Monthly Archives: August 2010

Drinking Water Before Meal Helps Dieting

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A recent BBC article claims that drinking two cups of water before a meal will help you with your dieting. The research comes from scientists in Virginia working with 48 adults aged 55 to 75.

Drinking two cups of water, three times a day before meals can help you lose an average of 5 pounds ( That is the same as 2.27 kg ).

Read the full article here on the BBC web site.

If you would like some additional hints and tips to help you lose weight, check out my Weigh Loss Attitude a six page pamphlet in the Free Resources section.

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Even The Top Coaches Have Bad Days

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All people have off days. Life will continue to throw up circumstances, situations and episodes when we are challenged, hurt, pissed off and injured by our own and other peoples actions or inactions. This is part of being human and the personal evolutions we all experience during our life time.

Alexander Pope said “To err is human; to forgive is divine

Forgive yourself ( and others ) for any pain you feel. Use the pain to transform and motivate yourself to have much more of the life you want. This is not really about material things as I know many people who have excess money, even one who is a millionaire and they aren’t happy.

This is about connecting and discovering your unique life purpose or your true calling and acting from this base. Of course having too little money does cause problems no matter what some life coaches or spiritual gurus say. We all require a certain level of income to meet our basic need. Yet once these needs are met how do you choose to live?

One of comparative mythologists Joseph Campbell’s most famous quotes is “follow your bliss“. The real key to a more than fulfilling life is to discover your bliss and walk that path. Campbell certainly followed his bliss and as a result transformed the thinking and lives of millions of people. And of course you don’t even need to think about the ideas and concepts of following your bliss or discovering your life purpose. It is not for every one yet discovering your bliss requires no special education or prior knowledge. He calls this journey or exploration The Hero’s Journey’ Campbell says this is The Left hand Path and it is not for everyone. Just for those who hear the call to adventure …

So it’s OK to feel hurt, pained and angry. This could be the start of a life transforming journey. Where the real skill comes in is using these powerful and driving emotions to create something better for ourselves and others. This could be the beginning of your own Hero’s Journey. Here is a little clip from one of the Worlds most dynamic coaches Tony Robbins.

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Hypnosis Course

Hypnotherapy Course and Hypnosis Course in Newcastle upon Tyne with Nigel Hetherington.

Hypnosis course approved training with the General Hypnotherapy Standards Council and General Hypnotherapy Register. Graduates are eligible to join the General Hypnotherapy Register and receive membership of both the GHR and The Hypnotherapy Register.

The GHR is the largest organisation for professional hypnotherapist in the UK.

Clinical Hypnotherapy Training Course

Buddhism, Enlightenment and Learning How To Feel Better – Part Two

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Not every reader will be aware of the fact that many of the people who are developing and exploring their own spirituality, interestingly enough, will have something in common with people who are studying NLP or Hypnosis in Newcastle and the North East.

Now these connections may not be immediately obvious, so here is an invitation for you to look at some parallel lines of exploration.

In relating the science of Hypnosis and NLP to the spirituality of Buddhism there are some very clear connections in terms of outcomes or to put it another way, what students from either of these discipline’s can anticipate from their efforts and studies because …

Both Buddhism, Hypnotherapy and NLP at the higher level are concerned with moving towards true personal freedom, compassion and living your own life. Ultimately it is about being able to feel how you want to feel much more of the time and engage in what is truly important to you and satisfy your own values.

So to draw the first parallel let’s again recount the first temptation of the Buddha by the demon Kama, the Buddhas ‘solution’ to this problem and then see how you can do this from an NLP or Hypnosis perspective.

Kama sends by proxy his three daughters Regret ( past), Fulfillment ( present ) and Desire ( future ). Buddha being, still on his immovable spot, disengaged from the field of time, he is able to refute all three emotions and be free from desire, regret and fulfillment.

All very well for Buddha to deal with these emotions but the question many people will be asking is “how do I deal with these emotions?

Let’s explore regret. Regret is specifically about the past. Regret is a reviewing and reliving of past memories and for whatever reasons ( the list could be very long ) ruing the things that either were or were not done. Often times this in not even a choice to relive the memory it just seems to run and re-run all by itself. The brain just seems to do what it wants and not what you want.

Now, what if, like Buddha, you could change your past memories, here specifically regret, such that all the learning’s and education are preserved yet they have a completely neutral or even oddly pleasurable emotional response to the ‘same’ memory?

Looking through the therapeutic lens of applied Hypnotherapy and NLP, regret is an indication that some value, some behavior or experience that is especially important to you was in some way transgressed. This applies irrespective weather the regret is about something that did happen ( and wish it hadn’t ) or something that did not happen ( and wish it had ).

You know, we learn by making ‘mistakes’ so being able to keep the learning and dissolved any unwanted emotion is what this is about.

First and foremost and often the hardest step for people is to acknowledge that the feeling of regret is serving some very positive purpose. This feeling of regret can act like a ‘flag’ or ‘marker’ so that in any similar future situations, you will act differently and in ways that will respect and support the transgressed value.

The third article of this series will give a simple step by step process of how you can change the way you think about regret and start to run your own brain for a change.

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Bill O Hanlon Workshop Newcastle Upon Tyne September 2010

A very special workshop for solution focused and brief therapy professionals.

bill-headshot-bw.jpg“There is no use trying, she said.“One cannot believe impossible things.”“I dare say you haven’t had much practice” said the Queen “When I was your age, I always did it for half-an-hour a day.Why sometimes I’ve believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast.” – Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland

Possibility Therapy uses the power of acknowledgement to meet people where they are stuck and the power of possibility to invite them into change. Not just a positive approach, this approach recognizes problems, the influence of the past, and cultural, political and gender influences while creating a respectful, hopeful environment for change. It also adds a spiritual dimension to therapy.

Through clear handouts and lectures, videotapes and practice exercises, participants will have the opportunity to not only learn this approach to therapy but also to apply it to their own lives and selves.

Morning session Day 1

  • Introduction to a new way of thinking and working in therapy
    • Discovering solution-oriented therapy
  • First Things First: Starting therapy on the right foot
    • Finding a focus and identifying who wants to change what
    • Assessment as intervention
  • Solution-Oriented Therapy
    • Find exceptions and solutions from the past
    • Evoke competence
    • Notice change rather than stuckness
    • Imagine a future without the problem and work backwards from there

Afternoon session Day 1

  • Possibility Therapy: A further evolution of brief solution-oriented therapy
  • Acknowledgement and possibility
  • Collaboration/non-expert stance
  • Future pull
  • Inclusion

Morning session Day 2

  • Inclusive Therapy: Dissolving resistance (from clients and therapists)
    • Discovering inclusion
    • Three levels of inclusion
    • The Inclusive Self
    • The 3 Cs of spirituality in therapy

Afternoon session Day 2

  • Brief therapy
  • The three kinds of brief therapy
    • Strategies of brief therapy
    • Change patterns
      • Personal and interpersonal
    • Change the doing (action/interaction)
    • Change the viewing (attention/meaning-making)
      • Stories
    • Set achievable and observable goals
    • Small changes can produce big results

Objectives:

  • To learn the components of brief and solution-oriented therapy
  • To learn how to dissolve resistance and create a collaborative environment in therapy
  • To be able to use 5 methods of acknowledgement and possibility
  • To be able to use 3 methods of inclusion

Bill O’Hanlon, MS, LMFT, has authored or co-authored 29 books, the latest being A Guide to Trance Land (W.W. Norton, 2009), Write is a Verb (Writer’s Digest Books, July 2007) Pathways to Spirituality (W.W. Norton), Change 101: A Practical Guide to Creating Change (W.W. Norton, Fall 2006), and Thriving Through Crisis (Penguin/Perigee; winner of the Books for a Better Life Award).

He has published 54 articles or book chapters. His books have been translated into 15 languages: French, Spanish, Portuguese, Swedish, Finnish, German, Chinese, Bulgarian, Turkish, Korean, Indonesian, Italian, Croatian, Arabic and Japanese.

He has appeared on Oprah (with his book Do One Thing Different), The Today Show, and a variety of other television and radio programs. Since 1977, Bill has given over 2000 talks around the world. He has been a top-rated presenter at many national conferences and was awarded the Outstanding Mental Health Educator of the Year in 2001 by the New England Educational Institute.

Bill is a Licensed Mental Health Professional, Certified Professional Counselor, and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. Bill is clinical member of AAMFT (and winner of the 2003 New Mexico AMFT Distinguished Service Award), certified by the National Board of Certified Clinical Hypnotherapists and a Fellow and a Board Member of the American Psychotherapy Association.

He is known for his storytelling, irreverent humor, clear and accessible style and his boundless enthusiasm for whatever he is doing. His seminars are as entertaining as they are educational.

Where, When and How Much?

This workshop will take place on Saturday 11th and Sunday 12th of September at The Caledonian Hotel, Jesmond, Newcastle upon Tyne.

The workshop will start at 9:30 am and end at 5:30pm on both days.

Workshop fees

  • For the first 10 people to sign up online the fee is just £100
  • The early bird fee of £175 is available until July 19th extended to July 31st
  • The full fee of £225 applies thereafter

The booking system is online and will become live at 8:00am on Wednesday April 21st.

Hypnosis To Relieve Stress and Worry

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Movie super star Mel Gibson has recently had a mammoth 10 day hypnotherapy session to help him cope with all of the stress in his life.

Stress can be defined like this: All people have an ability to cope and thrive in a natural environment with natural pressures. When a persons ability to cope with natural pressure is exceeded, then there is an excess of pressure, this excess pressure, the excess an individual really can’t cope with is called stress.

Hypnosis can be used very effectively as a therapy for anything that is the human condition, to change behaviour and habits – and also for self improvement.

A great deal of peoples stress is caused by thinking the worst will happen and is exacerbated by telling yourself how bad it can get, that you can’t cope and then thinking and replaying all of this over and over again in your mind. Being stressed over a long time is known to be very bad for both physical and emotional well-being.

there is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so. To me it is a prison– Shakespeare, Hamlet

Hypnosis is an extremely effective way of reprogramming your brain so that you can deal with excess pressure and stress in more healthy ways. This is the first step, change how you feel. Secondly learn new ways to manage stress and third create ways of being that are intended to stop you getting into stressful situations. If stress really is getting you down and destroying your life, give me a call to find out how I can help you.

Hypnosis to relieve stress in Newcastle, Jesmond, Hexham and Northumberland. Call now! 0770 481 8467

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Buddhism, Enlightenment and Learning How To Feel Better – Part One

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A great many people who are exploring self development, NLP, personal psychologies, Hypnosis and other healing arts are often also attracted to what I will term as spirituality. Perhaps the most psychologically sophisticated and advanced spirituality on Earth is Buddhism.

As one story goes after plenty of other worldly experiences and adventures Buddha whilst sitting under a Bodhi tree at Bodh Gaya waiting for illumination got to meet a crabby old demon called Kama-Mara. Now some call Mara ( hear the drum role ) a lord of darkness, an evil lord and others say he was a tempter of the nascent Buddha with the temptations of lust, desire, fear and regrets.

Just before Kama-Mara arrived the soon to be enlightended Buddha was surrounded by his followers and hangers on who all sung his praises. But surprise surprise, when Kama-Mara arrived with his massive and terrible army all of the nascent Buddha’s entourage all did a runner and left him on his todd.

You see, Kama-Mara was responsible for, let us say ‘tempting’ Buddha or to put it another way testing, even creating the almost enlightened Buddha’s abilities so Kama-Mara was in fact a very necessary catalyst. This is similar to the anti hero having a very specific role to play, not unlike Judas Iscariot, but that is a different story. These temptations or tests were not like today’s driving test or GCSE’s or some written exam. Oh no dear reader, these were psychologically energetic, potentially destructive and of course if the story is true, physically, very real practical exams with no resit options.

The first temptation Kama sent, by proxy too, was his three daughters Regret, Fulfilment and Desire. He sent his children to do his dirty work.  Like a politician sending in expendable soldiers. These, the nascent Buddha, being still on his immovable spot was so able to refute one at a time desire, regret and fulfilment.

Kama then transformed into Mara and with his army of ogres sent weapons of all description flying towards the sitting Buddha but when the weapons entered his ‘field of non-entity’ the weapons transformed into lotus flowers. Fear and belligerence was dissolved.

Enraged and thwarted ( don’t you just love that word! ) Mara transformed into Dharma, the lord of social duty and spoke to Buddha “You are a Prince of the realm man!, haven’t you seen the news? Looked at the internet? There is a global recession and the people need to have hope and a figure head, that is you my prince, to inspire trust and stability. Do you duty! You must do what is expected of you!”

But Buddha was completely unmoved by this appeal to social duty and called on the Goddess Mother Universe to bear witness that he, Buddha, has the right to be. And the Goddess gives her blessings and acknowledgement.

The elephant that Dharma ( the entity formally known as Karma-Mara ) is riding bows to Buddha, the army of ogres retreats and Dharma in Buddha’s light is dissolved. Buddha then becomes, as this story goes, enlightened.

The second part of this article will explore this story looking through a different lens and lead on to how you can apply this transformation of consciousness to yourself in our more modern world.

Juggling Life – Overcomming Depression

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Most depressed people have habits of behaviour, including thought patterns, that depress them. Its a habit, its a way of being, its something you can change!

Being depressed often involves thinking what is the worst that can happen, “What if that”, “What if this”. When this is thought of long and hard these thought patterns can become our living and waking reality. With enough practice this leads to lethargy and the attitude of nothing matters or why bother AKA Depressed.

Depression does not happen overnight, it takes time and practice and some pretty shitty circumstances to become a reality. It takes time and repeated exposure.

Some research shows that phobic and even depressive thoughts begin in one half of the brain hemispheres, but not both. This suggests a neurological neuro-physical solution.

If you were to start the day thinking “How bad can it be“, unsurprisingly a human brain will ‘go looking’ for evidence of how bad it can be. One the other hand if you are one of those terminally happy people who go around thinking how good the world is then the world can seem like a very rosy place to live.

Our brains are the most sophisticated and complex structures on this planet, possibly in this universe and they do not come with a user manual or operational set of guide lines. The old adage of self fulfilling prophesy is all too true. If you think ( in words or pictures ) that you will have a great life you probably will. On the other hand if you think you wont … open up Tartatus and a place of woe.

What the mind thinks tends to be realised. And this is all too true for depressive thoughts. One of the neurological ways that anyone with problematic thoughts, like depression, can go about changing how they feel is to do something physical. And something physical that involves both brain hemispheres. I have never met any depressed joggers or runners yet running is not everyone’s cup of tea. Look for alternatives.

One of the most effective self help activities that anyone who is experiencing depression, sadness or emotional pain that I know of is to learn how to juggle. This is a physical activity as well as a metaphor for life. I regularly insist that any of my clients who feel depressed learn how to do.

In just 15 minutes per day over one week anyone can very literally turn their life around by juggling. Why?

Juggling or learning to juggle ( something that honestly takes about an hour ) must involve both brain hemispheres. There is co-ordination with the hands, eyes and by nature this involves both hemispheres being used to co-ordinate an ongoing activity. Similar to running, swimming or Brain Gym exercises this is probable one of the easiest and by far most effective ways to change how you feel.

The real trick is finding the motivation to do this on a regular basis, but … once you start juggling is addictive, in a good way.

Change your mood, change your thought patterns, learn to juggle [ life ].

Warning Juggling can be very addictive coz it makes you feel good.

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