Grief or painful response to loss is a purely personal experience and no one can truly know the depths of your own personal suffering. So you may be searching for real help and assistance with grief hypnotherapy Newcastle.
From the outset it is really important for you to understand grief is a perfectly normal human response to loss. Everybody at many times in life will experience this emotion. Even though there are many ‘model’ of how grief is naturally resolved, how you come to resolve your grief is essentially individual to you.
My approach to helping you with hypnotherapy Newcastle is based in many years of experience working with people and understanding that grief can involve among other emotions; anxiety, depression, numbness, physical and emotional pain. While there are some commonalities every one is different.
I have worked successfully with people who did not cry at all. People who have went spiraling down into self-destructive patterns of behaviour and people who have had to put on a brave personal for their families while dying inside.
Grief Immediately After Your Loss
The vast majority of people who experience grief will naturally over a period of time look to help themselves and after an appropriate period of mourning begin to move forward with life. As a guide this can take between one to three months. Sometimes this transitional period can take much longer, years or never.
In terms of seeking professional help my suggestion is to have that one to three months to notice if you are moving forward. If not by then it may be useful to seek some professional help with hypnotherapy Newcastle. Within that early time frame you can always call the Samaritans who are professional listeners, not offering advice just being there for you. They are an excellent resource.
Are We Conditioned How To Respond To Grief?
This to me is a profound question and some the latest neuro psychology suggests that the answer is a definite yes. You may not always respond to the way society, your life experiences of others and your expectations dictate. And this is OK, you are an individual that is coping and dealing with grief in your own unique way.
In a recent ( 2017 ) book by Lisa Feldman Barret – How Emotions are Made, she makes a compelling case that our emotions are predictions of how we should feel based on our conditioning, life experiences and environment. The important concept here is predictions. This goes against just about every one of our instincts yet it makes a great deal of sense to me.
So you can get stuck in grief, stuck in the present past and not move forward. You can feel empty and be doing whatever you can to try to fill a void. It can feel like paddling upstream and not really going anywhere and expending a lot of energy in the process. But perhaps you are already doing your own healing and hypnotherapy Newcastle could be your way of greatly assisting.
Some philosophy and Buddhism can offer some insight. Perhaps.
Hegel a German philosopher of the 18th century created the idea of the dialectic of progress. This is in essence having an idea, the opposite of the idea and then the synthesis of both. Another way to comprehend this is something ‘good’ something ‘bad’ and from both, conflating, a new evolution. Not necessarily an easy or comfortable transition yet seemingly how life grows and evolves.
A Buddhist story involves the lotus pond. At one time and place beautiful, serene, life in full bloom, a living even loving expression of nature. The other the stinking, rotting decay of the off season where there is no life to bee seen. Knowing this is the natural cycle of life and death, seeing the good and the bad and knowing the both stories create a different meaning than either one on its own. There is no real life without death and no death without life.
Yes this is a painful realisation and also can be extremely liberating, after an appropriate period of time. Get in touch with me Nigel Hetherington at Hypnotherapy Newcastle to discover how I can help you.
Call or email and take action to move forward while honoring your past. Is now the time for you to stop grieving?
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