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Anxiety, Thoughts and Transformations

When one of my mentors was describing an unusual method of working with someone with a spider phobia, the thought experiment discussed was to lock the client into a room for 24 hours with said spider. I suspect neither the spider in question of the hypothetical spider phobic would have been thrilled at the prospect.

We went on to discuss that after a set period of time neither being able to prevent their responses or escape from them there would be a transformation. This is a reminder to the old and no longer applied psychological change process of ‘flooding’. Where people are forced to physically be with and confront their anxieties and fears. Similar horror stories for the treatment of OCD were once used too.

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So as this post is about anxiety or the semi-unconscious pattern of relational thinking which often creates unpleasant emotional responses; did the ideas in the first paragraph cause you any unpleasant emotions? How did you respond?

One Metaphor for Anxiety

I want to start with one of my metaphors for anxiety. By just using the word anxiety we at best have a generalised idea, a generic psudo-experience of what anxiety may mean for any individual. Think about that in relation to the first two paragraphs.

Some years ago Chaos Theory became very popular with the public in the idea that a butterfly in some distant county, in flapping its magnificent wings could cause a hurricane somewhere else on the globe.

The idea comes from a Strange Attractor phenomena discovered by Edward Lorenz. In his work the mathematical pattern which can be thought to look like butterfly wings are a series of 3 dimensional points plotted within a enclosed space.

What is amazing to me is the lines plotted as the scale of the plot becomes ever and more infinitesimal is that the lines of the plot will never touch each other. That is to say there is an infinite length of line inside a confined space.

This can seem mind boggling like what actually happens when an unmovable object meets and unstoppable force. And this is what anxiety can be like. Confined and continuing with no way out.

No one suffering with anxiety is having a great time. Fantastic energy is being consumed in looping thoughts and thinking which drive emotions which drive thoughts. Metaphorically a Lorenz Attractor.

We know intuitively that our thoughts can effect what we are feeling and equally or feelings and body positions can effect out thoughts. This can be a vicious spiral.

Anxiety is Not a New Problem for People

In his extensive work Jiddu Krishnamurti offers many self inquiry based explorations of the nature of thought and thought in its proper field. ‘Thought will set a limit and then thought will transcend that limit‘ again metaphorically a Lorenz Attractor, infinite distance within a confined field.

In working to resolving our own anxieties in the psycho-somatic field it is important to realise that the thinker of thoughts and the thoughts are not two distinct entities they are one. Practically all eastern spiritual practices have know this for thousands of years.

It is also possible to observe our own thoughts, practices common in meditation again prevalent for thousands of years. Knowing that the thinker of thoughts and thoughts are one makes it possible to explore our own internal self relationships.

Alan Watts talks about the Wisdom of Insecurity and having our material needs like a roof over our heads, enough food and pretty much the rest is all psychological. So he is pointing towards our psychological world where imagination can feel tyranical.

Knowing there really is no such concreteness as security because we can all have worries about the future and regrets about the past, wouldn’t it be quite wonderful to live more in the now, more in the present and knowing the proper limits of thought?

Possible Solutions using Hypnotherapy

There are literally countless ways of utilising hypnotherapy to relate our self to our anxities. A central idea is opening and shaping a hypnotic space where some form of transforming can become possible. Helping to alter the seemingly fixed focus of anxious thoughts.

In experiencing anxiety I believe that in some way we are trying to cope or are simply responding in the best way we can at the time. Hypnotherapy is one of many ways to explore not just new strategies but different ways of coping and living differently.

Our mind in some real sense is limitless. It contains our thoughts, memories and a life time of experience. All this ‘stuff’ is in there and mostly available with the properer stimulus. There is a lot of space. And mind can also focus intently on some experience so finding ways to alter unhelpful focus, as in anxiety, is also a real possibility.

Anxtious About Anxiety : How Hypnotherapy May Help

Many years ago when I worked for a computer software company I was involved with both writing software code and additionally making sure that the end users of the software couldn’t make the programs and their interface crash.

In some sense for some of my role in that job, I was paid to worry about how a user could crash the software. I was, if you like, trouble shooting what could possibly go wrong. This was mostly OK, But, when the deadlines came, myself and my programming companions would demonstrate worry moving into anxiety.

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So lets skip ahead some many years. One of my good friends, for years, has been telling me about an author, they knew I would like and appreciate. Of course I resisted this for many years too. When I eventually started reading the books of Alan Watts, I realised my friend was quite correct.

I almost has anxiety about having wasted so many years without Alan Watts wisdom in my life. But its only the right time to be open to learn something new when its the right time. One of Alan Watts books that I highly recommend is ‘The Wisdom of Insecurity’.

Another way to express this is security is an illusion. We can of course think and feel that we are secure and this is clearly advantageous and quells many anxieties. Of course there is nothing stopping a previously undiscovered comet, an alien race or ‘natural disaster’ wiping all humanity of our globe like a grease spot.

If we make a distinction come working definition that anxiety is the worrying and accompanying negative emotional response about possible / probable future events that may or may not happen. We can immediately ‘see’ that this is a thought constructed realm. It hasn’t happened yet and may not happen at all. And of course it feels remarkable real.

Anxiety and The Stress Response

Biologically speaking our stress response ( heart rate elevation, increased respiration, adrenaline and glucocorticoid production ) are specifically activated when our bodies experience a physical stressor.

This could be defined as having our physical life in immediate danger and accessing the fuel to freeze and play dead, run away or even fight tooth and nail to survive.

In this instance our bodies respond to immediate physical danger and by way of complex electro-chemical interactions kick start our emergency escape systems. Our Hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal ( HPA ) system lurches into overdrive accessing and creating massive energy to run away while monitoring the developing situation. A bit like a semi-stuck accelerator on a car.

Our problems with anxiety become transparent because with negatively emotionally driven anxiety, created with only thought and imagination alone the same system ( our stress response ) can become highly activated. And guess what? No physical danger.

And guess what else? Everybody does this from time to time. But for some people this can become habitual because of life conditions or situations where there seems like a huge loss of control in day to day life.

What Can I Do To Ease Anxiety?

If we think about anxiety as thinking about some bad case scenario without any seeming solutions to escape, just a cycle of worry causing negative emotions which in turn cycle into more worry and negative emotions.

One solution is to find a way of the merry-go-round by doing just about anything else. That’s just the trouble isn’t it? It can feel like there is no way off the merry-go-round. The question is then how can I take my mind of the present anxious worries?

One factor in anxious arousal is a lack of feeling of control. So doing anything that can feel like you are making choices ( such as praying, meditating, going for a walk, playing a computer game, doing a cross word puzzle, adding up lists of numbers ) is you making and acting on your choices.

Such activities also makes use of the area in our brains in the frontal cortex ( Dorsal Lateral Prefontal Cortex ) that is part our the worry circuit. So potentially instead of worrying we are using thought to do something more productive.

There are also lots of physical exercises that by way of design make use of both our brain hemispheres. There is some empirical evidence that activities such as Brain-Gym, Swimming, Running, Juggling and Singing ( words and melody ) can alleviate anxiety.

Hypnotherapy In Newcastle To Help You Help Yourself

It took me some years to listen to my good friends recommendations about reading Alan Watts books. Up until I read my first one I had been resisting for all manner of reasons ( that would be a story of what I was doing instead ) but when I did, withing just a few pages I was reading something that was speaking to me in ways that complemented so very much of the work and interests I was engaged with.

Perhaps I can say with some accuracy, that none of what I read was new and at the same time it was a new way of thinking about similar ideas. This is what I call the cascade effect. When there is a threshold passed where ideas, thoughts and actions emerge. For me at that time I simply needed to be open enough to begin reading and see for myself.

And like I said I used to get paid to worry writing software code. What I wasn’t getting paid for was lots of thankless anxiety and way too much stress so I made a decision and chose to leave that job some sixteen years ago and pursue a much more meaningful profession. But that is another story.

If you are struggling with anxiety and the often negative emotional effects then hypnotherapy may be a solution for you.

For a free consultation to see if I can help you, give me ( Nigel ) a call on 0770 481 8467 Tuesday to Friday between 8am and 3.30pm and we can arrange a mutually convenient consultation.

 

 

 

The Bitter-Sweet Lemons of Anxiety : How Hypnotherapy Can Help Beat Anxiety

Everybody knows what a lemon looks like right? Now as you read on, imagine you have a lemon in one of your hands. Feel the weight and look at the imaginary lemon in your hand. Notice the colour and the texture of the skin.

Continue imagining the lemon in your hand and as you do, imagine cutting a thin slice out and from the lemon and recall the smell as you cut into it. The lemon scent that you are so familiar with. Now, imagine looking at that slice and see the light on the cut segment as you see the juice on the skin and smell that juicy lemon scent.

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Now put that lemon slice in your mouth, noticing the texture and bite down on the juicy lemon slice. Feel the juice squirt in your mouth as you really taste the lemon.

Right now, even if you just read the words, more so if you engaged in the process, you are salivating having a physical reaction. Depending if you like lemon or not your face is a little contorted with the imagined taste or maybe you are enjoying the refreshing experience.

Whatever is happening with your face and body, you are responding to an experience that is totally created in your imagination. Another experience totally manufactured in your imagination is anxiety.

Anyone who can make themselves anxious by worry is very good at self hypnosis because you do this to yourself with your thoughts. It’s not a particularly productive or massively useful application of self hypnosis yet that is what it is.

Hypnotherapy and Anxiety

Now the application of Hexham or Newcastle hypnotherapy for anxiety can take a variety of different approaches which will be specific to both how and the type of anxiety my client displays.

Hypnotherapy can address specific problems that a great deal of conscious effort, tapping and not actually dealing with the cause will usually fail to make long lasting positive impact with.

One very important factor is DO NOT expect a miracle effortless one session cure because the anxious person will only worry it WILL NOT WORK and after all how many people do we know that has either been struck by lightning or a meteor? That is unlikely to happen, as are most things people worry about.

Anxiety is predominantly about imagined events and scenarios from a future that may or may not happen. Anxiety is an unchecked worry machine that is focused on a future you don’t want.

Most of us really don’t know about the structure of our thoughts, the types of thought that generate anxiety.

Even less of us have been taught to understand how we think and that by knowing how we think we are so much more able to positively alter the negative thought patterns that produce anxiety.

How Is Anxiety Caused?

The vast majority of anxiety is caused by an making negative internal pictures about the future and an internal voice that asks the ‘What if? and ‘As if?’ questions that will have a tendency to be biased towards negative situations.

Anxiety is related to a perceived lack of control about the environment situations in the future as well as a certain predilection to think about bad or negative outcomes.

As an example let’s say you have to do a presentation to a group of people.

An anxious persons response may be immediately imagine the group laughing at them because they have started blushing, turned red and choked up. And remembering the lemon started feeling bad.

A non-anxious, someone else, may have thought “A presentation about what?”

Another hugely important factor is where the sufferer of anxiety has the majority of their attention. To worry and think the negative things there has to be a of lack of focus of attention in the outside world and a greater focus of attention within the mind.

Have you ever been worrying enough ( inside your own worry machine, listening to all the what ifs ) that you have completely failed to hear what someone else is saying to you? It’s not that uncommon.

Now what is important ( remember the lemon? ) is that you weren’t born anxious it is a way you have learned to think. Like most thinking patterns it is done mostly without much conscious thought. The good news is you can learn new ways in thinking, ones that offer you more control in how you think.

You can learn new ways of directing your attention so you can be more present in your relationships and ideally start to work to retrain your thoughts and thinking.

How Many Sessions?

How long have you had anxiety for? I don’t think it should take as long to cure anxiety as you’ve had it for though it will take a reasonable amount of time and more so some effort on your behalf.  If you are willing to put effort into your freedom, the release from anxiety because you want to make real positive changes in your life, you can.

An anxious thought pattern may well be “What if I have a session and it doesn’t work?” You are worrying about finances and about your own outcomes and already building a negative anticipation. Don’t worry we will talk this through during our telephone consultation.

A different and more enabling thought pattern is this “Let’s find out what can be done and what my role will be in turning my anxious thoughts off or to a minimum and what role will Nigel have as therapist and coach.”

Free Consultation for Hypnotherapy in Newcastle or Hexham

There is a free telephone consultation available for anyone wishing to become more free of anxiety. This will take up to 30 minutes because it is right for you to find the therapist who is best for you and so you fully understand your role in the therapeutic process. Call 0770 4818 467 now.

Phobia Hypnotherapy Newcastle

A phobia is one in a class of recognised anxiety disorders. A phobic response is a fear response. Most often characterised as a highly disproportionate response to some stimulus that is neither dangerous of life threatening.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle can help suffers with the psychological aspects of their irrational or rational phobic responses. The response, a phobic one, is most always learned in our early formative years, a time when learning was way too easy and as such becomes a habit.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle Phobia

As far as is known, there are no inbuilt or hard wired phobias. The myth that people ( and monkeys ) are genetically or disposed to a fear of snakes is simply not true. What is true is there are biases towards a fear of snakes for humans and our primate cousins.

A lab monkey never exposed to a snake in many generations does not have an inbuilt fear of snakes, but, interestingly enough, show the lab monkey another monkey’s fear response to a snake and bingo, there is a massive transference.

Here in the UK, there are no deadly snakes or spiders. Sure there are Adder’s of which I have seen one some four years ago while running in Thrunton Woods on a very hot day. I ran right around that! So a phobia in the sense here is an irrational fear.

The last part of our brain to ‘come on line’ or to be fully myelinated is the frontal cortex. For most adults this happens in the early 20’s. This is the Universes gift to unlearning phobia and fears.

On a neurological level the Amygdala is highly metabolically active in the Limbic System and gives rise to feeling of fear, anxiety and you guessed it phobic responses. In some senses our savior is the Frontal Cortex that through effort and some de-conditioning of the amygdala response can blunt and remove what used to be a phobia.

Another extremely useful response in alleviating phobias is laughter and irrelevance. The more you laugh the less able you are to be phobic. This has some serious reference to your physiology, which is another aspect you can control.

I worked with a client who had a dog phobia. They had a fear of dogs and displayed some physical signs of allergy reaction when in the presence of a dog. Mainly around their eyes and a heavy, labored breathing. After successful resolution of that old response they requested to know ‘why’ is was that way.

During regression hypnosis we traced back the initial imprinting experience to a bus ride when they were six years old. A big dog jumped up at them while they were playing with the dog. Their father became massively anxious and worried that the dog had hurt them, picking them up and ‘raving’ at the dog owner. This seemingly transferred to my client.

Knowing the why’s and hows of a trauma or anxiety imprint are not required in changing behavioral responses. Knowing how this happened wouldn’t, I think, have helped my client become comfortable with dogs. Yet this is a great example of how early imprinting and environment can cause anxiety responses.

For a free consultation regarding your freedom from phobia, call hypnotherapy Newcastle and talk with me, Nigel on 0770 481 8467. Act now – if I am free we will talk otherwise please leave a message. Calls usually returned within 24 hours.

 

Hypnotherapy Newcastle – Anxiety & Stress Self Help

Stress & Anxiety Self Help What can You Do?

There are five aspects of helping yourself to better manage anxiety and stress. Hypnotherapy can usually assist you in this seemingly Augian task to change how you perceive your ability to cope, act and predict your future. There is of course a great deal you can do yourself. This is what follows: Take Action! Watch the following video. Then do something about your situation.

If you are interested in making some seriously positive changes, without a magic wand and some effort, then you should read on because this is the building material of generative change.

It is not quick fix because these usually don’t live in the real world and in your heart of hearts you know this. And you know this real change will require effort to transform yourself, irrespective of utilising hypnotherapy Newcastle to assist you in making serious change in your life. It will still take effort – if you want it…

There are five factors in the following video that pave the way to you having a better quality of life – when you adopt and incorporate these into you way of life – yes you will still have problems but they will be a better class of problems…

These changes will probably not come overnight in an instant flash of freedom – yet by being more aware of things you most likely already to, you are more able to cope with anxiety and stress. Non of these will change your situation, these factors have the power to help you change how you respond and cope!

Your psychological well-being and health have more to do with your outlook, coping mechanisms and dare I say it your beliefs than the actual environment, that is to say, the most influence you can have in a situation is down to you!

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This doesn’t mean you are the absolute creator and maker of your own situations. The kind of well meaning yet misguided kind of writing with the promise of hollow hope that support this are pretty poor. Misdirections are the commons understanding of the ‘law of attraction’ or ‘The Secret’. the real secret is you will need to do something about your situation – this means effort!

You know as well as I do, we don’t control our environment or situations.

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We can have massive influence on how these are, but control? Come on! By being more emotionally resilient and flexible and having better adaptive responses we are more able to have a better class of problems and rise to the occasion better. We are much more able to shape our futures too.

Having watched the video, I hope you have gathered some real good ideas you will put into practice. The onus is with you.

For additional help with hypnotherapy to help you shape you perceptions and motivations coupled with some real action call Nigel on 0770 481 8467 for a free consultation to see if hypnotherapy in Newcastle is for you.

Anxiety Self Help – Newcastle Hypnotherapy

Hypnotherapy can and often is a helpful solution to common anxiety, even in its less common extreme forms. What follows are some self help tips for helping you to become less anxious and more at ease and calm in problem situations.

Firstly it is important to clarify what ‘Anxiety’ means here. Anxiety here means worry about the future, the imminent future or soon to be present or even aspects of the past – that will in turn produce consequences in the future.

This will have likely little bearing on certain kinds of anxiety conditions like PTSD though could help with aspects of conditions like a Phobia.

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So in this instance, dispensing with technical terms, we are talking just good old straight forward, bread and butter anxiety. That what most of us know as every day excessive worry.

ANXIETY = UN-CONTROL

Anxiety in this instance is Un-Control. Put this another way, if you could control the future to turn out just the way you want there would be absolutely no anxiety. If this makes sense to you then you are on your way to a little more freedom from anxiety. If this doesn’t then you are not anxious.

There are aspects of the future you can strongly influence and aspects of the future where you are literally in the hands of your own god, the universe or any witnessing deity that happens to be present. The agnostic deity Umnotsure is a favourite, when it can be found.

Understanding what you can reasonably control and what you can’t is an important distinction that can, in most instances, ease life’s stressors or to put it another way ease anxiety.

There are essentially five factors that relate to living more free-er from anxiety and worry and these have much more to do with perception of events and not the events in and of themselves.

  1. Predictability
  2. Sense of Control
  3. Social Support
  4. Outlets for Frustrations
  5. Sense of Getting Better

These five are based in strong research from among others Professor Sir Michael Gideon Marmot’s famous Whitehall study, spanning some 20 plus years and 20 thousand UK civil service and Professor Robert Maurice Sapolsky’s over decades with our hirsute cousins, baboons in the Serengeti. The parallels are scary!

Hypnotherapy Newcastle is about changing our perspectives and adaptive responses to life. When this works well we are gifted with new and alternative ways to progress through life’s challenges and opportunities. Ideally so that we are not experiencing the same old problem, anxiety, again and again.

Hypnotherapy is a way to re-educate the learned responses we have all learned during the course of our lives in a way that is generative and builds in new and more adaptive coping mechanisms so we are not experiencing the same old problems in the same old ways.

You might not believe this immediately but anxiety or excessive worry is a learned habit. In order to be really anxious there has to be an underlying structure or process you use – your imagination – that is in itself a process of self hypnotism. Think about it, to be anxious, you are imagining a future that breeds anxiety.

We would be noting without anxiety, or more precisely the ability to worry, and at the same time, equally in fact, the ability to imagine and create the most amazing futures for ourselves and those who come after us.

It is a double edged sword that makes us, when we truly think, and act, a process in the imagination that could be used just as readily to bring bliss and joy as anxiety and worry.

What Can You Do? Really?

Number one is do, systematically, something about it! You have to be prepared to expend effort to learn a new habit. Think, seriously, about learning to write with your other hand. This is an of itself is an excellent way to stop your mind ticking over in worry mode.

Count up all the time you have been a worry wart! 15 minutes? 1 hour, 3 hours 5 hours a day? Every day? Every day for years? When this number is totalled it is often quite a shock to the system.

Yes can you imagine the kind of differences you could make if the same time just each day was used contemplating and imagining a delightful future. So most people do worry by talking to themselves ( often in a voice tone that they wouldn’t use on another person! ) and imagining a pretty unpleasant future.

There are very likely very specific words or phrases and memories that a worrier will use with some regularity. Discover yourself, what these are and learn, through patience and repetition to reprogram them into something helpful and kind.

So, talking to yourself much more kindly ( answering back is fine too! ) and using the same words to talk to yourself about the future you actually want. Adding what you would like to see and hear. Most of all take time and invest in your long term health and happiness.

Realistic Expectation for Change

This is usually NOT an overnight cure for long term problems. If you have been anxious for many years then it is kind of pretty unreasonable to anticipate an immediate cure that is not medication or surgery based. Even then it is most likely not the case!

This takes effort – and little by little. Think about learning to walk or talk! It takes time and persistence! It does happen, it just takes time, trust me! Reprogramming your internal speech patterns is one way to give yourself more perceived control in life. Remember anxiety is about UN-Control. The more control you can affect the less anxiety.

Excess stress and anxiety is know not to be salubrious. That means your health can suffer with excess stress and strain in your life. After one week of intense stress the thymus gland which is responsible for the production of T-cells, in the endocrine immune system can shrink to 25% of normal size. Lose the stress and the thymus makes a full recovery and can produce the T-cells required for a health immune response.

The philosopher Alan Watts mentioned a right wing democrat ( he moved from the UK to the US ) that because is their right wing ( metaphor ) attitude would never take a left turn when driving. All they did was drive talking right turns, this is mad! To be able to KNOW the rough is to know the smooth, to know good is to know evil. And to know anxiety is to know calm.

Anxiety Hypnotherapy Facts

Hypnotherapy Newcastle is is about a real integration with seemingly inconsolable opposites. Or at least to get going in ways that work, where you can see and feel you are making progress. Let’s be clear sometimes ‘miracles’ in hypnotherapy happen but that is not a good commitment from you, to have an expectation that a hypnotherapy can ‘cure’ you from years of suffering in one session is learning in some aspects to continue to be helpless.

There has to be a real commitment from you, and that is a required ingredient in real change, change that is generative. If it wasn’t think about how many hypnotherapists, theta healers or ‘magic’ workers would be claiming real success. Truth is the real ones don’t. The charlatans and snake oilers do. Sorry but this approach, the one I apply is psychological and often physiological and you wont, can’t be a passive observer!

This approach helps you deal with the head and body aspects yet at the same time most requires input and energy from you. You will be given tasks, post or pre session to implement the psychological and behavioural aspects of change into your life.

For a completely free consultation, for anxiety help using hypnotherapy and psychological NLP techniques call Nigel Hetherington on 0770 481 8467.

 

Newcastle Hypnotherapy – Public Speaking

Hypnotherapy Newcastle for Public Speaking fears, worries and unavoidable panics. People worry about lots of aspects regarding speaking in public, addressing an audience and not appearing as a shaking, stuttering wreak. Lost nights of sleep leading up to an event and excessive planning.

The fear of public speaking is as common as muck. It has plagued and will plague countless people causing worry, anxiety and the shrinking violet sensation of wishing to be anywhere, anywhere other than doing that public speech.

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If you have had them, you know from experience the kinds of worries, fears and often absolute dread the knowledge of having to make a public speech can have on people. People like you, who are faced with nameless terrors about how badly it could be to fuck up really, really badly making an absolute ass of yourself by going to pieces and getting it all wrong in that crucial public speaking engagement.

Thing is, now, probably more than every before, we are called upon or need to make public speeches in our business, social or personal enterprises. That is the way of it today, so, what can you do to become more at ease and composed to make a great impression? Please read on to see how hypnotherapy Newcastle can help you deliver a great speech and stay focused on what is really important.

Psychology of Public Speaking Problems

Have you ever talked with a really negative, depressing type of person? Have you noticed how they seem to expect the worst, are caught up in problems and not much fun to be around? Well if you are worrying, fretting about Public Speaking performance you are probably doing the exact same but you are talking to yourself.

A very common aspect of anxiety is the use of self talk to generate problem focused scenarios that have the power to cause anxiety, worry and the physical conditions of a stress response. “What if …” is by far the most common way people make themselves anxious. Here are some examples.

  • “What if I forget what I am supposed to say?”
  • “What if I make a fool of myself?”
  • “What if I shake and sweat?”
  • “What if I can’t answer questions?”
  • “What if I blush and faint?”

All of these are pretty common ways people make themselves more anxious about Public Speaking. If you think about it, these questions are a form of unhelpful self hypnosis that negatively affect a persons state. But it’s not just the words!

The tonality and speed of how we talk to other people can change the meaning of the words. So if a person talks to themselves in a fast and ‘worrying’ tone it will have more of a negative impact. And there is more though! These ‘what ifs’ lead to further unanswered questions for instance;

“What if I forget what I am supposed to say?” implies that something will happen as a consequence, of course it would. It could lead to huge embarrassment and humiliation, it could lead to not being asked to present that important presentation again and not being invited for a pay rise, promotion and extra bonus, it could lead to reassignment to Sunderland.

You are creating a very large and negative self fulfilling prophesy because you have been rehearsing what could go wrong.

Physiology of Public Speaking Problems

You are activating your stress response. This is indicative of hight sympathetic nervous system arousal so there is plenty of adrenaline and noradrenaline  in your system. You heart is probably beating faster, your systolic and diastolic blood pressure has increased, your mouth is dry and there are probably knots in your stomach.  You are probably not having what is called a good time.

Meanwhile, your brain is analysing your body responses, making meaning of the various aspects of the unwanted stress response and coming to the conclusion that your body is not having a good time and this really does influence your mood and adds to the anxiety you are experiencing. Its a vicious circle.

So about now all of those imagined fears are probably to make a physical manifestation. You feel you are starting to visibly shake, all of those ‘worst case scenarios’ have their opportunities to be enacted, blushing, word amnesia to name just a few. Your breathing is likely a bit too fast and high in your chest so both literally and metaphorically you are unbalanced and off centre.

Three Things Really Good Presenters Know

There are three aspects to doing a great presentation that you can learn ( through practice ) to do in order to dramatically improve your performance when engaging in Public Speaking. There are more than three but these three are big ones!

  • Stay Relaxed in the body. Avoid unnecessary tension and stay relaxed.
  • Use your peripheral vision. Avoid focusing myopically on anyone or anything and stay peripherally open.
  • Quiet on the inside. Avoid talking to yourself ( on the inside ) as this splits your attention. Learn through experience to flow!

Hypnotherapy for Public Speaking Fears

Public speaking is a very, very common fear. It could be a cultural, British thing and also likely a combination of perceived ‘high stakes’ and lack of experience of speaking to groups and large gatherings. In short it is perfectly normal!

Hypnotherapy Newcastle can help you to learn how to manage and change your fears into ways to start to rehearse how you actually want your performance to be. After all it makes much more sense to plan for success that failure. Also we will be using hypnosis to help you feel much more comfortable, so ideally you can enjoy the whole experience and keep your attention focused on your audience.

Some methods that are not used at Newcastle hypnotherapy are visualising the audience naked. This is a pretty old and I think a really odd idea. If I walked into a group for a speaking engagement and the audience were naked I would leave, not the kind of group I would want to talk with. This kind of technique probably says a lot more about the therapist and their ways of ( not ) thinking.

Other methods that will not be used are the arrogance based ones. These include, but are not limited to having mantras like “fuck the audience, I am in charge here”, “these people are mine” and talking over the top of any peoples questions. I found these uncharming techniques from people who have seen other hypnotherapists before they found me.

For a completely free, no obligation telephone consultation for help with Public Speaking or help with any hypnotherapy related problem call Nigel on 0770 481 8467. This will take around 20 minutes.

Anxiety Hypnotherapy – A Living Paradox

Get help with your anxiety problems with hypnotherapy in Newcastle. People are not born anxious, we learn to be that way. Good news anxiety is un-learnable.

Charles Tebbitts stated that one of the ‘rules of the mind’ is that opposing thoughts can not be held at the same time. This is absolute twaddle.

In hypnotherapy Charles Tebbetts is a mighty name from the past. He did really exceptional pioneering work. He formulated some ‘Rules’ of the mind.

One of which is that “opposing ideas can’t be held at the same time” – Apart from the metaphorical contradiction, they can and do and are.

A simile for this is trance. A word for this is paradox and a meaning is transformation from a greater and new perspective.

While anxiety is un-learnable in people and animals, as people it is possible to use the exact same STRUCTURES to transform worry and anxiety into positive anticipation and well-being. This of course takes practice and commitment.

A Bout Of Anxiety

The body’s stress response is activated. Depending on the intensity of the response the terms may be deemed Anxious Arousal ( high ) or Anxious Apprehension ( less ). It is still the same body response.

Positive body stress is actually quite good, this is called stimulation. This is like going for a run, moderate exercise or some other positive activity.

A negative, and usually unwarranted stressor has all the same hall mark plus some metabolic activation of the Amygdala. This is a key neuro-biological difference.

In a fear or anxiety response there are, in a simplistic way, four nuclei in the brain activated. These lead to pretty much the same body responses hormonally.

ANXIETY – FEAR – STRESS

There are four brain areas activated.

  • Amygdala
  • Hippocampus
  • Frontal Cortex
  • Reticular Formation

Not surprisingly the hippocampus ( involved with memory ) is active. This means we are learning to be afraid or learning to be anxious.

The amygdala is all about fear, sexual behaviour in males and is a biological learning component of fear. This little bugger responds well to stress hormones and at the same time, kind of, overrides the normal hippocampus conscious learning function.

The reticular formation is a rhombencephalon, reptile brain nuculii that has a great deal to do with attention and in this instance, the blue spot ( locus coeruleus ) thrives on noradrelanine, a neuro transmitter involved in the stress response.

All of this is a scientific and neuro biological explanation of what is happening at a very small level of detail. Knowing all of this really wont stop anxiety, it is what we can do with this knowledge that can make a difference. A real difference!

Un Learning Anxiety

When laboratory rats ( like in Martin Seligmans ) un-learn learned depression, when OCD sufferors un-learn OCD there are two very important aspects or functions that metabolically change in terms of a stress response.

This is dirt cheep to know and can take effort, sweat and can also happen in just a few hours. The Amygdala lowers in metabolic activity and the Frontal Cortex increases in activity.

How this is accomplished can be a process of hypnotherapy for anxiety, cognitive and behavioural activity and a genuine commitment to change.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle offers committed and well structures ways for you to achieve freedom from anxiety … before you call … be sure of this …

The kind of people I want to work with to make positive changes are people who have made a solid decision to change. This is you when you are sure you are no longer willing to live anxious and both want and are committed to freedom from anxiety.

Professional hypnotherapy in Newcastle upon Tyne from Nigel Hetherington. Call on 0770 481 8467 or download and return your questionnaire. Calls are answered in 24 hours during working days.

 

Hypnotherapy Jesmond Exam Nerves – Nigel Hetherington

When the pressure, the exam pressure, is on and you have to perform because your future depends on a great performance, hypnotherapy for exam nerves and confidence can help you ace that exam. An Exam is about meeting a certain criteria but an exam can be thought about as’the worst that can happen.’ This is what we call ‘worry.’

Hypnotherapy is a common antidote to all kinds of exam nerves. Exams come in various forms; Written exams at college and university. Practical exams like a driving test or a presentation exam. For some people these create the worst possible environment and situations. Hands going clammy, mouth dry, you sweat and your mind can go blank. This is exam stress and hypnosis in Jesmond can help you beat it. We all worry about something! Don’t worry!!

But we do worry! Things that can end life worry us like cancer tests. Testicular or breast cancer screening or testing are massive worries for most. This is just an exam … This is just a check up of your knowledge but in some experiences it is just as worrisome as a cancer scare.

Hypnotherapy Jesmond Exam

Exam Nerves Hypnosis Jesmond

In a nut shell. Something happens and you lose it. You lose access to all the stored facts and ability to recall what you know you know. Why? Excess stress response. What is happening?

Your body is having a massive stress response. Hydrocortisone is marinating your nervous system and your hippocampus is getting over ridden by the amygdaloid bodies. It’s biological panic time and you can’t do squat about it.

Result, your Episodic memory goes for a leave and your body is ready to save your life. Trouble is there is not life threat. What you have is a completely out of proportion stress response and your mind has just gone blank. You just failed an exam and the colloquialism is “your fucked”. But it doesn’t have to be this way.

Learning Is State Dependent

Learning and access to your learnings, knowledge and behaviours are directly linked to the state you learn in. Your behaviours are state dependent and your state in an exam, to a very large extent, will mediate how well you perform.

A persons ‘state’, a word often used with great imprecision ( like self Esteem ) requires a solid definition in the same way an exam performance needs to be solid. So what does your state comprise of and what does ‘state’ mean?

A persons state can be defined as the sum total of the neuro-biological metabolic activity, but this really is not so helpful a definition. Breaking this down a little more; State is composed of breathing ( respiration ), endocrine activity, body positions and muscle tone  ( physiology ), mind activity ( psychology ) and neuronal activity ( nervous system ). That’s quite a lot of jargon.

Breathing And How You Breath

How you breath can dramatically affect how you feel and perform. This is a basic yoga and nlp principle. A person is shocked and the breathing changes. A person is excited and the breathing changes. A person is in love and the breathing changes. States produce breathing patterns and so breathing patterns produce states. In yoga this is called Pranayama – breath control.

Endocrine Activity

Our bodies have several endocrine glands. An endocrine gland releases hormones into the blood stream.  These hormones affect how we feel. Get massively stressed and there are stress hormones active for hours in the blood stream. Short term and in moderation these are health and mental activity promoting factors. Go overboard and the opposite happens.

A little stress or in other words pressure or stimulation and these can be really beneficial. To much and pressure becomes acute and we suffer, our ability to recall well rehearsed facts, answers and routines goes out the window.

Posture and Muscle Tone

One the the worlds leading coaches has said “physiology is king”, apart from the masculine accent, they are saying how you hold your posture affects your emotions and your performance. Crunch yourself up into a little tight ball and most people will report this is uncomfortable and learning is difficult. Stand tall or sit comfortably with a straight spine and relax any tense muscles and most report learning is easier.

Psychology – Your Thoughts

What you say to yourself, the thoughts and images that drive through your imagination and memory seriously affect your performance in an exam. Start the internal devil of “What if I can’t … ” or “I am not going to be able to pass …” and the wheel of doubt is in motion. Negative thoughts and images, real or imaginary, can adversely affect the ability to recall, replicate and think straight.

Thoughts, images and concepts have the power to create negative stress. You could test this out by imagining failing or flunking a very important exam and the long term consequences of any such ‘failure’. This is basically what people with anxiety problems do so very well enough to create a bodily state that is repressive and to a greater or larger extent prevents success and good feeling.

Neurology – Nervous System Responses

Putting conscious movement and thoughts aside for a moment or two. The involuntary or automatic nervous system comes in two parts. The para-sympathetic, rest, tend, relax, befriend. And the sympathetic nervous system, freeze, flight and fight. Stress activate the sympathetic system.

Stress and there is excess adrenaline and noradrenaline  diffused throughout your body. This is what you feel as a stomach churning fear. Get this in an exam? It’s not so helpful. Well maybe it is if you want to run away.

 Exam Nerves Solutions With Hypnotherapy

Assuming you know your stuff, you want to deal with and make at ease the exam nerves that create the stress response, knock you out of your learning state and have the potential to totally screw up your future. What is happening is you have an unconscious response that is as frisky as a wilde horse out the stable.

Hypnotherapy for exam nerves is all about changing the unconscious response because hypnotherapy is about changing unconscious responses.

Jesmond Hypnotherapy Exam

Instead of fretting and worrying, give Nigel a call on 0770 481 8467 for a free consultation regarding exam stress and how hypnotherapy in Jesmond can help you to be in the right state to pass your exams.  This will take around 20 minutes of your valuable study time.

Phobia Hypnotherapy Newcastle – Nigel Hetherington

Hypnotherapy can help you become free of phobic responses that can leave a person a shaking wreck, incapacitated and having a full on major stress response. A phobia is not a fear, a phobia is classified as an anxiety disorder.

We are using hypnotherapy here to unlearn an out of proportion response to some stimulus. So if the phobia is of spiders, we are using hypnotherapy to unlearn the particular response to spiders and to have a different, more mediated response to spider stimulus. Phobia have very specific triggers.

Phobia Hypnotherapy Newcastle

Nobody is born with phobic responses – they are learned. While there seems to be a body of evidence that suggest some inbuilt fears of snakes, spiders and heights there is no evidence that any of these makes us genuinely phobic of them.

A phobic response will be ‘learned’ in a very stressful or terrifying situation. Assume there is or there feels like a life or death situation. The sympathetic nervous system will be releasing noradrelanin, the endocrine system will be releasing stress hormones. Our body is completely geared up to make a survival attempt.

Our amygdala’s will be massively activated and our memory of this situation or it’s moments will be being formed. Formed because should we survive this situation then it will make perfect sense that should a similar situation ever occur we have a memory template to save our skins again.

When we are responding to a gigantic life or death type stressor ( or the sense of extreme fear or terror ) the hippocampus becomes less affective at storing our memories and the role to some extent is mediated by the amygdala. It is the amygdala that plays a crucial role in a phobic response as part of the unconscious limbic system response.

Neil Slade talks about clicking or tickling the amygdala to pacify an over active amygdala to reduce anxiety, fear or any unwanted unconscious activation. This could be thought of a mindfulness activity. The accent is having an pretty much unconscious and unwanted nervous system response stop.

Hypnotherapy can be used to re-educate a particular,in this case phobic, response to a stimulus that most likely poses no danger at all. Nobody knows how hypnosis works quickly to remove a phobia. What is evidenced is that an unconscious process can be changed using hypnotherapy.

Phobia or Fear?

Many people describe a fear or an apprehension as a phobia. These are really very different things.  Being apprehensive is a little wary and courage can usually overcome fear. A phobic response will leave a person incapacitated, flooded with adrenaline, paralysed with fear or running away hell for leather.

Hypnotherapy Jesmond and Newcastle can help you overcome phobias, fears and social apprehensions. Nigel works from Jesmond Therapy Centre, 7 Holly Avenue West easy accessible hypnotherapy North Shields, Durham and Sunderland. Call Nigel on 0770 481 8467 for help with phobia.

 

Hypnotherapy Trauma & PTSD – Nigel Hetherington Hypnotherapy

Hypnotherapy is an affective way to deal with psychological and emotional trauma. Post Traumatic Stress Disorder ( PTSD ) and Traumatic memories leave survivors with scars, that live on in forever reoccurring states of severe distress when the actual danger is long passed, never quite heal.

Trauma is defined here as the result of a massively emotional and or physical situation where a person has survived but is still from time to time experiencing the negative real-time emotional responses that are debilitating, hugely stress inducing and crippling to every day life.

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A potential traumatic event that can mediate PTSD could literally be anything. This could be a life or death situation, physical and emotional violence or a huge emotional loss. Some people seems to experience such situations and be able to get on with their life but others can’t or don’t.

PTSD And Flash Backs

Take an extreme stressor. This could be a conflict in a war zone, a rape, physical violence or a car crash. In those moments the body will be seeped and drenched in a cocktail of stress hormones and neuro-transmitters. The Amygdala is hyper active and every cell in the body is doing the freeze, flight flight natural reaction.

With this chemical bodily infusion the Hippocampus, where short and long term conscious memories are made, literally shuts down and the amygdaloid ‘memories’ as of how to survive is quite rightly active. The amygdala is learning to promote the response of ‘how to survive’. Problems occur when this survival response becomes the norm or becomes a totally out of proportion response. This is PTSD.

What results is an EXTREME format of neuro-biological learning. IF a person survives there is an intense reaction and an intense learning. This learning is a body wisdom learning. It will not be conscious, that is too slow to save a life.

Environmental triggers, like a similar car, a loud noise or something or a little part of the trigger events in everyday life set of the survival response.

Using hypnotherapy for Eye Movement Integration Plus for PTSD to re-educate the unconscious response offer real ways for the nervous system to change a survival pattern in all the wrong circumstances into new way of being.

Contact Nigel Hetherington on 0770 481 8467 when you want to be free of a totally out of whack BUT totally understandable bodily response that is traumatic memories or PTSD using hypnotherapy and EMIPlus.

 

Hypnotherapy Newcastle – Generalised Anxiety Disorder ( GAD )

Clinical hypnotherapy for anxiety in Newcastle can help you mediate anxious responses that are extremely stressful and seem to serve no positive purpose. Newcastle hypnotherapy for generalised anxiety disorder ( GAD ) and helping you lean to be more at ease … because you learned to be anxious means you can learn to be at ease, which is our natural human state of being.

have you ever wondered WHY some people seem to be totally free of anxiety and other people, you? are often in a state of anxious arousal or anxious apprehension? Worrying about the future. This literally defines anxiety.Hypnotherapy Newcastle Anxiety GADAnxious arousal simply means that you are feeling anxious and anxious apprehension is more about thoughts and ideation of worry. Both of these have less than positive affects on mood, the nervous system and long term health.

No one begins life as a worrier. This makes perfect sense because to worry we need the intellectual capacity do it. Babies as Piaget put it are born into the world with a Sensory-Motor consciousness; they have no idea about death, growing old, losing a job or a partner. Babies are delivered in direct experience and that experience is all about the senses. And this has no past or future.

Adrenaline And The Amygdala

All of us mammals have a limbic system. The limbic system is a deep brain region that is all about emotions. Emotions here is defined as what we feel and NOT the meaning we attribute to what we are feeling. The neuro chemical biology of hate and anger is incredibly similar to what we feel with love and joy. The same neuro-chemicals are present in both states and it is the attributions of meanings that ‘consciously’ define out state, mood and long term temperaments.

Take a particularly negative stressor and the amygdala, a small nucleus in the limbic system, will become energetically active and will mediate a sympathetic nervous system response complete with danger and anxious arousal. Go for a run or play on a roller coaster and the sympathetic nervous system will activate BUT without the amygdala. The difference is massive.

Positive stressors, like running, a scary film or bungey jumping ( if you are that way inclined ) produce gluco-corticoids that mediate positive stress responses. When the amygdala is involved this equates to worry, negative stress and what we know as worry. It’s almost the same system, its the same system the difference is the meaning, conscious and unconscious, we make of experience.

There is almost always an adrenaline and noradrelanine release when the sympathetic nervous system activates, like being angry or in-love it is the meaning that is attributed to the physical sensations that are important.

Anxiety Your Body and Environment

Your brain is always receiving and processing information from your body. The psychologist William James proposed that the body actually has an emotion and then the brain makes sense of this. This is not a crazy or strange as this reads. If you are tense, your muscles are stiff and locked,the bio-feedback from your body will actually mediate your emotions. This is why a massage can feel so relaxing and stimulate a relaxed mood.

In a psychological experiment, conducted by Schacter in the 1950’s, it was discovered that your brain has been shown to attribute a bodily state , in this case anxiety to the immediate social environment.  This means if you are a setting where anxiety and worry are common place the feelings you feel will be attributed to the environment. Environment means people around you.

What You Can Anticipate From An Appointment

Each hypnotherapy Newcastle appointment with Nigel is a totally individual experience however as a minimalist basis for treatment we will most likely explore the following : How you do anxious? The most common way people make themselves anxious is talking to themselves, with the inner voice, in the following ways.

  • Talking at a way rapid speed
  • Beginning What If statements

Talking rapidly seems to have all of the ingredients to make you think faster. Beginning What If sentences and not finishing them or taking them to a logical extreme will tend to send the brain reeling and searching out answers, often unconscious and causing more anxiety.

By knowing how you do anxious thoughts you are now in a position, which will require effort on your part, to begin to learn how to make your self feel better.

We will find where you feel anxiety in your body of you have anxious arousal and use hypnosis as a body relaxation and combine this with hemispherical activity balancing exercises.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle for Anxiety, to help you relax your worrying mind, relax your body and learn some new strategies so you can worry less and strat living a more mentally calm emotional life. Call Nigel now on 0770 481 8467.

 

 

 

Newcastle Hypnotherapy Erectile Dysfunction – Nigel Hetherington

Hypnotherapy in Newcastle for men’s help with sexual impotence. Men’s erectile problems are common though they aren’t usually discussed openly.

The most common cause of men’s erectile dysfunction is excess stress. Stress accounts for around 50% of male impotence. When you have affective methods to manage stress you are far more likely to be able to gain and maintain an erection. It can be hard to seek professional help.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle with Nigel Hetherington offers a discrete service using hypnosis and NLP to help you both relax and change your response to stress. Newcastle hypnotherapy can help alleviate male impotence and erectile dysfunction.

When we are relaxed and calm there is much more, if not all, parasympathetic nervous system activation. The parasympathetic system is what is activated after a meal, during sleep, relaxing or when meditating. When people are stressed it is sympathetic nervous system that is activate.

For a man to gain and maintain an erection, the parasympathetic nervous system must be activated.  This won’t happen if you are worried, nervous or hyper anxious about your sexual performance.

Impotence problems can naturally compound because being impotent is stressing in and of itself. It can be embarrassing as well as feeling guilt and shame.

How Hypnotherapy Newcastle Can Help

Being able to discuss your problem is usually a big relief and being able to have straight talk with a professional can actually ease a burden. Undiscussed problems of this nature can be quite inflationary in terms of anxtious apprehension so being able to talk about it can begin a change process.

There are two essential steps in dealing with what is know as psychogenic ( stress related ) impotency and to have some ideas and indications as to whether excess stress is the culprit.

Firstly using hypnosis to strengthen your responses to stress we are attempting to make you more robust to non-sexually related stressors. This can mean having better outlets for work and relationship stresses and feeling more in control of your own life.

Secondly hypnotherapy in Newcastle is used to de-couple previous problematic memories and feelings guilt and anxiety that is directly sexually related. Using hypnosis and NLP to create positive ideas and body responses that can reorganise and  straighten out your thoughts so you can relax into the mood you really want to achieve.

Identifying Stress Related Impotence

You will most likely have a very accurate idea of the stress levels in your life – if you are honest with yourself. You will know whether erection problems occur only when you are with a partner or on your own or both.

Additionally you can use Holmes and Rahe’s scale of major Life Events to explore your own ‘subjective’ stress scale day to day measures. When you believe that stress or some psychological basis is causing impotence then hypnotherapy may well be a real solution for you.

When adults enter the later, deeper stages of sleep, REM sleep they get erections. Getting erections in sleep very much suggests stress related erection problems when you are awake. So…

You can do one more personal experiment to see if your impotence has a psychogenic or stress related basis. Take a thin strip of paper or a long cigarette paper using just the adhesive part and fit this to the penis before sleeping.

This should be fitted to wrap around the girth and be loosely affixed. The fixing could be a sliver of sellotape or a dab of Pritstick glue or the natural adhesive gum on a cigarette paper.

The idea is, the ring of paper you have fitted around the girth ( think of a napkin holder ) will open or break if you experience an erection during sleep.  Check if the lightly attached paper has broken during your sleep.

Hypnotherapy in Newcastle for erectile dysfunction and stress related impotence with consultant hypnotherapist Nigel Hetherington. Call now for a free consultation on 0770 481 8467.

Stress Hypnosis Newcastle – Nigel Hetherington

We all know a little stress or more accurately pressure can be a good thing but when there is regular excess stress on our life we suffer and our quality of life declines. You can use Newcastle Hypnosis for stress reduction and a calmer attitude to life.

The Inappropriate Stress Response

Of all the species on our planet there are only a very select few that can have a completely inappropriate stress response. What is an inappropriate stress response you may be asking?

The human stress response consists of a very rapid mobilisation of energy, glucose that is ‘designed’ to save your life from a life or death episode. At the same time energy storage is stopped adrenalin and noradrenalin are secreted from the nerve endings of the sympathetic nervous system and glucocorticoids from your adrenal glands on top of your kidneys as all hell breaks loose.

Your heart beats faster, your pupils dilate, your blood pressure increases, your interest in sex is gone you could outrun a charging rhinoceros or at least you are all geared up to do some such escape. This is the problem with stress and way to much of it. For most of us we will not be running from elephants tigers or bears and in no way will our life be in any real danger.

The inappropriate stress response is the mobilisation of all the glucose you require to escape a charging raptor when your boss ask you to work late or you are in a traffic jam or you are worried about that meeting presentation you have to do next week.

Regular and repeated activation of your stress response is not good news for your long term health. Remember the stress response is ‘designed’ to save your life. It is a costly process. In a bout of stress the immune responses are put on hold. You don’t need them if you are going to be eaten by a pack of hungry lions.

The hormones / neurotransmitters adrenaline and noradrenaline take mere seconds to activate in the body. Glucocorticoids take minutes to act and stay in the system much longer. With repeated stress responses to the likes of bosses, exams, anxiety or public speaking the glucocorticoid hormones in the body may be on high alert for a long time, days, weeks perhaps even longer.

There have been links established between depression and high levels of glucocorticoids as well as links between anxiety and noradrenalin and adrenalin. With anxiety, depression and hypertension being some of the top diseases being overly stressed can make more likely, here are a few more :

  • Heart Disease
  • Atherosclerosis
  • Irritable Bowel Symptom
  • Ulcers
  • Type 2 Diabetes
  • Acid Reflux
  • Immune Suppression
  • Disturbed Sleep

But it is not all bad news. You can right now take steps to alleviate a completely over board stress responses which could right now begin to extend your life. The simplest and one of the best things an individual can do is take up meditation. Learning to meditate for just 10 minutes in the morning and evening will be paying you back wonders in a very short time.

Moderate exercise is also considered to be very good in managing an over active stress response and in an of itself being good for your body and immune system. I recommend joining a gym and or personal trainer for a weight lifting routine.

There are several well documented outlets and conversely inlets for out of proportions stress responses, how our bodies respond to stressors in life.  It is particularly interesting that all of these outlets / inlets are in your control, especially the ones relating to perceptions.

Professor Sir Michael Marmot over a 40 year period followed some 28,000 British civil servants. He followed their health from top manager executives to billy the tea boy.  A similar study by Professor Robert Sapolsky on Baboons over decades show similar predictors for high stress. Is this you?

  • Little social support
  • Low perceived control in life
  • Few outlets for your frustrations
  • Unpredictable environment

For help dealing with the psychological aspects of stress using hypnosis and nlp you can call in confidence for a free consultation. Get help for anxiety worry and inappropriate stress hypnotherapy Newcastle from Nigel Hetherington.

Anxiety And Your Attention – Nigel Hetherington

Anxiety is a feeling and emotion that indicates to the sufferer that everything is not right. Being overly anxious will drain and deplete energy and to excess can cause illness and wear the immune system away. Hypnosis Newcastle is an affective way for people to learn to change the feeling of unease in a variety of situations. Anxious people are not anxious all of the time, attention is not always directed at anxiety and Newcastle hypnotherapy can teach you ways to direct your attention on what is more important.

In order to know you are anxious your attention must be directed to consciously recognising the feeling and then consciously labelling or naming the physiological feelings that you call anxiety. Anxiety by definition is felt in the now and is directed to events and situations that are in the immediate or long term future but, the feeling is in the now and so it steals attention.

Anxiety is about uncertainty and the more anxious you are, the more you do it the more neurological responses you will have anticipating anxiety.

What You Have Learned To Expect = Dopamine

Dopamine is the neuro-transmitter that is largely responsible for for motivation to get you to a particular response. Dopamine is not discriminatory between a desired or undesired response … it is basically a motivator. Did you know, like any addiction your body can crave a stress response? The more unsurity about a ‘known’ reponse, the more dopamine. Anxiety is all about unsurity.

We can only have conscious appreciation of our state, in this instance anxiety, by registering and then labelling this emotion linguistically and in comparison to our past experiences. Our emotional or limbic brain, particularly the pituitary gland, stress hormones and amygdala are key neurological players here. The more worry, the more reactive response the bigger the snowball effect.

Anxiety is a form of anticipation. Anticipation can be positive or negative and what comes next should surprise you; both negatively and positively.

There is research that conclusively proves that having mastered one kind of experience, when you anticipate it again in the same kind of environment and situation when the words maybe or could be, that is when it is a 50% likely hood you are massively more likely to experience just that. Now this has a huge affect on your dopamine production. And it is dopamine that is your motivation to draw you to a specific experience. This is shown in the graph above.

Individual triggers for anxiety responses do naturally vary from person to person and will include two distinct categories of ‘behaviour’. These two categories can be conceptualised as a reactive responsive or meta-response to feelings labelled as anxiety and proactive behaviours that can generate the anxiety feelings in the first instance. Both types of response have a huge amount influence based on where an individual learns to put their attention.

Reactive behaviours to anxiety are the ways of thinking, behaving and worrying about anxiety that is already being experienced and then will logically create the next consequences that are being predicted as almost inevitable. This is a reaction to stimulus and with practice and dedication can be greatly diminished because people can, with practice and guidance learn new ways to respond.

Proactive behaviours to create anxiety are like cognitive exercises, such as worrying ahead of time, taking to yourself in rapid and unfinished sentences and hyperventilating that can all activate the reactive response that activates the sympathetic nervous system, speeds up the heart, releases glucocorticoids, adrenaline and gives that all too familiar body response that we call anxiety.

Anxiety can be pretty much summed up as a neuro-physiological stress response that is completely out of proportion and inappropriate response relevant to what is actually happening in the moment. For example imagine a person that is anxious about public speaking and is in one moment speaking publically, any anxiety response in that moment of public speaking is not about public speaking.

Anxiety is the thief of attention. It is a very much learned response and because we are, as a species, extremely good at learning once you have that pattern it can be the first and easy approach to a variety of situations. But being very good at learning, with some determination, practice and focus of your attention you can learn to have a very different and much more appropriate response.

OK so What Can You Do?

It is very simple but not necessarily very easy because making lasting changes and incorporating them into a life style that is salubrious ( look that word up ) will take some more effort on your behalf. And it is very worth your while.

I work with a great deal of clients who’s lives are so demanding they come home from work from massively stressed jobs and quite literally switch off from themselves, their partners, their friends and children. I also work with people who are seriously anxious about their relationships at home and at work so how they are with people and upcoming situations. Here is what you can do.

  1. In stead of knowing and anticipating anxiety, consider you maybe ( 50 % ) wrong about anxiety and that upcoming situation will be more or less OK.
  2. If the worst comes to the worst … acknowledge it and consider what you can do instead.
  3. Take up a regular exercise like running, weight lifting or meditation; and notice over a week and a month having done this how much more able you are managing.
  4. Notice when you are talking to yourself and stop! Put your attention outwards and be present. This does take practice and the paybacks are massive. This is a very much get out of your own head routine.
  5. Do some proactive relaxation. Lots of FREE hypnosis audio’s here.

So if none of these suggestions are for you, you do want to learn to stop anxiety and be more relaxed and present in your day to day situations then consider professional hypnotherapy Newcastle. Not expecting a one session turn around for 20 years of anxiety and making a commitment to change with Newcastle hypnosis with Nigel Hetherington can help you to to learn much better ways for coping with day to day anxiety triggers and stressors. Hypnosis in Jesmond and now Newcastle City Centre at week day lunch times. Anxiety? Act Hypnosis Newcastle solutions.

 

Newcastle Hypnosis for Guilt – Nigel Hetherington

Guilt can be a terrible emotion to live with. Hypnosis Newcastle is a way for you to release the often sharp and cutting emotional pain of guilt so you can let go of the past and move on and forward. Newcastle hypnosis can help you learn from your past and keeping the very useful learnings let go of what can be a crippling emotion we call guilt.

When people experience the emotion guilt it can be for a number of reasons. Firstly guilt can be about inaction or action. Guilt can be related to behaviour, thought or both.  Guilt can be experienced by breaking your own personal promises as in yo-yo quitting ( eg dieting, addictions, spending or arguing ) and is very much related to unresolved conflicts of your own personal values.

We can understand guilt and shame to be related to transgressions, that is to say, things a person has or has not done that are not in line with what they believe ( or worse are told ) they should or  should not have done. This feeling is directly related to values be they your own or cultural norms.

A person experiencing guilt re-running past memories, often talking to themselves and as a result feeling very bad. Bad physically and bad emotionally.

Guilt is a Type of Anxiety Disorder

One of the characteristics of anxiety is that a brain scan will often reveal that one hemisphere is more electrically active than the other. Having a real physical sensation accompanying the guilt thoughts would be characterised as anxious arousal and the majority of the activity would likely be found in the right hemisphere.

Guilt is a circular emotion in that the thoughts and feelings repeat much like Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. Obsessing about guilt may well be linked to  OCD. In OCD there is a great deal of internal mental activity that is tiring and emotionally charged.

Neurologically there is a circuit in the brain that fires with obsessive thoughts. Nerves in the caudate fire creating the urge to ‘do something’. The caudate is responsible for learning and for kinds of ‘automatic thinking’ like ‘remember to wash’ or ‘is the oven off before leaving the house’. Next the orbital prefrontal cortex is activated which gives the feeling that something is wrong. Then the cingulate cortex is activated which keeps attention focuses on feelings of unease.

The amygdalae will be activated because of stress hormones circulating in the brain and bloodstream. Guilt is a very hungry emotion in that it eats up energy, demands an inappropriate stress response and diverts mental energy.

Prolonged worry, stress and anxiety can deplete the brains neurotramsmitter dopamine which in extreme cases could lead to depression.

Stressing about something is stressing. Excessive stress activates the sympathetic nervous system and this in turn releases adrenaline and glucocorticoids which over time impair the bodies immune system along with the general care and repair mechanisms of the body. In short stress in excess as in excess guilt is really bad news for health, both physical and mental.

Possible Historical Origins of Guilt

In the history of the western religion Christianity the idea of original sin is very closely linked to guilt. On committing a ‘sin’ the resulting feeling will be ‘guilt’ and ‘sin’ here is defined as failing to act in accord with some deity’s rules about how you should live your life. A member of the religions organisation can then help the sinner atone and remove the ‘guilt’.

Guilt or the idea and feelings associated with guilt have been used for thousands of years to control populations of people. As well meaning parents of children and of institutions tell people “you should feel guilty for that!” to attempt to control behaviours or even thoughts.

Approximately 50 years after the birth of Christ ( aka Jesus, Yehoshua ben Yosef ) Saul or later St. Paul after his revelation went to find people who would listen to his message. Paul developed real listeners and followers in Corinth.

Joseph Campbell has postulated the debt and repayment theme in modern Christianity is because the people who propagated the eastern Gospels ( which became the western bible ) where the money lenders of Corinth. So it may be that the worshipping Christ to redeem ourselves before god may have originated in the credo of the merchants of Corinth.

Ignorance and Enlightenment – Remorse Not Guilt

The spirituality of the East has nothing to do with debt and repayment. Instead the Orient in terms of spiritual or some may say religious practice is about Ignorance and Enlightenment.

A great book is ‘The Art of Happiness’ by HH Dalai Lama. One story from the book is regarding a monk that killed himself following a conversation with the Dalai Lama. Although the Lama expresses real regret following on from that conversation there is no excessive guilt, no self punishment, no self induced suffering. A genuine sense of remorse without a crippling feeling of guilt can be a wonderful way to guide your actions in the future.

When dealing with guilt it is incredible important but often most difficult to forgive yourself.  Wisdom comes from great experience and great experience comes from making a huge number of ‘mistakes’. Another way to see ‘mistakes’ are as learnings in action.

Moving Through Guilt By Rethinking What Happened

When anyone who is experiencing guilt, which is by definition about the past, at the time of ‘the event’ they never set out to make themselves feel guilty. Think about it, for anything you may have at one time felt a sense of guilt about, at that time you probably did not before hand say something like “I am going to do this ‘X’ and I will feel so guilty about this afterwards BUT I’m still going to do it anyway.” Or maybe you did! At that time you were in accordance with some higher level value that you may not have been conscious of.

No, at the time you were, whether you realised it then or now, acting out on some personal value that you have. Let’s call a ‘value’ some kind of experience you want ( should do ) or don’t want ( shouldn’t do ) that is important to you.

So at the time, if you come to think about it this way, you were acting in accordance with your values. Now, guilt is a reflexive emotion that now as you look back there is a sense of regret and when it is intense enough, that is to say it conflicts with one of your values now you experience guilt as a strong and negative emotion.

As you begin to let go of the feelings of guilt you will not forget what happened. You will begin to feel differently about what happened but you will use your learnings like a behavioural guide. You can let go of the guilt and allow yourself to experience the real value you were acting out from. Recognising this value and acknowledging that you can both change your values so that as appropriate you can either choose a different way in the future or as appropriate become comfortable in your ways of being.

Sometimes it is very difficult to do this yourself and when you really do need help in transforming guilt into something akin to compassion for yourself Hypnosis Newcastle can help you. When considering hypnosis in Newcastle it is important to understand that the intention is to help you change your feelings about yourself for some event or events in the past. You will not forget those events but use these experiences in ways that can help you live a fuller life.

For professional Newcastle hypnosis for moving on from guilt telephone Nigel Hetherington on 0770 481 8467 or email as described in Booking A Therapy Session Newcastle Hypnosis.

Trauma And Intrusive Memories Hypnotherapy Newcastle

One of the most effective and content free ways I know to assist clients over and through a personal trauma and / or  intrusive memories is Eye Movement Integration ( EMI ). EMI is developed by Steve and Connirae Andreas.

Content free, very simply means, your clients, my clients don’t need to discuss ( talk about ) and re-live a seriously traumatic episode for you to assist them in making deep psychological and neurological change. Most client’s don’t want to share the intimate and painful details of a trauma, having to re-live it day in day out is enough.

This is a short video of me teaching aspects of EMI on one of my NLP Practitioner trainings. EMI is as far as I am concerned one of the most important tools in the toolbox of a professional change worker. I run regular workshops in EMI for change professionals.

If you want to see EMI in action with a real participant check out this link.

 

Anxiety Hypnotherapy Newcastle – Nigel Hetherington

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Anxiety really can be a terrible and consuming thing to experience. Another word for anxiety is WORRY. Newcastle Hypnotherapy with Nigel Hetherington can be a real solution for you.

Anxiety will often reduce your capacity to respond as well as act in the ways you truly want to experience life. Another word for anxiety is worry. Worrying about how things can go wrong or how events can all turn out bad. How would it be when you can set yourself free?

Anxiety or worry is not a disease, it is not a pathology. Many so called counsellors or therapists would have you believe this. This is not true.

Anxiety its a way, a learned way of thinking about the future. Think about this, no one as far as I know was born anxious, it was a learned behaviour. This learned behaviour is all about how to cope and deal with physical / emotional feelings.

Anxiety is a behaviour, it is not a pathology and as such does not need to be suppressed with medication. This means there is no physical disease associated with anxious behaviour. There is of course neurological activity ( ways of thinking ) that are associated with anxiety. You don’t require drugs or medication to change thought patterns. At best drugs will suppress anxiety, they will likely suppress other things too.

If anxiety is really is screwing up your life, you are worrying and worrying and as a result suffering … I can most likely help you change your behaviour. I can assist you in turning your though patterns around. The purpose being to stop worrying and start living a more satisfying and meaningful life.

Cyclic negative, anxiety producing thought patterns tend to go like this.

“What if … but then what, if I don’t … and then What if … but what if …”

So the real key here is to STOP that thought pattern and engage in a better one right …

People who behave anxiously are never anxious about some general things. You are anxious about something specific and worst of all it has not happened. Anxiety is all about thinking about the future and creating, almost always, the worst possible outcome for yourself and others. Think about it, how could it be different if you started habitually thinking about better outcomes in the future?

Newcastle Hypnotherapy for Anxiety combines NLP, Hypnosis and Humour in a way that will really help you move through your old thought patterns and into a whole new way of thinking.

If you have tried counselling and it really hasn’t worked after lots of session and you are totally committed to making the changes in your life you honestly want … act now …

For a completely confidential and solution orientated approach for you to help getting yourself out of anxiety and worry and Getting on with your life, contact me right away, [ after all being anxious and a worrier what’s the worst that can happen 😉 ] call now.

nigel@nigelhetherington .co .uk

0770 481 8467

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