Hypnotherapy can and often is a helpful solution to common anxiety, even in its less common extreme forms. What follows are some self help tips for helping you to become less anxious and more at ease and calm in problem situations.
Firstly it is important to clarify what ‘Anxiety’ means here. Anxiety here means worry about the future, the imminent future or soon to be present or even aspects of the past – that will in turn produce consequences in the future.
This will have likely little bearing on certain kinds of anxiety conditions like PTSD though could help with aspects of conditions like a Phobia.
So in this instance, dispensing with technical terms, we are talking just good old straight forward, bread and butter anxiety. That what most of us know as every day excessive worry.
ANXIETY = UN-CONTROL
Anxiety in this instance is Un-Control. Put this another way, if you could control the future to turn out just the way you want there would be absolutely no anxiety. If this makes sense to you then you are on your way to a little more freedom from anxiety. If this doesn’t then you are not anxious.
There are aspects of the future you can strongly influence and aspects of the future where you are literally in the hands of your own god, the universe or any witnessing deity that happens to be present. The agnostic deity Umnotsure is a favourite, when it can be found.
Understanding what you can reasonably control and what you can’t is an important distinction that can, in most instances, ease life’s stressors or to put it another way ease anxiety.
There are essentially five factors that relate to living more free-er from anxiety and worry and these have much more to do with perception of events and not the events in and of themselves.
- Sense of Control
- Social Support
- Outlets for Frustrations
- Sense of Getting Better
These five are based in strong research from among others Professor Sir Michael Gideon Marmot’s famous Whitehall study, spanning some 20 plus years and 20 thousand UK civil service and Professor Robert Maurice Sapolsky’s over decades with our hirsute cousins, baboons in the Serengeti. The parallels are scary!
Hypnotherapy Newcastle is about changing our perspectives and adaptive responses to life. When this works well we are gifted with new and alternative ways to progress through life’s challenges and opportunities. Ideally so that we are not experiencing the same old problem, anxiety, again and again.
Hypnotherapy is a way to re-educate the learned responses we have all learned during the course of our lives in a way that is generative and builds in new and more adaptive coping mechanisms so we are not experiencing the same old problems in the same old ways.
You might not believe this immediately but anxiety or excessive worry is a learned habit. In order to be really anxious there has to be an underlying structure or process you use – your imagination – that is in itself a process of self hypnotism. Think about it, to be anxious, you are imagining a future that breeds anxiety.
We would be noting without anxiety, or more precisely the ability to worry, and at the same time, equally in fact, the ability to imagine and create the most amazing futures for ourselves and those who come after us.
It is a double edged sword that makes us, when we truly think, and act, a process in the imagination that could be used just as readily to bring bliss and joy as anxiety and worry.
What Can You Do? Really?
Number one is do, systematically, something about it! You have to be prepared to expend effort to learn a new habit. Think, seriously, about learning to write with your other hand. This is an of itself is an excellent way to stop your mind ticking over in worry mode.
Count up all the time you have been a worry wart! 15 minutes? 1 hour, 3 hours 5 hours a day? Every day? Every day for years? When this number is totalled it is often quite a shock to the system.
Yes can you imagine the kind of differences you could make if the same time just each day was used contemplating and imagining a delightful future. So most people do worry by talking to themselves ( often in a voice tone that they wouldn’t use on another person! ) and imagining a pretty unpleasant future.
There are very likely very specific words or phrases and memories that a worrier will use with some regularity. Discover yourself, what these are and learn, through patience and repetition to reprogram them into something helpful and kind.
So, talking to yourself much more kindly ( answering back is fine too! ) and using the same words to talk to yourself about the future you actually want. Adding what you would like to see and hear. Most of all take time and invest in your long term health and happiness.
Realistic Expectation for Change
This is usually NOT an overnight cure for long term problems. If you have been anxious for many years then it is kind of pretty unreasonable to anticipate an immediate cure that is not medication or surgery based. Even then it is most likely not the case!
This takes effort – and little by little. Think about learning to walk or talk! It takes time and persistence! It does happen, it just takes time, trust me! Reprogramming your internal speech patterns is one way to give yourself more perceived control in life. Remember anxiety is about UN-Control. The more control you can affect the less anxiety.
Excess stress and anxiety is know not to be salubrious. That means your health can suffer with excess stress and strain in your life. After one week of intense stress the thymus gland which is responsible for the production of T-cells, in the endocrine immune system can shrink to 25% of normal size. Lose the stress and the thymus makes a full recovery and can produce the T-cells required for a health immune response.
The philosopher Alan Watts mentioned a right wing democrat ( he moved from the UK to the US ) that because is their right wing ( metaphor ) attitude would never take a left turn when driving. All they did was drive talking right turns, this is mad! To be able to KNOW the rough is to know the smooth, to know good is to know evil. And to know anxiety is to know calm.
Anxiety Hypnotherapy Facts
Hypnotherapy Newcastle is is about a real integration with seemingly inconsolable opposites. Or at least to get going in ways that work, where you can see and feel you are making progress. Let’s be clear sometimes ‘miracles’ in hypnotherapy happen but that is not a good commitment from you, to have an expectation that a hypnotherapy can ‘cure’ you from years of suffering in one session is learning in some aspects to continue to be helpless.
There has to be a real commitment from you, and that is a required ingredient in real change, change that is generative. If it wasn’t think about how many hypnotherapists, theta healers or ‘magic’ workers would be claiming real success. Truth is the real ones don’t. The charlatans and snake oilers do. Sorry but this approach, the one I apply is psychological and often physiological and you wont, can’t be a passive observer!
This approach helps you deal with the head and body aspects yet at the same time most requires input and energy from you. You will be given tasks, post or pre session to implement the psychological and behavioural aspects of change into your life.
For a completely free consultation, for anxiety help using hypnotherapy and psychological NLP techniques call Nigel Hetherington on 0770 481 8467.