Hypnotherapy Newcastle for Public Speaking fears, worries and unavoidable panics. People worry about lots of aspects regarding speaking in public, addressing an audience and not appearing as a shaking, stuttering wreak. Lost nights of sleep leading up to an event and excessive planning.
The fear of public speaking is as common as muck. It has plagued and will plague countless people causing worry, anxiety and the shrinking violet sensation of wishing to be anywhere, anywhere other than doing that public speech.
If you have had them, you know from experience the kinds of worries, fears and often absolute dread the knowledge of having to make a public speech can have on people. People like you, who are faced with nameless terrors about how badly it could be to fuck up really, really badly making an absolute ass of yourself by going to pieces and getting it all wrong in that crucial public speaking engagement.
Thing is, now, probably more than every before, we are called upon or need to make public speeches in our business, social or personal enterprises. That is the way of it today, so, what can you do to become more at ease and composed to make a great impression? Please read on to see how hypnotherapy Newcastle can help you deliver a great speech and stay focused on what is really important.
Psychology of Public Speaking Problems
Have you ever talked with a really negative, depressing type of person? Have you noticed how they seem to expect the worst, are caught up in problems and not much fun to be around? Well if you are worrying, fretting about Public Speaking performance you are probably doing the exact same but you are talking to yourself.
A very common aspect of anxiety is the use of self talk to generate problem focused scenarios that have the power to cause anxiety, worry and the physical conditions of a stress response. “What if …” is by far the most common way people make themselves anxious. Here are some examples.
- “What if I forget what I am supposed to say?”
- “What if I make a fool of myself?”
- “What if I shake and sweat?”
- “What if I can’t answer questions?”
- “What if I blush and faint?”
All of these are pretty common ways people make themselves more anxious about Public Speaking. If you think about it, these questions are a form of unhelpful self hypnosis that negatively affect a persons state. But it’s not just the words!
The tonality and speed of how we talk to other people can change the meaning of the words. So if a person talks to themselves in a fast and ‘worrying’ tone it will have more of a negative impact. And there is more though! These ‘what ifs’ lead to further unanswered questions for instance;
“What if I forget what I am supposed to say?” implies that something will happen as a consequence, of course it would. It could lead to huge embarrassment and humiliation, it could lead to not being asked to present that important presentation again and not being invited for a pay rise, promotion and extra bonus, it could lead to reassignment to Sunderland.
You are creating a very large and negative self fulfilling prophesy because you have been rehearsing what could go wrong.
Physiology of Public Speaking Problems
You are activating your stress response. This is indicative of hight sympathetic nervous system arousal so there is plenty of adrenaline and noradrenaline in your system. You heart is probably beating faster, your systolic and diastolic blood pressure has increased, your mouth is dry and there are probably knots in your stomach. You are probably not having what is called a good time.
Meanwhile, your brain is analysing your body responses, making meaning of the various aspects of the unwanted stress response and coming to the conclusion that your body is not having a good time and this really does influence your mood and adds to the anxiety you are experiencing. Its a vicious circle.
So about now all of those imagined fears are probably to make a physical manifestation. You feel you are starting to visibly shake, all of those ‘worst case scenarios’ have their opportunities to be enacted, blushing, word amnesia to name just a few. Your breathing is likely a bit too fast and high in your chest so both literally and metaphorically you are unbalanced and off centre.
Three Things Really Good Presenters Know
There are three aspects to doing a great presentation that you can learn ( through practice ) to do in order to dramatically improve your performance when engaging in Public Speaking. There are more than three but these three are big ones!
- Stay Relaxed in the body. Avoid unnecessary tension and stay relaxed.
- Use your peripheral vision. Avoid focusing myopically on anyone or anything and stay peripherally open.
- Quiet on the inside. Avoid talking to yourself ( on the inside ) as this splits your attention. Learn through experience to flow!
Hypnotherapy for Public Speaking Fears
Public speaking is a very, very common fear. It could be a cultural, British thing and also likely a combination of perceived ‘high stakes’ and lack of experience of speaking to groups and large gatherings. In short it is perfectly normal!
Hypnotherapy Newcastle can help you to learn how to manage and change your fears into ways to start to rehearse how you actually want your performance to be. After all it makes much more sense to plan for success that failure. Also we will be using hypnosis to help you feel much more comfortable, so ideally you can enjoy the whole experience and keep your attention focused on your audience.
Some methods that are not used at Newcastle hypnotherapy are visualising the audience naked. This is a pretty old and I think a really odd idea. If I walked into a group for a speaking engagement and the audience were naked I would leave, not the kind of group I would want to talk with. This kind of technique probably says a lot more about the therapist and their ways of ( not ) thinking.
Other methods that will not be used are the arrogance based ones. These include, but are not limited to having mantras like “fuck the audience, I am in charge here”, “these people are mine” and talking over the top of any peoples questions. I found these uncharming techniques from people who have seen other hypnotherapists before they found me.
For a completely free, no obligation telephone consultation for help with Public Speaking or help with any hypnotherapy related problem call Nigel on 0770 481 8467. This will take around 20 minutes.