Newcastle Hypnotherapy can help you deal with the day to day events and intrusions that anger you. Anger is a transient mood that really indicates ‘your rules’ have been broken or disrespected. Rules in a lose sense, in that, when they are violated in some way, your expectations, create a autonomic response that we then equate to anger.
Anger can be directed towards others or directed towards the self. Anger directed towards the self is a less than subtle indication that you have in some way violated your own expectations, rules, beliefs or values. Anger towards others indicates you have been violated in some way; behaviourally, emotionally, physically or even culturally.
Anger is a perfectly normal and actually good emotion. Anger can become problematic when the anger persists and despite all your best intentions seriously affects your relationships, your health and your psyche. The world is against you, you are right and continue whine and curse about it. Oh! the injustice of it all! And it’s all about justice / injustice and rule breaking.
Someone cuts you up in traffic, your 9 o’clock appointment doesn’t show up, you get endless cold calls from a machine. You may get a little angry at all of those and rightly so if you do. The problem is when that anger stays with you all day and you are ruminating. All of those irritations have long past but your still angry and you can’t let it go.
Long term this is not healthy for you or the people that are close to you. How nice would it be to not get angry for the least little irritation. How much more cosy could life be if you were a lot less angry, irritable and hot tempered?
Hypnotherapy for Anger in Newcastle upon Tyne can help you not be so inflammatory for little or no reason.
In its purest form anger can serve as a very useful way to become aware that your rules ( or cultural rules ) are not in sync with your environment. You really have three choices. Hypnotherapy for Anger issues can assist you making changes with the following points two and three.
- Accept your response as correct, let go and move on. Keep doing more of the same.
- Explore what specifically is irritating you. Check the appropriateness of the response.
- Update your values and beliefs should you realise they are totally inappropriate. Change your emotional response.
Physiological And Psychological Response
The psychological and physiological anger response that hypnotherapy can help with is not easily differentiated. Why? Because either one will promote the other and in a circular way lead to the other. It is very easy to have the physiological response that we equate to anger. Our limbic system and our higher order values and beliefs ( or expectations ) work together in our nervous system to alert
Anger And The Amygdala
One of the key players in the emotional response or limbic system is the amygdala. The amygdala responds to perceived threats, physical or psychological and becomes metabolically active. The net result is an awakening awareness that activates the sympathetic nervous system. This is the well known freeze, flight or fight response.
In adult males the neuro-biology involved in aggression and love are really quite similar and people can easily confuse the two and more importantly ascribe the wrong meanings or associations to what is happening in the body.
In the 1970’s Stanley Schacter created an experiment where willing volunteers were taking part in a survey to decide if some vitamin or other could improve vision. What they were actually participating in was an experiment with administered doses of adrenaline.
Given the same dose of adrenaline and a somewhat different social setting they became overly angry or overly loved up. The environment or specifically the shaped meanings they gave to their experience moulded what they ’emotionally’ made sense of and related to the ‘same’ situation.
Hypnotherapy in Newcastle for Anger can help you to diffuse the strong causal links to either you or other people violating your expectation sets and not behaving or even thinking in the ways you have physiologically deemed appropriate. Believe it or not, other people have all the rules, expectations and perceived ways of being that you have. What can change with hypnotherapy is your response.
Anger Promotes A Massive Stress Response
Adrenaline and Aoradrenaline pour out from the sympathetic nervous system in response to a threat. Given time this response will mediate the outpouring of hydrocortisone ( the human stress hormone ) and create a feed forward state of hyper anxious arousal that is doing nobody, certainly not you, any real good.
Imagine that for a moment it is you who have inadvertently cut someone up driving into work, it is you how has placed an unreasonable yet unavoidable demand on an employee or its your job to cold call people. Looking from an alternative perspective you can a little understanding and compassion.
It was Epictetus that said “It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.” And this is a really good way to start to re frame and restructure you own responses. When you need a hypnotherapeutic intervention to help you with serious anger issues call 0770 481 8467 and talk with Nigel to see how hypnotherapy Newcastle for anger can help you.