Monthly Archives: October 2012

Newcastle Hypnosis Redressing Self Sabotage – Nigel Hetherington

Hypnotherapy in Newcastle upon Tyne for Self Sabotage problems. Self sabotage is the sense of almost achieving your goals, outcomes or dreams and again and again you do something that ruins or seriously jeopardises all your hard work and effort. Utilise hypnosis in Newcastle to redress your inner saboteur.

Developmental psychologists like Piaget, Gilligan, Gardner and Keegan have proposed stages of personal evolution and development for individuals.  Long term studies have validated their models and as such can by understood as a kind of generic road map for the normal development of each of us.

As we grow and evolve from small children into adults we all learn a great variety of way to cope in the world. These coping mechanisms take the forms of behaviours, ways of thinking and emotional response. Very often our environment shapes the coping behaviours we learn.

All of the learned behaviours and emotional responses we learn as children and adults are essentially fit for purpose. As children we learn ‘a cry’ behaviour can get us many different responses such as attention, being fed or changed. Emotional explosions as temper tantrums can get us attention, detained or even what we want.

As we grow in age our limbic system, the control centre for our emotional cocktail of urges and impulses is tamed and socialised by our higher order brain parts, our neo-cortex. The orbital frontal cortex, as we age, is responsible for checking the consequences of our actions and mediating our impulses. Our pre-frontal cortex is involved in executive functions like behavioural appropriateness and adaption. This area of the brain is strongly influenced by emotion.

Our higher brain regions are not generally fully myelinated until mid twenties. Before this time our brains are not working as efficiently as they can. Myelin is a fatty deposit on our neurons that helps the neurons in the brain and peripheral nervous system fire faster.

Usually as we continue on, growing up and evolving we become more socialised and learn additional behaviours and emotional displays that continue to work well for us. Self sabotaging behaviours on the other hand tend to have been a part of a persons way of being for a long time. A coping behaviour that has never yet had the proper conditions to evolve and grow.

Imagine if as a child you had had to learn to be quiet when a parent was angry because if you spoke up or made a noise something not nice happened. If that learned response never had the change to be updated you may have real trouble expressing your emotions when for example a spouse, friend or a employer makes emotionally charge unreasonable requests or loses their temper with you.

When emotions fly and stress is high it becomes more difficult to use your rational brain to mediate your responses and behaviours. In these situations the old coping mechanisms can and often do come back in full force. In a really stressful, high intensity hyper charged emotional situation the saboteur within can come out and make a special appearance.  This is usually an over the top, undesired behaviour.

The OTT response of the inner saboteur can be triggered in a variety of  ways, different and unique to each person. This inner spoiler usually manifests in one or more of these ways :

  • Overly or Underly emotional response
  • Excessive or Missing behaviours
  • Procrastination
  • Addictions

Your Inner Saboteur Is Your Ally

We have all registered with the term self-sabotage when some part of us, a behaviour or emotional bomb scuppers our best laid out plans. It goes against rational explanation and is counter intuitive but what if that inner saboteur was actually trying to help?

It’s the very beginning of the 19th century. In Europe the Industrial Revolution was well in swing. People are losing their jobs to machines that are labour saving but costly, very costly to the common worker.

In 1801 the Jacquard loom is one such machine that is beginning to take people’s jobs from them. As a way of rebellion, textile workers threw their wooden shoes called sabots into the machine loom and broke the guts and moving parts of the machine.

This destruction of machines by the wooden shoes or sabots became known as sabotage. This was indeed a purposeful act to attempt to accomplish the safeguarding of jobs and peoples livelihoods.

What Is The Inner Saboteur Really Trying To Do?

Let’s consider your inner saboteur as like a part of you. A part that is responsible for the behaviour of sabotaging and more importantly, responsible for the intention that drives the behaviour.

It is quite likely that the particular behaviour was learned a long time ago in the past and at that time the behaviour was adaptive and was both positively intentioned and productive. Now the behaviour causes emotional and psychological pain.

As an example, take the positive intention of a drug addiction. It may have been initially to experience pleasure and fit in with friends. Now the behaviour no longer serves the intention but the intention is still the same.

As another example, take eating a certain kind of sugary carb food. The initial intention may have been to feel better after sickness or mild depression. Now often eating the same kind of food leads to increased weight and lack of self-esteem. The intention is still the same but the behaviour doesn’t work in favour any more.

Self sabotaging behaviours are like being stuck in a rut. You get so far in the right direction but then you end sliding back. Its like a vicious cycle. And a good way out of the rut is to do something really quite  special and counter intuitive.

In a Newcastle hypnotherapy consultation you will discover the intention is positive and thank the part for all of its good intentions. Forgiveness, forgiveness of the self and taking responsibility, not blaming others, is a particularly affective way to dissolve the prison of past conditioning.

Sabotage can indeed be perceived as a disruptive or destructive behaviour yet the purpose or intention of that behaviour is very well intentioned. Here we make a distinction between a person and their behaviour, a behaviour and the driving intention behind behaviour.

The intention that your inner saboteur is carrying out is fundamentally honest and good. The resulting behaviour is of course not appropriate to you today.

Hypnotherapy in the North East and Newcastle upon Tyne. For professional help in transforming your inner saboteur into an inner resource and source of strength using Newcastle Hypnotherapy contact  : Nigel Hetherington : 0770 481 8467

Hypnotherapy Newcastle Addiction Treatment – Nigel Hetherington

Newcastle hypnotherapy for addiction treatment in Northumberland, Hexham and the North East of England. Help to stop smoking using hypnosis and NLP in Newcastle and additionally stop problematic addiction hypnotherapy for pornography, gambling and addictive drug use in Newcastle with hypnosis.

In September 2012 I was invited to discuss hypnotherapy in treating stop smoking for a local radio station as part of a discussion relating to the Stoptober 28 day challenge the UK government is promoting this October.

Within minutes of arriving at the radio station I was asked if I would work with one of the team to help them stop smoking. Pretty predictable for a story right? I immediately said YES, providing the person really wants to stop smoking and is honestly committed to quitting. Anything less is a waste of two peoples time.

Wanting to stop any drug addiction requires two essential elements; One an honest desire to stop and two, discovering genuinely meaningful reasons to stop. More on this in a few paragraphs …

The process of addiction is practically always like this. A person tries some behaviour like smoking, internet pornography, cocaine, gambling or buying shoes and discovers they both like and want to do it again.  Over time the behaviour becomes a part of that persons ‘normal’ repertoire of behaviours.

Liking and wanting are two different kinds of desire and crucially when wanting to stop an addiction a person wants, that is the addiction,  but does not like their behaviour. Now here is the kicker and of course some may well disagree.

An addiction is only a problem when the addict goes through cycles of, lets call it drug abuse, when they want to partake and afterwards hate themselves for having partaken. They love it when they are ‘high’ on spending, arguing, snorting or eating to excess AND THEN the down cycle is self loathing, disgust or promising to whatever deity is available at the time that it will never happen again … and then the cycle begins again.

If there is a cycle of ‘never again’ but again comes, then there is a problem. A problem of the psyche and problem in behaviour. This is the time to request professional assistance in stopping.

How An Addiction Is Created

It’s simple,  you do or try something you like or equally do something that displaces a stress response, like going to the gym, having a pint or smoking something.  Do it enough and BAM you have created a dopaminergic ‘reward’ for some behaviour. Reward is largely encouraged by the dopamine mesolimbic pathway ‘I want or can do this’  and satiation by a whole load of endorphins in the ‘that was good’ pleasure response brain pathway.

With repetition of an, in this case, addictive behaviour, there is a protein called DeltaFosB which builds up and remains long after the problematic behaviour. And this protein massively increases the desire for addiction and for a period of time, a long period, remains and alters basic genetics, promoting the problematic behaviour. The more you do a behaviour, the more DeltaFosB builds up and perpetuates a viscous cycle of addiction.

It works both ways. Good and health promoting behaviours like running or going to the gym or learning cool new things also promote a build up of DeltaFosB and in this way our bodies really don’t know the difference between good practice and potentially damaging practices. It comes down to a realisation of how we want to live our lives and the behaviours we choose or become addicted to.

There are two pleasure components Desire and Satisfaction, that’s wanting it and Yum, got it. The first is a drive to do a behaviour and the second is a ‘reward’ for having done the behaviour.

In terms of addiction, with increased exposure to something pleasurable we will very naturally want more. This is akin to the more of something that feels good, or equally calms a stress response, and very importantly as a result we cognitively know this is good, we derive a huge benefit that is long term and supports our life well. Here is the obverse.

In drug addiction increased exposure leads to tolerance and then means a person needs more of the drug to get the same affects, this is done by way of down regulation of the neuronal synapses and equates to a need more to get the same feeling. Additionally there is an increased sense of wanting more as it seems to make life better, but long term it does not.

Right, So How I Choose Who I Work With

OK, remember the radio station? The person in question who ‘wanted’ to stop was offered by the radio presenter as a candidate. This is a potential RED FLAG for me because they did not seek this for themselves.  I usually reject second hand requests for help in any form of therapy, why? Because it is someone else’s ideas of what another person needs.  So I asked a few questions as to why they wanted to quit. Their answers were kind of OK, BUT, I was really unsure so … Here is what I did.

I did the same structured interview as I do with any potential client. Have them return a questionnaire and arrange a call to check commitment to make a positive change. My email requests all clients to book, that means pay, in advance having has a conversation to determine, amongst other things a potential clients desire to make changes in their life.

I received a call from the radio presenter, not the client,  ( Another RED FLAG ) querying the request for payment. “I thought it was for free?” “No, I replied I do not provide a service for free, there has to be a psychological buy in for change”.

I hope you understand there is a very real equation in that change has a value. Now this potential client, a person who is on a substantial wage, described themselves as a ‘guinea pig’ for a stop smoking treatment. This description of themselves felt very wrong. Imagine describing yourself as a guinea pig?

Said radio presenter said that their company had no budget for this and assumed my services were for free. I invited the potential client to pay for it themselves. A relatively small cos, £123,  for a life change on 20+ cigarettes per day.  I have heard nothing back.

This to me indicates no real desire or investment in stopping smoking. This is not the kind of client I am interested to help stop smoking with hypnotherapy in Newcastle because primarily they have no demonstrable desire to stop, it was just a story for the radio station. Incidentally my interview has not been used.

NHS Stop smoking website : Stop Smoking Hypnotherapy Nigel Hetherington in Newcastle upon Tyne and Northumberland

When YOU want to stop smoking get in touch and make a commitment to your future so you can be free from a legally available drug that our government legitimises by a huge income in taxes that in monitory terms provides a government income which outways, by a large extent, the hospital costs for people with smoking related diseases.

Stop Smoking Newcastle Hypnotherapy : Newcastle upon Tyne Nigel Hetherington : 0770 481 8467

Weight Loss Hypnotherapy Newcastle – Nigel Hetherington

Have you ever wished that you got into something right at the very start? OK, that didn’t happen … BUT …

Is Hypnotic Gastric Banding the ship that has already sailed in hypnotherapy? If so, here is the little ferry boat to take you on board.

Hypnotic Gastric Band Newcastle - Nigel Hetherington

My co-trainer Ian Walshaw, an extremely experienced Gastric Band Hypnotherapist, believes there is going to be a massive wave of new interest in Gastric Band Hypnotherapy in the 2013 new year. Because in order to take advantage of this renewed interest you have to be ready to take that advantage and this is your opportunity. Now.

If you are not already offering Hypnotic Gastric Banding ( HGB ) to your clients, friends and family, but you know other change professionals and hypnotherapists surrounding you who have lots of weight loss clients perhaps you are wishing that you could be offering an even better service, then now is your opportunity to do more than that. before this tide of change and this ship sets sail again. Come aboard.

Every day in the news there is some story re the dangers of obesity, gastric band surgery is incredibly difficult to obtain on the NHS. Plastic surgery companies in the UK charge approximately £6000 for gastric banding operations and people pay for this this hand over fist to lose weight more easily.

In fact, the weight loss industry in the UK is worth billions of pounds because in the words of one of Ian Walshaw’s colleagues that he taught the HGB process “I have never met people so prepared to pay anything to resolve their problem“.

Ian Walshaw & me, Nigel Hetherington, are both vastly experienced in the real world of successful hypnotherapy techniques, and we have teamed up to offer this unique training and learning experience.

Your HGB training will take place over two days and offer hands on practical training that is specifically designed to give you a full experiential education in HGB and to answer all your questions about how to and what if’s so ensuring that the first time you take someone through HGB process you will be as powerful and effective as you can possibly be.

In order now to do this, you will be guided through a four session format that creates the HGB sequence. If you have your own issues regarding weight loss you can use this as your own unique opportunity to take advantage of the HGB process for yourself. Not only will you complete the process just like a client, each step of the process will be addressed in to specific details so that you know and understand each section implicitly.

You will you learn the formation of each section step and you will be shown the resources and implements that you will require to create your own audio tracks to give to your clients including where to source the sound effects and theatrical aspects to the HGB operation session so you can inject such a level of reality into the process that the unconscious mind simply cannot tell the difference between this process and real gastric banding surgical operation.

Nigel Hetherington is going to specifically deliver modules on the neurology of weight loss so that you can predict and negate you clients resistance before it arises.

We believe that this is going to be the most comprehensive HGB training available in the UK. At £80.00 it represents fantastic value, you will not be tied into any groups or organisations like your competitors may be but you will be able to take advantage of their advertising.

This training is suitable for anyone with experience in using the practical aspects of hypnotherapy from beginner to advanced. So do you know that in January 2013, Paul McKenna is releasing his new book on Hypnotic Gastric Banding. Paul Mckenna is a worldwide phenomena in the field of hypnosis and he comes with a multi million pound advertising and marketing team.

It is our view that come January HGB is going to be in every newspaper, on morning TV and in the bookshops. People who for years have felt powerless in relation to their weight loss are going to once again have the process brought into their awareness and they are going to be seeking help from people just like you.

So don’t miss out on this unique opportunity because, we don’t know when we will be able to take advantage this international marketing campaign again.

There are 11 places currently available for this training. Book now. Go on … Book NOW!

Jesmond Dene Conference Centre
Newcastle upon Tyne : NE7 7BQ

December 1-2 2012Training Course Fully Booked – Next Training 2013