Newcastle hypnotherapy for addiction treatment in Northumberland, Hexham and the North East of England. Help to stop smoking using hypnosis and NLP in Newcastle and additionally stop problematic addiction hypnotherapy for pornography, gambling and addictive drug use in Newcastle with hypnosis.
In September 2012 I was invited to discuss hypnotherapy in treating stop smoking for a local radio station as part of a discussion relating to the Stoptober 28 day challenge the UK government is promoting this October.
Within minutes of arriving at the radio station I was asked if I would work with one of the team to help them stop smoking. Pretty predictable for a story right? I immediately said YES, providing the person really wants to stop smoking and is honestly committed to quitting. Anything less is a waste of two peoples time.
Wanting to stop any drug addiction requires two essential elements; One an honest desire to stop and two, discovering genuinely meaningful reasons to stop. More on this in a few paragraphs …
The process of addiction is practically always like this. A person tries some behaviour like smoking, internet pornography, cocaine, gambling or buying shoes and discovers they both like and want to do it again. Over time the behaviour becomes a part of that persons ‘normal’ repertoire of behaviours.
Liking and wanting are two different kinds of desire and crucially when wanting to stop an addiction a person wants, that is the addiction, but does not like their behaviour. Now here is the kicker and of course some may well disagree.
An addiction is only a problem when the addict goes through cycles of, lets call it drug abuse, when they want to partake and afterwards hate themselves for having partaken. They love it when they are ‘high’ on spending, arguing, snorting or eating to excess AND THEN the down cycle is self loathing, disgust or promising to whatever deity is available at the time that it will never happen again … and then the cycle begins again.
If there is a cycle of ‘never again’ but again comes, then there is a problem. A problem of the psyche and problem in behaviour. This is the time to request professional assistance in stopping.
How An Addiction Is Created
It’s simple, you do or try something you like or equally do something that displaces a stress response, like going to the gym, having a pint or smoking something. Do it enough and BAM you have created a dopaminergic ‘reward’ for some behaviour. Reward is largely encouraged by the dopamine mesolimbic pathway ‘I want or can do this’ and satiation by a whole load of endorphins in the ‘that was good’ pleasure response brain pathway.
With repetition of an, in this case, addictive behaviour, there is a protein called DeltaFosB which builds up and remains long after the problematic behaviour. And this protein massively increases the desire for addiction and for a period of time, a long period, remains and alters basic genetics, promoting the problematic behaviour. The more you do a behaviour, the more DeltaFosB builds up and perpetuates a viscous cycle of addiction.
It works both ways. Good and health promoting behaviours like running or going to the gym or learning cool new things also promote a build up of DeltaFosB and in this way our bodies really don’t know the difference between good practice and potentially damaging practices. It comes down to a realisation of how we want to live our lives and the behaviours we choose or become addicted to.
There are two pleasure components Desire and Satisfaction, that’s wanting it and Yum, got it. The first is a drive to do a behaviour and the second is a ‘reward’ for having done the behaviour.
In terms of addiction, with increased exposure to something pleasurable we will very naturally want more. This is akin to the more of something that feels good, or equally calms a stress response, and very importantly as a result we cognitively know this is good, we derive a huge benefit that is long term and supports our life well. Here is the obverse.
In drug addiction increased exposure leads to tolerance and then means a person needs more of the drug to get the same affects, this is done by way of down regulation of the neuronal synapses and equates to a need more to get the same feeling. Additionally there is an increased sense of wanting more as it seems to make life better, but long term it does not.
Right, So How I Choose Who I Work With
OK, remember the radio station? The person in question who ‘wanted’ to stop was offered by the radio presenter as a candidate. This is a potential RED FLAG for me because they did not seek this for themselves. I usually reject second hand requests for help in any form of therapy, why? Because it is someone else’s ideas of what another person needs. So I asked a few questions as to why they wanted to quit. Their answers were kind of OK, BUT, I was really unsure so … Here is what I did.
I did the same structured interview as I do with any potential client. Have them return a questionnaire and arrange a call to check commitment to make a positive change. My email requests all clients to book, that means pay, in advance having has a conversation to determine, amongst other things a potential clients desire to make changes in their life.
I received a call from the radio presenter, not the client, ( Another RED FLAG ) querying the request for payment. “I thought it was for free?” “No, I replied I do not provide a service for free, there has to be a psychological buy in for change”.
I hope you understand there is a very real equation in that change has a value. Now this potential client, a person who is on a substantial wage, described themselves as a ‘guinea pig’ for a stop smoking treatment. This description of themselves felt very wrong. Imagine describing yourself as a guinea pig?
Said radio presenter said that their company had no budget for this and assumed my services were for free. I invited the potential client to pay for it themselves. A relatively small cos, £123, for a life change on 20+ cigarettes per day. I have heard nothing back.
This to me indicates no real desire or investment in stopping smoking. This is not the kind of client I am interested to help stop smoking with hypnotherapy in Newcastle because primarily they have no demonstrable desire to stop, it was just a story for the radio station. Incidentally my interview has not been used.
When YOU want to stop smoking get in touch and make a commitment to your future so you can be free from a legally available drug that our government legitimises by a huge income in taxes that in monitory terms provides a government income which outways, by a large extent, the hospital costs for people with smoking related diseases.
Stop Smoking Newcastle Hypnotherapy : Newcastle upon Tyne Nigel Hetherington : 0770 481 8467