adrenal glands on top of your kidneys as all hell breaks loose.

Your heart beats faster, your pupils dilate, your blood pressure increases, your interest in sex is gone you could outrun a charging rhinoceros or at least you are all geared up to do some such escape. This is the problem with stress and way to much of it. For most of us we will not be running from elephants tigers or bears and in no way will our life be in any real danger.

The inappropriate stress response is the mobilisation of all the glucose you require to escape a charging raptor when your boss ask you to work late or you are in a traffic jam or you are worried about that meeting presentation you have to do next week.

Regular and repeated activation of your stress response is not good news for your long term health. Remember the stress response is ‘designed’ to save your life. It is a costly process. In a bout of stress the immune responses are put on hold. You don’t need them if you are going to be eaten by a pack of hungry lions.

The hormones / neurotransmitters adrenaline and noradrenaline take mere seconds to activate in the body. Glucocorticoids take minutes to act and stay in the system much longer. With repeated stress responses to the likes of bosses, exams, anxiety or public speaking the glucocorticoid hormones in the body may be on high alert for a long time, days, weeks perhaps even longer.

There have been links established between depression and high levels of glucocorticoids as well as links between anxiety and noradrenalin and adrenalin. With anxiety, depression and hypertension being some of the top diseases being overly stressed can make more likely, here are a few more :

  • Heart Disease
  • Atherosclerosis
  • Irritable Bowel Symptom
  • Ulcers
  • Type 2 Diabetes
  • Acid Reflux
  • Immune Suppression
  • Disturbed Sleep

But it is not all bad news. You can right now take steps to alleviate a completely over board stress responses which could right now begin to extend your life. The simplest and one of the best things an individual can do is take up meditation. Learning to meditate for just 10 minutes in the morning and evening will be paying you back wonders in a very short time.

Moderate exercise is also considered to be very good in managing an over active stress response and in an of itself being good for your body and immune system. I recommend joining a gym and or personal trainer for a weight lifting routine.

There are several well documented outlets and conversely inlets for out of proportions stress responses, how our bodies respond to stressors in life.  It is particularly interesting that all of these outlets / inlets are in your control, especially the ones relating to perceptions.

Professor Sir Michael Marmot over a 40 year period followed some 28,000 British civil servants. He followed their health from top manager executives to billy the tea boy.  A similar study by Professor Robert Sapolsky on Baboons over decades show similar predictors for high stress. Is this you?

  • Little social support
  • Low perceived control in life
  • Few outlets for your frustrations
  • Unpredictable environment

For help dealing with the psychological aspects of stress using hypnosis and nlp you can call in confidence for a free consultation. Get help for anxiety worry and inappropriate stress hypnotherapy Newcastle from Nigel Hetherington.

Anxiety And Your Attention – Nigel Hetherington

Anxiety is a feeling and emotion that indicates to the sufferer that everything is not right. Being overly anxious will drain and deplete energy and to excess can cause illness and wear the immune system away. Hypnosis Newcastle is an affective way for people to learn to change the feeling of unease in a variety of situations. Anxious people are not anxious all of the time, attention is not always directed at anxiety and Newcastle hypnotherapy can teach you ways to direct your attention on what is more important.

In order to know you are anxious your attention must be directed to consciously recognising the feeling and then consciously labelling or naming the physiological feelings that you call anxiety. Anxiety by definition is felt in the now and is directed to events and situations that are in the immediate or long term future but, the feeling is in the now and so it steals attention.

Anxiety is about uncertainty and the more anxious you are, the more you do it the more neurological responses you will have anticipating anxiety.

What You Have Learned To Expect = Dopamine

Dopamine is the neuro-transmitter that is largely responsible for for motivation to get you to a particular response. Dopamine is not discriminatory between a desired or undesired response … it is basically a motivator. Did you know, like any addiction your body can crave a stress response? The more unsurity about a ‘known’ reponse, the more dopamine. Anxiety is all about unsurity.

We can only have conscious appreciation of our state, in this instance anxiety, by registering and then labelling this emotion linguistically and in comparison to our past experiences. Our emotional or limbic brain, particularly the pituitary gland, stress hormones and amygdala are key neurological players here. The more worry, the more reactive response the bigger the snowball effect.

Anxiety is a form of anticipation. Anticipation can be positive or negative and what comes next should surprise you; both negatively and positively.

There is research that conclusively proves that having mastered one kind of experience, when you anticipate it again in the same kind of environment and situation when the words maybe or could be, that is when it is a 50% likely hood you are massively more likely to experience just that. Now this has a huge affect on your dopamine production. And it is dopamine that is your motivation to draw you to a specific experience. This is shown in the graph above.

Individual triggers for anxiety responses do naturally vary from person to person and will include two distinct categories of ‘behaviour’. These two categories can be conceptualised as a reactive responsive or meta-response to feelings labelled as anxiety and proactive behaviours that can generate the anxiety feelings in the first instance. Both types of response have a huge amount influence based on where an individual learns to put their attention.

Reactive behaviours to anxiety are the ways of thinking, behaving and worrying about anxiety that is already being experienced and then will logically create the next consequences that are being predicted as almost inevitable. This is a reaction to stimulus and with practice and dedication can be greatly diminished because people can, with practice and guidance learn new ways to respond.

Proactive behaviours to create anxiety are like cognitive exercises, such as worrying ahead of time, taking to yourself in rapid and unfinished sentences and hyperventilating that can all activate the reactive response that activates the sympathetic nervous system, speeds up the heart, releases glucocorticoids, adrenaline and gives that all too familiar body response that we call anxiety.

Anxiety can be pretty much summed up as a neuro-physiological stress response that is completely out of proportion and inappropriate response relevant to what is actually happening in the moment. For example imagine a person that is anxious about public speaking and is in one moment speaking publically, any anxiety response in that moment of public speaking is not about public speaking.

Anxiety is the thief of attention. It is a very much learned response and because we are, as a species, extremely good at learning once you have that pattern it can be the first and easy approach to a variety of situations. But being very good at learning, with some determination, practice and focus of your attention you can learn to have a very different and much more appropriate response.

OK so What Can You Do?

It is very simple but not necessarily very easy because making lasting changes and incorporating them into a life style that is salubrious ( look that word up ) will take some more effort on your behalf. And it is very worth your while.

I work with a great deal of clients who’s lives are so demanding they come home from work from massively stressed jobs and quite literally switch off from themselves, their partners, their friends and children. I also work with people who are seriously anxious about their relationships at home and at work so how they are with people and upcoming situations. Here is what you can do.

  1. In stead of knowing and anticipating anxiety, consider you maybe ( 50 % ) wrong about anxiety and that upcoming situation will be more or less OK.
  2. If the worst comes to the worst … acknowledge it and consider what you can do instead.
  3. Take up a regular exercise like running, weight lifting or meditation; and notice over a week and a month having done this how much more able you are managing.
  4. Notice when you are talking to yourself and stop! Put your attention outwards and be present. This does take practice and the paybacks are massive. This is a very much get out of your own head routine.
  5. Do some proactive relaxation. Lots of FREE hypnosis audio’s here.

So if none of these suggestions are for you, you do want to learn to stop anxiety and be more relaxed and present in your day to day situations then consider professional hypnotherapy Newcastle. Not expecting a one session turn around for 20 years of anxiety and making a commitment to change with Newcastle hypnosis with Nigel Hetherington can help you to to learn much better ways for coping with day to day anxiety triggers and stressors. Hypnosis in Jesmond and now Newcastle City Centre at week day lunch times. Anxiety? Act Hypnosis Newcastle solutions.

 

Newcastle Hypnosis for Guilt – Nigel Hetherington

Guilt can be a terrible emotion to live with. Hypnosis Newcastle is a way for you to release the often sharp and cutting emotional pain of guilt so you can let go of the past and move on and forward. Newcastle hypnosis can help you learn from your past and keeping the very useful learnings let go of what can be a crippling emotion we call guilt.

When people experience the emotion guilt it can be for a number of reasons. Firstly guilt can be about inaction or action. Guilt can be related to behaviour, thought or both.  Guilt can be experienced by breaking your own personal promises as in yo-yo quitting ( eg dieting, addictions, spending or arguing ) and is very much related to unresolved conflicts of your own personal values.

We can understand guilt and shame to be related to transgressions, that is to say, things a person has or has not done that are not in line with what they believe ( or worse are told ) they should or  should not have done. This feeling is directly related to values be they your own or cultural norms.

A person experiencing guilt re-running past memories, often talking to themselves and as a result feeling very bad. Bad physically and bad emotionally.

Guilt is a Type of Anxiety Disorder

One of the characteristics of anxiety is that a brain scan will often reveal that one hemisphere is more electrically active than the other. Having a real physical sensation accompanying the guilt thoughts would be characterised as anxious arousal and the majority of the activity would likely be found in the right hemisphere.

Guilt is a circular emotion in that the thoughts and feelings repeat much like Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. Obsessing about guilt may well be linked to  OCD. In OCD there is a great deal of internal mental activity that is tiring and emotionally charged.

Neurologically there is a circuit in the brain that fires with obsessive thoughts. Nerves in the caudate fire creating the urge to ‘do something’. The caudate is responsible for learning and for kinds of ‘automatic thinking’ like ‘remember to wash’ or ‘is the oven off before leaving the house’. Next the orbital prefrontal cortex is activated which gives the feeling that something is wrong. Then the cingulate cortex is activated which keeps attention focuses on feelings of unease.

The amygdalae will be activated because of stress hormones circulating in the brain and bloodstream. Guilt is a very hungry emotion in that it eats up energy, demands an inappropriate stress response and diverts mental energy.

Prolonged worry, stress and anxiety can deplete the brains neurotramsmitter dopamine which in extreme cases could lead to depression.

Stressing about something is stressing. Excessive stress activates the sympathetic nervous system and this in turn releases adrenaline and glucocorticoids which over time impair the bodies immune system along with the general care and repair mechanisms of the body. In short stress in excess as in excess guilt is really bad news for health, both physical and mental.

Possible Historical Origins of Guilt

In the history of the western religion Christianity the idea of original sin is very closely linked to guilt. On committing a ‘sin’ the resulting feeling will be ‘guilt’ and ‘sin’ here is defined as failing to act in accord with some deity’s rules about how you should live your life. A member of the religions organisation can then help the sinner atone and remove the ‘guilt’.

Guilt or the idea and feelings associated with guilt have been used for thousands of years to control populations of people. As well meaning parents of children and of institutions tell people “you should feel guilty for that!” to attempt to control behaviours or even thoughts.

Approximately 50 years after the birth of Christ ( aka Jesus, Yehoshua ben Yosef ) Saul or later St. Paul after his revelation went to find people who would listen to his message. Paul developed real listeners and followers in Corinth.

Joseph Campbell has postulated the debt and repayment theme in modern Christianity is because the people who propagated the eastern Gospels ( which became the western bible ) where the money lenders of Corinth. So it may be that the worshipping Christ to redeem ourselves before god may have originated in the credo of the merchants of Corinth.

Ignorance and Enlightenment – Remorse Not Guilt

The spirituality of the East has nothing to do with debt and repayment. Instead the Orient in terms of spiritual or some may say religious practice is about Ignorance and Enlightenment.

A great book is ‘The Art of Happiness’ by HH Dalai Lama. One story from the book is regarding a monk that killed himself following a conversation with the Dalai Lama. Although the Lama expresses real regret following on from that conversation there is no excessive guilt, no self punishment, no self induced suffering. A genuine sense of remorse without a crippling feeling of guilt can be a wonderful way to guide your actions in the future.

When dealing with guilt it is incredible important but often most difficult to forgive yourself.  Wisdom comes from great experience and great experience comes from making a huge number of ‘mistakes’. Another way to see ‘mistakes’ are as learnings in action.

Moving Through Guilt By Rethinking What Happened

When anyone who is experiencing guilt, which is by definition about the past, at the time of ‘the event’ they never set out to make themselves feel guilty. Think about it, for anything you may have at one time felt a sense of guilt about, at that time you probably did not before hand say something like “I am going to do this ‘X’ and I will feel so guilty about this afterwards BUT I’m still going to do it anyway.” Or maybe you did! At that time you were in accordance with some higher level value that you may not have been conscious of.

No, at the time you were, whether you realised it then or now, acting out on some personal value that you have. Let’s call a ‘value’ some kind of experience you want ( should do ) or don’t want ( shouldn’t do ) that is important to you.

So at the time, if you come to think about it this way, you were acting in accordance with your values. Now, guilt is a reflexive emotion that now as you look back there is a sense of regret and when it is intense enough, that is to say it conflicts with one of your values now you experience guilt as a strong and negative emotion.

As you begin to let go of the feelings of guilt you will not forget what happened. You will begin to feel differently about what happened but you will use your learnings like a behavioural guide. You can let go of the guilt and allow yourself to experience the real value you were acting out from. Recognising this value and acknowledging that you can both change your values so that as appropriate you can either choose a different way in the future or as appropriate become comfortable in your ways of being.

Sometimes it is very difficult to do this yourself and when you really do need help in transforming guilt into something akin to compassion for yourself Hypnosis Newcastle can help you. When considering hypnosis in Newcastle it is important to understand that the intention is to help you change your feelings about yourself for some event or events in the past. You will not forget those events but use these experiences in ways that can help you live a fuller life.

For professional Newcastle hypnosis for moving on from guilt telephone Nigel Hetherington on 0770 481 8467 or email as described in Booking A Therapy Session Newcastle Hypnosis.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle for Weigh Loss – Nigel Hetherington

Stress, comfort eating, comfort drinking add up over time to overweight, unhappy and potentially unhealthy people. Hypnotherapy Newcastle offers alternative ways to help you change habits of overeating and excess alcohol and manage the stress in your life. Newcastle hypnotherapy for weigh loss can help you create better ways to cope with stress and lose weight. Hypnotherapy is not a magic fix this requires a real and genuine commitment to make changes.

Comfort Eating Is Weight Addition

We have all heard the term comfort eating but what does it actually mean. Well for once the term is quite self explanatory. Eating brings comfort, so we can safely assume that life is uncomfortable or stressful to the extent that people eat sugary, biscuity, chrispy food substitutes to make themselves feel better. The interesting thing is that this actually works to produce a rather short term feeling of comfort.

Research shows that two thirds of people who are seriously stressed turn to food, eating more than average ( hyperphagic ) to bring some comfort into their lives. The other one third eat less that average ( hypophagic ).

The vast majority of overweight people are overweight because of what they eat and their physical activity or lack of it. A small percentage of people are overweight due to biological / genetic predisposition but this is a very small percentage. The former can then be said to be overweight due to the situations and behaviours that drive overeating and excess sugary drinks. These are explored below.

Now, imagine you are one of these over eaters, eating more than the calories you require each day as a way to cope with stress. Your body will cleverly be storing these extra energy reserves for your future in fat cells, saving them for a rainy day or some hyper stress response or even some heavy exercise. Keep on depositing excess calories in your account of energy reserves and you will keep growing and growing while you keep getting fatter and fatter.

Now imagine that you are using alcohol or some sugary drink in excess. Even more calories, even more deposits into the growing energy bank. Drink too much to ease the stresses of life and you are potentially damaging your memory and ability to learn new things. One bottle of wine each night is equivalent in terms of calories to 12 fried fish fingers, yummy. That can be close to 700 calories from booze alone.

Alcohol also slows your metabolism down so you are using up less calories while you are putting more into the calorie bank by consuming excess. That is putting more in than you are using. For example lets say one glass or red wine is 230 calories playing basket ball for around 45 minutes would use this up.

Of course the above three paragraphs tend to paint a rather grim picture of ways people get overweight by having not so good coping mechanisms of dealing with stress. Though, if this is you, some life style changes can help you lose some weight and deal with stress in a better, healthier way. Newcastle hypnotherapy can help you alter your attitude to eating and exercise and can also, even more importantly help you deal with the causes of overindulging.

Yo Yo Dieting – The ‘G’ Spot factor : An analogy

Another night in; another pizza followed by a bag of maltezers all washed down with some fizzy drink made largely from corn syrup. Short term it even feels good.  The following morning you wake up a bit tired, look in the mirror and the slim lithe and muscular figure of your early years has deserted you and looking at yourself this way, thinking about cholesterol and furring arteries you decide it is high time to take stock of your life now so you live longer and have a much better future.

With the best intention in the world you are going to enter into a new era of your life with much better eating habits and you are even considering exercising too. You are imagining getting into your old clothes without a shoe horn or better yet some new clothes that will make you look and feel great. Excellent!

You leave for work, arrive at work … The day continues …

The Guilt ( G ) Spot is where after promising yourself, your friends and even sometimes god you will never eat another cup cake covered in sprinkles you do and then you do it again. After a good bout of porcine grazing you hate yourself and you are all ready to start again.

Weigh Loss : The Parasympathetic System

A very well known hypnotherapist claims they worked with weight loss and did nothing other that do relaxation over 10 one hour sessions and their clients got excellent results. What was going on and how can you help yourself to lose weight without seeing a hypnotherapist? Just relaxation for one hour is activating your rest and digest body systems. This is called the parasympathetic system and this activates in an absence of stress.

A very good reason for why many people that are overweight is how they cope with excess stress. Remember about 2/3 of people who are stressed are hyperphagic that means they eat more calories than they require. And many of these foods eaten or even the act of eating does reduce stress temporarily.

First step is to make an unbreakable commitment to take just 30 minutes per day for a month to meditate or listen to some hypnosis relaxation. When you really want to do this but again and again you slip back into eating and drinking to excess it is time to think about seeing a professional for help.

If you are already saying I don’t have time for 30 minutes each day, think again.

For professional hypnotherapy in Newcastle for weight loss and dealing with stress contact Nigel Hetherington on 0770 481 8467 or email as described in Booking A Therapy Session for Newcastle Hypnotherapy.

Hypnosis To More Deeply Connect With Your Goals

Hypnosis can connect intention and desire with action. A huge misconception is the idea of manifesting. And that is the problem, without action ideas are just thoughts. You can sit and ponder all you want about an ideal partner, perfect job or changing the world. Unless you act you are only doing a small bit necessary to realising your dreams.

A large component of what anyone that finds both success and deep connection with their outcomes or goals is to actually initially feel them. We can all say “Yes I want X”, “Yes I want Y”, but how often do we actually get round to beginning to make them happen, let alone feeling them happen?

This Newcastle hypnosis, recorded during live hypnotherapy training, is a first part of actualising both emotionally as in feeling your goals and mentally as in having a clear thought . After listening you do need to put your ideas and felt motivations into action.

When we feel our goals, the actual feeling makes them become more than some whimsical pipe dream and become a felt sense of desire and wanting. The feeling is akin to a knowing that our desire has taken root and is growing into something that has both a form and physical sensation.

Our body lets us know about hunger, about sleep and about intimate desire with our loved one. Use this hypnosis trance to invite your body to deeply connect with your most meaningful goals and utilise a felt sense of desire to bring about positive change.

Newcastle Hypnotherapy : Fear of Public Speaking – Nigel Hetherington

Hypnotherapy Newcastle can be used to overcome public speaking fear with hypnotherapy so you can feel more confident and reorganise to change learned responses to public presentation. A fear of public presentation is a very common stress response and hypnosis is a particularly affective method to overcome a variety of stress responses.

Excess stress is known to cause heart damage and suppress the immune system. So having regular stress responses that are completely out of proportion to the actual situation are inappropriate and potentially harmful. Using hypnosis Newcastle you will be changing how you respond to perceived threat, stress situations as in public speaking or public presentation. The situation won’t change but your response will change so you can get on with presenting congruently.

For many people the fear of public speaking can cause the same kind of physiological response as a life or death situation. Public speaking or giving a presentation is a genuine bread and butter skill that today perhaps now more than ever is essential in bringing the kind of prosperity into you life that you want. Why is public speaking an essential skill?

It is because in practically all walks of life we as professional managers, directors, team leaders as being top class communicators in order to effect selling our ideas and meaningful values. And to do this we MUST be seen to be absolutely congruent.

In order to pitch and affectively communicate your ideas and beliefs to foster and create supporters in business you must be completely congruent. Congruent is the genuine felt sense of you walking your talk and knowing deeply the truth in the messages you are sending out.

Now imagine you do feel and connect deeply with your message BUT you begin to second guess your audience, you are talking to your self on the inside, reflecting on how you are being received whilst you are delivering your presentation, you begin to think the worst … your non-verbal communication leaks out those negative self thoughts and your presentation is not well received.

If you are preforming in a less than optimal and incongruent way OF COURSE your audience will detect this. And they will detect this on several levels of consciousness. Paul Ekman has a globally acknowledged body of research on what is called micro-signals or micro-expression leakage.

To summarise you need to be able to

  • Affectively communicate your values.
  • Influence others and sell your ideas.
  • Perform with confidence and fluency.

Lions Tigers & Bears – The Fear Public Speaking

a natural danger and stress response from an immediate life threatening situation such as an encounter with a lion, tiger or bear will activate your sympathetic nervous system in the following way.

Sensory information from our eyes and ears and possibly touch will be relayed to the information exchange centre of the human brain, the thalamus. This mixed mode of sensory information is then passed through the reticular formation, a small but complex nucleus in the brain stem and on to the amygdala, where fear emotions are heavily processed.  Following on from this the nerve impulses are shunted, very rapidly to the hypothalamus.

Hypothalamic – Pituitary – Adrenal Axis ( HPA )

The HPA can be understood as the stress response pathway. The hypothalamus is the gateway to our bodies homoeostasis system. This means the ways our bodies keep in balance within the system of life. In a life or death situation the hypothalamus mediates some bodily function. So in a potential life threatening situation the hypothalamus begins releasing CRH which in turn causes the anterior pituitary to release ACHT beginning a sympathetic nervous system response.

So all of this neuro transmitter and hormone release in the CNS and PNS now activate the endocrine system which activates the sympathetic nervous system and prepares the flight or fight response. The result of this is the adrenal endocrine release of catecholamines such as  epinephrine ( adrenaline ) and dopamine and the glucocorticoid cortisol. When the flight or fight response is activates we experience the following physiological shifts:

  • Suppression of the immune system.
  • Adrenal response.
  • Pupil dilation.
  • Vasoconstriction.
  • Increased hear rate.

So, clearly a stress response like that described above is completely out of proportion to the situation. The great majority of public presentations will no be life threatening at all. If you will like to change a mild or major stress response to public speaking get in touch to discover how hypnotherapy Newcastle can help you with public speaking.

 

Newcastle Hypnotherapy Treating Addiction ~ Nigel Hetherington

Newcastle Hypnotherapy to help you beat addiction because at one time in your life you weren’t addicted. You learned addiction. Hypnotherapy in Newcastle can help you unlearn the old habits you desperately need to change.

Addictive behaviours can be understood as the regular use of drugs like, alcohol, cannabis, cocaine, heroin, tobacco and chocolate. They can also be behavioural such as gambling, sex, pornography or running up huge credit card bills. Hypnotherapy Newcastle with Nigel Hetherington can help you change.

You know that true addictions are really hard to overcome. This is because an addiction has become an deeply ingrained habit that is both controlled and rewarded through powerful chemicals in our body and brain.

It’s not all bad news, the very neuro-plasticity that formed these ‘brain-maps’ of problematic behaviour can help addicts unlearn them and equally as important learn and adopt new more beneficial behaviours. It is possible for you to discover a new path and lead a much more rewarding and fulfilling life.

Why is it so very difficult to stop Addictive Behaviours?

All addictive behaviours are know to involve a part of the brain called the nucleus accumbens located in the basal ganglia in the telencephalon; all parts of the forebrain.

The nucleus accumbens is a neuron cluster on a primary dopamine pathway. Dopamine is a neurotransmitter and in addictions is massively responsible for the very active and attentive seeking, finding and DOING of an addictive behaviour. Think of dopamine as the ‘I WANT IT’ part of the problem behaviour. Dopamine can be thought of as motivating you to do it.

Following on from the addictive activity our brains then release serotonin which gives us that feeling of satisfaction or satiatedness. Think of serotonin as the ‘REWARD’ part of the problem which is the pleasure you feel when you have done the addictive behaviour or drug. Of course with drugs there are other chemical involved too but thinking in terms of  motivation / desire and reward / pleasure we can say it is a dopamine and serotonin combo.

The dopamine and serotonin combo is a perfectly normal cycle for example in keeping us alive and well. Looking for food, watching a sunrise, eating a meal with our friends and loved ones will have the combo activated in a normally functioning human body.

By regularly using drugs, stimulants or suppressants our brain cells actually change shape, function differently and down regulate the affects of drugs and addictive behaviours so that using them again requires more and more. In short our brains although they can respond to drugs and addictive behaviours in initially incredibly pleasurable ways, really don’t like working in those ways.

Because addictive behaviours are driven and rewarded from our internal chemistry. Even when we logically know they are not good for us we still do them. They are pleasurable in the short term and can be regarded as both coping mechanisms that help us deal with undesirable emotions and because they are deeply ingrained habits.

How can Newcastle Hypnosis help me beat my addiction?

Addictions will seem to be firstly physiological or psychological. There appears to be really no difference as to how this is experienced in the brain. The second is addictions at least initially were used to feel a certain way. For example alcohol or ecstasy will be used to feel good or socially confident or even to remove shyness. Heavy use of these drugs often has the opposite effect although initially users will still feel good. And that kind of appetite for the effect is often at the expense of feeling very different after the drug wears off.

As someone who really wants or needs to change addictive habits or behaviours you do require a commitment to the process. For example, being a cocaine addict for 15 years and hoping you will miraculously be cured in one session is probably pretty unrealistic. Sometimes really long term addictions are helped in one session but this is unusual. After our first session you are expected to do any assigned tasks and provide honest feedback to me at our agreed time. We plan any required follow up sessions based on our work and interaction together.

Newcastle hypnotherapy with Nigel Hetherington to help you become free of problematic addictions and addictive behaviours that you want to and need to change.

Anxiety Hypnotherapy Newcastle – Nigel Hetherington

Trapped #1

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Anxiety really can be a terrible and consuming thing to experience. Another word for anxiety is WORRY. Newcastle Hypnotherapy with Nigel Hetherington can be a real solution for you.

Anxiety will often reduce your capacity to respond as well as act in the ways you truly want to experience life. Another word for anxiety is worry. Worrying about how things can go wrong or how events can all turn out bad. How would it be when you can set yourself free?

Anxiety or worry is not a disease, it is not a pathology. Many so called counsellors or therapists would have you believe this. This is not true.

Anxiety its a way, a learned way of thinking about the future. Think about this, no one as far as I know was born anxious, it was a learned behaviour. This learned behaviour is all about how to cope and deal with physical / emotional feelings.

Anxiety is a behaviour, it is not a pathology and as such does not need to be suppressed with medication. This means there is no physical disease associated with anxious behaviour. There is of course neurological activity ( ways of thinking ) that are associated with anxiety. You don’t require drugs or medication to change thought patterns. At best drugs will suppress anxiety, they will likely suppress other things too.

If anxiety is really is screwing up your life, you are worrying and worrying and as a result suffering … I can most likely help you change your behaviour. I can assist you in turning your though patterns around. The purpose being to stop worrying and start living a more satisfying and meaningful life.

Cyclic negative, anxiety producing thought patterns tend to go like this.

“What if … but then what, if I don’t … and then What if … but what if …”

So the real key here is to STOP that thought pattern and engage in a better one right …

People who behave anxiously are never anxious about some general things. You are anxious about something specific and worst of all it has not happened. Anxiety is all about thinking about the future and creating, almost always, the worst possible outcome for yourself and others. Think about it, how could it be different if you started habitually thinking about better outcomes in the future?

Newcastle Hypnotherapy for Anxiety combines NLP, Hypnosis and Humour in a way that will really help you move through your old thought patterns and into a whole new way of thinking.

If you have tried counselling and it really hasn’t worked after lots of session and you are totally committed to making the changes in your life you honestly want … act now …

For a completely confidential and solution orientated approach for you to help getting yourself out of anxiety and worry and Getting on with your life, contact me right away, [ after all being anxious and a worrier what’s the worst that can happen 😉 ] call now.

nigel@nigelhetherington .co .uk

0770 481 8467

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Hypnotherapy Depression Newcastle

Great Depression

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An interesting article from the BBC website 7th April is suggesting that there is currently a fuelled rise in depression in England that is caused by money worries. Depression is on the rise and if you had shares in it or the related drug indistries you would be doing well. I will offer some information, as a professional hypnotherapist, on what sufferers can do now to help yourself.

Depression can be described as a very generalist way of worrying about or ‘coping’ with problems. There is a tendency to be thinking about the past and with this reliving the most painful memories, either emotional or physical. People exhibiting ‘depression’ may seem a little withdrawn from the outside work and feel they are powerless to make positive changes in their life.

One of the major researchers into the field of depression, Martin Seligman, has described depression as “Learned Pessimism.” Seligman is describing a way of thinking, which really means the way in which we have learned to experience the world. The way we think can make us have a bias to being either a pessimist or an optimist. A depressive has learned to behave in such a ways that is described as learned helplessness. What is extremely important here is it is very possible to learn to think in different ways.

Seeking professional help can be a very good option, if you get a change consultant who will stay outcome or solution orientated. It can also cause more problems and reinforce depression if the counsellor invites their client into discovering child hood issues, raking up the past and finding the cause of the depression.

The change process is far more likely to aid someone suffering from depression if the change consultant is geared towards and directed to specific solutions with an emphasis in the future. And facilitating different strategies or ways to think that will promote a learned optimism style of how to cope differently.

There are statically many more people depressed now than one hundred years ago. It can be a depressing thought that at any time over 25% of people in America would fit the description of depression. In many but not all cases I don’t believe medications and drugs are the answer. Why? Because they do not change thinking patterns and they do not help depressives adopt new strategies to become more able to adapt and thrive in life’s problematic situations.

Some good news is research shows that one year on from a diagnosis of a major depressive episode 20% of people will be better and still have some symptoms and 40% of people are fully recuperated with no signs of depression.

What you can do to help yourself:

  • Exercise. Go for a 15 minute run. Research shows that a 15 minute run can stop depression for 8 hours.
  • Laugh. Go to comedy shows, watch very funny videos, hang out with people who laugh lots.
  • Pay attention to specific things that are working in your life and celebrate them.
  • Each morning make a list of three things your are looking forward to this day.
  • Each evening make a list of three things you are looking forward to the following week.

For completely confidential and solution orientated help getting yourself out of depression and Getting on with your life, contact me

nigel@nigelhetherington .co .uk

0770 481 8467

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Hypnotherapy For Guilt And Shame

Guilt and shame are two emotions that can cause suffering and stop you leading a full life. Both of these emotions are about not living up to values. These values can be your own or other peoples. Values are the kinds of experiences and behaviours that are important to both ourselves and to others.

If your behaviour or lack of it, in some way disrespects another persons values, you may well feel shame. Shame can also be imposed on you by another, such as by their public disapproval of your actions or even of you.

Guilt is about your response to how you are living up to and in accordance with your own values. How you behave or do not behave in relation to your own values can create the emotion we call guilt.

Both guilt and shame are emotions that are firmly located in the past. Guilt and shame are about past events and because there has been some perceived transgression of values, for some, those memories are replayed again and again and so can go on generate more guilt or shame.

Hypnotherapy and NLP can be very successfully used to stop most people feeling these negative emotions, for a specific event, in just one session. What is even more important to do after the feeling of guilt or shame is gone, is to re-evaluate the event and create strategies so that in any future situations that are similar, you will act much more in line with the values you want to honour.

For completely compassionate, confidential and non judgemental help dealing with Guilt and Shame and Getting on with your life

Contact Nigel Hetherington

nigel@nigelhetherington .co .uk

0770 481 8467

Provocative Therapy and Coaching Workshop

I am hosting a workshop with my good friend Phil Jeremiah for coaches, hypnotherapists, therapists and change workers in Newcastle.

Humour can help to break old patterns and establish new ones

So many research papers and books tell us of the positive effects of laughter. Apparently 20 minutes of laughter is equivalent to 20 minutes of physical activity, likened to an inner form of jogging. It may well act as a buffer against day to day stressful perceptions. However, laughter is not easy to come by in our mixed up fear driven world. Consequently Thought Provoking Dialogue sets out to challenge our sometimes negative mind-sets and self-limiting beliefs.

Phil provides training, motivational speaking and support to organisations in the use of humour. Laughter in the workplace is proven to reduce symptoms of stress and can promote good team working in a fun way with groups or individuals. This two day workshop offers us the opportunity to experiment with, understand why and how, and develop confidence in using humour in coaching or therapy.

It’s a must for your development and an even greater must for right now – with our economic and social structures all in turmoil, we could all do with a little humour to help us frame it in ways that are useful to and for us and to and for our clients.

This weekend workshop takes place May 12-13 and is excellent value at £125 AND you are guaranteed outrageous laughter and learning as well as highly workable and client centred ways of engendering change. Book your place now!


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Northern Changeworkers, Counsellors, Coaches & Therapist Conference : May 14-15

I am seriously delighted and very excited to now be announcing the first Northern ChangeWorkers, Counsellors, Coaches and Therapists Conference ( NCCCTC ), here in Newcastle. A conference where we are continuing to highlight The North East as a centre for Excellence in Change Work and Therapy.

With our Magnificent Seven presenters, we can all draw from their experience and absorb their uniquely individual approach to successful change work.

Get their real MASSIVE value insights and their methods that the top North East Change Professionals, Coaches and Therapists use One to One with clients.

A genuine golden opportunity to learn from top North East change workers and to do some great networking and create new relationships. Book right away as there are limited places …

 

 

Conference topics will include:

  • General ways and methodologies for Brief Therapy.
  • Working with Eating Disorders.
  • Grief and Bereavement.
  • Solution Focused Brief Therapy.
  • Self Acceptance.
  • Dealing with Guilt.
  • True Co-Creative Coaching Alliances.

Enter your name & email now to receive a FREE audio CD interview with Harry Knox ( Brief Grief Therapy ) and Sharon Cox ( Eating Disorders ) discussing their backgrounds and providing insights into how they work in their specialised fields.

 

The NCCCT conference, over two days in May 14-15, is specifically for all of us people involved in professional change work as counsellors, therapists and coaches. And now by attending you will get:

  • Insights and practices of the top professionals.
  • The best value conference this year by far.
  • Specific methods for your client groups.
  • Incredible networking opportunities.

The ticket price for this two full day conference is only £40 and this IS incredible value for a two day conference. BUT

If you ACT NOW and are one of the first 100 people to book your place you get your ticket for ONLY £30. So, go ahead and BOOK YOUR PLACE now!

 

 

As well as all attendants receiving a series of interviews with the presenters which will give you a general overview of the presenters unique way of working all conference participants will be able to discover the ways and methodologies in which to work with your clients with Eating Disorders, Grief and Bereavement, Solution Focused Therapy, Self Acceptance, Guilt, True Co-Creative Coaching Alliances and a great deal more.

NCCCTC is taking place in May 14-15 in Newcastle upon Tyne 2011. Be Sure You Attend!

Introducing our presenters for 2011, each with many years of both one to one experience as well as excellent group facilitation skills:

Harry KnoxBereavement and Brief Grief Therapy
With an unparalleled career of over 30 years working in psychiatry in the NHS. Harry now splits his time between supervision, one to one therapy and training facilitation. As a Master practitioner and accredited trainer of NLP, Harry has a unique, humorous and entirely engaging style to change work and is the creator of ‘Brief Grief Therapy’.

Sharon CoxEating Disorder Specialist
Sharon is a BACP accredited counsellor, with a private practice based in North Tyneside, offering both short and long-term counselling for a wide range of psychological and emotional concerns. She provides counselling supervision to both training and qualified counsellors and has extensive experience in Substance Misuse, Bereavement Care and Victim Support. Sharon’s special interest is in eating disorders. Combining a busy practice and training facilitation she is also studying to gain a PhD in Counselling Studies.

John Wheeler – Solution Focused Brief Therapy
Well published and equally well known in the field of Brief Therapy, John has over 18 years experience in facilitation, clinical supervision and one to one work both internationally and here in the UK. John is also responsible for the excellent BTNE organisation.

Rob McGinleyAnxiety And Depression
Rob S. McGinley is a qualified, experienced and effective counsellor. His extensive background includes bereavement & loss, work stress, relationship & family issues, depression & anxiety and youth counselling. BACP registered, Rob works as a counsellor/ NLP practitioner , has his own small private practice and lectures full time on the counselling foundation degree training program at TyneMet College.

Andy HuntCompassionate Self Acceptance
Andy works with people who give themselves a hard time, judge themselves harshly, feel bad about themselves or spend far too much time having a problem with themselves. Andy’s clients may typically feel irresistibly drawn to choose situations and relationships that reinforce their bad opinion of themselves, Andy helps them to experience and make positive changes. A NLP Master Practitioner, accredited EFT and NLP trainer, Andy is well know for his ability to run change processes while creating a deep and respectful rapport.

Paula McCormack – UK Social Leaders Coach
With over 20 years experience as both an individual and group development facilitator Paula has developed her own unique approach to change and development know as The Adaptive. Paula is dynamic and has an incredible ability to deeply connect and create the space that fosters true discoveries and engenders personal change.

Nigel Hetherington – Addictions & Trauma
Nigel is the NCCCTS organiser. He works as an approved NLP and Clinical Hypnotherapy training facilitator, has a private practice and is particularly interested in helping people recover and move forward in life from serious addictions, trauma and abusive relationships. Nigel facilitates regular NLP, Hypnotherapy and Therapist workshops and practice groups in the North East and Newcastle.

This conference is seriously affordable to everyone; Why? Because all of our presenters are dedicated to the real direction and goal of excellence in therapy for all attendees. We are all involved in developing further our skills and ways of practice in mutually beneficial and co-created change alliances.

Your personal investment for this value packed and quality information conference is ONLY £30 for the first 100 registrants. After this the price increases to £40, which is still excellent value. After 5th May the price increases to £50.

 

 

But think about this; £50 for a two day conference with the top therapists, change workers and coaches is still incredible value because you will get to understand the unique ways and methods of the presenters that they use which makes them the very top of their profession and they will be sharing their methods and ways of getting excellent results with their clients.

Addiction Therapy Newcastle

15.Carl Jung

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“I can resist anything but temptation” – Oscar Wilde

It is said that one of Carl Jung’s patients, a hopeless alcoholic went to Jung for treatment. After one session all was going well and the addict recoverer for some few days. After yet another relapse the addict returned to Jung and said “I have relapsed and I need you to fix me“.

Jung’s response was excellent. “I can’t help you, you are the most sever alcoholic I have ever met and I can’t help you.

Gob smacked the alcoholic asked “Then what can I do? Is all hope lost?

Here is something you can try, it may save you or it may not. I can’t help you. The only thing that might help you is …” Jung paused, for effect …

This is called an olive branch. It requires both hope and action

… Is this. Go to all the Churches and Spiritual meetings you can until you find something that is bigger than you and that you honestly can relate to. I don’t know if you will ever find this, yet you can try.

The first steps of becoming free of an addiction is often to first realise then admit the problem of addiction. If it is not a problem then it is not a problem.

If it is a problem then … It Is a Problem.

It is very curious to know that many of the so called addictions are actually a coping mechanism for dealing with pain and the often relentless struggles in life. Perhaps a return to the simplicity of the womb and carefree state of bliss.

Addictions be they food related ( comfort eating ), drugs, sex, co-dependency or alcohol  are all related with a common them. What is this common theme? It is some perceived lack of something in life. And the ‘addiction’ is a mechanism ( that may well be past the sell by date ) that is functioning to fill what is missing in your life by numbing your pain or just as easily maintaining some kind of status quo.

It is often very difficult for the so called addict to admit to them self they have a problem, even more difficult to realise that in order to regain their life they need to do one of two things.

One. Seek professional help and or

Two. Seek something much more encompassing, bigger than them self to become free of that old addiction.

I offer a comprehensive and respectful professional service that can help you both free your self from serious addictions and equally fill your life with something far more satisfying and meaningful.

Please get in touch with me for professional assistance when, and only when, you are truly ready to break free of the prison of addictions and start to live a much more meaningful and satisfying life.

So, I bet you are wondering what happened to the ‘hopeless alcoholic’. Well acting on Jung’s invitation, he found something bigger than himself. He gave up alcohol and was closely involved, a personal acquaintance of one of the founders of the world famous AA – Alcoholics Anonymous.

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Surviving A Seriously Toxic Relationship – Part One

I honestly think people meet for a reason. My thoughts here are, it is to learn and create together or learn and create apart. Our relationships with our intimate lovers, friends and acquaintances can in some ways be defined by what we both learn and go on to accomplish, share and go on to help others through our own experiences.

If you have ever been in an unnecessarily argumentative, emotional, mentally or even physically abusive relationship that can be categorised with frequent breakups and passionate get back together’s then this may be of help and interest to you in both getting some kind of understanding of what’s happening and finding ways to live healthily together or move apart sooner.

It is my intention that these articles will provide examples you may relate to and to provide means to make the right changes for you in terms of your relationship.

If you choose to get out of this kind of toxic relationship the rest of this articles will offer some suggestions as to how as a survivor you can let go of the past, feel better and move forward with a sense of forgiveness and compassion. My reparation took me over six weeks to fully heal my heart and head, to let go of many unhelpful emotions and memories and feel whole again.

I most often find labelling people is not helpful. What I want to show here is a collection of coping mechanisms people with so called Borderline Personality Disorder ( BPD ) have for coping in their world and specifically coping in an intimate personal relationship.

It is honestly NOT their fault they have these modes of behaviour or coping mechanisms to be interacting with intimate partners but unless you are their therapist or their partner you will most likely never see this side of their personality. It can be like a real life Jekyll and Hyde. Relationships with this kind of characteristic can look like the Somme Battlefield from the outside. From the inside it is honestly much, much worse for both people.

Please read the following article for an insight into a BPD relationship. Click on the hyperlink below.

How a Borderline Personality Disorder Love Relationship Evolves

An Article by Roger Melton MA

The article above describes very well my perceptions of my own experience in a relationship with an ex partner who displayed all of the coping mechanisms that I will describe below. As such I have no intention of relating specific personal examples. This is for two reasons. Sometimes I feel ‘our story’ has an element of ‘the victim’ attached to it and so creates unhelpful gossip and agony aunt style, problem focused awareness and also this is really about recognising the signs and making a choice as to how best to move forward.

Having been in a toxic and mutually unhealthy relationship with a partner who exhibited these coping strategies for BPD with various intensities and frequencies; I have to say, at that time I simply didn’t understand what was happening or why they behaved that way. I did not understand many of our interaction. They often made little sense, more often than not no sense at all.

Arguments would frequently erupt from nowhere. My then partner would shout, make fists become verbally aggressive and abusive. In short a kind of totally unpredictable angry temper tantrum. Their raging arguments were paradoxical with what I perceived as frequent double standards that simply could not be reasoned out. I had no real idea how or why these would start arguments, but now I know, it is just one way of coping:

When you get to understand what childhood circumstances created these coping mechanisms or behavioural imprints ( DSM-IV-TR, The Angry Heart ) it is actually very easy to forgive and feel real compassion for an ex partner or even a current one; It is also very easy to forgive yourself. But when you don’t know, it is all too easy to feel hurt, used, manipulated, cheated and abused. This is the victim role. You can lose your sense of self value and self respect; Because you love them so you keep going back … for more of the same and so the cycle continues.

BPD Criteria and Coping Mechanisms

A pervasive pattern of instability of interpersonal relationships, self-image, and affects and markedly impulsivity beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts as indicated by five ( or more ) of the following :

1. Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment.
2. A pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterised by alternating between extremes of idealisation and devaluation.
3. Identity disturbance: markedly and persistently unstable self image or sense of self.
4. Impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self damaging ( spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating).
5. Recurrent suicidal behaviours, gestures or threats of self-mutilating behaviour.
6. Affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood ( intense episodic dysphoria, irritability, or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days).
7. Chronic feelings of emptiness.
8. Inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger ( frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights ).
9. Transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or sever dissociative symptoms.

DSM – IV -TR

Part Two of this article will go on to explore the issue of blame and responsibility. Part Three will offer suggestions and ways, that as a survivor of specifically this kind of toxic relationship you can heal your emotional past and then move forward in life with a genuine sense of forgiveness and compassion.

Spirituality In Coaching and Therapy – Nigel Hetherington & Paula McCormack

The more you lose yourself in something bigger than yourself, the more energy you will have.

Norman Vincent Peale

Spirituality In Coaching and Therapy – Newcastle NLP and Hypnosis Cafe Monday 7th February 7-9pm : Gosforth Library Newcastle NE3 3HD : £10 Including Biscuits. Book online below.

When we come direct from heart space we create an energetic connection that surpasses the concept of empathy or our multi-sensory capacity. In doing so we create the neutral void that two souls can share to explore, discover, test, challenge and shift. For us, this is our recipe for lasting and generative change.

So in this café Paula and Nigel will facilitate your unpacking of the deeper and more connecting ways in which yours and our therapeutic alliances work. How they are formed, how they grow and the effect and impact they have on our and the world.

We will open and share our thoughts and processes of how to develop co-created alliances by exploring the concepts of projections and reflections prior to, during and after a dynamic interaction. We will also consider projection and reflection in terms of attracting clients into your life for mutual healing and purposeful learnings.

Every person we meet has something to teach us, and every person has something to say that only they can say. We both believe we attract the clients that will help and be beneficial to our ongoing development. This may also include ‘healing’ your past. viz a vie we meet together to co-create something that is more than mutually beneficial …

From this place we’ll look at working from heart space that dynamically co-creates a change process as being fundamental in effective change and evolution work. We will show you how this offers a place that goes way beyond our understanding of rapport. Indeed it transcends the thoughts that if we shared some common value, belief, outcomes, goals and even purpose we can go anywhere in the relationship.

Newcastle NLP and Hypnosis Cafe

Monday 7th February 7-9pm :

Gosforth Library Newcastle NE3 3HD : £10 Including Biscuits.

Book online now.





Can You Make A Living From Coaching or Therapy?

I run regular trainings in Newcastle for people to become certified Clinical Hypnotherapists and NLP Practitioners. Two days ago I received a call from a perspective participant regarding Hypnotherapy Training. One of their really good questions was “Can I make a living as a Hypnotherapist”.

The answer is a very BIG no and yes!

There are many, many training courses where you can become a qualified therapist, coach or hypnotherapist. Currently there is no legislation in the UK to stop anyone stating they are a ‘hypnotherapist’ or ‘coach’ any reader can do it right now. Some will get a ‘qualification’ yet if you want to make a good living as a professional people helper YOU NEED CLIENTS, no matter how good you think you are or the training you have received.

I strongly recommend Andy Austin’s Brass Bollocks [ if you will follow the process ] and then be prepared to commit to the time it takes to generate lots of clients AND build a reputation and successful practice!

Andy is someone I have done a great deal of training with, who I regard as a truly consummate professional, Andy Austin has stated …

A little humility will save you a lot of humiliation“.

There are so many products out in the market promising you can make £x,xxx,xxx in a year. This is a big sham! One of the biggest deceptions going in my opinion. There are no get rich quick schemes and if this is what you want you may well be in the wrong profession! Yet, the strategies are generally good BUT it takes time to build a good reputation, referrals and a professional practice.

My personal experience, never bothering to follow any of these get rich schemes was it took me five years to build a profitable practice in therapy. I am an ex-software engineer and have some savi regarding how to build an internet presence that works for you.

I was teaching hypnosis and NLP by 2005 and it is now 2011. This is five years in time and five years in reputations and referrals. Unless you have a massive number of contacts do not expect to make a living as soon as you are qualified. I think this applies to any professional practice, therapy or other …

One of the most important pieces of experience I can offer is you can do it. It usually wont happen over night. It takes practice, time and a real commitment to helping people transform their lives – as well as your own! If you are currently working I suggest you create what I call a ‘parachute fund’ to help you on your way, to transition between a job and a true calling. Don’t do what I did and sell your house to create you business, it is way too risky!

So, I sold my home and quite my job as a full time software developer and programmer to pursue my dream. I wouldn’t recommend this to anyone because it was very hard and was a one way ticket to survive and  flourish or go bust. I followed my dream …

Anything and everything to do what I love, my family and friends said I was mad to give up a lucrative job … YET … my heart was elsewhere in the future … and eventually … this came true … It was not easy! It is really hard work!!

Follow your heart … … … and at the same time, realise you do need to make a living in the process ….

Some hints and tips on what not to to … Basically don’t lie about yourself.

In therapeutic practice, there are so many people advertising skills they simply haven’t got.  For instance …

Do not advertise what you are not or make somewhat ridiculous claims on what you can do for clients. This includes ridiculous fees that simply do not attract clients.  The [ ] are examples of what I personally know has failed for certain people who try to present themselves as therapists or coaches.

  • £125 coaching by skype [ 4 clients in 18 months, two non paying ]
  • Child behaviour Specialist . [ Physically abusing their children by smacking then in the face and mouth ]
  • Saying you have 100% client success [ everyone knows this is not so ]
  • Divorced mother specialisation [ still married and ongoing incredibly troublesome divorce ]
  • Relationship expert [ 20 years of infidelity and non resolved personal issues ]
  • Get your magic job [ no income from therapy, dependent on the state for financial support ]
  • You can make a living doing what you love [ no income except state / partner dependent ]

Make you fees plainly accessible to one and all

The most well known and successful UK therapists are from £125 – per hour or session. These are the people who have 10 to 15 years plus of experience and practice to charge this. Get real. You will not compete with these people right away. These are well developed and recognised professionals. Better to charge £45 per hour and get some clients while building a real reputation.

The real trick here is to build up a practice

  • Don’t listen to anyone who tells you to up your prices especially when they have no clients of their own.
  • Get your Internet Site presence up and for the world to see.
  • Make presentations to your local therapy and counselling associations.
  • Do free work until you have people that will recommend you.
  • Be true to what you believe is right and set out to make a difference.
  • Patience and the rest will come with dedication.

Follow your dreams while you study and practice hard!

Love & Light

Nigel

Newcastle Weight Loss Hypnosis | Jesmond Weigh Loss Hypnosis

We are all so engaged in doing things to achieve purposes of outer value we forget that the inner value the rapture that is associated with being alive is what it’s all about‘ – Joseph Campbell

There is something else, much more to losing weigh and weight loss … and this is a fundamental change of attitude and heart … and … getting a real sense, a knowing if you like, of what you will actually feel and experience from losing weight!

Click here to book an appointment for Weight Loss Hypnosis Newcastle in early New Year of 2011.

Public Speaking Hypnotherapy Newcastle

You probably know that the vast majority of people shrink back from the very idea of public speaking.

The fear of public speaking including not being heard, clamming up and potentially making a complete and utter fool of yourself plagues so very many people you would not believe … or actually maybe you DO!!! I know at one time I certainly did!

The more practice you get the more comfortable you can become with public speaking. My own experience of this was, initially it terrified me! Honestly it did. And at some point I realised and grasped what I can say has massive meaning and value to me as well as others.

We all have thoughts, feelings and insight we want to share with the people we really want to connect with. Remember … Your purpose in public or group or peer speaking is to share how and what you feel, think and know for a purpose that is bigger than you that will benefit all.

The Common Problems

There are three very common and often interlinked problems for people facing public speaking and they are this :

  1. You have ( in the past ) had one or more experiences of doing this and it going horribly wrong.
  2. You have worried and worried and worried and … Dun It And … What happened … It went HORRIBLY.
  3. You have worried and worried and worried and … Thought The Worst And … You haven’t even done it yet!

So what is your solution?

Clearing up any problems from the past and literally putting that out of your mind. The past is the past, yet it can come back to haunt you … unless you deal with it.

Starting to cultivate the attitude of what you actually want to have happen. Not what you don’t! The attitude of a truly positive outcome where you are fully able to speak your truth from your heart is empowering. You feeling congruent and confident in and with what you say will show.

Knowing your true purposes and motivations will help you set a direction and focus your intention to talk from your heart and also be heard.

How You Can Speak Your Truth From Your Heart

I can help you remove blocks from the past, set your focus on what you want and make you purpose clear … So you can … speak publicly with a real conviction and congruence.

Click Here to book an appointment to Learn To Speak Your Truth With Passion and Purpose

Newcastle Trauma PTSD Resolution Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy

The majority of traumatic memories or post traumatic stress intrusions can usually be successfully cleared in one to two session.

Here is a demonstration from Hypnotherapist Nigel Hetherington using NLP EMI – Eye Movement Integration to remove the associated emotional residue from a traumatic experience.

NLP Eye Movement Integration is the creation of Steve and Connirae Andreas.

Weigh Loss Hypnotherapy Newcastle Jesmond Gosforth Hexham

Struggling to become a desirable and healthy weight is one of the most common and often ever present problems people today are facing. Weight issues are not usually genetic, probably not your diet and not destiny. You can change and this means cleaning up your past and changing your attitudes and habits to support more than just losing weight.

There are very many reasons or causes for this problem. Knowing the reasons as to why you are overweight and potentially emotionally depressed with the situation usually wont help you lose weight and keep it off. Changing who you were and becoming the person you want to be will. There is very likely some connection with your past, an emotional issue or maybe a habit and attitude you need to change.

Do you know many over weight people suffer from

  • Low Self Esteem
  • Negative Thoughts
  • Lack Of Confidence
  • Diet – Comfort Eat – Diet – Comfort Eat Cycles
  • A Longing To Discover Real Love

If you have tried every diet or self help book you can and are still getting nowhere fast and you are still fat then read on :

There are three things you honestly need to know about and do to make the changes you truly want in your life happen.

Firstly knowing how the benefits of changing your weight will effect you is extremely important. In short there needs to be a real purpose in your losing weight. It is not about losing weight in and of itself. It is what you will get from losing weight. This may be feeling much more confident, feeling more attractive, increased health benefits and leading a more active life in all areas.

Secondly you need to understand there is some underlying emotional pain that is creating and sustaining your current problem. Remember the brain seeks things to make us feel better. Comfort eating can and does alleviate emotional pain BUT it is only temporary. You eat, feel a little better, feel guilty about binging as well as the unresolved emotional pain and then the cycle starts again like ever increasing circles!

Finally you have to do something about it and then get on with living the way you want to live. This involves getting professional help to help you make changes in your attitude and coach you through the change period to a much better life.

The Brain Stuff

The brains main function is to keep the body in which it resides alive and functioning and to find food, reproduce and other vital requirements. It does this by a complex neuro-chemical endogenous reward mechanism. Simply put, finding food, sex and the other essential needs creates a neuro-chemical reward and makes us feel very good. If you continue looking outside yourself for this you always will …

This system of reward is driven sequentially like this:

Stimulus -> Desire -> Action -> Reward

Let’s call this the SDAR cycle.

Stimulus to find food, sex, or other essential need like security. This can come from your environment, like seeing some favourite food, your partner or even looking for a more comfortable or secure living environment. Stimulus can also come from the inside as in when we think about our emotional state, think about problems or think about a missing loved one.

Desire is thinking about what you want and also what is painful in life. When the pain or emotional turbulence becomes too strong you seek to find a way out. One way is finding something to alleviate the pain, this is temporary and may be eating a cake, chocolate or any activity that temporarily shunts negative thoughts, pain or emotional issues off to one side. But they are still there!!

Action in this case, is putting the next best alternative into action. Usually a stop gap measure. This is doing what you have always done and hoping for a different result. It wont happen, sorry. You need to change what you do. And this means a fundamental change in your attitude towards yourself!

Reward is the feeling you get when you do something to alleviate your emotional pain. Your brain releases some good chemicals and you feel good for a short while but it doesn’t last and then the cycle starts again.

  • What if you can stop this cycle?
  • What if you can honestly heal the emotional pain that is at the heart of your situation?
  • What if you really can make and sustain positive changes that will give you the life and feelings you really what to have?

Comfort eating, drinking or any other activity that temporarily assuages the underlying emotional hurt or pain you are feeling and is a substitute for addressing your real needs and desires. You can honestly never get enough of second best! So now is your open window to let some fresh air of change into you life.

And here is your invitation to take action …

Book an appointment, get your life on track and become who are … sooner … than you may have thought possible.

Book an appointment to turn your life around now.

Tel : 0770 481 8467

email : nigel@nigelhetherington.co.uk

Buddhism, Enlightenment and Learning How To Feel Better – Part Three

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Carrying on from the previous post about NLP and the connections to Buddhism or more precisely one of many ways towards what is tentatively called enlightenment or as I prefer to say living in and having as authentic a life as possible and being comfortable in your own skin …

So, having read the last post and having acknowledged the positive purpose of the unwanted emotion, we can then use one of many NLP therapeutic processes to help heal the regrets of the past.

One of the simplest methods of doing this is to change, what is know as the sub-modalities of the ‘memory’. Our memories are re-experienced through our five senses and the sub modalities are the smaller components of each of our five senses.

Here is one way for you to heal your own regret. Work on one specific ‘regret memory’ at a time and follow the process all the way through.

  1. Remember a situation or memory that at one time you did regret but now, when you think about it you realize and acknowledge the learning and the value of that learning such that having had that experience has in fact made you a much better, more rounded person with far greater resources and skills. Let’s call this the ‘reference memory’.
  2. Still thinking about the memory you, at one time regretted, but now see this as a resource; answer the following questions, making a list of your answers.
    • Where is the memory located? Point to it! Is it up to your left, down to your right, is it central in front of you, is it behind you to the right? You need to find the spatial location. Find out where abouts in your own personal space the memory seems to be.
    • Is the memory colour or black and white?
    • Is the memory like a picture, series of pictures or a DVD movie?
    • Is the memory life size, smaller or bigger?
    • Do you see yourself in the memory or is it like you are looking out of your own eyes?
    • What sounds accompany the memory and what is their location? There may be many or none!
    • What smells are you aware of that accompany this memory?
    • Is the memory sharp and clear or fuzzy and blurred?
  3. Write all your answers down and then go and make a cup of tea and come back in a few minutes.
  4. Now think about the specific situation, memory or incident you do still regret and answer the following questions, make a list of:
    • Where is the memory located? Point to it! Is it up to your left, down to your right, is it central in front of you, is it behind you to the right? You need to find the spatial location. Find out where abouts in your own personal space the memory seems to be.
    • Is the memory color or black and white?
    • Is the memory like a picture, series of pictures or a DVD movie?
    • Is the memory life size, smaller or bigger?
    • Do you see yourself in the memory or is it like you are looking out of your own eyes?
    • What sounds accompany the memory and what is their location? There may be many or none!
    • What smells are you aware of that accompany this memory?
    • Is the memory sharp and clear or fuzzy and blurred?
  5. You now have two lists of the sub modalities of each memory. Here is how to run your own brain. Look for the differences between the two experiences, for example are the two memories in different locations? Is one color and one black and white? You get the idea right! Differences here are the important factors!
  6. Start to make the sub modalities ( one at a time ) of the ‘regret’ memory the same as the ‘reference memory’ you used to regret and notice how your emotional response changes. It is your brain you can make any changes you want to make. Changes can be changed back or kept depending on how you feel.

Now maybe Buddha did not use this specific NLP process ( there are rather a lot to select from ) as he took many days to achieve his enlightenment and this can change how you feel much more rapidly. In a matter of minutes, you can have really practised this skill more fully. But perhaps Buddha had, like the rest of us, a great many regrets so he worked through them all, systematically, one at a time. NLP like Buddhism is about continued practice so please accept the invite to change, one at a time, the things you regret.

NLP is about learning how to run your own brain to get the kind of results you want in a systematic way.

Clean Language Clean Therapy ™ Solutions | Newcastle Hypnotherapy | Newcastle Hypnosis

Newcastle Hypnotherapist Nigel Hetherington demonstrates Clean Language leading into the Clean Therapy ™ model to assist in exploration and a solution orientation with one of the participants.

I have recently been working in Alaska delivering Clinical Hypnotherapy training. Here is the first of two parts of a demonstration of Clean Language and my Clean Therapy ™ Model.

One of the things that make the Clean Therapy ™ approach so powerful is clients never have to talk directly about their problems, which can often cause them even more distress. Using metaphor and physical movement the Clean Therapist directs the process of change at a different level of internal experience that the origional problem. That is, a metaphoric representation is created and then explored. As the metaphor is explored and changed the problem representation will naturally have been explored and changed too.

For Hypnosis in Newcastle and Hypnosis in Hexham contact call 0770 481 8467 or email nigel@nigelhetherington.co.uk

Change Your Mind – Change Your Feelings

Albert Einstein is said to have commented “Problems cannot be solved by the same level of thinking that created them!”

Here we use a metaphor to represent the problem state and the metaphor IS a different level of thinking!

This is a really neat process to help people move from unresourceful states to really positive and resourceful ones. Using emergent metaphor to change the internal representations or problem states as a 2nd order change process.

The process is created by Kevin Creedon and know as the Cloud Process.

NLP Practitioner Training @ £495 | Newcastle & North East NLP Practitioner Course

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When we want to make our life better and are frustrated that it is not happening the way we want it to be or not happening at all, there are some things we can do to take action and get better informed and equipped to make the changes we want happen.

This excellent value training begins in January 2011 and concludes in June. The Newcastle NLP Practitioner training course is three days Friday-Sunday each month.

We all experience and face common frustrations and problems just about each and every day.

Here are just some of them:

  • Wasting Time and Energy Worrying about the NOW…
  • Wasting Time and Energy Worrying about the future ( Anxiety )
  • Economy and Money
  • Your Job Security
  • Your Relationships both Personal and Professional
  • You are not happy or satisfied with you present situation
  • A lack motivation
  • Wanting to turn your life around
  • Worried about paying your bills
  • Unable to get on better with others and yourself

Neurolinguistic Programming or NLP is a kind of pseudo psychology developed in the 1970’s. It has grew to massive fame in the UK largely because of Paul Mckenna’s TV shows. NLP is a successful and powerful way of running your own brain, increasing your confidence, managing your state as well as learning and developing ethical influencing and communication tools. It is also a great deal of fun in the learning!

Excellent content, great presentation, great group. All if it linked together, I have really enjoyed it and learned a lot from the course, very useful.

Kim – Manager Outdoor Activity Centre

Taking an NLP Practitioner training will of course not solve each and every one of your problems yet it will give you tools you can use to take much more control of your life and generally feel much better about it. You will change the way you think and interact with others. You will learn how to get on much better with people and literally talk their language.

Totally fab, exceeded my expectations. Thank you very much! The trainers are great and the venue is ideal. For me, its the power and awareness of language are the most useful.

Rob – Counselling Lecturer

This special credit crunch price for the NLP Practitioner Course with six months training is just £495. This really is the most exceptional value certified NLP Practitioner in the UK. It is this price because the current economic climate which demands you get paramount value for your money and because Communicating Excellence is dedicated to increasing the success of all people in our North East community.

I have seen changes in myself that I wouldn’t have thought possible. Thank you so much

Felicity James

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Three days per month, Friday-Sunday beginning January 2011. Only £495 Take Action and Book NOW!

Click here for full details and to book your place on the Newcastle NLP Practitioner Training course.

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Drinking Water Before Meal Helps Dieting

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A recent BBC article claims that drinking two cups of water before a meal will help you with your dieting. The research comes from scientists in Virginia working with 48 adults aged 55 to 75.

Drinking two cups of water, three times a day before meals can help you lose an average of 5 pounds ( That is the same as 2.27 kg ).

Read the full article here on the BBC web site.

If you would like some additional hints and tips to help you lose weight, check out my Weigh Loss Attitude a six page pamphlet in the Free Resources section.

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Even The Top Coaches Have Bad Days

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All people have off days. Life will continue to throw up circumstances, situations and episodes when we are challenged, hurt, pissed off and injured by our own and other peoples actions or inactions. This is part of being human and the personal evolutions we all experience during our life time.

Alexander Pope said “To err is human; to forgive is divine

Forgive yourself ( and others ) for any pain you feel. Use the pain to transform and motivate yourself to have much more of the life you want. This is not really about material things as I know many people who have excess money, even one who is a millionaire and they aren’t happy.

This is about connecting and discovering your unique life purpose or your true calling and acting from this base. Of course having too little money does cause problems no matter what some life coaches or spiritual gurus say. We all require a certain level of income to meet our basic need. Yet once these needs are met how do you choose to live?

One of comparative mythologists Joseph Campbell’s most famous quotes is “follow your bliss“. The real key to a more than fulfilling life is to discover your bliss and walk that path. Campbell certainly followed his bliss and as a result transformed the thinking and lives of millions of people. And of course you don’t even need to think about the ideas and concepts of following your bliss or discovering your life purpose. It is not for every one yet discovering your bliss requires no special education or prior knowledge. He calls this journey or exploration The Hero’s Journey’ Campbell says this is The Left hand Path and it is not for everyone. Just for those who hear the call to adventure …

So it’s OK to feel hurt, pained and angry. This could be the start of a life transforming journey. Where the real skill comes in is using these powerful and driving emotions to create something better for ourselves and others. This could be the beginning of your own Hero’s Journey. Here is a little clip from one of the Worlds most dynamic coaches Tony Robbins.

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Hypnosis Course

Hypnotherapy Course and Hypnosis Course in Newcastle upon Tyne with Nigel Hetherington.

Hypnosis course approved training with the General Hypnotherapy Standards Council and General Hypnotherapy Register. Graduates are eligible to join the General Hypnotherapy Register and receive membership of both the GHR and The Hypnotherapy Register.

The GHR is the largest organisation for professional hypnotherapist in the UK.

Clinical Hypnotherapy Training Course

Buddhism, Enlightenment and Learning How To Feel Better – Part Two

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Not every reader will be aware of the fact that many of the people who are developing and exploring their own spirituality, interestingly enough, will have something in common with people who are studying NLP or Hypnosis in Newcastle and the North East.

Now these connections may not be immediately obvious, so here is an invitation for you to look at some parallel lines of exploration.

In relating the science of Hypnosis and NLP to the spirituality of Buddhism there are some very clear connections in terms of outcomes or to put it another way, what students from either of these discipline’s can anticipate from their efforts and studies because …

Both Buddhism, Hypnotherapy and NLP at the higher level are concerned with moving towards true personal freedom, compassion and living your own life. Ultimately it is about being able to feel how you want to feel much more of the time and engage in what is truly important to you and satisfy your own values.

So to draw the first parallel let’s again recount the first temptation of the Buddha by the demon Kama, the Buddhas ‘solution’ to this problem and then see how you can do this from an NLP or Hypnosis perspective.

Kama sends by proxy his three daughters Regret ( past), Fulfillment ( present ) and Desire ( future ). Buddha being, still on his immovable spot, disengaged from the field of time, he is able to refute all three emotions and be free from desire, regret and fulfillment.

All very well for Buddha to deal with these emotions but the question many people will be asking is “how do I deal with these emotions?

Let’s explore regret. Regret is specifically about the past. Regret is a reviewing and reliving of past memories and for whatever reasons ( the list could be very long ) ruing the things that either were or were not done. Often times this in not even a choice to relive the memory it just seems to run and re-run all by itself. The brain just seems to do what it wants and not what you want.

Now, what if, like Buddha, you could change your past memories, here specifically regret, such that all the learning’s and education are preserved yet they have a completely neutral or even oddly pleasurable emotional response to the ‘same’ memory?

Looking through the therapeutic lens of applied Hypnotherapy and NLP, regret is an indication that some value, some behavior or experience that is especially important to you was in some way transgressed. This applies irrespective weather the regret is about something that did happen ( and wish it hadn’t ) or something that did not happen ( and wish it had ).

You know, we learn by making ‘mistakes’ so being able to keep the learning and dissolved any unwanted emotion is what this is about.

First and foremost and often the hardest step for people is to acknowledge that the feeling of regret is serving some very positive purpose. This feeling of regret can act like a ‘flag’ or ‘marker’ so that in any similar future situations, you will act differently and in ways that will respect and support the transgressed value.

The third article of this series will give a simple step by step process of how you can change the way you think about regret and start to run your own brain for a change.

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Bill O Hanlon Workshop Newcastle Upon Tyne September 2010

A very special workshop for solution focused and brief therapy professionals.

bill-headshot-bw.jpg“There is no use trying, she said.“One cannot believe impossible things.”“I dare say you haven’t had much practice” said the Queen “When I was your age, I always did it for half-an-hour a day.Why sometimes I’ve believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast.” – Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland

Possibility Therapy uses the power of acknowledgement to meet people where they are stuck and the power of possibility to invite them into change. Not just a positive approach, this approach recognizes problems, the influence of the past, and cultural, political and gender influences while creating a respectful, hopeful environment for change. It also adds a spiritual dimension to therapy.

Through clear handouts and lectures, videotapes and practice exercises, participants will have the opportunity to not only learn this approach to therapy but also to apply it to their own lives and selves.

Morning session Day 1

  • Introduction to a new way of thinking and working in therapy
    • Discovering solution-oriented therapy
  • First Things First: Starting therapy on the right foot
    • Finding a focus and identifying who wants to change what
    • Assessment as intervention
  • Solution-Oriented Therapy
    • Find exceptions and solutions from the past
    • Evoke competence
    • Notice change rather than stuckness
    • Imagine a future without the problem and work backwards from there

Afternoon session Day 1

  • Possibility Therapy: A further evolution of brief solution-oriented therapy
  • Acknowledgement and possibility
  • Collaboration/non-expert stance
  • Future pull
  • Inclusion

Morning session Day 2

  • Inclusive Therapy: Dissolving resistance (from clients and therapists)
    • Discovering inclusion
    • Three levels of inclusion
    • The Inclusive Self
    • The 3 Cs of spirituality in therapy

Afternoon session Day 2

  • Brief therapy
  • The three kinds of brief therapy
    • Strategies of brief therapy
    • Change patterns
      • Personal and interpersonal
    • Change the doing (action/interaction)
    • Change the viewing (attention/meaning-making)
      • Stories
    • Set achievable and observable goals
    • Small changes can produce big results

Objectives:

  • To learn the components of brief and solution-oriented therapy
  • To learn how to dissolve resistance and create a collaborative environment in therapy
  • To be able to use 5 methods of acknowledgement and possibility
  • To be able to use 3 methods of inclusion

Bill O’Hanlon, MS, LMFT, has authored or co-authored 29 books, the latest being A Guide to Trance Land (W.W. Norton, 2009), Write is a Verb (Writer’s Digest Books, July 2007) Pathways to Spirituality (W.W. Norton), Change 101: A Practical Guide to Creating Change (W.W. Norton, Fall 2006), and Thriving Through Crisis (Penguin/Perigee; winner of the Books for a Better Life Award).

He has published 54 articles or book chapters. His books have been translated into 15 languages: French, Spanish, Portuguese, Swedish, Finnish, German, Chinese, Bulgarian, Turkish, Korean, Indonesian, Italian, Croatian, Arabic and Japanese.

He has appeared on Oprah (with his book Do One Thing Different), The Today Show, and a variety of other television and radio programs. Since 1977, Bill has given over 2000 talks around the world. He has been a top-rated presenter at many national conferences and was awarded the Outstanding Mental Health Educator of the Year in 2001 by the New England Educational Institute.

Bill is a Licensed Mental Health Professional, Certified Professional Counselor, and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. Bill is clinical member of AAMFT (and winner of the 2003 New Mexico AMFT Distinguished Service Award), certified by the National Board of Certified Clinical Hypnotherapists and a Fellow and a Board Member of the American Psychotherapy Association.

He is known for his storytelling, irreverent humor, clear and accessible style and his boundless enthusiasm for whatever he is doing. His seminars are as entertaining as they are educational.

Where, When and How Much?

This workshop will take place on Saturday 11th and Sunday 12th of September at The Caledonian Hotel, Jesmond, Newcastle upon Tyne.

The workshop will start at 9:30 am and end at 5:30pm on both days.

Workshop fees

  • For the first 10 people to sign up online the fee is just £100
  • The early bird fee of £175 is available until July 19th extended to July 31st
  • The full fee of £225 applies thereafter

The booking system is online and will become live at 8:00am on Wednesday April 21st.

Hypnosis To Relieve Stress and Worry

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Movie super star Mel Gibson has recently had a mammoth 10 day hypnotherapy session to help him cope with all of the stress in his life.

Stress can be defined like this: All people have an ability to cope and thrive in a natural environment with natural pressures. When a persons ability to cope with natural pressure is exceeded, then there is an excess of pressure, this excess pressure, the excess an individual really can’t cope with is called stress.

Hypnosis can be used very effectively as a therapy for anything that is the human condition, to change behaviour and habits – and also for self improvement.

A great deal of peoples stress is caused by thinking the worst will happen and is exacerbated by telling yourself how bad it can get, that you can’t cope and then thinking and replaying all of this over and over again in your mind. Being stressed over a long time is known to be very bad for both physical and emotional well-being.

there is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so. To me it is a prison– Shakespeare, Hamlet

Hypnosis is an extremely effective way of reprogramming your brain so that you can deal with excess pressure and stress in more healthy ways. This is the first step, change how you feel. Secondly learn new ways to manage stress and third create ways of being that are intended to stop you getting into stressful situations. If stress really is getting you down and destroying your life, give me a call to find out how I can help you.

Hypnosis to relieve stress in Newcastle, Jesmond, Hexham and Northumberland. Call now! 0770 481 8467

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Buddhism, Enlightenment and Learning How To Feel Better – Part One

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A great many people who are exploring self development, NLP, personal psychologies, Hypnosis and other healing arts are often also attracted to what I will term as spirituality. Perhaps the most psychologically sophisticated and advanced spirituality on Earth is Buddhism.

As one story goes after plenty of other worldly experiences and adventures Buddha whilst sitting under a Bodhi tree at Bodh Gaya waiting for illumination got to meet a crabby old demon called Kama-Mara. Now some call Mara ( hear the drum role ) a lord of darkness, an evil lord and others say he was a tempter of the nascent Buddha with the temptations of lust, desire, fear and regrets.

Just before Kama-Mara arrived the soon to be enlightended Buddha was surrounded by his followers and hangers on who all sung his praises. But surprise surprise, when Kama-Mara arrived with his massive and terrible army all of the nascent Buddha’s entourage all did a runner and left him on his todd.

You see, Kama-Mara was responsible for, let us say ‘tempting’ Buddha or to put it another way testing, even creating the almost enlightened Buddha’s abilities so Kama-Mara was in fact a very necessary catalyst. This is similar to the anti hero having a very specific role to play, not unlike Judas Iscariot, but that is a different story. These temptations or tests were not like today’s driving test or GCSE’s or some written exam. Oh no dear reader, these were psychologically energetic, potentially destructive and of course if the story is true, physically, very real practical exams with no resit options.

The first temptation Kama sent, by proxy too, was his three daughters Regret, Fulfilment and Desire. He sent his children to do his dirty work.  Like a politician sending in expendable soldiers. These, the nascent Buddha, being still on his immovable spot was so able to refute one at a time desire, regret and fulfilment.

Kama then transformed into Mara and with his army of ogres sent weapons of all description flying towards the sitting Buddha but when the weapons entered his ‘field of non-entity’ the weapons transformed into lotus flowers. Fear and belligerence was dissolved.

Enraged and thwarted ( don’t you just love that word! ) Mara transformed into Dharma, the lord of social duty and spoke to Buddha “You are a Prince of the realm man!, haven’t you seen the news? Looked at the internet? There is a global recession and the people need to have hope and a figure head, that is you my prince, to inspire trust and stability. Do you duty! You must do what is expected of you!”

But Buddha was completely unmoved by this appeal to social duty and called on the Goddess Mother Universe to bear witness that he, Buddha, has the right to be. And the Goddess gives her blessings and acknowledgement.

The elephant that Dharma ( the entity formally known as Karma-Mara ) is riding bows to Buddha, the army of ogres retreats and Dharma in Buddha’s light is dissolved. Buddha then becomes, as this story goes, enlightened.

The second part of this article will explore this story looking through a different lens and lead on to how you can apply this transformation of consciousness to yourself in our more modern world.

Juggling Life – Overcomming Depression

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Most depressed people have habits of behaviour, including thought patterns, that depress them. Its a habit, its a way of being, its something you can change!

Being depressed often involves thinking what is the worst that can happen, “What if that”, “What if this”. When this is thought of long and hard these thought patterns can become our living and waking reality. With enough practice this leads to lethargy and the attitude of nothing matters or why bother AKA Depressed.

Depression does not happen overnight, it takes time and practice and some pretty shitty circumstances to become a reality. It takes time and repeated exposure.

Some research shows that phobic and even depressive thoughts begin in one half of the brain hemispheres, but not both. This suggests a neurological neuro-physical solution.

If you were to start the day thinking “How bad can it be“, unsurprisingly a human brain will ‘go looking’ for evidence of how bad it can be. One the other hand if you are one of those terminally happy people who go around thinking how good the world is then the world can seem like a very rosy place to live.

Our brains are the most sophisticated and complex structures on this planet, possibly in this universe and they do not come with a user manual or operational set of guide lines. The old adage of self fulfilling prophesy is all too true. If you think ( in words or pictures ) that you will have a great life you probably will. On the other hand if you think you wont … open up Tartatus and a place of woe.

What the mind thinks tends to be realised. And this is all too true for depressive thoughts. One of the neurological ways that anyone with problematic thoughts, like depression, can go about changing how they feel is to do something physical. And something physical that involves both brain hemispheres. I have never met any depressed joggers or runners yet running is not everyone’s cup of tea. Look for alternatives.

One of the most effective self help activities that anyone who is experiencing depression, sadness or emotional pain that I know of is to learn how to juggle. This is a physical activity as well as a metaphor for life. I regularly insist that any of my clients who feel depressed learn how to do.

In just 15 minutes per day over one week anyone can very literally turn their life around by juggling. Why?

Juggling or learning to juggle ( something that honestly takes about an hour ) must involve both brain hemispheres. There is co-ordination with the hands, eyes and by nature this involves both hemispheres being used to co-ordinate an ongoing activity. Similar to running, swimming or Brain Gym exercises this is probable one of the easiest and by far most effective ways to change how you feel.

The real trick is finding the motivation to do this on a regular basis, but … once you start juggling is addictive, in a good way.

Change your mood, change your thought patterns, learn to juggle [ life ].

Warning Juggling can be very addictive coz it makes you feel good.

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Hypnosis Learning and Repetition – Part Two

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One of the occasional yet sadly unrealistic requests I get from clients is “I want you to put me under and make me forget everything” or “Knock me out and take all the memory away” or even “I want you to hypnotise me so I will never do that again”.

It is really really important to understand your clients expectations from the outset.

A long time ago, one of my first paying clients came to me to stop eating pies. They eat one of those Fray Bentos tinned pies each day. I did the hypnotherapy and the NLP and sent them away. The next week I met them to ask how they were doing. “Have you stopped eating pies” I asked. “Yes” they replied “but I am still fat so it hasn’t worked”. They indeed got what they asked for but clearly it wasn’t what they expected.

Not only do you need to explore client expectations and outcomes, you need to do a reality check too!

Some clients do actually have the expectation that having had a complaint for lets say, over ten years that just one session of them being ‘knocked out’ will miraculously change a long standing problem behaviour with absolutely no work on their behalf. And the rest of their life will be rosy like an apple.

“I want you to put me under and make me forget everything”

This could be achieved with a hammer and could be described as a Lobotomy or Leucotomy. Not a terribly good solution, Imagine all that re-training and re-educating an adult would require.

The re-training and re-educating are much easier and effective with the memory intact. Hypnosis can certainly be used to create the states where learning becomes easier and changing deep routed neurological patterns becomes easier too because in hypnosis it is very possible to learn through repetition really fast … while you are in the right states to make changes stick.

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Hypnosis Depression and The Grey World

One of the many things that amazed me whet I first started learning how to apply NLP and Hypnosis in 2000 was the fact that we can control our feelings through practice.

NLP or Neuro Linguistic Programming is largely concerned with how our brains operate. A basic tenet of NLP is our internal world of thoughts has massive influence on how we feel. NLP and Hypnosis are very very similar in many aspects.

Hypnosis is a particularly effective way to change your internal world and with practice make this change more automatic in every day life.

A human brain and consciousness is the most sophisticated computer like organism on this planet. And it comes without an instruction manual. Our thoughts which are a combination of pictures, words, sounds, smells and tastes – our our basic ways of experiencing the world and these ways of experience or receptors massively influence how we feel.

As an example, think of someone you really like to share time with. Close your eyes. Bring this remembered image of this person closer to you and make it bigger and make the colour more intense. Most people on doing this will feel an increased sense of well being and pleasure as the picture or image moves closer and is made more colourful. Add in the sound of their voice and notice how your feelings change.

A recent article ( thanks Ian ) in the Independent shares conclusive proof that changing your internal world of how you think really does make a difference in how and what you feel.

Depressed people tend to see ( internally and externally ) the world as less colourful that it actually is. Conversely very happy people will likely see the world as more colourful.

Too see the Independent article in Depression – Really Does Make Every Thing Look Grey click here.

One very easy way to do this on your own is to purchase a pair of Orange Sun glasses and wear them. Another application of the Orange Sunglasses ‘making you happier’ phenomenon is that wearing such glasses is a solution to SAD – Seasonal Affective Disorder.

Hypnosis for Creative Block | Newcastle upon Tyne

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Creative Block, Self Doubt and Lack of Motivation are not exclusive to writers, poets, scientist’s and the self employed. Creative Block can effect anyone. From time to time the vast majority of people quite literally lose their way. This is usually but not exclusively due to emotional trauma compounded with a failure to truly believe in themselves.

In a recent BBC article the use of Hypnosis is shown to be used effectively to remove Creative Block and help people to return to serious productivity.

Read this BBC article on how hypnosis has been used effectively to remove Creative Block.

With a powerful combination of hypnosis and physiological techniques you can rediscover the motivation and drive that can propel you back into being your real creative and productive self.

Contact me for details of how I can help you return to your very best top form!

Tel : 0770 481 8467

eMail : nigel@nigelhetherington.co.uk

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Hypnotherapy Newcastle – Nigel Hetherington

Nigel Hetherington is a Clinical Hypnotherapist working in Newcastle, and Hexham.

Specialising in personal therapy for Addictions, Trauma, PTSD, Psychosomatic Pain, Weigh Loss, Guilt, Grief, Shame and Remorse. Nigel is a Master Practitioner of NLP and runs UK and International training in NLP and Hypnosis. Nigel is a regular featured contributor to myNLPresources.

Learning Hypnosis and Repetition – Part One

Life is an ongoing unfolding process. Inside of the process people have certain ways of behaving that make up significant behaviours or parts of their lives, lets call these behaviours routines. All people have routines . For instance,  going to work, making a cup of tea in the morning, making breakfast for their children or calling their parents on a certain night of the week.

Routines are like regularly walked pathways on a nature trail, they are like familiar and well travelled routes to a place of work, they are like the way some people always put the sock on their right foot first.

When a routine is very familiar this is akin to a very ‘strong’ set of neural memory or behavioural templates.  The more familiar a behaviour is the stronger the neural memory template is. The stronger the memory templates are the less conscious attention is required to carry out a specific behaviour.

Memory templates are composed of hundreds of thousands of neurones and are connected together by their axons in the brain. The more often some specific behaviour, through repetition is done, the stronger the connections between neurones. Repetition creates and then reinforces neural memory templates. So a memory or behavioural template is a result of the many repetitions of some behaviour. Complex behaviours, like making a cup of tea will have many memory templates associated with it.

Learning a behavioural response is not just about repetition though this does play a huge role. Really effective learning and assimilation goes hand in hand with the emotional state that you are learning in. Research shows that the best states to learn in are ones where you are really committed to learning. States where there is not too much stress, when you are happy and laughing and when there is plenty of love and support; as well as lots of repetition.

The next part of this article will offer perspectives on how this relates to client expectations and managing them.

Bill O’Hanlon: The Geography of Possibilities – September 11-12 : Newcastle upon Tyne

This is a very special workshop in Newcastle for all Solution Focused Therapists, Coaches, Counsellors and Therapist with the one and only Bill O’ Hanlon.

“There is no use trying, she said.“One cannot believe impossible things.”“I dare say you haven’t had much practice” said the Queen “When I was your age, I always did it for half-an-hour a day.Why sometimes I’ve believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast.” – Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland

Possibility Therapy uses the power of acknowledgement to meet people where they are stuck and the power of possibility to invite them into change. Not just a positive approach, this approach recognizes problems, the influence of the past, and cultural, political and gender influences while creating a respectful, hopeful environment for change. It also adds a spiritual dimension to therapy.

Through clear handouts and lectures, videotapes and practice exercises, participants will have the opportunity to not only learn this approach to therapy but also to apply it to their own lives and selves.

For full details and booking please click here.

Weight Loss Attitude Workshop – Newcastle November 2010

As the end of 2010 approaches many people will have time off from work and time to share with family and friends. In addition to great company, happy times and wonderful conversation there is quite often mixed in with this a good proportion of over eating and drinking. Extra turkey, extra roast potatoes and ample quantities of the grain and the grape. Come New Year 2011 many people will be making ( and possibly breaking ) new resolutions. If weight loss in the New Year is something you want and have struggled with in the past … then read on …

When you honestly decide to make 2011 the beginning of getting to a more comfortable and healthy weight and you want the real Attitudes that can make a whole load of difference then you may want to attend this weight loss attitude workshop.

A Workshop For People Who Want Or Need To Lose Weight Before 2011

November 2010 13-14 £95 : Gosforth Newcastle upon Tyne

  • Are you fat or overweight?
  • Have you tried all the diets, books, tablets and self help you can get?
  • Are you still fat and hating it?
  • Or even worse hating yourself?

This is a practical and hands on workshop where you will discover yourself how to change your attitude towards food, especially emotional eating as well as how to build the real and honest motivation that will help you stop Yo Yo dieting and emotional eating and keep you on course for the much better life experience you know you really do want.

This workshop is NOT about diets, nutrition, books or exercise.

This workshop is specifically about the physiological and mental attitudes that makes the difference.

Attendees probably will not lose any significant amount of weight during the workshop. Attendees will leave with significantly increased probability of weight loss and keeping it off.

This workshop is also designed for FAT AND OVERWEIGHT PEOPLE, Counsellors, Therapists, Hypnotherapists and People Helpers who are in the business of helping people with weight issues. Workshop is held at Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne and will qualify for CPD. Both remedial and generative change aspects of therapeutic intervention for weight loss will be addressed in this fully participatory workshop.

This very practical, hands on workshop will teach you the three most important Attitudes you absolutely must foster in order to Lose Weight … Especially if you really want it to happen for yourself or for your clients.

Attitude One to understand that Weight Loss is not about Weight Loss. Every one of the clients I see in private practice for Weight Loss … ultimately wants way much more than just to lose some weight. Weight Loss is most definitely NOT the end result!

Attitude Two to accurately know what it will mean when you have what you want and how your life will change as a result. When you are happier in and of yourself and you have lost weight, what does this get you? Successful weight loss involves looking and seeing beyond the weight problem and having a clear vision of how your life will be different.

Attitude Three Specifically, how you can, in an ecologically sound way, radically change your attitude and feelings about food. To understand and deal with emotional eating so as to keep the weight off and build and maintain the required motivation to see it through. This workshop includes therapeutic processes for remedial and generative change in the treatment of problem weight issues.

Enter your name and email address to receive inside attitudes about weight loss and a complementary hypnosis audio mp3 with no obligation.

So … What is covered in this Weight Loss – An NLP Attitude workshop?

  • Attitudes towards food and eating
  • Emotional eating cycles and how to change them
  • Understanding the real reasons why you want to lose weight
  • Yo Yo quitting and the “I Hate Myself” complex the next day
  • Identity issues … “I am fat”, “I am unlovable” etc
  • Making your motivation last
  • Feeling more comfortable in your own skin

This is an advert for weight loss hypnotherapy AND weight loss attitude workshop : a two day workshop in Newcastle upon Tyne, specifically for people who want to lose weight and have tried just about everything else. This is about the changing your attitude towards weight loss. Just in time for the New Year’s Resolution … Weigh Loss an NLP Attitude This workshop takes place November 13-14 and will cost you £95. How many books, DVD’s diets etc for £95 can you waste your money on, when none of them will change your attitude? If you have tried the lot and are still not where you want to be then think seriously about attending this workshop. Book Your Place Now

Hypnosis Newcastle upon Tyne Jesmond

Clinical Hypnotherapy in Newcastle upon Tyne, Jesmond, Northumberland, Tyneside and Hexham.

Hypnotherapy in Newcastle from professionally accredited and experienced hypnosis trainer Nigel Hetherington. Nigel’s therapy is a unique combination of Hypnosis, Neurolinguistics and Physical  Therapy. As well as the common Stress management, Stop Smoking, Phobia Removal and Nail Biting, Nigel’s areas of specialisation are in :

Hypnosis for Addictions, Drug Addiction, Sex Addiction, Trauma, IBS, Chronic Fatigue, Depression, Weigh Loss, Guilt, Grief, Shame and Remorse.

Nigel is the creator of Clean Therapy ™ a unique approach which is a combination of Hypnosis, Neurolinguistics, Metaphor, Bowen Therapy, Emotional Release and Cleansing.

All sessions are two hours and cost £95.00.

Click here for details of how to book a session.

Mind Your Language

from Inspire To Aspire a conference workshop  for all change professionals presented by Nigel Hetherington, Andrew T. Austin, Nick Kemp and Alan Johnson. Wednesday 13th October 2010 County Durham.

Having attended the conference you will have an improved understanding of the influence of words and languages on promoting, or restricting behaviour change. This will help you be more effective in your work and use of your time.

All the presenters are experts in their fields of language and behaviour change and have many years experience working with clients who have complex needs – successfully achieving positive outcomes for their clients – and themselves. Their areas of work include weight loss and slimming; mental health; mental well-being; phobias; anxiety; depression; confidence; alcohol misuse; drug addiction; obsessive compulsive disorder; pain management; panic attacks; stress; personal coaching; general well-being.

Contact details: Conference organiser Lesley Hoyle
Email: info@inspiretoaspire.co.uk
www.inspiretoaspire.co.uk
0845 643 0754

Imaging The Hypnotized Brain: Neural Mechanisms Of Suggested Paralysis

ScienceDaily (2009-06-25) — Although there is no doubt that hypnosis can impact the mind and behaviour, the underlying brain mechanisms are not well understood. Now, new research provides fascinating insight into the specific neural effect of the power of suggestion. A new study uncovers the influence of hypnotic paralysis on brain networks involved in internal representations and self imagery.

Click here to read the full article.