Monthly Archives: July 2013

Phobia Hypnotherapy Newcastle

A phobia is one in a class of recognised anxiety disorders. A phobic response is a fear response. Most often characterised as a highly disproportionate response to some stimulus that is neither dangerous of life threatening.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle can help suffers with the psychological aspects of their irrational or rational phobic responses. The response, a phobic one, is most always learned in our early formative years, a time when learning was way too easy and as such becomes a habit.

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As far as is known, there are no inbuilt or hard wired phobias. The myth that people ( and monkeys ) are genetically or disposed to a fear of snakes is simply not true. What is true is there are biases towards a fear of snakes for humans and our primate cousins.

A lab monkey never exposed to a snake in many generations does not have an inbuilt fear of snakes, but, interestingly enough, show the lab monkey another monkey’s fear response to a snake and bingo, there is a massive transference.

Here in the UK, there are no deadly snakes or spiders. Sure there are Adder’s of which I have seen one some four years ago while running in Thrunton Woods on a very hot day. I ran right around that! So a phobia in the sense here is an irrational fear.

The last part of our brain to ‘come on line’ or to be fully myelinated is the frontal cortex. For most adults this happens in the early 20’s. This is the Universes gift to unlearning phobia and fears.

On a neurological level the Amygdala is highly metabolically active in the Limbic System and gives rise to feeling of fear, anxiety and you guessed it phobic responses. In some senses our savior is the Frontal Cortex that through effort and some de-conditioning of the amygdala response can blunt and remove what used to be a phobia.

Another extremely useful response in alleviating phobias is laughter and irrelevance. The more you laugh the less able you are to be phobic. This has some serious reference to your physiology, which is another aspect you can control.

I worked with a client who had a dog phobia. They had a fear of dogs and displayed some physical signs of allergy reaction when in the presence of a dog. Mainly around their eyes and a heavy, labored breathing. After successful resolution of that old response they requested to know ‘why’ is was that way.

During regression hypnosis we traced back the initial imprinting experience to a bus ride when they were six years old. A big dog jumped up at them while they were playing with the dog. Their father became massively anxious and worried that the dog had hurt them, picking them up and ‘raving’ at the dog owner. This seemingly transferred to my client.

Knowing the why’s and hows of a trauma or anxiety imprint are not required in changing behavioral responses. Knowing how this happened wouldn’t, I think, have helped my client become comfortable with dogs. Yet this is a great example of how early imprinting and environment can cause anxiety responses.

For a free consultation regarding your freedom from phobia, call hypnotherapy Newcastle and talk with me, Nigel on 0770 481 8467. Act now – if I am free we will talk otherwise please leave a message. Calls usually returned within 24 hours.

 

Hypnotherapy Newcastle – Anxiety & Stress Self Help

Stress & Anxiety Self Help What can You Do?

There are five aspects of helping yourself to better manage anxiety and stress. Hypnotherapy can usually assist you in this seemingly Augian task to change how you perceive your ability to cope, act and predict your future. There is of course a great deal you can do yourself. This is what follows: Take Action! Watch the following video. Then do something about your situation.

If you are interested in making some seriously positive changes, without a magic wand and some effort, then you should read on because this is the building material of generative change.

It is not quick fix because these usually don’t live in the real world and in your heart of hearts you know this. And you know this real change will require effort to transform yourself, irrespective of utilising hypnotherapy Newcastle to assist you in making serious change in your life. It will still take effort – if you want it…

There are five factors in the following video that pave the way to you having a better quality of life – when you adopt and incorporate these into you way of life – yes you will still have problems but they will be a better class of problems…

These changes will probably not come overnight in an instant flash of freedom – yet by being more aware of things you most likely already to, you are more able to cope with anxiety and stress. Non of these will change your situation, these factors have the power to help you change how you respond and cope!

Your psychological well-being and health have more to do with your outlook, coping mechanisms and dare I say it your beliefs than the actual environment, that is to say, the most influence you can have in a situation is down to you!

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This doesn’t mean you are the absolute creator and maker of your own situations. The kind of well meaning yet misguided kind of writing with the promise of hollow hope that support this are pretty poor. Misdirections are the commons understanding of the ‘law of attraction’ or ‘The Secret’. the real secret is you will need to do something about your situation – this means effort!

You know as well as I do, we don’t control our environment or situations.

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We can have massive influence on how these are, but control? Come on! By being more emotionally resilient and flexible and having better adaptive responses we are more able to have a better class of problems and rise to the occasion better. We are much more able to shape our futures too.

Having watched the video, I hope you have gathered some real good ideas you will put into practice. The onus is with you.

For additional help with hypnotherapy to help you shape you perceptions and motivations coupled with some real action call Nigel on 0770 481 8467 for a free consultation to see if hypnotherapy in Newcastle is for you.

Anxiety Self Help – Newcastle Hypnotherapy

Hypnotherapy can and often is a helpful solution to common anxiety, even in its less common extreme forms. What follows are some self help tips for helping you to become less anxious and more at ease and calm in problem situations.

Firstly it is important to clarify what ‘Anxiety’ means here. Anxiety here means worry about the future, the imminent future or soon to be present or even aspects of the past – that will in turn produce consequences in the future.

This will have likely little bearing on certain kinds of anxiety conditions like PTSD though could help with aspects of conditions like a Phobia.

Anxiety Hypnotherapy Newcastle

So in this instance, dispensing with technical terms, we are talking just good old straight forward, bread and butter anxiety. That what most of us know as every day excessive worry.

ANXIETY = UN-CONTROL

Anxiety in this instance is Un-Control. Put this another way, if you could control the future to turn out just the way you want there would be absolutely no anxiety. If this makes sense to you then you are on your way to a little more freedom from anxiety. If this doesn’t then you are not anxious.

There are aspects of the future you can strongly influence and aspects of the future where you are literally in the hands of your own god, the universe or any witnessing deity that happens to be present. The agnostic deity Umnotsure is a favourite, when it can be found.

Understanding what you can reasonably control and what you can’t is an important distinction that can, in most instances, ease life’s stressors or to put it another way ease anxiety.

There are essentially five factors that relate to living more free-er from anxiety and worry and these have much more to do with perception of events and not the events in and of themselves.

  1. Predictability
  2. Sense of Control
  3. Social Support
  4. Outlets for Frustrations
  5. Sense of Getting Better

These five are based in strong research from among others Professor Sir Michael Gideon Marmot’s famous Whitehall study, spanning some 20 plus years and 20 thousand UK civil service and Professor Robert Maurice Sapolsky’s over decades with our hirsute cousins, baboons in the Serengeti. The parallels are scary!

Hypnotherapy Newcastle is about changing our perspectives and adaptive responses to life. When this works well we are gifted with new and alternative ways to progress through life’s challenges and opportunities. Ideally so that we are not experiencing the same old problem, anxiety, again and again.

Hypnotherapy is a way to re-educate the learned responses we have all learned during the course of our lives in a way that is generative and builds in new and more adaptive coping mechanisms so we are not experiencing the same old problems in the same old ways.

You might not believe this immediately but anxiety or excessive worry is a learned habit. In order to be really anxious there has to be an underlying structure or process you use – your imagination – that is in itself a process of self hypnotism. Think about it, to be anxious, you are imagining a future that breeds anxiety.

We would be noting without anxiety, or more precisely the ability to worry, and at the same time, equally in fact, the ability to imagine and create the most amazing futures for ourselves and those who come after us.

It is a double edged sword that makes us, when we truly think, and act, a process in the imagination that could be used just as readily to bring bliss and joy as anxiety and worry.

What Can You Do? Really?

Number one is do, systematically, something about it! You have to be prepared to expend effort to learn a new habit. Think, seriously, about learning to write with your other hand. This is an of itself is an excellent way to stop your mind ticking over in worry mode.

Count up all the time you have been a worry wart! 15 minutes? 1 hour, 3 hours 5 hours a day? Every day? Every day for years? When this number is totalled it is often quite a shock to the system.

Yes can you imagine the kind of differences you could make if the same time just each day was used contemplating and imagining a delightful future. So most people do worry by talking to themselves ( often in a voice tone that they wouldn’t use on another person! ) and imagining a pretty unpleasant future.

There are very likely very specific words or phrases and memories that a worrier will use with some regularity. Discover yourself, what these are and learn, through patience and repetition to reprogram them into something helpful and kind.

So, talking to yourself much more kindly ( answering back is fine too! ) and using the same words to talk to yourself about the future you actually want. Adding what you would like to see and hear. Most of all take time and invest in your long term health and happiness.

Realistic Expectation for Change

This is usually NOT an overnight cure for long term problems. If you have been anxious for many years then it is kind of pretty unreasonable to anticipate an immediate cure that is not medication or surgery based. Even then it is most likely not the case!

This takes effort – and little by little. Think about learning to walk or talk! It takes time and persistence! It does happen, it just takes time, trust me! Reprogramming your internal speech patterns is one way to give yourself more perceived control in life. Remember anxiety is about UN-Control. The more control you can affect the less anxiety.

Excess stress and anxiety is know not to be salubrious. That means your health can suffer with excess stress and strain in your life. After one week of intense stress the thymus gland which is responsible for the production of T-cells, in the endocrine immune system can shrink to 25% of normal size. Lose the stress and the thymus makes a full recovery and can produce the T-cells required for a health immune response.

The philosopher Alan Watts mentioned a right wing democrat ( he moved from the UK to the US ) that because is their right wing ( metaphor ) attitude would never take a left turn when driving. All they did was drive talking right turns, this is mad! To be able to KNOW the rough is to know the smooth, to know good is to know evil. And to know anxiety is to know calm.

Anxiety Hypnotherapy Facts

Hypnotherapy Newcastle is is about a real integration with seemingly inconsolable opposites. Or at least to get going in ways that work, where you can see and feel you are making progress. Let’s be clear sometimes ‘miracles’ in hypnotherapy happen but that is not a good commitment from you, to have an expectation that a hypnotherapy can ‘cure’ you from years of suffering in one session is learning in some aspects to continue to be helpless.

There has to be a real commitment from you, and that is a required ingredient in real change, change that is generative. If it wasn’t think about how many hypnotherapists, theta healers or ‘magic’ workers would be claiming real success. Truth is the real ones don’t. The charlatans and snake oilers do. Sorry but this approach, the one I apply is psychological and often physiological and you wont, can’t be a passive observer!

This approach helps you deal with the head and body aspects yet at the same time most requires input and energy from you. You will be given tasks, post or pre session to implement the psychological and behavioural aspects of change into your life.

For a completely free consultation, for anxiety help using hypnotherapy and psychological NLP techniques call Nigel Hetherington on 0770 481 8467.

 

Emotonial Problems Newcastle Hypnotherapy

If we pause for thought, emotional problems or problematic emotional responses are the basis for most peoples real problems. Hypnotherapy Newcastle uses hypnosis and other psychological interventions to help overcome learned negative emotional responses that cause problems and suffering.

Solution Focused Hypnotherapy is all about re-education behavioural and thinking responses in ways that are directed towards creating practical solutions to the every day problems that are the cause of feeling depressed, anxious, stressed or down right angry about the every day problems we all face.

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Many counselling or CBT approaches can focus way too much on problems. People seek professional hypnotherapy to alleviate problems and suffering so talking about the problem is both something a sufferer can already do well, likely massively contributing towards problems and failing to focus on solutions.

Often pointless questions like the dreaded ( with some kind of attempt at sincerity ) “and how does that make you feel?” serve mostly to reinforce helplessness, exacerbate emotional problems and put the people needing to make changes at the reactive end of being able to do damn near nothing about their own situation.

Two Factors In Change

A great deal of people perceived problems are down to two factors. The first is the meaning that is made of the actual experience of the ‘problem’ and the second is some kind of justification or self-validation of just why it is that way.

Let’s take the Second Factor first. Justification of behaviours and attitudes. No matter what or who is ‘causing the problem’ the only person who can change behaviours, thinking patterns or ways of being is you! You can’t really change other people, sure you can influence this BUT changes in your problems need to begin with you.

Solutions can focus on three areas, with the individual and their ways of, thinking and acting. With the other people involved in problem situations if these are relevant and thirdly within the environment in which they occur.

If a person continues to justify or give reasons and explanations for their problems ( which is fair enough ) all they will do is continue to perpetuate a problem. This makes perfect sense because on a neurological level anything like a behaviour, thinking pattern or environment that stays the same creates the necessary conditions for our brains to stay the same. This is the same for really good and really bad habits. To change – something has to give.

The First Factor, not what happened on a sensory basis but the meaning we make of the experience. Here is a little quote that sums this up nicely from a Greek philosopher that died just under 2000 years ago. Epictetus, probable not exactly what he said though close enough. For the hard of thinking, this applies to all sexes.

Men are disturbed not by things, but by the view which they take of them

Let’s put this into a contextual example. Mr Joe X is complaining about his daughter that won’t listen to his advice, refused his good intentioned advice and wants to live her own life. This is a real bugger for Mr X. He knows best. A classic change of meaning – is that his daughter, having learned the value of havng their own opinion, not being wavered by others is indeed a complement in his fatherhood. He has a self directed daughter that won’t be directed from her purpose. Same stuff different meaning – capiche?

We are not really talking about Mr J.X we are talking about you. Much more important. What is happening on a non-psychodymamic but neurological basis, this is easy. We all learn coping behaviours sometimes, like now, they need to be updated, just like a Windows update. Sure this will almost surely bring in new problems ( hurray we are alive ) BUT they won’t be the same problems, Viz moving forward.

Hypnotherapy Newcastle with Nigel Hetherington is about playing to your strengths and utilising the very best in you in transformational ways. Change in the most best sense is transforming meanings and those all justifications for problems so that you can take responsibility for you and your behaviours in ways that help you move forward in control to live more of the life you really want.